First date went well... no call back!
Q. First date went well.... no call back? I All, I met this guy online and we got on really well when we spoke over the phone. He asked me if I'd like to meet him and we agreed to meet up for some drinks on Saturday. The date went well, we...
A. 4 December 2008: If he wasn't interested in seeing you again I don't think he would even extend the offer =] Good luck... (read in full...)
He's got no secrets from me but it still feels wrong to spy and check up on him.
Q. I have been with my man for about 4 and a half years. about 2 months ago his ex fience found him on facebook, then started calling my house. She stopped for a while but the other day she stared messaging him and everytime I entered the room he would ...
A. 2 December 2008: Those are his private conversations, so yes, you were wrong to do that. If you have problems trusting him, you need to address those issues WITH him...not by spying on him behind his back. Good luck =]... (read in full...)
He likes someone else, but is willing to have me as second best... Should I get with him?
Q. Do you think its silly if you dont want to get into something with someone that not only admits they are a commitment phobe, but also that has always liked someone you both know, but she doesn't like him in that way? Would you feel 2nd best? And ...
A. 2 December 2008: Are you ready to try a relationship with someone who has different priorities (that are unlikely to change) knowing every time that you and he do anything he will be wishing he was with her and possibly even imagining that he IS with her?
If yo... (read in full...)
Is my husband a serial cheater? Or just a man who made a mistake?
Q. Just two weeks ago, my husband of 16 years told me that he received oral sex from a woman he worked with at a Christmas party 8 years ago- in her car. This woman apparently only worked there for a period of a month or two before getting transfer...
A. 2 December 2008: That's a call only you can make. I'll say this, though: it doesn't sound like he was really sorry about, or learned anything from, cheating on you during your engagement if here he is getting oral sex from strangers. He knew it was wrong while he ... (read in full...)
I feel awful for cheating - but feel tempted to do it again!
Q. i cheated on my husband about two weeks ago with an old fling that i had previuosly been intimate with, (way prior to meeting my husband). i have been married for 3 1/2 years, and we have 2 children under the age of three. our relationship has...
A. 2 December 2008: What is your relationship with your husband missing, that this other guy provides for you? Think about it and then work on those things with your husband. If they are serious and can't be worked out, you need to consider whether you want to stay in ... (read in full...)
I want to get my mate's mum naked!
Q. most will think this is fake but thats your opinion. anyways i was at my friends house and i slept over. the next morning we had a soccer practise so when we got back he went to have a shower first. while he was upstairs i was downstairs playin ...
A. 2 December 2008: I hope for the sake of your friend's mother's marriage that it won't work! Look, fantasizing about MILFs is completely normal, especially at your age, but leave it at that...a fantasy. You present as 13-15. If your friend's mother is sexually ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I've had an orgasm? Should I be having one?
Q. Okay - so I've been dating this guy since July. The sex is amazing and we connect so well. The only problem, although he always makes me feel amazing and makes me crazy wet --- how do I know if I actaully had an orgsam? He asked me the other ...
A. 2 December 2008: If you had an orgasm, I'm pretty sure you'd know about it ;) Some women have a harder time reaching orgasm than others. Is he stimulating your clitoris with his fingers or just having sex with you? There are many women who can't come through vaginal ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being horrible now I'm pregnant and chatting up other girls!
Q. Im 7months pregnant and i feel so insecure unattractive u name it. since i've been pregnant me ang my boyfriend don't have sex he says its because my stomach is a turn off then he has never called me sexy and hes all on the computer callin these ...
A. 2 December 2008: Being pregnant with his child doesn't mean you have to put up with this. It's completely unfair of him to judge your body based on something he's as responsible for as you are, and there is NO EXCUSE for him to be flirting with other girls while you ... (read in full...)
Is this an eating disorder? I don't think starving myself and throwing up is wrong...
Q. hey, I'm female and 5" 4. I recently had a still birth. After the loss of Dillian I weighed 14.6 stone (202 lbs). In the last month I've lost 3.7 stone and now weigh 10.9 stone (149 lbs). I've often made myself purge after eating and do a lot of ...
