My friend likes the guy I'm dating and told me not to get with him, so how do I tell her that we are together?
Q. Last month I ran into a guy I went to high school with that I have not seen in ten years. We exchanged phone numbers an have been seeing each other ever since. We have a lot in common and I have never been happier. My problem is that a week before I ...
A. 31 May 2012: I'm curious as to know how you guy are falling for the same guys over and over. It sounds like you two are going mainly on physical attraction, which also tells me that you didn't know the guys on a deeper level prior to liking him. Also, Like ... (read in full...)
My friend likes the guy I'm dating and told me not to get with him, so how do I tell her that we are together?
Q. Last month I ran into a guy I went to high school with that I have not seen in ten years. We exchanged phone numbers an have been seeing each other ever since. We have a lot in common and I have never been happier. My problem is that a week before I ...
A. 30 May 2012: Well, to be honest, A TRUE friend would let the guy go in favor of her best friend. They say girlfriends and boyfriend come and go but a real friend is hard to come by. It sounds like neither of you are great friends at all. You already knew you... (read in full...)
I snooped and found my boyfriend had been lying about watching porn, how do I trust him again?
Q. How do I trust my boyfriend again after he lied and promised he didn't watch porn, but I found out he does by snooping? What should hurt more the fact he broke a promise and lied or the fact he did not come straight out to tell me he watched it? I ...
A. 29 May 2012: I simply can't understand why women are so insecure when it comes to guys watching porn. I think it's very unnatractive and controling to make your boyfriend give up porn usage. My ex girlfriend LOVED watching porn with me. She would even warm up ... (read in full...)
Still being judged for an affair 12 years later
Q. 12 yrs ago I had an affair with a married man which resulted in his divorcing his wife and leaving their 3 teenage children. A yr later he and I married and have been happily married ever since. His ex wife continues to call me an adulterer and has ...
A. 28 May 2012: I'm sorry but can you really blame them? You helped in breaking up a family, just to make your own. How would you feel if you were in the mother's shoes? This just proves to show that even if you get the guy, there will be baggage with him. I can't ... (read in full...)
He is 'liking' other girls statuses on Facebook, is he looking to trade me in for someone else?
Q. Both me and my partner are on Facebook and before we got together he would always like my statuses and some of my pictures and he also did this to a previous girl he dated. We have been going through a bit of a bad patch and I have noticed he does ...
A. 28 May 2012: Your getting a bit clingy there. I always like the statuses of my female friends on facebook. It doesn't mean anything more that a friend liking a status.... (read in full...)
If you love someone will you change for him?
Q. If someone expects you to change for him, is it love? If you love someone will you change for him? My boyfriend and I have been in disagreement recently. He expects me to understand his religion so that I can understand why he is a vegetarian a...
A. 28 May 2012: Cerberus beat me to it.
He contradicted himself with that statement. It's either he was trying to guilt you into changing or he simply doesn't love you.
But all in all, I would change if the change wasn't too drastic or unappealing. I'v... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with scars from self-injury?
Q. Would you date someone with scars from self-injury? I recently went through a pretty rough period while I was far away from home at college, and I became so mentally worn that I resorted to cutting as a coping method. I know it's bad, and I kn...
A. 28 May 2012: Well, I'm a guy who could identify with you perfectly. I have over 137 cut marks on my body. It starts from my left wrists, goes up my arm, along my shoulder and across my chest. Let's just say, I used cutting as a relief for almost every stressful ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has feelings for his best friend so I broke up with him
Q. so i told my boyfriend. about this website and how you could ask for advice. and its confidential so he went on and he asked a question" saying i am 16 male. ive been with my girlfriend for 8 months but i have sum feelings for my besfriend should i ...
A. 26 May 2012: Heh, sounds like my situation. My ex FWB found a question that I wrote on here about a girl I liked at work. It mentioned how I thought she was beautiful and how I thought I might have a shot with her. My FWB read it and decided she didn't want to ... (read in full...)
Can't get to a second date for the life of me
Q. There is something wrong going on here... I had a date with a girl that I met on an online dating site last night and kept it relatively light, good conversation flowed and she seemed happy to talk about a wide variety of topics (i.e. - school, ...
