He was once a cheater, so what makes me any different?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and I can honestly say without hesitation, I've NEVER loved anyone the way I love him. However, he has a past and it's affecting me and our relationship. Before I go any further, let me give you ...
A. 24 February 2012: Well his track record doesn't look good, since it basically tells he cannot have a committed relationship. The two he's had he's cheated. Keep in mind that those two girls probably thought that they knew for a fact that he loved them as well. An... (read in full...)
Do ALL guys watch porn?
Q. I know this is a bit obvious to ask but really and truly do all/most guys watch porn? (And I don't mean constantly just even every once in awhile) Of course there are some individuals who don't of course, but if you're dating a nice, quiet, shy, ...
A. 24 February 2012: Heres something interesting i've discovered with my males friends. The ones that watch porn, are going to tell you that all men watch porn. The ones that don't, aren't going to tell you not all men watch porn. Yes, a lot of guys watch porn,... (read in full...)
I wish my B/f saw me as one of those ideal girls in dude movies with "big boobs/skinny waist/big butt/slim thighs", instead of the cute girl next door
Q. I always feel so insecure about my body, it's so stupid... I even get really nervous and anxious when watching movies with my boyfriend, especially the type of "dude" movies where lots of perfect boobs are shown. I never say anything in front of ...
A. 23 February 2012: How do you know what he doesn't see you as someone sexy, hot, and irresistible, have you asked him? Has he told you this? If he has he's kind of a jerk.
You're insecure, I understand. I've been in that spot so many times, feeling like you aren't t... (read in full...)
16 year old girl sent pornographic video of herself to my boyfriend?
Q. So... I need some advice. My boyfriend is very nice looking and it isn't just me that thinks it, other girls also think the same. He talks to a lot of girls who he claims are just his friends he goes about talking to them through phone calls, text ...
A. 20 February 2012: I think it's time to call it quits. You snooped, that's a clear sign you don't trust him.
Honestly i think the fact that it's read, and not deleted says a lot. If he was really pissed about it he would have gotten rid of it. Fast. Especial... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my breasts, other girls are prettier than me, he treat his ex better than me....all these things are making me so insecure!
Q. Hello, I feel like this question is stupid :( but please help me out. So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1yr and 3 months or so. At the start of our relstionship, it wasnt the best, i felt so upset with him at times with the things...
A. 29 November 2011: Your boyfriend is a dick. Plain and simple. He doesn't like your breasts? Then he doesn't get to see them, and a guy more worthy does.
You don't make him say those things, he says them because he has no tact. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a friend's daughter?
Q. I was having a conversation the other day about morals, and the person asked me if I thought it was ok to date a friend's daughter. We didn't go into depth in terms of which friend, how long you'd known them, etc. personally, I couldn't see a p...
A. 26 November 2011: If your friend was asking to date your daughter would you be saying the same thing? ... (read in full...)
It's time to end this inconsistent lukewarm relationship, isn't it?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year doesn't know I have a deadline in mind for him to really show me that he loves me. We HAVE talked, numerous times and I am always in control of myself and rational and non-accusing. He has had a "meh" attitude in the past and ...
A. 24 November 2011: I think you'd be best to leave.
The fact that he says he can't go because it's interrupts his "nap time" clearly says a lot to me. ... (read in full...)
Do I get a boob job and give up sensitivity?
Q. I can't decide whether or not to have a boob job! I have really small boobs and so does everyone else in my family and there's no hope of them growing anymore (I'm a 32A/AA). For ages now I've been thinking about getting a boob job but I still don't ...
A. 2 November 2011: Look at what you wrote. Your boobs are not stopping you from having a relationship. YOU ARE. Guess what, unless you're wearing a padded bra, the guys know you have small breasts. They're flirting with you, they clearly do not care.
Hones... (read in full...)
I want to take my new girlfriend to the strip club and watch her touching other girls
Q. I want to take my new girlfriend to a strip club, but am not sure what her reaction will be. For you girls, if you have been dating a guy for a month or so and he askes you if you want to accompany him to a strip club, what would be your re...
A. 26 October 2011: Upsetting. I'd be jealous and upset that my boyfriend even wanted to go.
Two. I'm not interested in being given a lap dance by other women.
Yes, just asking would be a deal breaker for me.
Would you want to go a male strip club with your gir... (read in full...)
My wife's old journal mentioned sex with her ex and now my imagination is making me jealous
Q. I was wondering if you could answer a couple of questions: I recently found my wife's journal, and of course I should have put it down but I read part of it and she had a section in there about sex with her Ex... She was quoted as saying "I have ...
