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Serious relationship question, why is he in such a rush?

Q.   i was in a brief serious relationship with a guy who I had been in contact with about a year ago. just recently we became back in touch and decided to try a serious relationship. the only things was that he didn't tell me what his backgrou...

A.   18 May 2011: Yes. I would cut off contact. Possessive and jealous = scary. It will only get worse and even when you are not doing anything wrong: he will accuse you. Cut off contact but prepare yourself for a birrage of emials ; phone calls etc. Don't... (read in full...)

Travelling to UK in next couple of days and would appreciate advise. Should I text him?

Q.   Hi:) Was out a couple of weeks ago and met this guy thats living in another country - he living in uk and im in ireland. He was really nice and we exchanged numbers. Sent him a text the next day basically just saying hi. He replied and we texted a ...

A.   17 May 2011: YES!! Send the text. You know you want to and why the heck not?! The worst he can say is no and then so what? You've invested nothing - wasted no time on him. And if he says yes, well it could make your couple of days super fun and romantic and... (read in full...)

Great relationship until he moved, now the distance isn't just about geography.

Q.   I have been in this relationship for 3 plus years. The relationship is quite intense and we connect at a deep, soulful level. Unfortunately, A couple months ago, my partner moved cross country to seek work. He found a job and settled there. ...

A.   16 May 2011: I'm glad I found this question. I am going thru a very similar situation. In your case, you've been together 3 years, was there a discussion before he made the decision to move. Or did he decide it on his own and then tell you? Has he ever ask... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants me to get tattoo of his name! Should I?

Q.   my partner Shane says he is not the marrying kind. but we do everything together. He was my fiurst boyfriund and I never want any other boyfriend. He does shift work and i get scared at night sometimes when he is not home. And I cant go out without ...

A.   14 May 2011: Wow! What a mean thing for him to do to you. Aren't you even mORE glad you didn't get his name on you forever ?!? ... (read in full...)

I thought we were a long term couple, but now I'm not sure what to think...

Q.   Dear Cupid: I feel like my boyfriend is getting distant from me and i don't know why. i thought everthing was going good, he hardly calls me or text's. i'm the one that calls him to see how his day went. I love this person i waited a long time t...

A.   14 May 2011: How long have you been dating? Boyfriend/girlfriend? The calling and communication should mostly be even at this point ; but I understand. I had a similar situation with my BF about 3 months in. I was always calling and making plans. So I told him... (read in full...)

I did something I regret... What should I do?

Q.   I did something that I really regret on web-cam a few months ago. It was with my internet boyfriend. I still can't believe I did that. Now that we've already broke up, all I can feel is regret. I'm still a virgin, never been a real relationship, ...

A.   13 May 2011: Don't be so hard on yourself. You are not a slut for doing anything with a boyfriend you were with. I'm not sure exactly what you did, but I'm sure at the time you felt like you wanted to try it In a safe relationship - and that is okay!! Look... (read in full...)

Why does my husband watch porn videos?

Q.   I been married for 8 years and I just found out that my husband likes to watch porn videos. And I don't know what to do about it? When we are in bed together he aways claims he is too tired (for sex) and I don't know what to do. I asked him if he is ...

A.   11 May 2011: It's just an escape / fantasy for him. It is usually totally harmless. How about you suggest you guys watch one together and act out what is going on? (prescreen to make sure you are comfortable)! It could spice things up and be fun. Good lu... (read in full...)

Adult dating websites. When should a wife be concerned?

Q.   Why do men register on adult dating websites? Let me rephrase: Why do married men register themselves on adult dating websites? Are they bored with the wife? Are they just trying out a new porn sight? Like trying to see real naked girls instead of ...

A.   11 May 2011: What?! In no way is this okay unless you have an OPEN marriage - which means you are BOTH flirting with and dating other people. I wish you the best but don't let him walk all over you on this one. ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he contact me? Should I wait for him to?

Q.   The guy i have dated for about a month told me he couldnt meet me very much right now because his exam coming up in about 3 weeks.. He's in med-school, so I know he has a lot to do. Still I got a bit upset.. He couldnt tell when we were going to see ...

A.   8 May 2011: I was going to suggest at MOST send a friendly text ONLY. Like "hey hope you're doing well and feel ready for the exam. I can't wait for mine to be over". Then. That's it. As the previous poster suggested, you don't want to be needy and you need... (read in full...)

I'm 37 and scared that the man and the children aren't going to happen for me!

Q.   I'm newly single, very upset about it but enough is enough after he cheated one night and I won't tolerate cheating so I am moving on. I worry though as I'm 37 and really hope to meet someone and have a child. I don't have any yet, circumstanc...