A. 2 December 2008: Your boyfriend is right. Throwing up after eating is a medical condition known as bulimia and it can be very, very damaging to your health. Do you want holes or tears in your esophagus from throwing up all the time? How about ulcers, or an irregular ... (read in full...)
Do you still bleed?
Q. Do you still bleed the first time you have sex even wen you have used a tampon before?? Also my boyfriend said that it takes about 3 minutes for sperm to come out is this is true? ...
A. 2 December 2008: Tampons won't necessarily break your hymen but if you have done a lot of exercise in the past (such as horseback riding, etc) it is possible that your hymen is broken already. So to answer your question, you may or may not bleed. Don't worry about ... (read in full...)
We don't know how to tell our parents about our age difference!
Q. Im 16 years old and I've been seeing this guy who is 5 years older than me. We are afraid to tell my parents about us because of the age difference, which shouldn't be a problem. His family is friends with mine and he's been friends with my sister ...
A. 2 December 2008: I don't know what state you live in, but in Califonia the age of consent to have sex is 18. If you are still a minor under your state laws, your parents are likely to be quite concerned about the age difference because it's actually a CRIME if you ... (read in full...)
How do I REALLY pleasure him?
Q. I'm a virgin.. my boyfriend isn't. I know what to do.. but not how to really pleasure him like he does me. I want to make it good for him too.. e.g.; like I know how to touch him but what would he really like?? Sorry if that's a little graphic ...
A. 2 December 2008: Honestly, the best way to find out how he likes to be touched is to ask him. If you're too shy to ask, touch him and watch his response to different kinds of touching. You should be able to tell if he likes it or not ;)
If you feel like touching... (read in full...)
Miserable!
Q. I have been married to a lovely lass for 20 years. At present she is very depressed due to losing her Dad whom she was very close to. We have 2 children in their teenage years. My wife has just told me she had a fling 17 years ago with a neighbour ...
A. 2 December 2008: She told you after all those years because she still had a guilty conscience about it. Her father's death may have brought that guilt to the forefront but the death by itself is not the reason. She felt she needed to get this off her chest. Now, for ... (read in full...)
First date went well... no call back!
Q. First date went well.... no call back? I All, I met this guy online and we got on really well when we spoke over the phone. He asked me if I'd like to meet him and we agreed to meet up for some drinks on Saturday. The date went well, we...
A. 2 December 2008: Some guys use a rule (yes, apparently there is actually a rule) of waiting three days to call a girl after a date. I didn't believe this until my first date with the guy I am currently seeing. He called me the day after our first date and his first ... (read in full...)
YOUR views on commitment please!
Q. Do you think most guys don't want to "commit" in their 20's even if they REALLY like a girl? Or would even a guy who doesn't like commitment commit if he found the perfect girl? What do you guys think?...
A. 2 December 2008: I think attitudes toward commitment really depend on the person, and on what you mean by commitment. Are you talking "commitment" as in dating you exclusively or commitment as in marriage? Plenty of people get married in their 20's, and plenty ... (read in full...)
The interior of my vagina feels uncomfortable, what could it be? I don't want my husband to know!
Q. okay this is a bit embarrassing but do I have a yeast infection? My "thing's" walls are not comtable and they feel tritchy. I dont want have sex with my husband because Im dont want him to know and dont want to talk about it with him. Im embarrassed ...
A. 2 December 2008: It sounds as if you might, but please go see a doctor about it. It's very important to be sure that what you have is actually a yeast infection before starting antibiotics for it. Other conditions can mimic the symptoms of a yeast infection, as ... (read in full...)
He wants to have a baby before he is deployed, but I want to graduate first!
Q. My boyfriend is in the Navy and i'm a sophomore in college that is pre-dental...he really wants to have a baby before he gets deployed and I do want to have children with him but I want to graduate first. He's afraid that he might not have another ...
A. 2 December 2008: You're not married to him, and even if you were, having a child needs to be your choice as well. You are absolutely right to want to finish your school before having kids.
I'd put it to him this way: he wants to have a baby before he leaves b... (read in full...)
