What is the most honourable thing to do?
Q. Hello I just started college this fall, and have been having issues fitting in with both the people at my institute. I find nothing appealing in getting drunk or high, or hooking up with random girls, or playing video games or staying up all n...
A. 30 November 2008: Don't sell yourself short thinking you aren't "interesting" and so on. Unless the girl you are currently dating expresses an interest in being free to date others, don't throw away a relationship with someone you say you love. If she feels anything ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong here?
Q. This guy I know from Theater club asked me out for dinner on Facebook. I was excited... (his roommate is the guy that I like) so he takes me to dinner and we talk about music mostly. J is really musically talented and asked me if I could sing, I ...
A. 30 November 2008: If I understand you correctly, you like one guy but accepted his roommate (Theater Guy)'s invitation to dinner. That would be where you screwed up. The guy you like saw you with Theater Guy and probably assumed the two of you were interested in each ... (read in full...)
I'm not allowed to use Internet but all my course work is online!
Q. Im home-schooled and grounded from the internet. Since all of my course work is on the internet..it doesnt make any sence to me. Would you explain?...
A. 30 November 2008: Surely your parents are aware of the format of your course work if they put you in home-school? Try reminding them of this fact if you like, but I'm betting what they meant is that you aren't supposed to use the internet for social stuff. I'm sure ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insults me but says he is joking. Would you take it as a joke?
Q. My boyfriend calls me names like b__ch, sl_t, w___e, ugly, fat, smelly, tramp, etc. But he says that he is just joking and he doesnt mean it. Well I dont take it as a joke, and I take very seriously. Do you think that Im overreacting? Would you take ...
A. 30 November 2008: No, you're not overreacting. If he meant it to be taken as a joke, I don't think he'd keep it up after you called him on it. In any case, it's in extremely poor taste for him to call you those things. Make sure he knows you don't find this funny at ... (read in full...)
What would be my best option?
Q. Hoping someone or a number of people can help a bit here. I am on an important committee and am respected for my contributions. I briefly dated one of the guys in the group. He broke it off as he met someone else. I took it pretty maturely but at ...
A. 30 November 2008: Don't let him chase you away from something you enjoy. If others respect you for your contributions, it's doubtful that he will succeed in turning them against you. Trust me, others will notice that the negativity toward you comes from only ONE ... (read in full...)
BJ help
Q. ok im 13 and im REALLY horny, i have a girlfriend and i really want her to give me a blowjob, help! and please dont answer tht im too young, i need help not parental lecturing, thanks...
A. 30 November 2008: I won't tell you you're too young, but I will say that you absolutely SHOULD NOT pressure your girlfriend into anything she doesn't want to do. If she is in an age range similar to yours, she may not be quite as horny as you are. When I was 13 I ... (read in full...)
He really made me feel used and like an object. Ever since, I've never been comfortable with intimacy, and especially not sex.
Q. Okay, this is really embarrassing to talk about, but I need advice. This is a sex question. A few years ago, I went out with this guy who was completely into my body. I was only 14, and he was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first sexual ...
A. 30 November 2008: I actually disagree with "anon" on this one. Being sexually active does NOT mean you have to resign yourself to vaginal problems. You don't specify what they are, so please see your health care professional about them. I know it might be ... (read in full...)
Because of my friend she doesn't trust me any more.
Q. Hey people I need a little help, I mean I have this very beautiful GF... lemme just get to the point guys she doesn't trust people that easily and my Best friend told her that I went off and getting girls msns and sort... it pissed me off to no ...
A. 30 November 2008: Reassure her of your feelings for her--show her your post here if need be. Keep in mind though that there is such a thing as "too jealous" and if she continues to distrust you without cause it is going to damage your relationship. Take care... (read in full...)
I feel like life is too short and too precious to just "put up with." I want fulfillment!
Q. I just have to get this off my chest, and if you can help me, I will be so grateful. I can take an honest answer, whether or not it is the one I want to hear, as long as you genuinely want to help. When I was in college, I struggled to fig...
A. 30 November 2008: Never too late, depending on the job. Having spent four years in college getting a bachelor's degree in English literature, only to pursue a career in firefighting (completely unrelated!!) I think I understand a little of how you're feeling. You may ... (read in full...)
Does he really likes me or am I another one of his conquests?
Q. I met a military guy 2 months ago, he's leaving in January, so I have this single month left to do something. When we met I notice he's too much out there, like a player kinda thing. He kept looking at me a lot and he even asked me if I was a ...
A. 30 November 2008: I would trust the reservations it sounds like you already have about this guy and stay clear of him. Not only is he a player, you mention that he's also recently divorced. Unless he has a perfect and now platonic-only relationship with his ex-wife ... (read in full...)
