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I am DanceintheDark,

I honestly think the vast majority of relationship problems could be solved with communication, I also think that a lot of people refuse to bring up the problems they have with their partner because they feel they are being petty.

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Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?

Q.   My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...

A.   30 April 2011: Well you mention your wife isn't that into sex, and i'm just wondering if theres a reason why. ... (read in full...)

Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?

Q.   My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...

A.   30 April 2011: I have a question for you? What does your wife get out of sex? Does she always get an orgasm?... (read in full...)

I told fiance I was going to miss being with her while away and she started to cry. What did I do wrong?

Q.   I am a 28 year old guy. My fiance is 24. We are separated for a few days as I had to go on a work related trip (in my hotel room now) and she could not come with me because of her own responsibilities. When we were in bed the other night, I told ...

A.   12 April 2011: Judging from what you said, I think she saw it as you saying that you're going to miss the sex, not her.... (read in full...)

Shower Time Troubles?

Q.   My boyfriend and I do not have sex because we want to wait to marriage, but we do other things and always try to mix it up to add some new fun to the mix. This weekend we took a shower together (both completely naked), but we did not have sex and ...

A.   12 April 2011: Very VERY unlikely. ... (read in full...)

We're 14, are we old enough to have sex?

Q.   hello, this is a pretty long question but it would be great if i could have your honest opinions, i'm 14 and i've been with my boyfriend who is also 14 for about ten months. we're very close and he's like my best friend as well as my boyfrien...

A.   10 April 2011: Do you masturbate? That usually helps relieve sexual tension. ... (read in full...)

Is sex something worth breaking up over?

Q.   Heyyy. I'm graduating from high school next month. My boyfriend and I aren't sexually active. But lately he's been saying that he doesn't want to be a virgin when he starts college. (I honestly don't understand the rush.) But he knows where I stand ...

A.   10 April 2011: Sometimes sexual incompatible can truly drive a relationship apart, but that's only AFTER you're sexually active. But, you're a virgin, and you don't want to lose it, and he should respect that. Wanting to lose your virginity just because you... (read in full...)

We're 14, are we old enough to have sex?

Q.   hello, this is a pretty long question but it would be great if i could have your honest opinions, i'm 14 and i've been with my boyfriend who is also 14 for about ten months. we're very close and he's like my best friend as well as my boyfrien...

A.   10 April 2011: You have to realize, theres a HUGE emotional aspect to sex, and most 14 year olds can't handle that. Trust me, you may feel ready, but most girls your age who do it regret it. I was 15 when I lost it, I loved him, he loved me, we knew the consequ... (read in full...)

Is animated "better" than real porn?

Q.   Hi, I've been reading the questions regarding porn, and I was wondering if animated porn was "better" than real porn as it's just cartoons? Or are they as bad as eachother?...

A.   10 April 2011: Personally, I'd be more disgusted if I found out my boyfriend was watching hentai than watching real porn. That's just me though.... (read in full...)

I am secretly dating my cousin. Now her sister is threatening to tell our family about it unless we have sex with her, too!

Q.   Ok, My cousin and I have been dating for close to a year without either of our families knowing or finding out. But just recently, her younger sister came forward to us about knowing about our relationship. She's threatening to tell our respective ...

A.   10 April 2011: Alright well. Is her sister reliable? Judging from the fact that she wants you to include her, sounds like she might be a bit mentally unstable. Theres a very good chance that you can just play it off as her lying. ... (read in full...)

Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?

Q.   My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...

A.   7 April 2011: News flash. Women don't do that unless they're payed a lot of money. ... (read in full...)

Cure for Premature Ejaculation? - No alternative pleasing, just penetrative sex!

Q.   Is there really a cure for Premature Ejaculation?? I have used desensitized condoms, and they work great on me, but the latex burns and rashes my gf, no mater how wet she is or how much lube we use. The Start-Stop method don't work, it has act...

A.   7 April 2011: Well you mention the desensitized condoms work. Well, i'm pretty sure they have desensitizing lube, maybe you could try that? http://www.amazon.com/Durex-Longer-Desensitizing-Lubricant-Ounce/dp/B000052XJS Heres one I found. ... (read in full...)

Is it true that you're a slut if you have big labias?