A. 19 October 2011: If her and her ex were having sex like that, then trust me, she wouldn't be enjoying it. Porn star sex is not REAL SEX. She doesn't want that. Porn is fake, it's supposed to look wild and amazing, while in reality it's incredibly uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
Does being turned on more by girls make me lesbian???
Q. So I'm a girl and I hang out with guys all day so they got me to watch porn and then I started to watch lesbian porn. It turns me on more to see a girl naked then seeing a guy. but I don't want to be lesbian. what does this mean if I get turned on ...
A. 17 October 2011: Do you find women attractive? Does the idea of YOU personally being with a woman? Does the idea of touching her, doing down on her, having sex with her, appeal to you?
Do you think you'd actually want to be in a relationship with a woman? T... (read in full...)
I didnt cheat on him but he wont listen! I feel like I've blown it for good, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, I have been reading through post but one seem to match my sitation so I'll try and explain So, I've known this (guy now my ex) for about 4 years but we only really started dating in April. Everything was strange because he'd take ag...
A. 12 October 2011: Honestly. He sounds like a prick, and chances are if you guys had a longterm relationship, it'd be like this EVERY TIME something went wrong. He couldn't even tell you his problems to your face? Jesus.
I think you got off lucky. ... (read in full...)
My wife is the breadwinner now and wants me to be a house-husband, should I do it?
Q. Hi I m from Detroit city age 35. I lost my job couple of years back because of the recession ; haven't been able to find another one. However, my wife,33, has a great job with big fat pay package. Surprisingly, she got a promotion during the rece...
A. 11 October 2011: Are you afraid of not feeling like a man? Think of it this way. If you're cooking and cleaning, you're contributing to the household.
If you're doing nothing, then what are you giving?... (read in full...)
He NEVER will talk to me in public! Am I just his booty call? PS: he also has a girlfriend
Q. So, there's this guy. I really really like him, and he seems to like me back. But he NEVER talks to me in public. Only when its just me and him. He has this girlfriend that he claims to love. But when he's with me he says he doesn't even care...
A. 8 October 2011: Yep.
He loves his girlfriend. You're just a bit of variety. ... (read in full...)
B/f says he doesn't watch porn anymore but won't get rid of his collection!
Q. Hey there, So my bf and I have been together for about 9 months, and our relationship is great, sex is great, and we're pretty much best friends. I was just curious about his watching porn, so we talked about it. I'm not opposed to porn necessar...
A. 5 October 2011: Honestly. He won't get rid of it, because he wants to keep looking at it.
It's pretty simple. Chances are he was just saying that to make you feel better. ... (read in full...)
Sex starved, thinking about the porn business?
Q. Let me tell you my story. First of all, I'm a nice guy, fairly good looking, clean-cut, just turned 32, and I stand a shade under 5'6. My friends and co-workers tell me all the time that I'm handsome with a nice body. Secondly, I'm thinking abo...
A. 4 October 2011: Well one. You aren't going to learn how to please a woman by doing porn. Seriously. Porn is ACTING, those men usually aren't actually pleasuring the women.
Sex in the porn industry well, If you're fine with constantly stopping and starting... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??
Q. Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my l...
A. 23 September 2011: Arby. You don't even mention that you like Ducky, which I think says a lot. You broke up with Dorky because he just annoyed it, chances are it's not going to be any different this time around. ... (read in full...)
Can't stop fantasing about oral sex with another man?
Q. Hello, i have a girlfriend and we are happy, we have a good sex life. The thing is i can't stop thinking about giving oral sex to another man, i even have fantasies about having sex with 3 or more men. I do not think of myself as gay, i have m...
A. 19 September 2011: Women fantasize about other women. Why couldn't men fantasize about other men? I wouldn't be surprised if they did, it's probably just something hidden and not wildly talked about.
Yes it's normal. Fantasies are fantasies and can wildly differ f... (read in full...)
Never reached orgasm through penetrative sex!
Q. Hi everyone, I've slept with 3 men in my life. My current partner is 30 next month. I'm 22 years old and have always had a very active and healthy sex life. The problem is, I've never been able to orgasm through penetrative sex. I've tried all d...
A. 19 September 2011: Most women cannot orgasm through penetrative sex, that is a fact. You're not a freak. You're perfectly normal. You can come from oral, because that stimulates your clit, which most women get their orgasms from. That's a "Real Orgasm" Have y... (read in full...)
True or False: Men always think the grass may be greener with someone else?
Q. This is a question for men to answer true or false. If you're female, do not answer. This is an unanswerable question by a woman. Here is the back story, or skip to the bottom for the question. Last night while watching t.v. a character we both...
