A
female
age
30-35,
Gwyneth
writes:I am a woman who primarily enjoys the company of women (e.g., I'm gay). However, I often find that I am not typically attracted to "gay" women. Usually, I am always into women who identify as "straight" or who have "bi-tendencies." It's difficult to have long-term relationships with these women, but maybe I don't really want those kinds of involvements. I don't know. I wish there were some way of meeting new women that didn't involve chat rooms or "gay" bars. Any ideas?
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (1 March 2007):
Join a lesbian social group which does not revolve around drinking or bars, like rambling, dancing (country and western, or ballroom dancing), or a book group, or a running or other sports group.
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reader, realm +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I think that your situation is typical for gay people. I find myself always enjoying the more manly type gay men than the straight out diva's. Just don't go finding yourself attracted to a true straight women as you will get hurt. As for finding women that don't do that whole chat thing or gay bars is what I would call luck and wait. I prefer not to meet my men in bars or chat sites too. I don't feel as comfortable not knowing the person or the fact that we are meeting in a bar which isn't any better either. The only other option would to find a lot of people to befriend. Get to know a lot of people as people know these people and those people know of even more people. That way when he get close to some one you could ask if they new someone that would be right for you. Or you could do my very lonely wait tactic. I wait for someone to hit on me at work(depressing). As most of the men that hit on me are old white dudes. Just get yourself a good network of people, they don't even have to be close friends it just matters that you met some people and could again cross paths with them. Best of luck.
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