How do I get this new man in my life to open up to me?
Q. My question is how do I get my bf to open his life to me? We have been dating almost 2 months and we have mutually agreed to only date eachother, we are sexually active and he pretty much drives to see me 6 out 7 days of the week. He lives an hour ...
A. 11 July 2012: Google the name he gave you.
Go to switchboard dot com and hit "reverse search". Put in his phone number and see what pops up.
And flat out tell him that you want to come over or that you suspect he's married or with another woman and that t... (read in full...)
Can You find real passionate love?
Q. Reading 'Fifty Shades of Grey' it's got me thinking about my own next to sexless relationship at such a young age and I wonder and my question is... Can you find someone that you're that attracted to that you feel the spark just ignite when you ...
A. 10 July 2012: YES!! It's possible. It's not usually love but lust. And it's not all bad if you realize what it really is and can just enjoy it. ... (read in full...)
How do I get this new man in my life to open up to me?
Q. My question is how do I get my bf to open his life to me? We have been dating almost 2 months and we have mutually agreed to only date eachother, we are sexually active and he pretty much drives to see me 6 out 7 days of the week. He lives an hour ...
A. 10 July 2012: What ?! 2 months and he won't tell you were he lives?? BIG red flag. I would tell him that is really weird and makes you concerned. If he gets defensive - then you know for sure something is very wrong. Have you found his address online? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in three days
Q. Dear Cupid My bf usually never calls. i am the one who always initiates the call. lately he is often hanging up the call saying he is busy when i call him. I got pissed off and told him i wont call him anymore unless he calls me, Its been ...
A. 9 July 2012: You can wait a few more days if you want and then looks like you will have to initiate the breakup call. ... (read in full...)
I need help with my marriage, I can't stand the fact she was talking with someone else!
Q. Ok I need help on what to do with my wife. I just recently found out my wife was talking to an old friend for 2months (I checked the phone records) it started off as text messages such as questions like how you doing or how was your day etc.... ...
A. 4 July 2012: Stop neglecting her.
Men don't realize we need / love the attention and affection. Can you imagine if you started texting your wife sweet
Love messages?
Win her over again. ... (read in full...)
I found a txt from another girl
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in his car, and his phone vibrated. i looked down at his phone and saw a girl's name flash up, i didnt recognise the name. i asked my boyfriend whos that. and he said i dnt kno, i dnt kno this girl. i read the txt and it ...
A. 3 July 2012: Uh. He's caught. Red handed. Sorry. ... (read in full...)
Interested in a guy but not sure how to go about it. What should I do?
Q. Interested in this guy but don't know what to do...? Alright kiddies, Met this guy on a new online dating site and have been keeping casual contact off and on with him for about a month (in a total, perhaps 3-4 mails on the site). On Sun/Monday...
A. 1 July 2012: He is probably totally embarrassed by his drunken behavior. I would send him a text and say "let's have a sober date. :)" and then see if he responds. This way he knows you are still interested. It's a little nudge but the ball is still in his court ... (read in full...)
I felt secure in texting him earlier but now I feel I suddenly have to go with all the dating games of backing off and keeping my distance!
Q. I started talking to someone online around mid June. We had a busy week so we got to know each other initially through texting and phone calls which was constant each day. We got along really well. I did notice he still went on the site which is ...
A. 1 July 2012: I'm dating online too and you need to relax and make sure you are dating other people on or off the site. You've only had two dates and you are already "online stalking" him. A guy will pick up on that over eagerness and could lose interest or get ... (read in full...)
One of the unmarried men has been texting me for awhile!
Q. I am very confused right now and need some good sound advice! I am 64 and have been married for 39 years! My husband has Parkinson's and is now in a nursing home! I spent most of my 39 years with my husband as a good wife and mother at home. I ...
A. 30 June 2012: Oy. How was your marriage to your husband before he went into the nursing home? Did he cheat on you while he was healthy?
Honestly what you are doing is flirting and how would you feel if the situation were reversed?
If this guy is truly a "... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 20 June 2012: Well if he's not even texting then i guess that your answer. If it were me - I would just call once and flat out ask him what's going on. I'm all about closing all doors and having no regrets or "what ifs".