A. 14 September 2011: Nope. Not true at all. Honestly, sounds like he's just trying to make his behaviour sound "okay" but normalizing it.... (read in full...)
Do ALL men really watch porn??
Q. I guess I should ask this as a curiousity question, aimed at men preferrably. Now, I have been on this site awhile and asked and answered a few questions. What I always hear on the topic of porn- ALL MEN WATCH PORN. Is this true? Now I will say...
A. 7 September 2011: I'd also like to add that while not all men watch porn, theres a very high chance all of them have seen it at some point in their life, which severally inflates the statistics. ... (read in full...)
Do ALL men really watch porn??
Q. I guess I should ask this as a curiousity question, aimed at men preferrably. Now, I have been on this site awhile and asked and answered a few questions. What I always hear on the topic of porn- ALL MEN WATCH PORN. Is this true? Now I will say...
A. 7 September 2011: I'm friends with this guy. He has a high sex drive, He's single, he's very blunt, he doesn't care what people think.
He's told me how he thinks porn is stupid, and how after he lost his virginity it just didn't appeal to him anymore because ... (read in full...)
Do I support her in her wish to work in the porn industry? OrI find reasons to help her decide against it?
Q. She says she wants to do porn.. my fiance is a very beautiful woman however due to her past (abusive mother and a father who was never there) she has almost no self esteem and because of that was often taken advantage of by men when she sought l...
A. 28 August 2011: Well I guess it all depends, do you have a problem with her having sex with other men? Any problem at all?
Chances are, that will rip apart your relationship. If she does this, are you going to view her as a person? Are you going to view her as t... (read in full...)
My Gf keeps telling me how her one night stand guy was better than me. How do I handle this and not get so upset?
Q. Months ago my girlfriend and I had broken up. Soon after we did she had drunken sex with a man she didn't know. well and we had gotten back together and she had told me the details and I was crushed that she had did things with him that we were pla...
A. 28 August 2011: Well one, she's really cruel for bring this up.
Next time she does this, tell her if she wants that, to go find someone else, and you're tired of her making you feel inadequate, and ask how she'd like it you said the same things to her.
Tell... (read in full...)
My BF has asked me to use a strap-on for him. I don't want to!
Q. For background, my entire romantic life has been full of men who did not make me feel womanly. I happen to be a more forward/blunt person and that has resulted in me being the one who "wears the pants" in every relationship except my current one. I...
A. 22 August 2011: Sounds like you don't like submissive guys. That's okay.
You don't want to do your boyfriend with a strap on, you don't have to. And that's okay.
And you know what, you don't have to finger a dude EVER if you don't want to.
I am a pretty s... (read in full...)
Could he still have access to my computer?
Q. Hi all I hope there is somebody here who can help me. A few years back I met a guy online, he was a compter wizard and I was having problems with my pc- we were talking through msn at the time and he asked my permission to somehow look through ...
A. 20 August 2011: Unlikely. The Remote access thing he was using through MSN would be turned off when you signed out of MSN, or turned off your computer. ... (read in full...)
What is it about the average guys that makes them get the most stunning girls?
Q. We all know of or heard of average, even below average guys consistently getting stunning girls. These guys don't have high status. If arrogance is a turn off, why don't these average/below average guys turn off these stunning girls? If they a...
A. 19 August 2011: Going to bet they have the ability to hold a conversation with them, and treat them like a person, instead of being like "OMG U SO HOT." ... (read in full...)
I don't want my fiance having strippers at his party!
Q. Tomorrow night will be my bachelorette party and my fiance will be having his bachelor party. We are having two separate parties and I would like him to come home that night. He refuses. Our mutual friend who isn't going to his told me that there ...
A. 12 August 2011: In my personal opinion, if this is the kind of mindset he has, you should probably reconsider marrying him. ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my body is changing. Could I still be going through puberty?
Q. Lately I've been feeling my hips getting wider and my breasts went up a cup size. I'm not sure if this is because of puberty because I'm almost 19 in a few weeks and I heard you stop "growing" when you're 18. I have been eating a little more than I ...
A. 5 August 2011: Are you near your period? that could be it. When did you first get your period? Was it late? ... (read in full...)
I've discovered my penis is smaller than average and its really messing with my mind!
Q. I've recently done some research and I've found out the WORST possible news. I've discovered that my penis is below average in all aspects. I've been concerned with this for years and it's one of the reasons I've turned down or just didn't atte...
A. 5 August 2011: Your mother has cancer.
You're fired.
Your wife is leaving you for your best friend.
Your Penis is infected and we'll need to chop it off.