Why would she be doing this in front of him?!
Q. About a month ago my girl broke up with me for her ex. We continue to talk and flirt. I'm just having a really hard time understand why we have full on texting conversations when I know she is with her bf? These aren't really rare. We probably ...
A. 30 November 2008: Maybe she really wants attention? I don't know. I hate to say it, but this sounds like a girl who can't make up her mind. If the roles were reversed, would you want her to text her other ex in front of you while the two of you were dating? Probably ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out my cycle and it's driving me insane!
Q. Okay I'm getting very frustrated and angry. I'm 15 and I got my first period about 2 years ago, so my cycle shouldn't still be irregular, should it? Well I can't figure it out! 2 months ago, It took me 32 days to get my period, and then it only took ...
A. 25 November 2008: 15 is still pretty young, so it's not unusual that your period would be irregular. Unfortunately, not much is going to help you with this besides time. You might also alk to your doctor about it and see if he or she has any ideas for you...good luck ... (read in full...)
She dumped me via text, can I get her back?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me today after 6months by text message. what can i do to get her back?...
A. 25 November 2008: Wow. "Ideally" break-ups take place face to face. But a text?!? If she didn't even make the effort to tell you over the phone (she obviously has a phone, after all), I'm not sure she is so very worth having back.
If you still want her to start th... (read in full...)
Will my hubby record me?
Q. Hi. I'm a 25 year old, married woman. For Christmas this year I have bought my hubby a digital camcorder with the intent of letting him film me pleasuring myself and the 2 of us together. We are both quite adventurous in the bedroom, but I a...
A. 25 November 2008: Talk to him about it. Explain that being filmed is a fantasy of yours. When you first bring the subject up, just leave it at that...I wouldn't mention the fact that you might like others to see the tapes as well. First see how he reacts just to the ... (read in full...)
Could a large penis have done this to me?
Q. I recently started talking to one of my ex boyfriends from when I was younger. Having sex with him always hurt a little, because his penis is very large. It had been a long time since I had sex, I would say about a year, and we had sex yesterday. It ...
A. 25 November 2008: Yes, it could have. His size is probably all it is, in fact...but since you mention unusual discharge you should probably go get it checked out just to be sure.... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if I've miscarried and had an abortion?
Q. If I had an abortion and a miscarriage, can I still get pregnant?...
A. 25 November 2008: Unless the abortion procedure or the miscarriage damaged your uterus, ovaries, or other reproductive structures, you should still be able to get pregnant. Please see your doctor if you're trying to conceive, just to make sure you won't have any ... (read in full...)
Is it because of rough sex that I'm getting sore after sex?
Q. So, my ex and I got back together about 3 weeks ago. Since I haven't been on birth control in a while, the first time we had sex I used the Plan B (Morning after pill), the following weekend we ended up using a condom and he morning afterwards I ...
A. 25 November 2008: If sex isn't hurting while you do it, you're probably not bleeding from the "rough" sex. I'm about to describe my own situation here, but please bear with me because it sounds almost identical to yours =] I take birth control pills regularly,... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a dad!
Q. I don't want to become a dad at 15 years old but I what to have sex with my girlfriend, we both want to but we don't want kids yet, what do I do....
A. 25 November 2008: Use a condom every time you have sex. This will help prevent both pregnancy and the transmission of STDs. If you want to be extra safe, talk to your girlfriend and see how she feels about getting on birth control pills as well. As far as I know, you ... (read in full...)
What are the odds that my hymen was broken during a rape kit when I was 6?
Q. I had to have a rape kit completed on me when I was only 6 years old. They did a pap smear (HURT INCREDIBLY!! I still remember the pain) and then inserted a speculum, too. I don't remember whether or not I bled afterward. In any case, I lost ...
A. 25 November 2008: Thinking back to various pelvic exams I've had, I'd guess that it's quite possible. But I'd ask a medical professional about this to be sure. It's also possible that the collection of the rape kit didn't affect your hymen, but something later in ... (read in full...)
What exactly is "friends with benefits", please?
Q. Hi. What exactly is friends with benefits? All sounds a bit immature to me! Is this a normal sexual relationship based on denial so that no-one gets 'hurt'? Many thanks....
A. 25 November 2008: "Friends with benefits" describes a situation in which two (supposedly platonic) friends are sexually intimate with one another but do not consider the liaison a relationship or a commitment in any way. I say "supposedly platonic" because often ... (read in full...)
Is my BF out innocent flirting or something much more?
Q. I've had sneaking suspisions about my boyfriends 'friendship' with a girl he works with whom is also a married woman for some time now. So yesterday I thought I would get to the bottom of it by getting into his email account and looking through his ...
