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writes:I am very confused right now and need some good sound advice!I am 64 and have been married for 39 years! My husband has Parkinson's and is now in a nursing home! I spent most of my 39 years with my husband as a good wife and mother at home. I began working 5 years ago when we realized I would need the income due to his illness. My problem is this, I have been working for the same company for five years mostly around men. One of the unmarried men has been texting me for awhile and I thought is was just a fun thing! One day after work he asked if I wanted to have a drink with him and I did! Later he asked me over, I went thinking we were just friends. When I was about to leave he kissed me! Wow I was surprised! Things have moved forward a bit! I have been so lonely but fear he is taking advantage of my situation. He said he was lonely as well. I know he wants me to stay over for the night but I can't do that right now! He said he is ok with that but I'm not so sure! I am not sure if I should just cut this off or what, I see him everyday at work! Can anyone help?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 June 2012):
 I'm sorry that you are in this position. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be.
The thing is, you need to stick to what YOU think is right. I know your husband is in a nursing home and if that wasn't bad enough a guy is hitting on you.
I can't tell you what to do, just what I would do.
For as long as I am married I will be faithful. I meant the vows I gave. That is just WHO I am.
And I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou when she said:
That said, you're 64, so you should know what is right or wrong for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2012): If you want to do it, if it makes you feel good about yourself and if you won't feel bad about it later, do it. Give yourself a chance to feel happy.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (30 June 2012):
Oy. How was your marriage to your husband before he went into the nursing home? Did he cheat on you while he was healthy?
Honestly what you are doing is flirting and how would you feel if the situation were reversed?
If this guy is truly a "friend" he would not be trying to get you to cheat on your sick husband and potentially feel guilt after.
I think you should cool it a bit and focus on time with your husband.
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reader, JaneSmith2012  +, writes (30 June 2012):
 In my opinion it'll be better for you if you cut him off . As iamheretohelpyou says , if you dont then what you are considering is plain cheating. It doesnt matter of this guy is a colleague whom you bump into every day. You have been married for 39 rock solid years,you are 64 and you work so that you can care for your husband. Iam sure most of your colleagues are aware of these 3 facts and therefore so should this guy too .That said this guy has no business hanging around with a married lady .SO it's quite clear he wants to take advantage of you or thinks that he's gods gift to the lonelier section of womankind.
Put a stop to all the texting , hanging out etc now that his intentions are clear..
Its ok if you have a faceoff with this guy at work. Iam sure your other colleagues will understand your position... I guess you owe this to your hubby of 39 years...
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