What to do after been treated like this by this player?
Q. Ironically I've always tried to avoid these type of losers but I ended up falling for one who made his work rather well in making me fall in love with him. He has now discarded me for another one and he has even told in my face he never liked me but ...
A. 20 April 2012: First. Be grateful you saw his true colors sooner than later. Yes - you fell for him but you are free now.
Consider it a valuable life lesson and just a bump in the road. I know it's hard to trust but maybe the next one will be easier to spot. Y... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding a girlfriend?
Q. How do you get a girlfriend? At 36 I feel I really missed out and I dont see anyone coming in the foreseeable future as I still live with my parents and rarely go out. I cannot afford my own place and everyone I know has a girlfriend before sharing ...
A. 3 April 2012: A woman wants a man that can take care of himself so she knows he can provide for her too if necessary.
You need to move out. . ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. What should I do?
Q. I think my best friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. To give you some background: My best friend (A) has been with her boyfriend (R) for about 4 years. R and my boyfriend (P) are also best friends since they were kids. This weekend I was s...
A. 3 April 2012: You could ask your friend what she did this weekend and see if she saw her BF this weekend.
If he's using your boyfriend as a cover - he would give this excuse and then When your friend says "oh my boyfriend was with your boyfriend" - you coul... (read in full...)
Why culture differences can be soo tough when there is love?
Q. I am a 33y old single woman. I decided to start to date recently..and I found it a bit complicated. When I go out I meet a lot of guys..I go out with them..can be drinks..or dinner..but nothing really happen after that...I find out that the only ...
A. 3 April 2012: Have you asked your friend "will you date me? Would you ever marry a non Muslim like me?" see what he says.
It sounds like you are in love with each other.
... (read in full...)
Would you spent a lot on a birthday gift for your partner if you received nothing for yours?
Q. Im curious to find out others opinions on this. Would you spent a considerable amount of money (over $400) on a birthday present for your boyfriend, if he did not get you anything for your birthday? (birthdays are few months apart). I know it isn't...
A. 30 March 2012: Why didn't he get you a present? Did he say? Did you ask?
I would not spend $400 on someone who didn't take the time to get me a present - and yet is being vocal about what he specifically wants?! Big turnoff
It's not about the $$ , but a refle... (read in full...)
What are the boundaries of cheating?
Q. Ok so I feel like I should know this already but I don't. What are the true boundaries of cheating on ur bf/gf ??? Cause one of my friends thinks it's when u have sex with someone else, another thinks it's when u make out with someone else, so ...
A. 30 March 2012: Cheating is when you do something behind someone's back that you wouldn't do in front of their face.
Could be sexting, texting, Facebooking etc. if you have to hide it from your BF/GF then you shouldn't be doing it. ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: Do not play a game back.
How about ask her out on a hot date and you get dressed up too. See if you can get on board with what she's trying to feel - "younger". Sounds like an early mid life crisis.
After the hot date - try talking to her a... (read in full...)
I checked on my boyfriend's facebook messages and found things I didn't like
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for 9 months and i was a few weeks pregnant when we split up due to pressure with my family hating him and stuff. (theres a long story there that I don't wanna go into but my parents are very controlling and have ...
A. 26 March 2012: You can look at it this way. He was with those other girls and still came back to you. They didn't do it for him. You are his choice.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My wife is matron of honor, and the best man is her ex!
Q. My wife and I have a question about weddings and what to do. My wife has this very good friend. After me, I guess you could say she was her 2nd best friend. She's getting married this summer. She asked my wife to be her matron of honor. My wi...
A. 23 March 2012: The spouse of the maid of honor should certainly be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
This is 10 years in the past. Declining will make everyone think something is still there and make her friend (the bride) unhappy.
I don't get it. Go. Be h... (read in full...)
I pushed him for comittment and he made his excuses, now I find pictures of nude girls on his phone!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a few months, at first everything seemed great until he started acting strange disappearing not calling as much, texting ppl late etc... When I started pushing commitment he started saying I have too many make friends ...
A. 12 March 2012: Yep. Especially blaming you when caught.
At least you know. Next. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he can be my b/f but yet he keeps texting me
Q. So I'd been seeing this guy for three weeks, known him for a month. We'd seen each other 3 times in this period of time. I finally plucked up the courage yesterday to ask him what was going on between us and he said he wasn't sure what he wanted and ...
A. 11 March 2012: It's only been 3 dates (one month). It is soon to make a decision And commitment like boyfriend / girlfriend. However what is not clear yet is 1) he's not ready for any relationship 2) he's not sure you're the girl he wants as a girlfriend. (again ... (read in full...)
The expression "stop looking and you'll find someone" isn't working for me!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 11 March 2012: I agree. I hate that expression too. But here's what it means to me.
