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writes: I have recently passed my driving test! wooohooo! And have been out every day driving since I passed. Now my girlfriend thinks I'm really good at driving. I haven't been really far yet and have stayed local to get used to my new car.However she keeps going on about how her brother when he passes his test will go straight on the motorway without a care and how her dad went straight on the motorway. While that is good for them! I still don't know what she is trying to say. I have told her that I have only been passed a week and I don't feel ready to go on the motorway and drive to Bristol or wherever she wants to go. However she still goes on about her brother and how he will drive miles when he first passes. She doesn't even know that he will!. Is she trying to put me down in a way without meaning to?She also said I need to get used to talking and listening to music when I drive! Reply to this Question
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 tell her to go and pass her test and take you on the motorway. and i like wat dr psych said about dropping her off at the train station, ha thats a good one! but im glad that your not one of these drivers that will do anything just to show off, its shows your sensible and responsible. If your gf keeps harping on at you tell her shes going to be walking places from now on, because i sure as hell wouldnt put up with any nagging when i didnt feel comfortable. tell her shes annoying you, get the point across straight or shes never going to stop. glad your a responsible driver tho, we need more like you on the roads! hope this helps x
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 April 2007):
 You are a very responsible person and I am happy that you have the self-awareness to know you are a novice on the road. Driving on a motorway is a huge step and perhaps you should get one of those pass-plus courses under your belt before attempting that...it knocks your insurance down too! Your GF shouldn't pressure you into driving where you are not comfortable - drop her at the train station if she wants to go to Bristol! Or tell her that if she is such an expert on driving perhaps she should pass the test herself? Remember times are changing and when her Dad passed his test then the roads were less dangerous and far less congested...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): Tell her once you have built up a bit more confidence in your driving then you can both go a bit further a field but in the mean time tell her you need to get a bit more confidence and get use to driving on your own before you are willing to risk to do that.And also tell her if she wants to go Bristol that badly maybe she ask her dad or brother as they are such good drivers. ;)
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reader, cd206 +, writes (10 April 2007):
 I don't think she's putting you down, just making an observation. There's one quick and easy statement to get her off your back when she starts going on about what her brother will do that you won't. Say "Yes but I'm not your brother and if I was that would make this impossible" and then kiss her. Hopefully she should get it that you don't like being compared. And really if she wants to go to Bristol so much maybe she should concentrate on two things, either taking the train or learning to drive herself.
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