Theres a lot more worse news than your penis being five inches. Your penis is average and fine, ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for sensual music?
Q. Hello everyone, I was just wondering if anyone new some sensual music to listen to with your boyfriend. An example of this would be like No Ordinary Love by Sade, but thats not his favorite. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!...
A. 5 August 2011: Enigma. Anything by Enigma, they have amazing music. ... (read in full...)
What makes you keep someone in the FRIENDS ZONE?
Q. More of a vent than a question, but input is appreciated. I am a 42 yo, single parent who has taken a hiatus from dating for awhile. I seem to keep attracting men that just do NOT have their lives together or much to offer other than sex. ...
A. 5 August 2011: I think you handled it pretty well. It's not your fault that he has your deal breakers.
He's never asked you out, and yet he makes passive aggressive comments on your facebook. I can honestly see why you aren't interested. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my man may be attracted to my good looking sister!
Q. I would like to understand if I am being unreasonable in my conclusions, or if my bf is covering up his blunder. Here’s the details of the situation: 1. My sister, I’ll call DD, is attractive and she has sort of a Betty Boop killer figure. S...
A. 3 August 2011: Well. Chances are he's not going to cheat on you with her. Chances he think she's sexy and fantasizes about sleeping with her.
Doesn't mean he's going to do anything about it though. ... (read in full...)
Can eating ice make you gain weight?
Q. Hi, I know this isn't a relationship question but I need a serious answer as I can't find one on google. I have gained a stone in the last year and I'm worried its because of my addiction to ice? I'm very active, I don't have time for 'exercis...
A. 31 July 2011: No. Ice doesn't make you gain weight, but you say you're addicted to it? You need to see a doctor. Craving ice usually means you're deficient in iron, and may have anemia. ... (read in full...)
Husband mistreats me and now he's dying. I'm not sure how to handle things
Q. my husband call me bitch whore tells me i cant cook tells me im not allowed to touch his money tell me im a fat useless bitch infrontvod my kids, i did leave him but after 5mths took him back thinkingbhe had changed he shouts at me all the time ...
A. 31 July 2011: Leave. He doesn't deserve you sticking around. ... (read in full...)
He said he was an accident but why was he hiding my little girls underwear in his closet?
Q. Hey all. I really need some input. Last November...of 2010, my ex was at work. We were together (in relationship) at the time. Something happened while he was at work, to make me want to search his apartment. Can't recall exactly what it was, but ...
A. 28 July 2011: Honestly. The fact that this is the first thing you thought says a lot. I say trust your instincts, you can't doubt them when your children are what is at stake. ... (read in full...)
Horny guy is testing my sexual willpower!!
Q. Dear cupid, he is 30 years old and I am 28 years old. We met for a conference, flirted for a six weeks and we are going different paths because the conference ends in a fortnight. He is cute and turns me on with his stares. Problem is he is very ...
A. 27 July 2011: If you don't want anymore than just sex, then take a chance. ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but am crushing on a friend. Do I act on it?
Q. So I'm in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years. We love each other and don't ever plan to break up. However, I've had a crush on one of his friends from school for longer than I've been with my boyfriend, and it's really been ...
A. 26 July 2011: How would you feel if your boyfriend was in the same situation and did that?
Theres your answer. ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 26 July 2011: Yes you're in the right. Absolutely.
If you give into the guilt, you'll be stuck here, missing out on your family, becoming less and less attached to them, and basically being non existant?
This is what these kind of people do, they guilt y... (read in full...)
Should we still just be fooling around at 7 months or should we be taking it to the next level ?
Q. I've been messing with my guy bestfriend for a while now, about 7 months. We normally text everyday, from the time we wake up til the time we go to sleep. (Normally he falls alseep first so in the morning he responds to the text from me the previous ...
A. 25 July 2011: Yes he's using you. The reason you're not together after 7 months is because he's not interested in you romantically.
You give him sexual contact without any sort of commitment, thats a pretty sweet deal for him.
eyeswideopen'... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits with one guy, and now a second guy has given me his number. I don't want to play them both - how do I handle this?
Q. I have been having a sexual relationship with someone at work. It's been going on for several months and I have no idea how long it will last. I think I have developed feelings for this person but don't want to admit it as I don't want to end the ...
A. 25 July 2011: Go for it.
Look, your guy friend doesn't view you has a "romantic interest" You're just sex. It's not of his goddamn business if you befriend another guy. ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 18 July 2011: You don't just have "different beliefs" He's controlling your life.
He doesn't love you for you, he loves your for this person he's molded you into. ... (read in full...)
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