Just do what you would do naturally and somewhere along the line your path will naturally cross with someone else. For example, my friend never did online dating but loved go... (read in full...)
He told me he didn't want to lose me but wants to be single. What do I do?
Q. soo.. my boyfriend has told me before that he never wants to lose me.... but now hes saying hes not gunna dump me but he just hates not bein single and hes one of those people that just has to me free....what do i dooo?!);...
A. 2 March 2012: Let him go. If its meant to be, he'll come back.
You are both very young. I guarantee once you tell him - sure go be single and you start paying him next to no attention or start dating someone else - he will change his tune.
But don't pine aft... (read in full...)
What should I do if he doesn't respond to my messages?
Q. My boyfriend sent me a text message this morning saying that he loves me, and a couple of hours later, he called me, but i missed the call. He didnt leave a voicemail message. I couldn't get back to him until a few hours later. I tried to call him ...
A. 29 February 2012: How long have you been dating that you are over analyzing this? It sounds like you just started dating?
You made your contact. Now wait. He knows how to get in touch with you. ... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 27 February 2012: More important than telling her or not telling her is knowing why you did it and removing that temptation/need
Were you drunk? Have you and your wife been in a rough pat h? Are you just bored with the routine of one woman?
Instead of te... (read in full...)
I'm turning into a jealous, paranoid person verging on control freak! How do I deal with this?
Q. I don't know why but lately I have become extremely paranoid about a girl at work who happens to also be a friend of mine....I know I am being irrational but kind of just need to get it out there.... My boyfriend and I work for the same company...
A. 22 February 2012: I am not trying to make it worse for you - but you cannot ignore your gut.
HOWEVER with that being said - you may just be picking up on a chemistry between them. Your BF may find her attractive and it's possible nothing is happening.
I think... (read in full...)
Is my ex only keeping me around because I know his secret?
Q. I've recently got into casual relationship with an ex-boyfriend of mine. There was no big reason for breaking up, we were in a long distance relationship at the time and barely got to see each other. We live pretty close now, 25 minutes. I wa...
A. 19 February 2012: Sounds like he is keeping you around for sex with no commitment. He basically asked and made sure you wouldn't think it's would be a relationship.
So the question is: what do you want? If you want a relationship then tell him and be prepared for ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't it be obvious that I'm his Valentine?
Q. This guy i am dating sent me a message asking if i am his Valentine. Lol. Shouldn't that be obvious??. How can i respond to that?. He should already know that i am!....
A. 14 February 2012: Say "yes. How are we celebrating?! :) "... (read in full...)
Why do so many people seem okay with such a mindset?
Q. I read it and hear it all the time: "He/She can look all they want, can flirt all they want, etc., but in the end it's me they come home to." What is this?! It seems that we've lowered our standards SO much that we accept this BS aISA "relatio...
A. 10 February 2012: I think it's the honest approach. You know it's going to happen so I think people just resign themselves to it and try to take back some control by lying to themselves and being like "it's okay".
I agree it's not okay and I wish it were diff... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are on a break. Looking for advice on how to handle it.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and everything has been going really well until recently. Earlier this week she sent me a text saying that she had been thinking and that she wanted to talk. (Bad News Obviously) Well....
A. 10 February 2012: Tell her how you really feel. The "on break" thing is hell. You are hanging by a string - waiting. It's not fair. If she's certain she wants to be with you - she could say "let's spend less time together" - not basically break up with you. I've ... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to be more of an alpha!
Q. I'm not a tough guy type. I always tried to be nice and gentle. When we have sex, I always ask my wife if she is comfortable, or if there is anything she wants, during sex. She used to love me like this, but not anymore! She says I care too ...
A. 2 February 2012: Alpha means dominate and in charge. In control. It means you are strong and just make love to me. F@ck me really. Like in the movies. Passionate. Uncontrolled. Grab her and tell her you just want to feel yourself inside her. Passion!... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to be more of an alpha!
Q. I'm not a tough guy type. I always tried to be nice and gentle. When we have sex, I always ask my wife if she is comfortable, or if there is anything she wants, during sex. She used to love me like this, but not anymore! She says I care too ...
A. 1 February 2012: Sometimes women want to feel like we drive our men wild. That they are overcome with passion and can't help themselves. Asking questions ruins that spontaneous feeling and animalistic quality. Just go for it! Start kissing her and taking her clothes ... (read in full...)
And encounter with my ex Fiance. And got on well. How should I play this, and what should my next step be?
Q. weirdest thing happened to me today, i got a text message from my ex-fiance and she said i emailed her from an old email account i do not use anymore. she said she is texting me because she doesn't want her work computer to get a virus... i said...