Q.   Im officially freeking out. Im in a LDR and ive been with my bf in real but we obv spend more time online together. Well i dont remember what happened but my bf turned round to me and was like im gonna make up somethin about u then and tell so...

A.   6 April 2011: "..before my current bf id only ever slept with one guy twice. and im pretty sure my vagina aint changed." That answers your question. No big labia doesn't mean you're a slut, women who sleep around can have borderline no labia, and virgins can ... (read in full...)

B/f wants to have sex without a condom

Q.   im 15 and my 15 yr. bf finaly got me 2 give him a b.j after 2 mounths of dating and now after 3 mounths he is trying 2 get me 2 give him my vergenity and he said we should not use a condom cuz it feels better w/out 1 then he said he wnts r 1st time ...

A.   5 April 2011: You're not ready to lose your virginity, if you can't even spell virginity. ... (read in full...)

Why is it that men need more than one special person to satisfy their needs when women don't?

Q.   I'm a woman and for some reason, when I have a boyfriend, he's enough for me and is all I need. It has happened to me that when I have a boyfriend I stop fantasizing about other guys, I even stop looking at other guys, it's not something forced, it ...

A.   4 April 2011: Find a new guy. Seriously. Sure guys are programmed to be this way, but that doesn't give them the excuse to be disrespectful about it.... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend was so large I'm afraid its ruined me for anyone else!

Q.   Hello, agony aunts. Thanks in advance for reading my question, and for any thoughtful advice or answers. I have recently come out of a two year long relationship and I am now fresh on the single scene. My ex and I got together when we were bot...

A.   28 March 2011: Kegels. Seriously they are effective, you can literally do them anywhere, anytime. http://whatscookingamerica.net/HealthBeauty/Kegels.htm... (read in full...)

I dumped my girlfriend...Do you think she'll come back to me?

Q.   Ladies, i broke-up with my GF, yesterday, i feel soooo guilty, but it weas her repetitive mistakes, that i used to warn her about, she repeated these mistakes more then 20 time, "mistakes such as not telling me what problems she is facing, keepi...

A.   24 March 2011: Look through everything you just said. Now tell me, why do you want her back? ... (read in full...)

Token Penis Size Question

Q.   No serious insecurities here, and I know this gets asked constantly but seriously A good, caring guy with a great personality and good career who totes your average 6 inch 5 around penis or A good caring guy with a great personality and goo...

A.   18 March 2011: Number 1. Number 2 would hurt. ... (read in full...)

Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???

Q.   Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...

A.   17 March 2011: We can't help it. Sex causes us to release a bonding hormone, which makes us bond to the person who we're having sex to. ... (read in full...)

Am I right in breaking up with my bf, the father of my unborn baby, after what he's done?

Q.   Last night my boyfriend and I had a fight. My step sister said why would any one want to f**k an Australian girl? Then he says, "I f**ked a European girl. "You know who it is, baby," he told me. And then earlier in the car he told me that he d...

A.   12 March 2011: YES. Absolutely. Don't doubt it for a second. He sounds like a JERK. He's abusive. Calling you a slut is emotional abuse. If he treats YOU like this, how the hell do you think he's going to treat the kid?! You made the right decision for you... (read in full...)

Do all teenage boys masturbate?

Q.   This is kind of a weird question, but do all teenage boys masturbate? Like 13 year olds? I'm 13 and I do and I'm afraid I'm the only one in my class who does. So do all 13 year old boys masturbate?...

A.   9 March 2011: Oh yes. Trust me, most of them masturbate. Hell, Even a lot of the girls are doing it too. ... (read in full...)

Is what I've seen in porn true?

Q.   Hi, Aunts there i have a question in my mind, it may sound silly, but still i just want to know the opinion from different people. I've heard that the intercourse can last for more than half an our before men cum. is that true? i mean, don’t...

A.   8 March 2011: This is going to conflict with what other women have told you. But I can only tell you my personal experiences. Porn is not very realistic, BUT. Yes men can last more than half an hour, some guys can go for 4 HOURS. Most women want an ho... (read in full...)

13 year old boyfriend wears briefs. Does it really matter?

Q.   My boyfriend is 13 and he still wears briefs. Does it really matter? He wears ones like these: http://direct.asda.com/george/kid-s-clothing/older-boys/underwear/5-pack-camo-briefs/GEM61476,default,pd.html...