If he doesnt answer then be glad you... (read in full...)
Tired of waiting for love to return
Q. husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...
A. 18 June 2012: They are living together and engaged?! I'm sorry but I really doubt he is coming back.
If you're hoping he wakes up and realizes what he's throwing away - I suggest you cut off contact. Even if he doesn't realize - the distance will be better for ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: You like him and you want to see if you have something - then go visit him. Once. If you have the money.
I agree where there is a will there is a way - but maybe he's really hard up and he's not sure of your feelings for him.
If you have t... (read in full...)
My husband of one year shows me no love or affection is it time to leave?
Q. my husband have been married for almost a year, our anniversary is in 2 months, and i think we are on the verge of a divorce. He shows me no love or affection, but only tells me he loves me when i bring it up. i cant even remember the last time he ...
A. 16 June 2012: Don't make any rash decisions with the baby on the way. I've never been pregnant but I imagine there are a lot of hormones here at play too
That being said - he cannot ignore your feelings forever. Maybe try to schedule a time to have a sit down... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with a fwb, now what?
Q. Hi everyone I know this is a common question but I really need help I have fallen completely in love with my fwb who said he didn't want a relationship which I thought I would be fine with he has just moved and I am absolutaly gutted have any of you ...
A. 15 June 2012: Tell him . But be prepared that it will be awkward and end things.
That being said - its probably already over as He's already moved away so he will have other FWB now nearby.
The whole point is to not have to answer to anyone or work too har... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend still have feelings for his ex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and recently had a baby. When we met we had instant chemistry and fell in love. We have spent every weekend with each other from the time we met. I live in LA and he lives in San Francisco and we would ...
A. 15 June 2012: Does he make you feel special now? Do you feel like you are number one?
I don't think he'd be moving forward with you if he were still hung up on her. Aren't most of the things you're describing from before you got serious?... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Get rid of her?!? You need to get rid of him!! She did not make you promises to be faithful - he did. And he's the one breaking the vows. If its not her, it will be someone else. He will do it because you accept it.... (read in full...)
When is it too late for true love?
Q. At what age do you think its too late for true love? ...
A. 13 June 2012: Never!!
As long as you are open to it.
People get married and remarried at all ages.
Don't lose hope.
Xoxo... (read in full...)
He's moving for better work opportunities, but we've been lovers and friends for 10 years!
Q. Hello I have a issue, I have had a very good friend and lover for ten years and I really love him! We have a great time together great conversation and everything. He lost his job and he has bee out of work for some time now. So now hes moving to ...
A. 12 June 2012: Have you ever discussed marriage or a real relationship ? Why are you only friends and lovers and not more committed after ten years?
I'd ask that question and then based on the answer - decide whether to move on for good. But it does seem lik... (read in full...)
After seeing her ex, she called me his name during sex and now I'm very upset
Q. Ok... hopefully i can get some good advice on this and not people making fun. I have been seeing the most lovely girl for the past few months. Before she was with me, she was in a 4 year relationship with the most awful guy - he hit her, put her...
A. 11 June 2012: Clearly she was traumatized by running into him just when her life is getting better.
Clearly she feels terrible and is apologizing. Don't torture her and give her angst by dragging this out.
She is sorry - no forgive her and move on. ... (read in full...)
If it's so great there how come I can't go too?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida. However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my...
A. 10 June 2012: Very bizzare behavior. Are you two in a massive fight? Has she dropped hints that she wants the marriage to be over? Is she using drugs?
As I'm sure you know, it is completely unacceptable and inconsiderate to disappear from any loved ones wit... (read in full...)
Confused about Boyfriend's Sexual Past
Q. I have been dating a truly kind, loving, fun and communicative man for the last five months. We're both in our early thirties. We have a fantastic sex life and we feel very connected to each other. Recently, we started to ask each other perso...
A. 9 June 2012: Unfortunately you have opened a can of worms with the past sexual history question.
It is clearly bugging you - so now I think you need to ask him if he ever imagines himself with a man again, etc. I mean he was open enough to admit it in the firs... (read in full...)
