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writes: Sometimes I wish there is no such thing as facebook. Why? Because a 4 months ago I met this cute girl at a party and Ive sorta had a crush on her ever since. Just recently I look her up on facebook I dont friend her because im a bit shy. Two days later she friends me seemingly out of the blue. No messages were exchanged. Now its been a week since we friended and I have looked at her page, pictures, interests, you know the regular stuff, several times. So all of the sudden she writes on her status "Its sorta awkward when a person you only met once starts stalking you on facebook." Now she is a good friend of my good friends and it would be bad for me if she started to name names because lets say my friends and their parents are well... sesitive.Now I am not 100% certain she means me but she hasnt friended anyone new since she friended me. This is disturbing and slighty anger inducing. Of course i didnt say anything because i was afraid she might point me out. But the thing is is that i only looked at her page a few times and how do you stalk someone on FB anyway? I mean you only put on what you want others to see. And i was by no means jacking off to her pics or sending her creepy messages. REASONS THIS DISTURBES ME 1. I only met her once. 2. How can she possibly even f***ing know im "stalking" her in the first place. 3. Im afraid she has told her parents that ive been "stalking" her. I promise I am not obsessed or anything with this girl. i looked at anything assosiated with her on facebook 10 times in the past week.What should I say/do to prove my innocence or tell her that i meant no harm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): I'll be honest, I would (and have before) instantly delete someone off my friends list if they posted a status like that. Want to know why? Because it sounds so immature, conceited, and attention seeking. Not to mention stupid. If you don't want people looking at your profile and pictures, then either don't have a facebook, or only add family and close friends. I get so tired of these women who complain about a certain guy being creepy and "stalking" them, but they do it to themselves. They constantly post pictures of themselves wearing next to nothing or making a seductive face, then complain when guys hit on them. Yet you can bet they would complain just as much if no one ever liked or commented their pictures. There is no winning with that type of woman. They've got their heads so far up their asses it's not even funny, and it's like they spend every waking moment trying to create drama. So it's best not to waste your time. There are plenty of descent, attractive women out there that you don't need to spend your time worrying what this one thinks about you. She's 999,999 in a million. The best thing you can do in this situation is remove her from your friend list. That will get the point across to her better than anything else will (assuming she was referring to you in the first place).
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Well, since she friended you, obviously she's afraid that it looks like SHE is stalking YOU!
Obviously!
What else could it be? Your a great guy! It's only natural that she would try to track you down after meeting you once!
While you were looking at her profile and being all dithery about it, she was looking at yours. Congratulations!
Oh - don't admit that you were looking at her profile and dithering. It will make you look lame and weak.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 May 2012):
 I would just send her a private message saying hi, thanks for adding me - how are you doing? and forget about her stalker comment. It may not be directed at you AT ALL.
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reader, elwhy +, writes (21 May 2012):
Well. . that's a very odd.
Right when she friend requested you, thats like giving full permission to stalk her. So that's her wrong doing.
Well there isn't really a system that tells the user who checked their profile. So it just might just be a coincidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): There is no way she can know who is looking at her facebook page unless someone has told her. I would say nothin to her, you don't have to prove your innocence to her at all. Just ignore this as many people put things like that just in case anyone is stalking them. If you say anything, she will think that you are stalking her and it will then cause problems. Good Luck
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (21 May 2012):
 You're putting way too much thought into this, dude. It's just FACEBOOK and it's ignorant users trying to make pointless statuses so that other facebook users can rate popular. And nothing is more popular than drama. So that is what she is creating for thumbs up.Leave it alone. No need to explain yourself if she was referring to you as the stalker.Even apologizing would confirm to her that you were indeed stalking (I'm not saying you were). Also if what you're doing is stalking then everyone on facebook is guilty of it. Looking at random people's pictures does not qualify as stalking them. Curiousity is a more accurate word.
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