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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and he's really sweet, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me when I call, and I know he loves me because he tells me does. It means a lot to me, because i love him more than anything. So do you think that he doesn't want to talk to me on occasion? And do you think that when you're 15 and 16 years old that it's too young to be in love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): sometimes me and my bf dont always talk that much when were on the phone........and its ok!! i mean sometimes we have like minuets of not talking.......but i no he loves me!!
were both 13 and we love each other alot!! i think its ok to love someone at any age!!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Go with what littlebrowngirl says. It is true that the majority of men just do not want to communicate over the telephone. Go with the flow, it isn't you it's just to do with gender.
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reader, LittleBrownGirl +, writes (25 May 2006):
BOYS as in 15 or 16 DESPISE talking on the phone... Men hate talking on the phone your Dad hates talking on the phone Now your mom she likes to talk on the phone your sister she like talking on the phone and you LIKE to talk on the phone its a freaking MALE FEMALE thing observe!!!!!!!! Oh by the way no offense it just a fact sweetie..
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Young men aren't as keen on _just_ _talking_ as young women are. To many guys, the purpose of talking is to exchange information, full stop. When that exchange is done, they don't see the *point* in staying on the phone. To women, on the other hand, chatting is a chance to bond and to show friendship.
So, I'd say the reason he seems like sometimes doesn't want to talk is because sometimes he *doesn't* want to talk!
The best thing to do is to understand that this is one of the fundamental differences (generally speaking) between men and women, and then to err on the side of caution.
What I'm suggesting is that you second-guess yourself about every other time you want to call him, and ask if you actually have anything to say that's worth talking about. If your plan is to call him, then say "hi" and hope that the conversation carries on, then choose to give that call a miss. Maybe text him a nice "thinking of u" instead.
Is 15 or 16 too young to be in love? Well, no 15- or 16-year-old would ever say so, would they?
If I were to suggest that the reason most mid-teens have never felt so strongly about someone as the person they love is because they're new to the adult world and haven't experienced much of *anything* yet, I'm sure I'd be pelted with old shoes, rotten tomatoes and dog turds.
So, naturally I'm not going to suggest such a radical notion!
Instead, I'll hedge. At 15 or 16, what you feel is a totally real and powerful attraction to a person, and it's more heady because it's all new. As to whether it's actually "love", well, every individual makes up her own mind later in her life, when recalling that first relationship.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Hey!
What kind of things does he say/or not say that makes you think he doesn't want to talk to you? Some people just aren't big 'phone' talkers, I know my boyfriend isn't and it always seems that he wants to go when I call! I asked him about this and he says that he loves to have a quick 'Hey darlin, hows your day, love you see you tonight" kinda thing, but anything longer than that he says he prefers to speak about in person. Perhaps your boyfriend is like that? Or is he often busy when you call or preoccupied with somethine else?
As for too young to be in love. I am a firm believer in love knowing no boundaries. It doesn't matter how old or young you are, love is love, it is a feeling you experience when you feel something deeper than you have ever known for someone else. If you have found this, hang onto it and nurture it for as long as you can. Don't let anyone tell you you're too young! xxx
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