How can I get her to stop taking diet pills which I view as unhealthy?
Q. My girlfriend keeps asking me to buy her diet pills (call me fashion old but they don't to sound healthy to me) , I got mad and usually storm out of the room. She's 18 about 5'8 and weights 100. I think she's feeling pressured from her friends most ...
A. 2 December 2008: If she's 100 lbs at 5'8," there's no way she needs to lose more weight. She is actually grossly underweight. 100 lbs at 5'8" gives her a body mass index of 15.2, when anything less than 18.5 is considered underweight. At her height, she needs to ... (read in full...)
I eat and then throw up trying to lose weight, please help me!
Q. I hate my body i am 15 stones just 5 10" i eat and eat and eat then throw up i do this at lease 5 times a day i try to loss weight but it never happens i so fat and ugly i don't understand how others think im beautiful. ...
A. 2 December 2008: What you are describing is a medical condition known as bulimia and it is EXTREMELY DANGEROUS to your health. PLEASE see a doctor about this as soon as you can. Please. Good luck and keep us posted =]... (read in full...)
I am wondering what are the possibilities that I am pregnant...
Q. I took antibiotics a few days before I started my birth control for the month. I started my pack about 2-3 days late and have had unprotected sex 4 days before the end of my active pills. I am wondering what are the possibilities that I am ...
A. 2 December 2008: The late start to your pill pack alone could technically be enough to make them temporarily ineffective, at least for 10 days or so until your body got back to the necessary hormone levels. Only your doctor can tell you how the antibiotics may have ... (read in full...)
I am a late bloomer and feel so jealous of teenagers who are experiencing what I never did at their age!
Q. I am 23, and i get very jealous of teenagers and pre teens who are experiencing things that I never got a chance to when I was their age. In middle school/high school, I was very darkskin and ugly, and boys never paid me any mind. I remember...
A. 2 December 2008: It sounds as if you are still depressed, or at least emotionally impacted, by your lack of a proper adolescence. Please consider seeking counseling over this...you may have missed out on parts of being young but it's no reason to throw away your ... (read in full...)
Would you stay or just get the divorce now instead of waiting 3 years?
Q. My husband cheats on me with porn and innapropriate letters and pictures from women he knows. We have been married for six years.He actually slept with one of the women maybe two. My husband has gotten caught 3 times. In other words, that is all I ...
A. 2 December 2008: Let me get this straight...he's cheating on you, his son has threatened your life and YOUR CHILD'S LIFE, and you have stayed with him only so that later you can "carry on the lifestyle you are living at now?" I don't think waiting for your finances ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I want to take anal sex slowly?
Q. I have told my new boyfriend that i love anal sex and i like it hard. well when i have tried it before and i found it uncomfortable, but then enjoyed it! how do i tell him i want him to take it slow when we try without him thinking i was just ...
A. 2 December 2008: If you need him to slow down, ask him to. Or tell him right away to take it slow at first. If he asks why, or even if he doesn't, try telling him it's because he's bigger/thicker/longer/whatever than your ex(s) were. The compliment should boost his ... (read in full...)
After 2 great years, she starts dating someone 2 months later and not only that... they're in love?
Q. O.k. here's the deal... I was in a 2 year relationship with someone. We were like best friends, and our fights were always stupid... we really loved each other. The thing is that 4 months before we broke up, I started my own business, and with that ...
A. 2 December 2008: I don't think contacting her is going to help. She is with someone else and you don't need to lose her all over again every time you talk to her and remember that she's with this guy and not you. I understand that it's going to be hard because of ... (read in full...)
How can I approach this subject with her without causing problems with her current relationship?
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice with this one... I grew up with a girl called Jenny when I was younger... our parents were best friends... she and me (Chris) went to school together, spent the holidays together... did virtually everything toget...
A. 2 December 2008: It's admirable of you to worry about ruining her current relationship, but if she's happy in the relationship that she is in I doubt anything you can say to her will change her mind about it. If you confessing your feelings to her does cause her to ... (read in full...)