A. 26 May 2012: There are more people in that boat with you more than you think. For example, that girl you just dated. Did you stop to think for one second that maybe she's feeling the same way? She probably doesn't understand why she's dating so many guys and ... (read in full...)
Is this fair?
Q. I know this not a relationship question, but I just want to know if I'm being treated unfairly. So my dad passed away not too long ago and I had to live with somebody else now, she took custody of me. She applied for a benefit so I can' get stuff ...
A. 24 May 2012: To be honest, You're lucky you're getting anything at all. My mom is also receiving money from the government. She's on disability. She gets around $650-700 a month and most if not all goes towards her medical, rent and food. And she still has other ... (read in full...)
This guy is trying to destroy my relationship!
Q. Hello people I have a really big problem that has been stressing me out lately. My girlfriend has recently gotten a job but all of her friends are guys and I am ok with that but the real problem is that every single one of them tries to have he...
A. 24 May 2012: Sorry to say, but it sounds like the problem has more to do with your girlfriend rather than the guy. Think about it. . . SHE gave him her number. SHE let's him text her all the time about getting with him. SHE defends him when you clearly object ... (read in full...)
Why do guys have to give up their porn but girls get to keep their toys?
Q. So I've been reading post about women upset about their boyfriends using porn and post about guys upset about their girlfriends using a vibrator. It strikes me odd at the double standard women have for vibrators and porn. Every post I read consist ...
A. 22 May 2012: I agree that it is a double standard. I honestly have never masturbated without an image of a lady in my head. Sweet-thing mentioned that ladies only need the toy, no images, no men, nothing else. So therefore, I believe that men should have porn at ... (read in full...)
My wife has guy friends and our sex life is terrible! should I give up?
Q. Hello All! Need some help with this one. My wife of 4.5 years wants to be able to spend the night at guy friends house. Heres the story, Throughout our relationship she has always had a close guy friend. Usually guys that will dote on h...
A. 21 May 2012: "She doesn't like to wake up early for these appointments so she has been staying at friends houses in the area overnight."
I'm sorry, dude, but this is the biggest load of bullsh*t I've ever heard. She would rather stay over at a "friend'... (read in full...)
Facebook misunderstanding--does she think I am stalking her?
Q. Sometimes I wish there is no such thing as facebook. Why? Because a 4 months ago I met this cute girl at a party and Ive sorta had a crush on her ever since. Just recently I look her up on facebook I dont friend her because im a bit shy. Two days ...
A. 21 May 2012: You're putting way too much thought into this, dude. It's just FACEBOOK and it's ignorant users trying to make pointless statuses so that other facebook users can rate popular. And nothing is more popular than drama. So that is what she is creating ... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend is trying to get as close as she can to my b/f without being a homewrecker!
Q. This might be long so bear with me. A little background: She's my close friend, and she used to like my boyfriend a lot, but he rejected her but they're best friends. So today, I recently found out that on Saturday, my friend had called my boyfri...
A. 21 May 2012: I'll be honest with you. I generally don't believe in opposite sex being best friends without there being some kind of emotional or sexual tension. Someone will like the other more than the friend boundary permits. I know this from experience. I've ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this depressed man that the relationship is over and has been over?
Q. I happen to be in a happy, committed relationship with a really nice man. No problems there. The problem is that I used to be in an LDR with a man about two years ago. After we met, I realised that we weren't compatible and that there was no way it ...
A. 21 May 2012: Well, I've been in the same situation myself. ..except, I was the guy telling the girl I couldn't live without her. In the past, I was diagnosed with severe depression. When I finally found someone that seemed to accept me for who I was, I became ... (read in full...)
Since she loves another how do I stop wanting to love her still?
Q. so here the thing my girl friend dumped me but we are still very good friends i want to stop loving her because i know there is no chance for me and her any way she already loves another guy but i cant stop loving her because i see her every day ...
A. 20 May 2012: Dude, man up and just start talking to other girls. You think you got it bad? My ex girlfriend is my co worker and she spends all her time with this new guy she left me for. We're all co workers and it was hard seeing them both hang out with ... (read in full...)