We met on facebook and he wants to have sex with me
Q. MODERATOR NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS COMBINED FROM SAME ASKER so im 16 and i know this guy from fb that i have been iming 4 bout a month now he is 23 and realy cute n he asked me out and wants to sleep with me but he said if i dont sleep with him then he ...
A. 9 June 2012: No!! Do not have your first time with a creeper you met online who is demanding sex. If you feel strange being a virgin when your friends ask - say "look I'm so not mainstream - I'm waiting for someone special".
I was a virgin until 22 and lost... (read in full...)
Am I scared to leave my lying cheating boyfriend?
Q. well me and my botfriend have been together about a year now well friends for six and well a couple weeks into our relationship he said he was going to an uncles house for a couple days. but he dont know i accidently read a text message from a girl ...
A. 8 June 2012: Tell him to go be with her and walk away. You don't need the heartache of being in competition for your own boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
How can I keep it a secret if I get involved with a married man?
Q. I posted a question earlier about a relationship with an older man who is married with children. I thought he was flirting with me and it turns out he was. We met to talk about the project we're both involved in and he drove me home (again!). I...
A. 5 June 2012: I'm not going to get into the moral issues raised by others on here ...
But I do think you should look at it and get disgusted by his behavior towards you. He kissed you and you gave him a blow job?? It's already one sided. Do you want to be used ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was out of town for a few months, but now he's back and things are different. Is something going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship since the past 7 months, he was out of town for almost 3 months,things were fine and everything went well. Ever since he came back to town, I sometimes feel like I'm least important, I do not have a ...
A. 5 June 2012: Maybe he got used to living life without you in those 3 months and it's just an adjustment back.
Try making plans and see if he goes along ..... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stalks me by using fake FB accounts and it's getting creepy
Q. We've been together since 3 months. The first week we were dating I caught him writing to me from a fake Facebook profile (my friend noticed the profile's page on his Iphone). It was just a smalltalk so I asummed this is normal and wrote some stuff ...
A. 27 May 2012: Please break up with him in a public spot or even over the phone. It's only a few month. You don't owe him a whole song and dance - look out for you. Just be nice and do it as quickly as possible. Remember if you are 100% sure it's him on those fake ... (read in full...)
Marriage over. How do I restart my social life and start developing a circle of friends?
Q. I have just said good bye to a pretty rough patch in life and a controlling husband and therefore have practically no social life. I want to begin having a social life - i have two kids AND a full time job so i'll have to make the effort and it wont...
A. 21 May 2012: My friend just told me about this site called "meet up". It has different groups in all different areas and they meet up for different things - you can find everything from wine tasting to crocheting groups.
Also - maybe its not to late to make ... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: So, OP, it's possible he was out selling or buying drugs at 6am and NOT cheating on you?
I would suggest some kind of counseling for yourself. It seems like you're locked in something not very healthy for you at the moment.
Good luck. xo... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: I would back of the pregnancy thing and demand he tell you right away where he was at 6am. If there is no logical excuse - then you have your answer.
Then I would break up with him. If it gets to the point that you are sneaking around at 5:45... (read in full...)
I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 15 May 2012: I know it's really really hard but he probably just had a minor freak out. You are both so young. Maybe he just needs some space. I'm almost certain from what you describe that he will miss you and come back. Maybe he needs a break and not a break ... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out a little longer or just cut him loose?
Q. I'm out with a guy for 7 months. In the beginning he would asked me out frequently and soon the outing would stop at about 3 months. I know he's doing that to get to know me first, get comfortable with me and when he reach that comfort zone, he ...
A. 14 May 2012: Try to think of free dates and suggest one. A picnic in the park. A trip to the museum.
And then after that - if you're just not feeling it - then move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing my boyfriend tomorrow for a make or break talk, what can I do or say to him to try and make this work?
Q. Ive been seeing an amazing guy for 10 months, hes everything ive ever wanted and more but theres one problem; distance. He lives 150 miles away and couldnt move because of his work and the fact he is carer for his disabled brother. I currently see ...
A. 10 May 2012: 150 miles isn't that far. If he loves you and REALLY wants a future with you then he should be happy you want to move up there.