Lump in vagina, is this normal?
Q. Sorry this is so explicit :-/ On the upper side of my vagina (that is, the side where my urethra is) I have a huge, long lump that begins about 1" below where my urethra hole is and ends where my cervix begins. I have always had this lump, but I...
A. 2 December 2008: I agree with DoubleM on this one...go see a gynecologist if you haven't already. They'll be able to tell you if anything is out of the ordinary.... (read in full...)
The other guy...
Q. Hi, who ever reads this, my name is kurt. I recently got into a relationship several months ago, 9 to be exact. His name is bob. We met on craigslist. What was supposed to be a one nite thing turned into a 9 month relationship. THE PROBLEM: ...
A. 2 December 2008: Unfortunately for you, if this guy hasn't left his wife after 30+ years of marriage he's probably not going to. As for messing around on you with other guys...he may very well be doing that. He's cheating on his wife with you and I'm sure he ... (read in full...)
Should I finish with this guy?
Q. Hiya. Right I've been going out with this guy for almost 3 weeks now, not long I know. Problem is, I like these 2 other guys, there is no chance of anything happening with either of them as they are both off to the Marines next year. My boyfriend ...
A. 2 December 2008: If you're wary of commitment and you're pretty sure this guy isn't the one for you, there's no reason to prolong the relationship. Obviously there are areas in which he doesn't fulfill your needs if you are already looking to/having feelings for ... (read in full...)
I just found out that my BF cheated on me 4 times, how do I deal?
Q. I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me 4 times (1 of them was my best friend) and he didn't tell me about any of them. I found out from everyone else. I'm in love with him and don't want to let him go but hes betrayed me and hurt me. How do I ...
A. 2 December 2008: I'm sorry to hear that. It doesn't sound like a one-time thing or something that he is remorseful about. You only found out because someone else told you, and I'm sure he would gladly go on deceiving you about this if he could. The fact that he ... (read in full...)
Do I still love my ex or is it just that I need closure?
Q. I confronted my boyfriend today about the feelings I still have for my ex boyfriend, I can not understand how I am feeling, do I still love my ex, or am I seeking closure, etc? All I know is that I cant stop thinking about my ex and what could have ...
A. 1 December 2008: A word of advice about second chances: unless the factors that initially caused you and your ex to break up have resolved themselves or changed, you will sooner or later be right back to the same problems that caused the breakup in the first place. ... (read in full...)
Why is his semen clear??
Q. Hello. Okay so let me start by saying i'm 17. (my age is wrong on this) anyway. So i just started giving my boyfriend handjobs, and his cum is clear. (Hes hit puberty and all) (hes 18) Why is it clear and not a whiteish color? I'm worried. Is ...
A. 1 December 2008: I'm assuming the color and texture of semen will vary slightly from guy to guy, but completely clear sounds a little odd. Your boyfriend should see a doctor if he is concerned about this.... (read in full...)
Pursue or not pursue, that is the question.
Q. I have a friend who is leaving soon and I want to know if I should persue him. I can't decide because he gives me mixed signals. For instance... says he cares about me, talks about hot girls, puts his arm around me in public, won't make a move aro...
A. 1 December 2008: It sounds as if there is chemistry between you, but if he is leaving you should probably think twice about getting involved with him. Play a mental "what if" on this one. You two get together. Will he still leave? Probably. Will you be at least ... (read in full...)
All I want is to be able to have her half the time.
Q. Well here it is. Me and my girlfriend of 5 years had a baby last year. She just turned 1 last week. For a while had been using meth. My girlfriend found out about 4 months ago. In a way I thank god she did or I would morelikely still be using. But ...
A. 1 December 2008: It doesn't sound as if your ex will voluntarily give you more time with your daughter, so if you wish to pursue this I think you are going to have to talk to a lawyer about it. There are lawyers who specialize in custody and more specifically ... (read in full...)
Is brown discharge normal?
Q. hi, i was wondering if anyone would be able 2 tell me if brown discharge is normal? im 2 scared 2 go 2 doctors:( i also keep gettin tummy aches only when i wake up i get this :( ...