He says it is over. I am broken inside. What can I do? I hurt so much inside.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend. We were together for two years. I gave him my all. I saw sides of him no-one else cared to see. I looked after him when times went bad. I gave him everything he wanted. I tried to always make him smile. I ordered univ...
A. 19 May 2012: "I cheated on my boyfriend." Ok, this is really all I needed to know about your post. I read it all but the first sentence is really what's important. "I gave him everything down to the last drop of my heart. " Apparently you did not if you... (read in full...)
If a waitress is hot should I put my phone number on the bill?
Q. I'm starting to get back on the dating scene and i was wondering if it is rude or if it even works to write your number on the bill of a resteraunt if you find the waitress hott. Or is that an easy way to get prank phone calls?...
A. 19 May 2012: You need to at least talk to her first. You say you're trying to get back into the dating scene but you're unable to talk to them? Establish a connection. Don't just go on physical appearance. Get to know her while she's serving tables back and ... (read in full...)
Why would my dad's girlfriend tell people that she is my mom when she knows that I don't even like her? I'm so mad at her!
Q. I just need some advice on how to approach something. Mothers day my family and my bosses parents came in to eat brunch(they were at different tables though) at the restaurant I work at. After dinner they ended up chatting and the conversation jus...
A. 15 May 2012: Correction "The daughter of my BOYFRIEND'S ex wife"... (read in full...)
Why would my dad's girlfriend tell people that she is my mom when she knows that I don't even like her? I'm so mad at her!
Q. I just need some advice on how to approach something. Mothers day my family and my bosses parents came in to eat brunch(they were at different tables though) at the restaurant I work at. After dinner they ended up chatting and the conversation jus...
A. 15 May 2012: Cut her some slack will you. She's trying to appeal to both you and your dad by showing that she can think of you as a daughter. She doesn't want people to feel like she resents you. I know my step-mom slipped up one time and told my teacher that ... (read in full...)
How to make my ex's new girlfriend like me?
Q. Well here's the thing my exs girlfriend is pregnant and i want to be friends with her,i am sure that by now she is awere of the fact that i dated her boyfriend but i find her to be an intersting person that i can share great times with, so how do i ...
A. 15 May 2012: There is no way to avoid the awkwardness. You' re asking to be friends with you ex boyfriend 's girlfriend. That whole thing right there is dipped in awkwardness sauce. Not only will the boyfriend object to it but his girlfriend might not like the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is spending his inheritance money and hasn't even bought me a bouquet of flowers!
Q. Ok so my bf and I have dated 2years in which was long distance. Recently he moved in with me. Hes 18 I'm 17. He's originally from were I live. When he was 1 his mom left his dad and moved 4 hours away. So his dad lives here. He's been living with me ...
A. 15 May 2012: It sounds to me like you're his girlfriend because of a check he's gotten. You keep talking about HIS money. Are you making any of your own? It's HIS inheritance check. HIS. Which means someone close to him probably had to die for him to get it. ... (read in full...)
I'm going to pharmacy school. Will that get me more girls?
Q. So my friend told me that seeing that i'm going to pharmacy school girls will be more intersted or is this just a myth? and girls don't care about this stuff? or do you say that it does help you get that girlfriend?...
A. 12 May 2012: LOL, are you serious? If there were any truth in this then there would be a lot more men signing up for pharmacy school. You can find THE Girl of your dreams anywhere. It could be an accidental bump in the library, a ride on the bus, a walk in a ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his 1st official Gf. Should I consider it? Seeing as he's slept with 70 women in the past?
Q. Dear Advice Givers, Im 21 years old, currently involved with a 23 year old man for around 4 months. We are completely into each other, spent alot of time and did romantic things together, all peachy till he confessed his number...the num...
A. 12 May 2012: I honestly wouldn't even consider being with a girl that has had that many partners. It could spell trouble in a variety of ways. He could have contracted some kind of disease. After all, these were one night stands. Whose to say that the women he ... (read in full...)
How does a girl ask a guy out? And should i, after what he said?
