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*udeitsme
writes:I was with a guy for a year and a half and one day he told me we should take a break. After a few weeks this break became a break up. I sadly kept asking him why can't we just back together and he told me it's because he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend. They stayed friends after breaking up and I was always jealous but I thought it was just something I should get over, because he is allowed to be friends with whomever he pleases.Before he suggested the break, he told me that his ex was pushing him away because of me. And then I guess he started to miss her. I know he loved me... and I still think he has feelings for me. Should I wait for him to get over his ex? Or should I just attempt to get over it and move on?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 I know it is very difficult to let go but i think it will be the best thing to do as Justadvice said if he truly loves you he will come back.
I always think that if you are not number 1 in a relationship then quite frankly what is the point, do you honestly want to a share of poll position with another woman?
I can guarantee you that he does have feelings for you he has shared a part of your life for a good while but you don't want the situation to arise where he is torn between the two of you.
Let him go, be strong you may be lonely for a while but i'm sure you will meet the right person given a little time you are only young and have your whole life ahead of you.
Good luck x
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reader, justadvise +, writes (22 February 2009):
If you love someone let them go. If they love you then they will come back. If they don't then they never were yours. i heard something like that somewhere. It makes sense to me. You should do the same.
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reader, jordan91  +, writes (22 February 2009):
wow, this is almost exactly the same situation i'm in as well. Is he getting back together with his ex, or just thinking it's not fair to either of you to date when he has such feelings for another girl? Because if he's getting back with her, or even thinking about it, then move on no question. no sense in waiting any longer. If he just thinks that he should be alone right now to think things over and get over his ex,(like in my situation) then i say you should wait. Time mends everything, just a matter of how much.
So if he's just trying to get over her, then wait. give him his space, and eventually things will mend. if he is still talking to his ex, then forget him. he's not worth the trouble. hope this helped! :)
- Jordan
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Move on. No point on wasting time on someone who doesn't truly love you.
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