A. 1 December 2008: It sounds like you may be starting, or about to start, your period. Please see a doctor if you are concerned, though. There is nothing to be afraid or embarrassed about =] Good luck... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend or kiss. I'm 29 and nobody wants me.
Q. hi i was wondering can any one help me . i am 29 years old and i have never had a boyfriend. i never even got my first kiss. i don't know and everyone else does. all but me. every guy i like rather someone else and never me. they reject me in the ...
A. 1 December 2008: People often judge one another based on appearance. It sucks, but that's how things are--until they know something about you, appearance IS all they have to judge on. If you are meeting these guys in a setting where you never start a real ... (read in full...)
My sister's boyfriend kissed me forcibly, she saw us but doesn't let me explain!
Q. My sister's (she's 14) boyfriend is in my grade (we're both 17) and I always had a bad vibe around him. Well he came over to watch a movie with her when my parents weren't home (my sis paid me like $15 so I wouldn't tell them). She left to go...
A. 1 December 2008: Continue trying to explain things to her. Keep in mind that what you're saying is just what she DOESN'T want to hear about her boyfriend. For her to admit to herself that he kissed you forcibly, she has also to admit to herself that he is in the ... (read in full...)
We are dating but he sees other people too, we have agreed that I do the same but I'm not happy with this "settlement" - your advice?
Q. I met this guy 6 months ago. We met 3 times within 2 weeks, then he left for his job (which he told me from the beginning) for the whole summer, but told me that he wanted to see me when he got back. He called me once a month for those months a...
A. 1 December 2008: His actions are those of someone who is not presently interested in commitment. If commitment is important to you (and that's a very valid attitude for you to have, btw) then this guy is not the one for you. You call it correctly yourself--it's ... (read in full...)
Found my husband in bed with his best male friend, what do I do now?
Q. [they continued to have sex in your face after you caught them?????????hard to believe? - other mods, what do you think??i'll leave this as it is, please pay attention at the detail I pointed] I'm 31, from the United Kingdom, and my husband'...
A. 1 December 2008: Even if he "only" fancies his best friend and not other men as well, it sounds as if your marriage is over. I don't think going to counseling with him would help with anything except perhaps making the split as amicable as possible (and that's going ... (read in full...)
Am I giving off the wrong vibes here?
Q. I don't know if it's a vibe I put off or if men don't find me beautiful but I haven't had a boyfriend since junior year. I like to do lots of fun things like all types of boarding, I ride a motorcycle, have got a good job and would say I am ...
A. 30 November 2008: Well...at the risk of sounding a little harsh, this IS the 21st century and you should probably know, for your own sake/safety, how to change a tire at least. It sounds like all you're really interested in having a guy for is everyday fixit stuff. ... (read in full...)
I found and used my moms dildos.
Q. im a 15 year old female. recently i found my moms 4 dildos and used them. is that bad ? ...
A. 30 November 2008: Using your mother's personal sex toys is a little weird, definitely. Mainly because those things are so intimate and need to be carefully disinfected between use, but also because you pretty much invaded her privacy by going through her stuff and ... (read in full...)
She's amassed $70,000 in debt!!!!!
Q. Hello; I've asked a few other questions, so I don't want to overload the board, but I figured I'd try one more. I have been with my girlfriend for 6+ years, engaged for 2+ of those years. I don't believe we will ever have a wedding -- after I p...
A. 30 November 2008: When it comes down to it...if the two of you aren't married and she racked up the debt by herself, buying things for herself, technically it is her responsibility and, if you will, "her problem." Yes, you have a right to be concerned by this. ... (read in full...)
What is the most honourable thing to do?
Q. Hello I just started college this fall, and have been having issues fitting in with both the people at my institute. I find nothing appealing in getting drunk or high, or hooking up with random girls, or playing video games or staying up all n...
A. 30 November 2008: Don't sell yourself short thinking you aren't "interesting" and so on. Unless the girl you are currently dating expresses an interest in being free to date others, don't throw away a relationship with someone you say you love. If she feels anything ... (read in full...)
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