Q. Well........ I really like this guy in my year and i really want to ask him out but im scared in case he says no. i am good friends with him and i found out that he said i look like a man so i dont think he would say yes, but i still really want ...
A. 12 May 2012: Seven years ago I said the same thing about a girl that later became ny fiance. I told a couple buddies of mine that this certain girl in my class had a masculine feature and it was a total turnoff. Well a few weeks went by, we met accidentally ... (read in full...)
Fiance won't leave his ailing mother to move in with me
Q. i have been with my fiance for 4 years. i am 41 and he is 49. he is my true soulmate and we have been very happy together.unfortunately he lost his dad 2 years ago and his mum became unwell so my fiance decided to move back home and look after his ...
A. 9 May 2012: Take it from me, a man whose mother was fallen by a fatal sickness. My mother lives with me, yes. She does sometimes gets on my nerves but everytime I think back to her laying on that hospital bed, nearing death, I remember that her time on earth ... (read in full...)
It hurts me so much that we can be together and then she does these things behind my back!
Q. My girlfriend for a month so far we (dated for 3 years she left me for another man back together after a year) keeps on talking too other men dirty and has cheated on me with one in the last month. And swears she will change and i forgive like ...
A. 7 May 2012: I honetly never understand why people put themselves through this. The first time my girlfriend. . .I'm sorry, EX-girlfriend cheated on me, there was nothing else I could do about it. I broke up with her. After the first cheat nothing is the same ... (read in full...)
She said once we were married the sex would get better, but here I am a year later and she still does not want sex!
Q. I've been married for about a year, and my wife only wants to have sex about once a week (if that). She has had minimal interest in sex since we first started seeing each other about three years ago. She has said she's just not that interested ...
A. 5 May 2012: Lke the first poster said, you are more lucky than you believe. Once a week is a blessing in disguise compared to my once a ' if I feel like it' mood with my now ex. I have now gone three months without seeing so much as an actual boob. THREE ... (read in full...)
She hasn't called, is this a bad sign?
Q. my girlfriend told me she will call back me, but from one month she didn't call me what can I do. I want to talk with her...
A. 5 May 2012: Maybe it's only obvious to me but why don't YOU call her? You're making one of the most common mistakes a guy makes. Maybe she wanted to see if you cared enough to call or search for her. After one month of you not doing anything, She probably ... (read in full...)
17 and pregnant. Any advice on how to tell my parents?
Q. I'm 17, 6 weeks pregnant and no clue on how to tell my parents. My boyfriend is 21. Been together for 8months and they know him very well. Mom likes him, father doesn't want me involved in anything serious with any boy but accepts my relationship. ...
A. 4 May 2012: I wonder where's this 21 year old guy now. You know, the father of your baby. You've been saying a lot of 'I's but no 'We's. Isn't he going to man up and talk to your parents with you? Or was he just a hit and run? After only eight months of being ... (read in full...)
I wrote her a letter and I would like her decision. Or am I wasting my time with her?
Q. Hi, about four months ago, I asked a girl out and we ended up going on three dates; but after the third, she started acting a little weird by trying to zone me out. And then when I asked her why, she said she was sorry and didn't feel too comf...
A. 3 May 2012: "But what if she doesn't make a decision at all? What if she just lets it slide?"
Here you go, buddy. You just answered your own post. Do you really want to be with a girl who just lets your feelings 'slide'? You may think she's pretty amazing ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and I like my best male friend. How should I address this?
Q. I'm a gay man and I'm in love with my best friend (male.) He's a pretty masculine guy by the way. When I first got to know him, he seemed pretty anti-gay and homophobic, but as time went on, he gave me signals that made me think otherwise. Afte...
A. 1 May 2012: WAIT! Hold the brakes there, pal. Before you come out telling him you're in love with him, let me explain a few things to you.
1. "I noticed some gay and bisexual sites and searches in his URL bar... like gay dating and gay porn. This proved t... (read in full...)
How do I win my girlfriends heart completely?
Q. have been dating my girlfriend for the past 5months n we seem going on very well.am the type of person who always like to chat with her but it seems she is the exact opposite of me..she never mind not talking to me the whole day and even if she does ...