A.   7 May 2011: How about a dating website? One that focuses on matching up people serious about relationships and marriage? And don't worry. There is time. Better to have a baby late or on your own than be caught in a loveless or less than loving marriage. ... (read in full...)

What does he mean there is no spark between us?

Q.   I have just found out that the guy i like has said that he doent like me He said there is nothing wrong with me but there just isnt a spark between us But my question is what does he mean spark i dont understand what he means by it ...

A.   7 May 2011: If you don't know what it means, it probably hasn't happened to you yet. But when it does , you will know!! It's like chemistry. Not a logical thing but just a feeling you have. Like you are drawn to someone naturally and you light up around t... (read in full...)

My bf still chats with his exes, even though it makes me upset. Am I right in letting this bother me so much?

Q.   Hi, I'm in a troubled spot. I'm dating a great guy and we're perfect except... He still talks to his exes. Once or twice things got slightly inappropriate... with one ex, he made a few comments that were sexual--not directed at them having sex, ...

A.   6 May 2011: Oh. Not cool on his part. At all. It's a lack of basic respect for your relationship ans I'd question how serious is he about you. How long have you been dating? If they were just in communication once a month or so to say hi; that would be on... (read in full...)

I haven't heard a thing. Is it time for me to move on?

Q.   i am feeling so depress right now.. i really need someone to tell me what to do.. i am so freaking out here..i have a bf online..we been in a LDR for 16months now.. the relationship became really serious.. we talk about our future and we even plan ...

A.   6 May 2011: I suggested the final "goodbye" email for the orginial posters sanity. Something that will allow her to take back control and say "it's clear this isn't working out. I'm done". I think for women - the uncertainity is what keeps our minds going and ... (read in full...)

I haven't heard a thing. Is it time for me to move on?

Q.   i am feeling so depress right now.. i really need someone to tell me what to do.. i am so freaking out here..i have a bf online..we been in a LDR for 16months now.. the relationship became really serious.. we talk about our future and we even plan ...

A.   5 May 2011: Oh sweetie ... It sounds like he is just making excuses. If your # comes up blocked and you leave a voicemail, he can still call you back. Or he SHOULD be calling you on his own. I would write him one final email (if it makes you feel better and ... (read in full...)

I haven't heard a thing. Is it time for me to move on?

Q.   i am feeling so depress right now.. i really need someone to tell me what to do.. i am so freaking out here..i have a bf online..we been in a LDR for 16months now.. the relationship became really serious.. we talk about our future and we even plan ...

A.   4 May 2011: You've been communicating for 16 months - almost a year and a half and have never met? Whose idea was it to meet in May? It does sound like he has moved on in the harshest way possible - especially since iyou believe he's blocked you. but if yo... (read in full...)

I haven't had sex in 20 years and really don't know what to do or expect!

Q.   I am a 55 year old women that hasn't had sex in 20 years. I have recently started dating again an I am sure he will want to have sex soon and I am horrified I have no idea what to expect. Can anyone give advice of help please...

A.   30 April 2011: Is the man you are dating in your age group? 55? My one piece of advice is to make sure he uses a condom!! I'm not sure how common they were 20 years ago - but don't let awkwardness get in the way. Also I'd have lube on hand - as you may be ne... (read in full...)

Wife's ex-boyfriend calls her. Should I intervene?

Q.   My wife's ex-boyfriend (one she dated for three months twenty years ago!) sought her out on Facebook. She wanted to catch up with him and she also felt badly for dumping him back when and wanted to apologize to him. They exchanged about a dozen e-...

A.   30 April 2011: My first question is how do you know what these emails have been saying? Are you snooping or is she showing you? That being said, it sounds as if your wife is enjoying a little extra attention and that is why she is not putting a stop to all comm... (read in full...)

He doesn't want a relationship but I've fallen for him!

Q.   Hi, ok, so I'll try keep this very brief. I'm 30, met a guy in a bar last month, his 27. Gorgeous, funny and yum. We get on great. However he doesn't do relationships and made it pretty clear... But we started seeing each other. Were both pretty ...

A.   27 April 2011: First of all - you are NOT old at 30 !!! He's only 3 years younger. Second , he was honest about not wanting a relationship and that is what happened. He doesn't want a girlfriend - someone to answer to; or be responsible too. As quick ad p... (read in full...)

Am I going off him or is it stress?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend only two months. He seems perfect, kind, thoughtful, he takes me out and actually listens. Recently I have found myself not wanting sex with him and getting angry at everything he does or says. We see each other prett...