A. 25 November 2008: I'm not sure flirting like this can truly be "harmless" when one of the parties is married and the other is in a supposedly committed relationship. I don't think it was right of you to look through his personal e-mail, but now that you have, you may ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel guilty for wanting to break up, even though I'm pregnant with his child!
Q. Dear All, I want to break up with my BF and I am 38 weeks pregnant with his first child. Every time I get up the nerve to and even actually do it. He finds some kind of way to make me feel guilty about my decision. We never spend time together...
A. 25 November 2008: If you two are no longer compatible, you're no longer compatible. You are carrying his baby and for that you deserve more respect and kindness than it sounds like he is showing you...regardless of what you and he have done or not done in the past. ... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email account... how do I tell him?
Q. ok so my boyfriend went to another state for thanksgiving with his family and he started acting weird he wouldnt call me and when I called, one night his brother answered and sang and hung up.... then I called back, he answered and I heard a girl in ...
A. 25 November 2008: I'd be honest with him. He's probably not going to like hearing it, but hopefully the knowledge that you are sincerely sorry about it will help him forgive you. Show him your post here if he doesn't believe that you feel bad about having done ... (read in full...)
Was that too harsh?
Q. All the names here are fake I went to this school dance with my friends. I ask my best guy friend, Alex (who I have a crush on) to dance. I kept stepping on his feet accidentally. Later after the dance I over heard Alex talking to his bud. ...
A. 25 November 2008: It is harsh, but what he said about you was harsh as well. Please don't let this be a blow to your self-esteem; I'm guessing that "Alex" only said something so extreme to divert his friend's attention from that line of teasing. However, it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know a good remedy for hair growth?
Q. Does anyone know a good remedy for hair growth. Pls let me know....
A. 24 November 2008: I don't know about remedies to make your hair grow faster, but if you're trying to reduce unwanted body hair, certain types of birth control pills help with this. I think it's the extra female hormones they put into your system...body hair growth is ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of her being pregnant?
Q. Hi, yesterday me and my girlfriend had sex.. we didnt use condoms. i did not cum. but there was a liquid kind of thing.. she said she felt something wet, but im 100% sure i did not cum. is she going to be pregnant? what are the chances? ...
A. 24 November 2008: According to the insert on my birth control pills, a single act of unprotected intercourse (which is what the two of you just had) carries with it an approximately 8% chance of pregnancy if the woman isn't on birth control. So yes, there's ... (read in full...)
Women: Would you be more or less attracted to a guy that saving sex for marriage?
Q. Would you be more or less attracted to a guy that was saving himself for marriage? Please be honest....
A. 24 November 2008: I think it's a very respectable attitude to have and a lot of women/girls would appreciate being their partner's first and only. That said, personally...if I was even CONSIDERING marriage I'd probably want to know for sure that I was sexually ... (read in full...)
I think I am ready, but he isn't...what do I do???
Q. I am 16 and my boyfriend is almost 15. I got to thinking about sex and thought i might be ready, but my boyfriend has already told me he just isn't ready yet, that he wants it to be special and when it's right. So, what do I do if I think I am ready ...
A. 24 November 2008: He's a year younger than you are, and boys often mature emotionally at a slower rate than girls do. Try to remember that a year ago YOU wouldn't have felt ready for sex and maybe you will have an easier time respecting his wishes on this one. I ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with her coldness and aloof manner?
Q. Hi, Thanks in advance for your comments. My problem is that my fiancee seems to swing from being all over me to chastising me for 'not doing enough' or 'not appreciating what she does'. I find her claims incredible, not only because the...
A. 24 November 2008: It sounds like, at the very least, there are some things the two of you need to work through/sort out before marriage. You are engaged to her and she won't return your calls? Not knowing her side of the situation, that still sounds extremely ... (read in full...)
Turned down having sex with her and now ..she thinks I am gay!
Q. This weekend I had my girlfriend over and we fell asleep on the couch after a quiet evening and a movie. We are quite affectionate with each other but this was the first time we had slept together, we were fully clothed and have been dating for a ...
A. 24 November 2008: You sound like quite a gentleman and I'm sorry to hear that being honest and respectful has messed things up for you. If you haven't already, explain to her that you aren't gay and that her accusations hurt you, and understand that a lot of her need ... (read in full...)
He wants an open relationship and threesomes! Should I give up on him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together two years now. He's 18, I'm 19. About a month ago, he met another girl (17) whom he really enjoys hanging out with. At first, it didn't bother me, but then he started hanging out with her a lot more than me and ...
A. 24 November 2008: It sounds like the two of you have different priorities at this point. If lack of commitment in a relationship is a deal breaker for you (and that's a completely valid attitude to have, by the way), you may need to find yourself a new boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
So ladies, hairy chest or not?