A. 31 January 2012: The virus thing is a total excuse to get in touch with you. But it could just be nosy curiosity and nothing more .
Who broke up with who? Do you still have mutual friends or would this har been the only way of her getting in touch with you. How many... (read in full...)
I can't get past his cheating ways..what should I do?
Q. Hi am miss caribbean. I am in a relationship over eight Years and I hate the way my boyfriend treats me. he cheat on me for two years and I stayed with him but I can't get over it. it hurts what should I do it makes me cry in the nite his family ...
A. 30 January 2012: I am sure you are a beautiful woman. Find someone who will treat you beautiful and recognize your inner worth too.
Rip him off like a band-aid and then avoid phone calls from him and his family. ... (read in full...)
Is he worth waiting around for? Commitment phobic boyfriend of 4.5 years!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years now. We have lived together for 3 1/2 years. Whenever I bring up marriage or our future he doesn't say anything. He says he will propose some day, but that's not good enough for me. He says, ...
A. 21 January 2012: Tell him you will leave him if he doesn't get serious. He may be too young and it's not his time but let him know you are not kidding. ... (read in full...)
I want to get back at my playboy ex boyfriend!
Q. I would like to get my ex who is a playboy back. He is currently flirting with me after for so long we havent met. How do i play the game of playing hard and not giving him what him want to make him want me more? When he wants to kiss me, what sho...
A. 3 January 2012: The best revenge is to ignore him and liberate yourself. Dont waste a second more of your energy on him.
The best revenge is a life well lived WITHOUT him. ... (read in full...)
My B/f was chatting with another girl, about cuddling and licking chocolate off her breasts!! How do I confront him?
Q. He left himself logged in and curiosity got the better of me. I recognize the girl he spoke to and i think he's been with her in the past before me. Him: Hey 3 Her: Hey Him: How are you baby? Her: Good thanks, yourself? Him: Goo...
A. 2 January 2012: You must confront because this is not right.
You could be vague at first and say you saw evidence of cheating or say that someone copy and pasted you and sent you the chat. (could be her - could be her BF)
Or frankly I think you could just t... (read in full...)
Is it the new and amazing sex we are having that has caused him to start to commit? Or my honest email?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be most welcome. Thanx. I have been with my bf for around ten months. It has,nt been an easy relationship,so over the last month or so, i.ve started to try and detach. I.ve been waiting for him to commit for sometime,but ...
A. 1 January 2012: Sorry to be cynical but it's the sex.
He's around your home more now because of the sex. What other signs has he shown of a bigger commitment?!
What do you want? Marriage?
You need to have a talk with him. ... (read in full...)
Am I just an ego boost for him or does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have a crush on a guy at work. He's married but I don't know if he's happy. His wife is really beautiful and classy but he rarely ever talks about her. At work he always sits next to me when we're in meetings; he compliments me frequently on my ...
A. 1 January 2012: This is bad news. He will not talk about his wife and maybe even go so far as to act like she doesn't treat him well so you can feel like you guys have a chance.
As for the Christmas message - he was probably with her when you sent it and (if he h... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want to disown the child that he is said to have fathered with this dubious woman, for fear of hurting the child!! What do I do?
Q. Could anyone who has been through this help. My fiance has a child. It appears that no one in the world believes the child is his. The mother became pregnant within a month of them getting together. It has now surfaced that she was sleeping with ...
A. 30 December 2011: He needs to demand a paternity test. He can then decide whether to tell the child or not (depending on child's age). Even if he is not the biological father he can still choose to be a father figure but not be legally bound. Encourage him to do ... (read in full...)
Does Male Pride get in the way of having a relationship?
Q. Do you think a mans pride (being mr tough and never showing his emotions, always being mr. tough guy) can stand in the way of him having a relationship? Does that affect the way he feels or lets himself feel about a woman?? ...
A. 30 December 2011: I'm currently dating a guy who has many walls up. It's been a challenge to get him to open up. But I told him he was being vague and aloof and he needs to share more. He's trying! He's also very macho. ... (read in full...)
Am I his Booty Call?
Q. So how do you know or ask a guy if this relationship is going somewhere and that I am not just a botty call? He says he worries about me and when we fight that he misses me a lot, and gets worried if anything happened to me. I want to know if this ...
A. 30 December 2011: Easy to tell if you're just his booty call. Tell him "I don't want to just be a booty call. Take me on a date".
Or next time he calls to hang out say "yes sure let's do something but im not having sex tonight ". And stick to it.
If he wants so... (read in full...)
I've only met him 3 times. Is accepting his invitation to a party potentially dangerous?