A.   26 April 2011: I would see him less for now. Seeing anyone everyday especially so early on .. Will get on your nerves. Plus you may feel resentful that you have SO much to do and can't get it done. And the limited time may be adding to your stress. What happens if ... (read in full...)

Should I trust that he'll come home loving me or should I worry?

Q.   Hey everyone, I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now. He is in the Marine Corp and is currently on a deployment. He and I knew each other from high school, and have been good friends for years before we started dating. He had d...

A.   21 April 2011: My boyfriend of 5 months is also going away for 4 months and I worry about the same thing. I thought about breaking up with him "cold turkey" to protect myself and not be waiting for four months only to have him break up with me. But I have sin... (read in full...)

I am married to a man who lies about everything!

Q.   I don't even know where to start, but here it goes; I am married to a man that constantly lies about EVERYTHING- and he breaks every promise that he makes. Each passing day I can feel my sense of self-worth and self-esteem grow weaker and weaker, ...

A.   14 October 2010: It sounds like he has already mentally and emotionally left your marriage. He is treating friends better than you right now. I'm sorry. Absolutely consider divorce, but if it makes you feel better, legally seperate from him now. This gives yo... (read in full...)

It seems I'm addicted to love

Q.   Why is it that I am love dependent? I realised in my last very long relationship that we had become dependent on each other. That we needed each other and didn't have lives of our own and so I broke it off after three and a half years. I stayed ...

A.   13 October 2010: I am currently trying to figure out the same thing. I was dating a guy for 2 months and the last two weeks, we spent 3 to 4 days a week together. I found myself wondering if he'd call on the days I wasn't with him. I'm thinking about therapy to f... (read in full...)

I'm ready for a baby but he's not! What should we do?

Q.   Hi i need your help , me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now and for a couple of months wev been talking about having a kid, my Heart has been set on having a child for years now and im soo certain that im ready for the ...

A.   11 October 2010: You are only 16 to 17 years old?!?! Please wait. Continue to live your life and think about it again in 5 to 7 years. You have so much living to do!! Travel the world; explore new career opportunities, etc. ... (read in full...)

First time my boyfriend has ever been violent, should I give him a chance if he goes to anger management?

Q.   Two days ago, I tried to talk to my boyfriend about his behavior dealing with other girls, not the first time out of 4 years we'd talked about this. I had prepared myself to finally let him go (or at least I thought I had). I did it all in a very ...

A.   8 October 2010: Please go to the doctor or hospital and get checked out. Seems like he may have seriously hurt you. Stay with family or friends for a week and plan your exit strategy. Please. ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my husband to stay? Any advice would be great!

Q.   My husband has made a nasty habit out of disappearing for no reason on occasion. He will sometimes call and say: "im on my way home from work" or not call at all, and just not come home. Most of the time he will stay out til very late, but there has ...

A.   7 October 2010: It sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. I'm sorry. He is acting like a rebelious teenager and not a husband. When you get married, both partners should let each other know where're they are out of mutual love, respect and concern. It does ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?

Q.   What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...

A.   8 March 2010: Terrible update: The UTI and yeast infection was not all. I was just diagnosed with Herpes. HSV-1. The so-called "good kind". The one that 90-percent of the population has in their mouth and call "cold sores". Well, apparently I have it on my vag... (read in full...)

Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?

Q.   What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...

A.   1 March 2010: Update: It no longer burns when I pee. The Cipro seemed to help. I also used Monistat and the itching inside went away as well. Looks like I had both a UTI and a yeast infection. The only outstanding concern is small ulcers, so just to be safe,... (read in full...)

Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?

Q.   What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...

A.   27 February 2010: Thank you for all your answers. I started Cipro assuming it's a UTI .. but I'm still freaking b/c the skin around the vagina is VERY irritated. I've had yeast infections before where the skin around gets sore..but Of course I'm thinking herpes,... (read in full...)

I'm doing it by the book but how do I have a happy ending?

Q.   Ever since my ex broke up with me over 2 years ago, I have been looking for ways to get him back. AT FIRST I made the mistake of chasing him and pushing him farther away. Then when I backed off, he began to initiate contact by calling and texting ...

A.   18 February 2010: Oh boy... You need to truly stop thinking about him and move on. He broke up with you, if he wanted you back, he would have you back. Don't text, or call, or respond to him. Find a new man to focus on. Not because you think it will make him wa... (read in full...)

Should I tell my sister in law that I'm in love with her?

Q.   I'm in love with my sister in law. My wife's sister. I think about her all the time. I'm just concerned about taking it too far. I am married with a boy and a girl. She is married with 3 girls. We are both in our late 30's but she is a couple of ...

A.   30 November 2009: Yikes. There is no point. This CANNOT have a happy ending. I'd keep your feelings to yourself. ... (read in full...)

