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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met a very nice and funny guy in a dating site. He's not handsome, but he seemed as a very good person, we talked a lot, almost every day. We live in different countries and he said he will come to my country to meet me, we arranged the date and everything. He introduced me to some of his friends and even his family online. So i assumed he was serious. He's in his late 30s, and he always kept saying that he wanted marriage and children, also his profile in the dating site said so. He said he wanted only me, and well, he said a lot of nice things. I have some trust issues because of my previous relationship, but he seemed very nice.But then i saw that he kept visiting the dating site every day, sometimes few times a day. He said he just uses it to "hang out with friends" and can send me their profiles. But it's a paid site, and it costs a lot of money just to hang out with a couple of friends, not to say EVERY day, when they could move it to fb or skype or whatever.Then, he never bought the plane ticket. There was one week left to the date, and still he didn't buy the ticket and when i asked him, he said: "don't worry, i will, trust me". I asked him whether he changed his mind, but he reassured me dozens of times that he will come, and we will meet, and he likes me etc.So, after that last conversation I never heard of him again. It was for days ago, I called him twice since and sent maybe 3 or 4 messages and he never replied to any. In the last one I said that if it's over I expect just a mail with "good bye" as an act of decency. He never replied to that one either.I saw that he logged in to the dating site yesterday, so nothing happened to him, he's alive and probably healthy too. Just ignoring me.And I don't understand one thing. Why a 37 years old man would chat with me for 2 months, pretend he's really, REALLY into me, pretend he's coming to see me, do a LOT of acts that imply he is serious about me, but then out of sudden just hide, ignore, and be too coward to send at least "i'm sorry it's over" message? I know it's over, I just....can't comprehend that it's over in such a rude and immature way.Sorry for mistakes, English is not my first language.
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (25 April 2012):
Some men want attention from many females and will do anything to get it - even lie and play with your emotions.
I'm sorry this happened to you - but better to find out now then later.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 Yes this man is a liar and is not to be trusted in the future.
He was very rude and immature with his behavior.
Its impossible trying to understand people like him because they have their own issues; its not your problem or fault if he cannot be honest with his feelings.
It says alot about him. That he isnt trustworthy kind or honest.
Be thankful you had a lucky escape; some women find out way to late that the man they are with are betrayers.
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