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writes:Guys, Me and my bf broke up 1 week ago because of trust issues.. Then I was the one who broke up because I couldnt trust him.. but I am still in love with him.. during the period of one week, he texted me to get me back together but I told him I cant because I dont trust him. Then I understand that I still love him so we decided to solve the problems.. we met up he asked me'' to trust him again otherwise he cant be with me because he'd rather not to have pain anymore...Finally I told him ' I trust you.. you can go and hang out with your guy friends. u can go to clubbing with your friends''he said'' ok but If I dont see you and hang out with you, dont be mad''I said okI am asking that after getting back your ex, and giving promises about trust issues to him, even though u want to text to him but u know he has family and telling you that if I dont see you o hang out, dont be mad or if he hang out with his guys and their gf, he wants me to trust to him.. How should I behave him or make him to see me or text to me as much as before?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Maybe he is too busy. Give him more time to reply and sweat it out.Do not send anymore text to him.
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reader, ann84 +, writes (3 April 2010):
ann84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyesterday I text him back and show him care about him, like asking oh u dont skip ur meals right? the reason why Iam asking cause u were sick
but he didint respond it..
so after this time what should I do?Its bad when u text him showing care of him but then no respond...
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (3 April 2010):
Suggest to him to do things together like going to movies or just enjoying a drink or window shopping or to any place he wants.
Initiate some text to him to tell him that you are thinking of him.
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reader, ann84 +, writes (2 April 2010):
ann84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlike today he texted me how Iam doing and what plans are.. he didint tell me he love me.. because he always told me before.. every text he always put it.. but I know I have to wait for a while..
so u think should I leave him alone no contacting anymore? or texting him once a day?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): It is common to find that when you own your feelings and become your own person - being happy, go lucky, shopping, studying, surrounding yourself with all of your friends - is when the guy you broke up with comes back and ask you to trust him. What it appears to be is a situation where your BF is not ready to commit to a permanent BF/GF relationship and he is also not ready to let go. He want's multiple social lifes - friends, family, co-workers, you, etc. He is sparingly fitting you into his very, very, busy social life and at the same time not bringing you into his social life. Ouch ! ! ! You're Conscious is alerting you to the fact that something is very wrong here. Pay attention to those signs. Dating is a way to find out if you like that person enough to continue on. Keep him as a friend but move on. You seem very smart and you just might have a wonderful destiny waiting for you. Good Luck ! ! ! Let us know what happens...... CLM
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I think you might be making a big mistake here. It seems like this guy is still hung up on doing the things that makes you uncomfortable, like hanging out all the time with his friends and their partners, going clubbing, not talking to you as much. I admire the guy for being honest with you, but you were unhappy enough in the relationship before so much that you broke up with him. What makes you think that your feelings are going to change now that you're back together? I mean if you didn't trust him before and he's dong the same things as before, I doubt you are going to be able to trust him now and be happy with the relationship. And why be with someone that isn't making you happy?
You can't make him text you and want to see you more. He chooses who and where he spends his time on. His choice is obviously with his friends (which is fine), but this doesn't sit well with you. The only suggestion I have is to stop trying to contact him so much and let him do what he wants. If he takes the initiative to get a hold of you, that's a good sign. But really, no matter how much you talk to him or beg, he won't contact you unless he wants to. So if you absolutely HAVE to be in this relationship (which I wouldn't suggest), loosen up the reigns a little. Stop initiating talk time and let him do it. Smothering him will only push him further.
Best of luck to you.
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