My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 13 June 2014: Hello Tom. I am glad that things have calmed down. Based on the way that your wife changes her mind so much, perhaps it would not be a good idea to agree to sell the house. You might have agreed, based on the renting together idea, only to fi... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 6 June 2014: Yes, show her where the money has been spent and ask for an apology. In a way I am pleased that you have become a bit more irritated yourself. I am sure if she had simply asked, you would have provided the answers. It was rather unforgivable. In ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 31 May 2014: Well how horrible and how deluded. The fact that she is paying the mortgage now, does not negate the fact that this has been a partnership. She can not simply kick you out or sell the house without your permission. However you get the advice, do ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: Tom, you can go to mediate or to a solicitor. Mediation first would be useful because it will describe both of your positions in an open, balanced way. Either way make sure you get advice and do not fall on your sword. Remember that you will have ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: You can't do anything that isn't part of divorce proceedings. Who will the children live with? You, she doesn't want the responsibility of them any more remember. In which case you get most of the money. How can you have a mortgage with so little ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 May 2014: Hi there. I am really chuffed that you enjoyed your trip and yes, it is really nice that you were all being thought of. Wonderful memories to share with your kids. The counsellor is probably just answering the needs expressed by your wife and ty... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 24 May 2014: Oh Tom, so sorry to hear your sadness. You are doing the right thing though. It may take a long time for her to come around. She has a lot to test out first. My husband tries to do a lot for me as well, to the point where it makes me feel in... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: Sorry I made you repeat some details, I'm afraid my attention to detail is a bit erratic for various good reasons. Please bear with me. After exchanging all of the words and ideas as we have, it does seem to come back to your original posting... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: As usual I do like CMMP's answer. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I see, she feels she is carrying you financially. So does she think you are being lazy then? Being honest, are you picking up the housework or is she doing that as well? Hope you don't mind me asking, but speaking personally, I know it can be a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Of course it is OK. You all need use of the French house to save money, so she will have to cooperate over dates. I suppose she isn't planning to hog it for the whole summer?! (Apologies for sounding miffed when I don't even know her). This situ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Good news about the phone. I would have thought there would be something there if that guy was making moves. Since she has been honest, perhaps there is just some peripheral flirting there and nothing more. Hope so.
There is a whole lot of diff... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I sent a fuller answer which doesn't seem to have been published. Anyway, your instinct has prickled you. It isn't the same as guessing or overthinking. It is a moment when a penny drops, or a block of cold lead falls into the stomach. Those ... (read in full...)
I gave my crush a note explaining my feelings and he created a big scene in front of our friends by reading it aloud and humiliating me
Q. hey, having a bit of an issue. so, i've been friends with a guy for ages now, and recently, i developed feelings for him. so, i gave him a note explaining my feelings, because i'm not good at talking about these things face to face. a few day...
A. 18 May 2014: What he did said more about him than you, without question. Those who heard him would not be impressed. He showed himself as a cruel bully. Nobody could think badly of you. You must wonder how you ever liked him. You could say to people, if you feel ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: CMMP's reply is very realistic, again. Whereas my instinct is to want to know and therefor investigate, his is to wait it out and simply tell her your expectations.
I don't envy you, how very painful and difficult this must be.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: This is your instinct speaking. Pay it some respect. The previous lies justify your feelings totally. Of course it all needs handling with care and you must not mention it at all if you want to carefully follow it up. Is this who she sees on ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fall in love with someone else while you're in a relationship?
Q. This is going to sound depressing but... Is it normal to fall in love with someone else when you're in a relationship? I see it happen ALL the time...Where one partner stops loving their partner and falls in love with another person. In fact,...
A. 17 May 2014: Staying together from very young is highly improbable. Most people want to try on a few coats before deciding which has the best fit. However, in answer to one idea proposed, men are not that fickle! Attractions to others will happen throughout ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me 4 years ago to travel then changed his mind. Now he's saying the same things again. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. I would really appreciate some advice because I'm not sure what to do here. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years in total. After 1 year together, just after he graduated from uni, he ended things because he wanted to go ...
A. 16 May 2014: I travelled when I was young and didn't have my son until I was 36. Life is for living, is my thought. Now that I am older and haven't been too well and faced my maker a couple of times this year, I am keen not to wait to do and see as much as I can ... (read in full...)
