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writes:Hey I've been with a girl 18 months now, And everything is ok. Only thing is I REALLY have a thing against pubic hair, I'm not a shallow guy or anything it's just a REAL turn off for me. Everyone has things with make them excited and turns them off and pubic hair is just something that really does turn me off.Anyway my girlfriend is really shy and I was just wondering how I could ask her to maybe shave them or something? She doesn't know that I have this turn off towards pubic hair but it's coming to the point where I don't even want to have sex because of it.... And that's not good for a relationship of our age. Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Way to go Gina!!!!!!!!!! I personally think that the little girl look is dated too. Just a simple fad. Why would anyone want to look like a little girl and so unnatural? And besides that,,,there is a reason for pubic hair for sanitary reasons. That alone should deter girls from shaving it all off. Also pubic hair holds pheromones that attract the opposite sex,,,so if you shave it all off...You will naturally be less attractive to the opposite sex. What are you girls thinking???
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): just buy her a gift certificate for a brazilian wax at a spa.
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (22 February 2009):
I think complementing your girlfriend on all the things you love about her would be a great start. Get her to be less shy around you. Wehn her confidence is raised you could comment on women shaving, tidying up down there and say how you can understand it and how you like the look. See what she says. At the moment she thinks you like her as she is, so she isn't likely to change, is she?
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 You are quite welcome dear.
Just bring it up like lodge and Cinder have suggested, like it's a fantasy that you would like to try.
When she does it, make sure to praise the heck out of her and really be enthusiastic. Men and women are just like dogs, we can be trained with positive reinforcement! ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): if she's still shy around you after 18 monthes maybe there isn't enough trust in your relationship, maybe this is what you need to work on. why not be straight up with her??
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reader, satindesire +, writes (22 February 2009):
Maddierose, you may not enjoy being shaven or waxed but many women do. Please note that your experiences are not all women's experiences.
To the very first poster, the female anon: Perhaps in your experience 'most' women do not shave completely, but in my circle of peers I have not spoken to a single woman who is not either shaved smooth or completely waxed. It's a highly common practice. Generalizations are always false.
I have been shaving myself completely since I was very young and have had no trouble with irritation or pain, since I have had an awful lot of practice and my skin has gotten used to being bare. I enjoy being shaved smooth because I am more sexually sensitive and my husband loves it as much as I do.
Just bring it up gently that you think it'd be really sexy if she'd consider shaving for you. Don't be negative or she'll just think you're acting a jerk.
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reader, maddierose +, writes (22 February 2009):
 When a woman is completely shaven and has no pubic hair I always think that's a little pedophillic (I swear i'm not trying to say your a pedophile or anything!!!) But some women find it a bit weird.
And also you have to take into account it's not a very nice feeling for some women and it can cause terrible irritation down there!!
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reader, didda123 +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I would just mention it to her that you would love to see what she would look like with possibly a brazilian and would she object, i say a brazilian because at first maybe all off would be a bit too much for her.
I would try to make the conversation light-hearted and pick your moment to mention it wisely. Maybe you could do it for her.
If she totally objects i think you will just have to accept things the way they are as it is her body after all and her choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Say that it's bothering you .. you cant kiss her _____ properly.. seeing ur _____ turns you on etc etc.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (22 February 2009):
 You have been seeing her for 18 months i am wondering why you haven't said anything by now if it is bothering you so much?
Pubic hair is a personal thing and i would tread with caution because what do you do if you ask her to shave or wax and she refuses?
Where does that leave your relationship with her? i find it hard to believe you could be turned off by pubic hair but you are and the best thing to do is to try discreetly to bring this into the conversation one night, if she has never shaved or waxed before it can be a bit of a shock getting used to being without hair personally i think the 12 yr old look is dated.
Gina
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reader, AllisonDro +, writes (22 February 2009):
well, do you shave? if youre clean and tidy, and she continues to neglect the area, i would say its ok to casually say something.
if not, then you should shut up :o)
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reader, lodge123 +, writes (22 February 2009):
You could say you fantasise how if she could shave her pubes? and maybe she would get something back out of it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): you need to get over this, youre the one with the problem, not your girlfriend.
most women dont actually shave their pubic hair fully, thats just what young boys thing due to watching porn. i do agree that a woman should look after her body and possibly keep it tidy down there. but theres no way you can expect her to shave just for you. thats totally unfair, especially if shes shy anyway.
either put up with it, or if you desperately have to tell her then dont expect the best reaction.
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