Q. So ladies, hairy chest or not? Im like Steve Carrell hairy, is that too much? I would prefer answers from high school and college girls, as that is my age. Thanks....
A. 24 November 2008: Personal preference: less hair, but I couldn't really care less about it to be honest. If I get to the point where I can see if the guy has a hairy chest or not, chances are I'm already hooked on his personality and the chest hair is completely ... (read in full...)
Daughter's boyfriend comes over late at night. Do we trust them together?
Q. My 18 yr. old daughter's boyfriend likes to come over to visit, which we do allow but he comes over late when he works. We don't allow him to be here late when we have to go to sleep because we don't think it's appropriate for them to be left alone ...
A. 24 November 2008: Having been 18 with a boyfriend not too long ago, my answer to this is an emphatic "no." She is legally an adult and can make her own decisions about this...but as she is living with you, you retain the right to outline what she can and can't do at ... (read in full...)
Jiggly thighs!! What can I do to tone them up?
Q. I want to know what I can to tighten my jiggly thighs. Besides excercise, is there anything that i can do or use to tone them. I hate the fact that my inner thighs rub together it is so annoying and uncomfortable i can't stand it. Any advice, ...
A. 24 November 2008: Sorry to say, there is no "miracle cure" for this sort of thing. A healthy diet and regular exercise should help, and it won't take you all that long to see results if you are diligent about it. Try running or squats (make sure you stretch out ... (read in full...)
How do you think my friend feels? He often mentions we slept together in the past.
Q. So i have a good friend who i slept with twise. A realationship at the time was off the cards, as we are two different people. We talked every day - via email,net or txt. We stoped talking to each other for about 6 months, my excuse for this w...
A. 23 November 2008: It sounds like he is still attracted to you, but think twice about getting involved with him again if the two of you are still living together as friends and you don't want a formal relationship. "Friends with benefits" can work out, but only if the ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, we attempted sex but he is too big for me?
Q. hi im 18 and ima virgin,me and my fiance have tried to have sex,but hes too big for me,i have relaxed as much as i can,but he is still too big for me! what can i do? i really want to have sex with him but its not possible at the moment! any t...
A. 23 November 2008: It's your first time; this is almost certainly the problem. I hate to say it, but chances are the first time is going to hurt you some no matter what you do. Make sure your boyfriend gives you enough foreplay (kissing, touching, etc) to make you wet ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to get fellatio from an underage girl?
Q. my neighbor is 16 yrs old and im 21, and shes really into me and wants to have sex but i told her that i wouldnt cuz of i didnt wanna go to jail... so she said that she would give me a blowjob but idk if thats consider illegal???...
A. 23 November 2008: It's a sex act and she is a minor. Of course it's illegal.... (read in full...)
What do I do about his high sex drive?
Q. hes really into sex while i would rather hang out and do stuff even though sex feels amazing i would do it a few times a week but he wants it every morning i asked if he could masterbate instead of sex but he said it doesnt cut it and i find when we ...
A. 23 November 2008: Let me say first that I've been here, but the other way around (I want sex more often than my guy does). The way around it turned out to be compromise, and I think that would help you two as well.
It sounds like the two of you need to have ano... (read in full...)
I get really nervous when doing a presentation, as my classmates always make fun of me! What could I do?
Q. I get really nervous when presenting a presentation.For so many years I hate doing presentations. I don't like to present because my classmates will laugh at me once I start walking up to the front of the class, they make fun of me, and do sound ...
A. 23 November 2008: One technique I always hear mentioned (and that works for me as well) is to imagine that your entire audience is naked, or doing something else foolish. That takes your preoccupation off yourself, in the case of simple nervousness anyway.
If yo... (read in full...)
I have all these qualities and yet don't have a boyfriend... what am I doing wrong?
Q. Confidence? Beauty? Personality? I have all of that, except confidence and I've never had a boyfriend....What am I doing wrong?...
A. 23 November 2008: You present as 13-15...that's actually fairly young to be dating. I wouldn't worry about it. It is a lot more rewarding to date someone you actually care about than to date for dating's sake, and I think many young teens lose sight of this. In the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to disappoint my late Mother, but my father is out of control.
Q. Hey guys I need some advice on what to do! My mum died back in early 2007 and although we weren't really close, I still really miss her. Anyway, after she died my dad moved back in who had left when I was about six and at first me and my sisters ...
A. 23 November 2008: I'm not sure how the legal system works in your country and what recourse you may have, but regardless it is not fair of your father to disrupt your life and your sister's with drinking and drug use. Talk to someone you trust about this ... (read in full...)
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