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writes: Hey all,My boyfriend and I are in a long term relationshp and we've been arguing recently over his refusal to come home (he's too busy with revision etc) - even though it means he won't see me for 6weeks (we've never been apart this long). I gave him a sort of ultimatum: either he sorts it out or I don't think we'll still be together by the time it's 'convenient' for him to see me, especially since all I have done is to visit him and this time I'm refusing. I don't want him to fail his exams or anything but I don't think one day would hurt either. After all, I'm in the same situation. Needless to say he chose bloody staying away. Now he's told me he's coming for one day next week and would want to see me, but I told him no. I want to see him but it's always on HIS terms and it's getting me down. But I'm wondering if I am, in a phrase, 'cutting off my nose to spite my face'? Any advice welcomeThanksxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey
Just to say i know that he is feeling stressed out and has a lot to do but so do i. i have my own exams to worry about and i understand its a long way but it was a long way for me to go to see him too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): He is having it off with someone else...what a poooooor escuse. If he wants to be with you he would make more of an effort...mmm
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): Er, of course its on his terms and only for one day...he has exams to do...there is his future to worry about. I cant help but think you're being a little selfish, then moaning that he wont come, only to moan further when he does! No doubt there will be plenty of time to see each other after exams.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (25 May 2006):
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I agree with light_bearer here, he obviously felt bad about making you sad that he wouldn't see you for 6 weeks, so offering to come all that way back for one day says so much don't you think!?
Try to understand how he is feeling and how these exams could really be stressing him out. Ring him up and tell him to get his butt down to see you for that day and arrange for something special for the two of you to do that day! xxx
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reader, light_bearer +, writes (25 May 2006):
 It sounds like you'r boyfriend feels bad that he wont see you and is coming down to visit to try make things better with you. You asked him to come down and he has. I agree 6 weeks is a long time but is it really worth braking up over?
When it's my exam period my boyfriend knows he wont see me but we text and arrange to do special stuff after my exams.
Think of all the stuff you and your boyfriend can do once your exams are out of the way.
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