I get overly excited with my bf...and it's embarrassing! Is this normal?

Q.   Um, so, this is very embarassing. But I can't ask for advice anywhere else but on the internet, because, well, it IS way too embarassing. So, to get straight to the point, I've been dating a guy for 2 months. We've grown really close together, ...

A.   18 November 2009: Its totally normal. Every guy I've been with gets turned on more by how "wet" I get. It makes the man think he's turning you on (which he is) and so it's an ego boost for him. Not a negative. Trust me. Don't be embarassed. ... (read in full...)

He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!

Q.   Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...

A.   17 November 2009: Please leave him now. You are only 16/17 and it's only been 6 months. (easier now than 3 years in) If he's already hit you, he will do it again.... (read in full...)

Read this email message and tell me what you think!

Q.   I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...

A.   8 November 2009: Are you sure this email is from the male owner and not a female? Like the male owner's wife? In my opinion, it is either from a woman or a gay man. And whoever it is, it seems like your husband has an intimate relationship with him/her. Sorry.... (read in full...)

How can I resist the urge to cheat again?

Q.   I really need some help Im a married wowman and have cheated even had an affair. It is not my personality to mess around. I have to admit I do miss the rush I used to get. It was always exciting to me to meet someone new. I feel guilty for feeling ...

A.   6 November 2009: Orginial poster / I don't think I can private message you bc you posted anonymously also. But I am eyespy17 and you can send me a direct message if you'd like . ... (read in full...)

I want to be with him, he broke up with his girlfriend for me but now he isn't replying to me.

Q.   ive been in love for months with a boy. he works with me, and has told me hundreds of times he loves me too and he really wants to be with me. but he has a "girlfriend" a girl who he texts constantly but never sees face to face. we have hooked up a ...

A.   2 November 2009: Honestly, I think this guy is playing both of you.. working it out that he's "torn" between the two of you. CUT HIM LOSE and move on... PLEASE. You don't need this emotional drama. Then, if he ever REALLY breaks up with her , maybe you can ... (read in full...)

Is his text evidence that he is cheating?

Q.   I saw my boyfriend texting this other girl, and I thought nothing of it until I caught a glimpse at the end of the text, and he wrote love you to her. I know that she is not a family member and he told me that he was talking to a guy and not a girl. ...

A.   2 November 2009: He said he text "I love you" to a guy? How do you know for sure that it's a girl? (Did you look at the phone after?) If it's definitely a girl, and he's lying about the "I love you" text, you have EVERY reason to be upset and assume he is cheat... (read in full...)

Is he hiding from me? Or did he find someone new? I'm so clueless and lost!

Q.   I am recently desperate in seeking straight and honest advice and I feel this is the right place for me. Kindly bear with me as I’m new with this stuff. I'm in a relationship for 7 months now, we started as collegues then we became friends and ...

A.   1 November 2009: Any updates? Are you okay?... (read in full...)

Is he hiding from me? Or did he find someone new? I'm so clueless and lost!

Q.   I am recently desperate in seeking straight and honest advice and I feel this is the right place for me. Kindly bear with me as I’m new with this stuff. I'm in a relationship for 7 months now, we started as collegues then we became friends and ...

A.   29 October 2009: I am so sorry to hear this. So you haven't had any contact with him in more than a month? Do you have any way of verifying that he's not in the hospital, jail, or hurt? (I'm not trying to scare you - just trying to give him the benefit of the doub... (read in full...)

I like him and he doesn't know!

Q.   Hi, I need major help. My bf dumped me 2 months ago for someone else after 3 years of relationship. I was hurt very badly, but tried to stay friends. I thought it would be very hard to fall in love again, but I hated being lonely. I’m an extremely...

A.   29 October 2009: My first word of advice would be to stop over thinking everything! Just go with it. Absolutely friend request him on Facebook. That is not desperate. You actually talk in person, and he's an acquaintance. I can't tell you how many men and women th... (read in full...)

I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her (overweight).

Q.   I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her(overweight). She loves me so much and she will do almost anything to make me happy. She has even offered to let me bring over an escort once a week. I do ...

A.   29 April 2009: One more thing - DO NOT lead her on. Tell her you feel you are just friends. If she wants to lose weight for her, great. But if she loses it for you and then she starts to put it back on- you're going to leave her anyway. And then you won't even ... (read in full...)

I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her (overweight).

Q.   I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her(overweight). She loves me so much and she will do almost anything to make me happy. She has even offered to let me bring over an escort once a week. I do ...

A.   29 April 2009: Sounds like you see her as a best friend, and not a lover. That's ok. You can't force chemistry. ... (read in full...)

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