Maybe he's not really ready for it yet?
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Would it be okay to ask my boyfriend who's texting him so late at night, or is it none of my business?
Q. sometimes really late at night (2-4 am) I can hear my boyfriend's phone go off (text message sound on an iphone). this has only happened a few times, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. would it be okay for me to ask who is texting him so l...
A. 7 May 2012: Are you sure it's a text and not an email? Or a Twitter notification?
On my phone both make a noise like I got a text.
Do you see the phone light up? Is so - it's a text and if you're near the phone you will see it.
And I would say - yes - ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed! My B/f is always lying to me and then turning things around as if its my fault for "not trusting him enough" or "getting angry about stupid things"!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and i love my boyfriend. Ever since i left, he has been going out to clubs, bars and parties. Even though it bothers me, I try to be okay with it because i cannot expect to have him stay at home until I return. ...
A. 5 May 2012: You are too young to waste time and energy on this guy who is also too young to be committed to you.
You don't have to cut him out of your life completely but tell him you are going to start dating other people - and maybe when he stops play... (read in full...)
Difficult boyfriend or ex-boyfriend?
Q. Hello! I was seeing this guy for one month. Lately he has been very stressed out and he kept telling me that he gets very tired and that he has many things on his mind. I know, it was all true and not lies. That was the reason we couldn't see each ...
A. 5 May 2012: You need to take back the power. Yes he is breaking up with you . Has broken up with you in a cowardly way. He was clearly using you for sex only and when you got wise and called him
Out on it - he got angry and defensive and did the classic flip... (read in full...)
Its hard to Trust when Temptation is always present along with opportunity.
Q. I am a man that can admit that I have such a hard time trusting women. I am afraid of being lied to, cheated on, and used for my gentlemanly, respectful, and generous ways. I have a woman (fiance)that is very beautiful and she is has a large set ...
A. 26 April 2012: All these things were happening before you were a couple and she chose YOU! Not them. She could have chosen one of them but made you the priority. Don't ruin it with insecurity. Take comfort in the fact that she chose you in the first place. ... (read in full...)
I know its over between us, I just cant comprehend that it happened in such a rude and immature way!
Q. I met a very nice and funny guy in a dating site. He's not handsome, but he seemed as a very good person, we talked a lot, almost every day. We live in different countries and he said he will come to my country to meet me, we arranged the date and ...
A. 25 April 2012: Some men want attention from many females and will do anything to get it - even lie and play with your emotions.
I'm sorry this happened to you - but better to find out now then later. ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend acknowledge our relationship on his Facebook wall?
Q. Ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now I decided to change relationship status on facebook and tagged him to say its him I'm dating but even though he changed to say his in a relationship he has ignored my request.he also has deleted the ...
A. 25 April 2012: Are there pictures of you two together on his page? Has he posted any? Does he allow photos of you together to stay tagged
And visible?
If it's yes to all of the above - I wouldn't worry. ... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband? How would you feel about this?
Q. Hello, I'm new to the site. I would like to see what others think of my situation. My husband does not come home to me from work. He goes to his parent's every single night for 2-3 hours after work. Yes that is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday...
A. 21 April 2012: Are you 100 percent sure he is at his parents every night??
He is definitely avoiding intimacy with you.
Ask him. ... (read in full...)
Why do wives cheat on their husbands?
Q. Why do wives cheat on their husbands? Can any of you who have cheated enlighten me? What are the reasons you cheated? Was there anything your husband could have done that would have made it so you would not have cheated? Thanks...
A. 20 April 2012: Feeling neglected. Feeling like he is cheating. It's usually about looking for love and affection that is missing from husband. ... (read in full...)
What to do after been treated like this by this player?
Q. Ironically I've always tried to avoid these type of losers but I ended up falling for one who made his work rather well in making me fall in love with him. He has now discarded me for another one and he has even told in my face he never liked me but ...
A. 20 April 2012: First. Be grateful you saw his true colors sooner than later. Yes - you fell for him but you are free now.
Consider it a valuable life lesson and just a bump in the road. I know it's hard to trust but maybe the next one will be easier to spot. Y... (read in full...)
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