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writes: I'm posting this on here because I cant't talk about this to my friends. I'm a 21 year old virgin. The trouble is, I don't feel like I act like one and feel I'm in danger of being percieved the wrong way. I drink too much, probably swear to much, get chatted up in clubs and can talk about sex. The problem is I don't feel like having sex and never have done. I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 years but we never had sex. I told him it was because of religious reason (I'm from a christian family) but it was just that I didn't want to. I recently met a guy who is quite experienced sexually and a lot older than me. We are in the early stages of our relationship. He doesn't know I'm a virgin. I'm fine with foreplay, it's just sex that makes me frigid and nervous. Is there something wrong with me?
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reader, Anja +, writes (28 April 2006):
 No there is nothing wrong...even non virgins can experience this.What was your up-bringing like? Did your parents talk openly about sex? How do you view sex within a relationship? My personal opinion is that it is something that should be shared between 2 people who love each other. Sounds like you have not met the right person. Does your current b/f turn you on...physically and mentally? As you seem to have no probs re the foreplay I'm guessing he does. I'm sure he won't mind in the slightest if you told him you are still a virgin. He would respect you by far, then he can just take things slow with you, only do it when you are ready. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): Is there an underlying surpressed sexuality preference?
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (28 April 2006):
No - if you don't feel like it that's fine.
Few questions:
* do you masterbate? if not, then you should think about how to feel saucy and sexy by yourself
* could you possibly be more interested in women than men? think about that as well
good luck
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