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writes:Ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now I decided to change relationship status on facebook and tagged him to say its him I'm dating but even though he changed to say his in a relationship he has ignored my request.he also has deleted the post of his wall for people to comment... Why? Is he ashamed of me? I've met his family but not his friends. I don't to make a fuss so haven't asked but what other reason could it be other than he doesn't want his friends to see me?Thanks xx
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Because facebook is notorious for ruining relationships. By stating he's in a relationship, but not who with, people still know that he's off limits. Some people don't like to plaster that kind of information all over fbook, but he is acknowledging the relationship, it's better than him not changing it full stop right?
However, I've also seen a post on this very website relating to the same thing and the BF was still trying to hook up with other girls, hence he left his status as single.
If confronting him would make you feel better, than by all means do so, just be wary of it causing an argument.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Some people just prefer their privacy. Personally I think the whole FB relationship thing is pretty banal. People fall in and out of relationships all the time and it can be pretty embarrassing to keep changing status. When you are out, do you wear a sign round your neck saying 'Im with this guy'?
Putting your relationship under the spotlight for other people's inspection is just opening yourself up to unwanted comments...I'd pay more attention to how a guy treats me in real life rather than what he puts on the internet.
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reader, Martinizum  +, writes (25 April 2012):
He should want the whole fb clan to know hes with someone an is happy an proud hes in a relationship..if he acts funny when u ask him I would say hes hiding some thing too..i still dont think theres any excuse my boyfriend could give me that would make me ok with him not excepring an taking down posts..so u should see what he says im wondering myself what he would say..lol..good luck
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Cuz he's keeping his options...open.
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reader, jr23 +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Don't assume the worst. After all, you haven't asked him. Maybe he just doesn't want people knowing his business. On the other hand, if he's one of those people who is constantly on facebook updating his statuses and commenting on other peoples' stuff, then I would say it's a bit strange he hasn't accepted your relationship request. At least he did change it to say he's in a relationship, so that lets all the women on facebook know he's no longer available. Leaving your name out of the status could mean he doesn't want all his friends checking out your profile. I would just ask him why. You wouldn't be making a fuss, you're just asking a question. If he tries to avoid answering, or he gets angry and defensive about it then I would say there's a chance he's hiding something from you. But I don't think he's ashamed of you, otherwise why would he have wanted to date you to start with and why would he have let you meet his family?
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (25 April 2012):
Are there pictures of you two together on his page? Has he posted any? Does he allow photos of you together to stay tagged
And visible?
If it's yes to all of the above - I wouldn't worry.
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