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writes:Im officially freeking out.Im in a LDR and ive been with my bf in real but we obv spend more time online together. Well i dont remember what happened but my bf turned round to me and was like im gonna make up somethin about u then and tell some people and i was like ok then and he was like i will, "i'll make up a lie" and his bf was there so i was like "ok do it now tell ** something about me."So he talks about my vagina and said something then said "yeah man it looks like a highschool play curtain."So I laughed but then today I thought about it and im like hold on wtf what if he thinks that...so next thing I know im checking myself out in the mirror, because yeah I masturbate regularly but ive never looked at what I look like down there and never thought about it until now and the truth is I do have kinda biggish lips. Their not huge but their definately not little and not what u see in porn most of the time. So now im freaking out that my bf thinks this and maybe doesnt like it that much. And apparently if ur lips is on the bigger side it can show ur a slut....before my current bf id only ever slept with one guy twice. and im pretty sure my vagina aint changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): To abracadabra, its because the porn industry chooses girls with a certain look to be in their videos and pictures. This includes every feature from hair, breasts, vaginas, bodyweight etc etc etc... I am surprised you are not aware of this as most people find are aware and are disgusted!
There is no scientific link.. BUT men watch these videos and assume that it is the proper way for women to look and act in the bed. How many questions are on this site alone asking why their wife/girlfriend won't do certain sex acts? Its because men just want to act out what they've seen in the videos!
The OP wants to know what her boyfriend thinks, how can any of the posters here answer this if your not a young male/'silly boy'.
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reader, abracadabra  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Ok, the previous response makes no sense: if big labia mean a girl has had many partners, then why would porn stars, who sleep with hundreds of men, have small ones??So, right. Obviously there's no link between the size of your labia and your sexual history. It's genetic, just like every other part of your body.And don't settle for guys (actually we should call them boys) who think such silly things.
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reader, helperrrr  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Alot of the females are not responding correctly here. Men do think some 'silly' things, but thats just the way it is. Most guys I know (mid 20s), would all concur that a girl with big labias is "loose". Whether or not this is scientifically true is irrelevant, this is what guys at least in their 20s think. There's a reason its not very common in porn movies. Porn unfortunately plays a role in how guys including me believe sex should be like.
I've had sex with alot of women and could never bring myself to go down on one with a big lips. There's a surgery for it if you look it up. Honestly your boyfriend has noticed, and probably doesn't like it. But if he's still with you and loves you then who cares?
I hope you can appreciate that I'm giving an honest male answer.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Young boys say stupid things.. you can have sex with the whole world and it won't affect your labia. Next you'll start believing that all women are vampires because they bleed every month.Your young too... when you grow up a little you will learn never to listen to the stupid things that men and little boys say about sex.These children your talking to have probably only seen 2 or 3 women naked and probably know less about sex and life than you do.Sigh... young men are silly and know little about women's bodies or sex.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Not only is your B/f completely ignorant about the human body, he's what they call "a rare combination of upto something and good for nothing".
It amazes me that its just so, SO simple to demean a girl!!
Dump this loser. He thinks he's "all that" and he can talk about you in whatever way he likes and you'll just grin and take in. I mean, he wants to make up a lie about you in front of his friends...and then he talks about your vagina??!! It doesn't get more cheap than that! Just get rid of this worm and find some guy who treats you with respect.
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reader, hotttmess  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Wow, I tried to read this and not be judemental, but no girl deserves to be spoken to like that. Dump that clown , he is a moron and clearly needs to learn a little more about the female genitalia..
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I was going to try to write something insightful and then I see mishmash has said it all. Your bf doesn't have a clue about anatomy, or about being a decent bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): hey im the one who wrote this question....i must add that i had said somethin joking about him (his goatee) and he said he would say something about me too (but a lie) so i was like ok go ahead....he wouldnt normally say that kinda thing, i dont think...well if he does he doesnt say it to my face or when im around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): You are not a slut if you have big labias. Your boyfriend however has a big mouth and a total lack of respect for you if he says these things to you in front of his buddies. A big mouth like that is usually indicative of a loser.Dump him and find someone who treats you like a human being.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (6 April 2011):
 "..before my current bf id only ever slept with one guy twice. and im pretty sure my vagina aint changed."That answers your question. No big labia doesn't mean you're a slut, women who sleep around can have borderline no labia, and virgins can have huge labia.
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