A.   4 March 2011: A lot of guys wear those. ... (read in full...)

What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?

Q.   hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...

A.   4 March 2011: I mostly just say my girly parts. ... (read in full...)

Why I am attracted to women with low self-esteem?

Q.   Why am I attracted to these needy messed up low self-esteem women? It's like if she is in trouble or is in bad emotional place or drug addict or w/e . I find these women very attractive.. Its like their emotions are so pure I can't explain it.I ...

A.   28 February 2011: Do you think theres any chance that YOU might have low self esteem. And "fixing" these girls helps that?... (read in full...)

Height Perception..what's a desirable height?

Q.   On average, is a height of 5'8 an initial turnoff? I understand that women prefer taller guys, and that 5'8 is a bit below the average height of 5'10-6'. Am I at a general disadvantage in dealing with women? I mean my current girlfriend is 5'4 so ...

A.   27 February 2011: I'm 5'3. My rule of dating is to only date a guy taller than me. So you're fine.... (read in full...)

My friend told me all men are really gay!

Q.   Are all men GAY??? A guy who once had sex with another guy said to me that all men are gay, and that they just wont admit it, that they don't actually want women they just want to get off or have babies? He said stuff like they think the vagina...

A.   27 February 2011: I think your friend is just saying that to feel normal.... (read in full...)

I have a large labia. Is that unattractive?

Q.   This is kind of embarrassing for me, but I am very self-concious about my vagina. I have a rather large labia and fear that men would find it unattractive. Though I've never had sex, I've been sexually involved with a couple of guys in other ways ...

A.   21 February 2011: I know i'm not a guy. But I have the same problem, and theres a site that really helped me. It's called sexy labia, it's NSFW. But it has a message board, with tons of girls saying the same thing as this, and guys saying how much they love big... (read in full...)

Girlfriend couldn't feel as much when I wore a thick condom!

Q.   Like many young lads I tend to orgasm too quickly doring sex with my girlfriend so last night I wore a thicker condom to help me last longer.It worked and I still got the pleasure but my girlfriend said she couldn't feel as much.What should we do? ...

A.   20 February 2011: They have numbing gels, maybe you could try one of those? Use it with an ultra thin condom. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend likes to be held down during sex and pretend its rape?

Q.   I have been dating a woman for six months. For the first 4, it was more or less normal. We both work in demanding jobs so it's taken a few months to spend enough time to become more emotionally intimate even though we've been sexually involved all ...

A.   20 February 2011: No. It's not weird, lots of girls have these types of fantasies. Being raped probably made her feel powerless. In a way, this is her taking back her power. Because in all reality, when you guys are roleplaying she's in charge. The only thin... (read in full...)

Can a girl get pregnant without having sex or get pregnant two different times from sex once?

Q.   hi. i just want to know if you can get pregnant without actually having sex, and if you can have more than one child, with then have a big in between gap, by having sex just once. ...

A.   20 February 2011: Yes. A girl can get pregnant without actually having sex. Very unlikely, but it can happen. Say if he got cum on his hands and then fingered you. No. If a woman is going to have more than one child from having sex once, theres not going to be a ... (read in full...)

Where or what are good places to have sex other than on a bed?

Q.   Any good places to have sex besides in bed? Favourite place to do it? Any interesting ways?...

A.   20 February 2011: Quickie on the kitchen floor while dinner is cooking. ;)... (read in full...)

Need your opinion on a dress!!

Q.   Ok, so i have found 4 dresses i really like and i need your opinion! i'm about 5' 3 and 100 lbs. fair skin, can tan pretty easily though, dark hair and hazel eyes and fit into a size 2 if it's a corset dress. i kind of think i want a pink dress but ...

A.   20 February 2011: 3# judging from your description, I think that'd look best on you. ... (read in full...)

Porn video sent to me, how will g/f react?

Q.   ive been with my girlfriend for over 1 year and 6 months and she wanted me to give up p*rn after we first had intercourse which i understand but i failed about 4 times breaking her heart which made me relise what a twat ive been about it and for ...

A.   17 February 2011: Just forget it. You don't have to tell her. You didn't actively look it out. and If she has major issues with porn, it might just be best to leave it be. Also, GOOD ON YOU. Seriously. stopping porn for your girlfriend? Seriously. It's nice to ... (read in full...)