27 year old female and have never had a boyfriend....advice?
Q. I'm 27 year old female and have never had a boyfriend. I have had sex only once, when I was 22 with a friend who I trusted (so I knew i felt comfortable even though I only did it to "get it over with". I don't regret this but for the most part being ...
A. 16 May 2014: The counselling idea is a old one. There is something blocking you, probably something from your past. I would recommend CBT, because you will quickly uncover what causes this for you and get practical steps to change it and your thinking. In the UK ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend showers with his friend?
Q. My boyfriend was telling me about a drunken night the other weekend, and told me he ended up showering with his (guy) friend. Then he told me that he'd also showered with a different (guy) friend on a couple occasions. I was confused, and as...
A. 16 May 2014: You have a wide range of answers! I think it would be a good idea to just ask him because you are worried. Then decide what to do.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend showers with his friend?
Q. My boyfriend was telling me about a drunken night the other weekend, and told me he ended up showering with his (guy) friend. Then he told me that he'd also showered with a different (guy) friend on a couple occasions. I was confused, and as...
A. 16 May 2014: Why don't you ask him if he is trying to tell you something? I mean, does "showering together" equate to having had sexual contact. Most people would have a shower one after the other, unless they wanted to have physical contact. You could hardly ... (read in full...)
Wife said I could leave so she can take care of ailing mother.
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years and been together for 6. We are very happy and close and I couldn't ask for a better partner! Sometime before we met her mother was diagnosed with a rare cancer and given a very brief life expectancy, ...
A. 15 May 2014: I disagree with other posters here. She is, because she loves you, recognising that this event will place heavy demands on her and she is giving you the chance to consider yourself. She quite obviously is concerned for you. You need to think about ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 15 May 2014: Well done! I am so happy that you got your time away booked. Interesting that he got angry about you going to the cinema don't you think? I certainly do. Asking how you can afford/take the time is just her way of showing a slight miff. She will ... (read in full...)
Why does he choose to not invite me to functions where the Gfs and wives are invited? I am feeling excluded.
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little left out and rejected. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over four years. We got together at 17 and have been together since. We have a really good relationship together and normally I find we can t...
A. 13 May 2014: I firmly believe that the other posts are highly reactive. He has been stupid and a bit slow on this to say the least but that is all. There is no evidence of anything else. I strongly suggest that you go, enjoy meeting the other girls and take your ... (read in full...)
I love him but I can't stand his father
Q. Hi! Not really sure were this is going but i need some 'outsiders' advice. I have been with my partner since i was 17, he proposed to me on my 21st birthday and have been engaged for little under a year. He totally swept me off my feet, words ca...
A. 13 May 2014: So nobody is perfect. People live their lives and some do wrong. Perhaps you don't understand his father, the time he was born in, or the circumstances of his life. What I do think, is that he must have fine qualities as well, to have won the love ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 12 May 2014: Not wanting you to see her naked is not odd seeing as she wants to separate.... not sure why you think it is? Mind, sleeping in bed together still is, so combined rather a bag of mixed messages. Her shopping list is child like. Aspirational ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is moving in - how do we work out finances?
Q. My boyfriend of five years will be moving in to my home soon. I am excited but also a little anxious. He would prefer i sell my home, or rent it out and get a place together. I have a mortgage which i manage on my own and can't afford to rent it out ...
A. 11 May 2014: Come to think of it, go and have a chat with Citizen's Advice. Just to make sure.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is moving in - how do we work out finances?
Q. My boyfriend of five years will be moving in to my home soon. I am excited but also a little anxious. He would prefer i sell my home, or rent it out and get a place together. I have a mortgage which i manage on my own and can't afford to rent it out ...
A. 11 May 2014: I should have said. Keep your separate bank accounts but have a joint one for the part of his rent that you save.
As an aside, you could quite reasonably ask for rent, I agree with that. The important thing to do is make sure that he doesn't try ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is moving in - how do we work out finances?
Q. My boyfriend of five years will be moving in to my home soon. I am excited but also a little anxious. He would prefer i sell my home, or rent it out and get a place together. I have a mortgage which i manage on my own and can't afford to rent it out ...
A. 11 May 2014: Do not put his name on the mortgage. Not sure why Chigirl suggested this as you would be giving away half your equity. Work out what half of the utilities costs and a rough shopping bill. Half that for him. Buy your dog food and personal items such ... (read in full...)