A. 1 May 2012: "i love her and want something i could do to get her total concentration over me?"
Sounds like a total ego trip for you, buddy. Why do you need her full concentration on you? Do you not think she needs a life outside of yours? Take it from me,... (read in full...)
I stole money from my ex girlfriend and gambled it away. I regret my actions now, how can I win her back?
Q. Hi I just want to know if I can get my ex back, we were together for 3 and a half years and broke up in november because I stole money from her the second time, we owned a house together 2 years ago and I stole money from the account and gambled it, ...
A. 30 April 2012: Also, as a side note. If you really want to show her you've changed. Pay her back everything you stole from her, every cent of it. If you're not willing to do that then you were never fixed. Why would she allow you back into her life if you can't ... (read in full...)
I stole money from my ex girlfriend and gambled it away. I regret my actions now, how can I win her back?
Q. Hi I just want to know if I can get my ex back, we were together for 3 and a half years and broke up in november because I stole money from her the second time, we owned a house together 2 years ago and I stole money from the account and gambled it, ...
A. 30 April 2012: Wrong, wrong, wrong. You don't deserve her back. You violated her trust by stealing a massive amount of money from her. I have no sympathy for you seeing as I was in exactly the same situation. I was the one being robbed by my ex girlfriend. Do you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a great guy, and is definitely someone I can see myself settling down with BUT I really like my guy friend and want to pursue things with him. What should I do?
Q. I've dated a lot of guys over the past year, but finally picked someone I could see myself having a future with. He's a great guy! We've been dating for about three months, he's really intelligent (working on his PHD), attractive, athletic, and has ...
A. 28 April 2012: In my opinion, if my girlfriend decided to break up with Me to pursue another Guy then that would be it between us. You can't take a break everytime you feel like you're attracted to somebody else. If you did that then what would be the point of... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, what's the best thing to do so she will leave us alone!
Q. My bf's ex gf, what is the best way to have her leave us alone? My bf and I have been back together for almost a year now (we dated 1 yr and a half back then, and broke up) When we were together the first time he talked to his ex here and there, ...
A. 27 April 2012: As much as you would like to deny it. She can't hold a conversation with herself. My friend just came out of the same situation. She couldn't understand why her boyfriend's ex was still hounding them even when they did everything you guys did. ... (read in full...)
She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: I can never understand why people want to be with a cheater so badly. What makes you think that once you have her in your corner that she will be faithful to you and only you? You've already seen what she's capable of when her husband is away so why ... (read in full...)
How can I speed up sex without finishing quick?
Q. How can i speed up sex without finishing quick? I'm young, and suffer from P.E, i'm a confident guy who's got no problem in meeting girls and has confidence talking to girls. But when it comes to being sexually active with a girl i try to avoid i...
A. 16 April 2012: I can tell you how to not finish quick. I too use to suffer from P.E, but I did some research on the internet and found a few methods that helped me to last longer, and I mean so long that she gave up on me out of pure exhaustion, lol. Foreplay is ... (read in full...)
Should I hold on to a small hope that her new relationship will not work out or just completely move on?
Q. So, there is this girl who was a good friend of mine that I eventually started to her care for her as more than a friend. First off, after a few dates, I asked her to wait for me for few weeks, so I could find a job and treat her the I wanted to ...
A. 16 April 2012: You say you are willing to take shit from her, and believe me, she knows it too. You have proven to her that you can stand by and endure the heartache of being strung along. You're giving her an ego boost and she's grateful for it. If you want to ... (read in full...)
They say you shouldn't settle but if you don't, maybe you end up alone??
Q. Trying to keep this really short... Fell for my female best friend, really heavily. She didn't feel the same. We've kept the friendship and are very close and I couldn't imagine life without her (she has said same to me). I have tried dating ...
A. 10 April 2012: 1.She CAN see a life without you in it. She only said she couldn't to keep from hurting your feelings. If she doesn't love you the same way you love her then it's not hard to imagine a life without you.
2.You compare many women to her because ... (read in full...)
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