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writes:me and my partner are certain im pregnant, i haven't tested yet, im a week late so im going to give it another week before i test, im never late this is the first time i been late and i have a few symptoms. ever since i told him i could be pregnant he hasn't had sex with me, we usually have sex alot but he hasn't for a week now, could this be that i could be pregnant and hes afraid to have sex with me?we love eachother very much and he said if it turns out i am pregnant we will get through it somehow, im worried about him though, he is in debt its not that much in debt but i can tell he's worried, he also has family problems going on back at home which upset him, i wish there was some way i could help him, i just think that if i am pregnant it might just make matters worse for him as he has alot on his plate already, do you have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): hey there, if u do turn out pregnant, there are a few positions that u can use during sex that are really great. Spooning is good, comfortable for you and your partner. Also the woman on top position is great.... Trust me when i say this because my partner was scared. i asked a doctor and they were some of the positions she told me... Also look up on the net for comfortable easy positions, print them out and show your partner. That way he can read it for himself
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Of course he isn't having sex with you when you two think that you might be pregnant! He's afraid! It's hard to even think about sex when the reason why your girlfriend might be pregnant is because you two had sex in the first place. Having a kid is very stressful when it comes to guys (and usually for girls too), so the last thing on their mind is more sex!
Sorry, but if I got pregnant, I would be freaking out. There would be so many issues to deal with, and I would seriously be regretting having sex in the first place without more protection. So more sex would not be the solution to calming that stress. It's like if you get sick off of eating too much cake, and while you're sitting there with a stomach ache, the solution would NOT be to eat more cake. It's seriously nothing personal toward you that he's not having sex, it's just a bunch of stress and anxiety of possibly becoming a parent in nine months that is putting him off toward more sex.
If I were you, I'd stop worrying about this aspect of the relationship and start figuring out if you're actually pregnant, and when that does happen, I would start making big plans for the future. Sex is definitely a low priority at this point, as it should be. There are much more important things that you two need to start worrying about and deal with. Best of luck to the both of you!
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