Q. I've been invited to a house party on New Year's Eve, and i'm not sure whether to go or not. I recently met this guy. We have met up in public three times so far ( including the night we first met each other ). And now he wants me to go to the ...
A. 24 December 2011: Bring a friend or two.
Has he done anything to make you worry or are you just naturally overly cautious?... (read in full...)
Would my husband's behavior indicate guilt? or that he's just tired of the same conversation?
Q. My husband had been joining internet dating sites and chatting with other women and cheating on me behind my back for years before I discovered it and when I did he abused me and called me names and wouldnt tell me anything about what he had been ...
A. 20 December 2011: He tells you to "f/king get over it" when he was in the wrong?!! NO NO NO
No one should speak to you like this and if he's not cheating right at this moment, it's probably not for lack of trying.
How do you feel about divorce? You certainly ha... (read in full...)
Hubby's clothes have body glitter on them...is this from another woman?
Q. Three years ago right after having a baby, I found my husband's jacket that he wears everywhere (especially on business trips) covered in body glitter, on the front. He of course told me a female co-worked sat on it after he had thrown it on a ...
A. 20 December 2011: If the glitter is on the inside - then someone wearing glitter was wearing the shirt.
It was 3 years ago - but I would do a little more digging. Are there other more suspicious signs? Recent odd things?
If nothing else is amiss I would just ask... (read in full...)
I don't want my one night stand to be a one night stand!
Q. A year ago at Christmas time I met an interesting man at a party, there as an instant click, spent the evening chatting and flirting and got a cab home together (along with my sister) but he never asked for my number before hopping out at his place. ...
A. 19 December 2011: It is unfair Op but they do. I think it's a rare man that would seriously want to marry a woman that he knows will have random sex at the drop of a dime And believe me, I have had plenty of one night stands so I am not judging you. Sometimes they ... (read in full...)
Is there a meaning to wet dreams when you have a partner?
Q. I am puzzled by my boyfriend's sex drive. We're still in a fairly new relationship (just 5 months) and we're both in our early 30s. I can't say that we have a ton of sex, at least not as much as I'd like to. We see each other on weekends and usually ...
A. 19 December 2011: The fact that he told you about this dream is interesting. Maybe he is trying to share what he likes sexually. Maybe he's looking for more sex with you.
What happens If you try for sex a second time in a weekend? Does he turn you down. Or haven... (read in full...)
I'm devastated. She hasn't cheated yet, but is our marriage unravelling? She wants to try other men for sex.
Q. After a night of great sex my wife of 20 years informed me that she had begun thinking more and more of sex with other men. I pressed her a little if she meant like a three-way or more, and she said no, just one person. She didn't have anyb...
A. 12 December 2011: Don't you think of sex with other women? Does it mean you're going to leave her? NO.
Don't worry - I applaud her for being honest. It's natural to wonder about what you never had.... (read in full...)
I adore my man! But, will his having kids and a rather controlling ex threaten the relationship in the long run?
Q. Hello! Hope you can give me some advice. I am in a real predicament. I have met a wonderful man. We have been together 5 months and we have such a wonderful relationship. He is kind, caring, respectful and the bond we have is truly amazing. I...
A. 9 December 2011: You've been together five months and you adore him, but he hasn't met your parents? I might stat there to put them a bit more at ease. Maybe they'll see what you see in him. Fatherly Advice is right. At this age , most peoplle will have a divo... (read in full...)
I can't deceipher what my girlfriend's text message meant?
Q. In General I have always felt that text messaging is a poor way to have any serious communication, but recently it has gone from misunderstandings to causing conflicts. Because of this I am looking for a 3rd party(s) opinion on what one would imply, ...
A. 9 December 2011: I would also take the "wow" as negative. She was expecting more from your meeting and was disappointed or maybe even flabbergasted by the outcome. ... (read in full...)
Tonight I learned my husband may be cheating again
Q. My husband's iphone beeped tonight with an SMS coming in, while we were in the car together. He was driving, so i just picked up the phone for him, and happened to notice a female name that i didn't recognise, and a message saying "is it ok to txt ...
A. 20 November 2011: I am so sorry. You are right - you cannot fix the coldness in his heart or make him appreciate you the way he should and you deserve to be treated. Give the therapy more time if you want -- or Maybe some time apart?... (read in full...)
Tonight I learned my husband may be cheating again
Q. My husband's iphone beeped tonight with an SMS coming in, while we were in the car together. He was driving, so i just picked up the phone for him, and happened to notice a female name that i didn't recognise, and a message saying "is it ok to txt ...
A. 11 November 2011: I am so sorry this is happening to you right now.
First, you don't know that he has physically cheated with this woman at this point, right? Since you still have the phone, can you see all the texts between them. (iPhones save the texts) unless h... (read in full...)
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