How do I swallow without upchucking?

Q.   Hi all, Okay, here goes, I need advice about a sexual thiing, so I will get to the point! My partner is offended that I don't swallow and says if I loved him I would (it would mean a lot to him) but I just cannot do it, it makes me want to reach...

A.   14 February 2011: Don't. Seriously. You don't have to. Ask him if he'd like to swallow cum. ... (read in full...)

No matter what position, I cannot achieve orgasm through penetrative sex

Q.   ok this is a little embarassing... I am 25 years old and should know all about this but.... I dont. I have never had an orgasm while having intercourse. I have been intimate with several men and tried every position possible and still no big "O"...

A.   13 February 2011: When you're having sex, do you ever feel like you have to pee? have you ever had that feeling? Usually that's indicator that he's hitting the right spot for a g spot orgasm. Any position that hits that front wall usually helps, cowgirl, doggy s... (read in full...)

Bisexual, in a relationship but want to experiment more...

Q.   Ok so I'm bisexual and I've known since I was young, around 12/13. I watch lesbian porn but to me that does not determine my sexuality or anybody else's for that matter. but what I do want to do is experiment more with other girls but I'm already in ...

A.   12 February 2011: Teenage boy with a bisexual girlfriend? You say you don't want to have sex behind his back. Ask him. Chances are he'll just think it's 'hot' and not cheating. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar and its getting very difficult to deal with him now...

Q.   Why are there so many lies? my boyfriend is a compulsive liar. he makes up stupid little lies about everything like whos house hes at who hes with, if hes working late or not. i mean i would find out the truth and wonder why he even lied in the ...

A.   5 February 2011: "he swears up and down that he has never cheated on me, that he loves me and is devoted to me" He's a compulsive liar, why should you believe this? You can't get him to communicate with you, you can't trust him AT ALL. If he says he'll change h... (read in full...)

How do you become a trophy wife?

Q.   What do you do to become a trophy wife? Is it just about looks? Or is it if your a wonderfull wife and mom? Thanks for your time....

A.   5 February 2011: It's about looks. Basically your only value to your husband is that your hot. You're just arm candy. Nobody will say "Oh she's such a wonderful wife and mom" it'll just be "She's hot." It's sad that being a hot wife is more valued than bein... (read in full...)

I have reason to believe my dad is cheating on my mom!!

Q.   I am 20 years old my parents were married before I was born I am one of three siblings. I always thought my parents were having a happy marriage until one day I went into my fathers work bag and found condoms!!. I asked my mom if they used comdoms ...

A.   3 February 2011: This is probably something you really REALLY don't want to hear. But it doesn't mean he's cheating, some guys use condoms to masturbate. ... (read in full...)

Am I related to the guy that I'm falling in love with?

Q.   Ok, so this guy that I'm falling in love with his mother is like my mother's 4th or 5th cousin... and I just found that out, does that mean me and him are closely related??? Please help I don't wanna be kissing cousins.. =( ...

A.   1 February 2011: Related, very distantly though. ... (read in full...)

Do guys prefer larger boobs?

Q.   Hi(: Okay this may sound like an awkard question, but I was just kind of wondering. My boyfriend says he LOVES big boobs and, he says he loves mine so much (I have D's) and whenever he talks to his friends they always say, "I wish my girl had ...

A.   30 January 2011: Some guys do. Some guys don't. Just like how some guys like big butts, and some guys like small butts. ... (read in full...)

Can I get pregnant if he came but I didn't?

Q.   Is it possible that I can get pregnant if my boyfriend came in me but I never came? And I start around the 5th of every month?...

A.   29 January 2011: Yep. Absolutely, As sad as it is, your orgasm has barely anything to do with the fertilizing progress. Would be wise to get a pregnancy test, or if it's soon enough, a plan B if you don't want a baby. ... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend could be gay?

Q.   Thank you for reading this. I have never used the Internet for answers, I am very confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we love each other undoubtedly. Lately though I have been questioning his sexuality. There are a few ...

A.   29 January 2011: Honestly, I think you're just looking for reasons why he's not a very attentive lover. Just being it "looks gay" doesn't mean he's gay. I used to know this guy, Straight, who stood like a chick. ... (read in full...)

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