How do I comfort my grieving boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend just lost his father to cancer (with whom he had a strained relationship) and his way of dealing with it is ignoring his feelings and brushing off the topic. I see that he is shutting himself down emotionally - he's short tempered w...
A. 11 May 2014: Do as he says, you have said enough. To him if you keep probing it feels like an intrusion. It is just the way he is and no insult to you. If they had a bad relationship he is coming to terms with that and a whole mix of feelings. One will be anger. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: PPS I really like CMMP's answer. Shame one of you can't do VSO or something. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an amazing dad to three kids!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some help. I'm a 26 year old woman who has recently just become serious with my boyfriend of 6 months. He's 35 and has 3 children from a previous relationship (aged 9, 5 and 3) although he hasn't been with their Mum since hi...
A. 11 May 2014: Leave discipline to their Dad. Use humour to win them around but since their parents have already been strong for the kids, don't do each other down etc. As things are well settled I don't think you have too much to worry about. If possible invite ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: If you are both truly stuck, stay pleasant but start living your life and as some of the others say, give her a load of space. Be friendly but not a loving husband, not intimate. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: With hindsight do you think sticking to your concert plan would have been best? I suspect maybe. I also think her explosion was about feeling cross with herself for caving in. Then cross with you. Old habits and comforts die hard!
I suspect you ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with leaving?
Q. Married for 7 years with a 5 years old kid,My problem is my husband shares everything with his family. I dont have any privacy at home . I I am a private person and he knows it. We have talked many times regarding this issue, last night I found ou...
A. 10 May 2014: I know how you feel. My marriage is a bit like that too and it drives me mad. Marriages have parts to them that are private. Confidentiality is a part of trust. Some things must remain personal and it is really important to put a husband or wife ... (read in full...)
How important is the look of "it"?
Q. Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...
A. 10 May 2014: The fact that you compare yourself is so sad. Stop! Sex is supposed to be about love. Porn versions of vaginas seem uniform for the mass market, like BigMacs. Much better to consider your body unique, a gourmet delight for love, according to your ... (read in full...)
My guy tries to make me jealous and bullies me too. How do others handle a situation like this?
Q. My husband is a bully and has deliberately been trying to make me feel jealous of him, but that has just put me right off him. I cringe when he comes near me now. If someone tries to make me jealous to pay them more attention it has the opposite...
A. 10 May 2014: Of course, everyone is. Whoever told him how to keep his wife, lied. He will lose you if he doesn't stop. Who wants to get close to a person that seems to want to put them down, make them unsure or unhappy? I suppose he needs to be told, but often ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because of anxiety, but doesn't want to give me details
Q. Hi, I am was dating a girl who I got on really well. One day she called it off. Not in the usual way, it sounded quite strange. Anyway, she has kept in touch with me for quite a while now. She sounds like she wants to date again. When I asked ...
A. 10 May 2014: It could be anxiety attacks or something like. It takes a lot of guts to talk about it. It is common. Does not look to as though she is not interested. I think she is. Just afraid of being rejected because of it. Bless her. She does need to tell ... (read in full...)
He acts like a child when he wants to go see his family and when he's with them! I feel like I want to start afresh!
Q. I have been with my partner for 4 years. when we first met he moved over to the area i was from after meeting on a works holiday. he was happy and seemed to want to spend all time together and put his past behind him (for the first 2 years). Now he ...
A. 9 May 2014: I have something like this myself in my life. My husband is always referring back to his family, can't seem to make decisions without them etc. His sister's opinion comes before mine quite a lot. My husband starts larking about repeating all the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accused me of dating the phone repairman!
Q. I'm female of 23plus and my guy is 29yearsplus we've been dating getting to 3months which l love so much but sometimes i still wonder if he loves me as a result what happen of recent, this how it happen two weeks ago when an enginner who repairs ...
A. 9 May 2014: He is looking for a reason to finish with you, because there is no reason he is making one up.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to handle this family situation!
Q. My husband's daughter from his first marriage is having a baptism for their baby. The relationship between the daughter and my husband is limited in that she never remembers his birthday, father's day or Christmas. She does not return phone calls ...
A. 9 May 2014: Is there any reason that things will be tense with your husband's ex? Could you suggest meeting for coffee to break the ice before this family event? The daughter seems to have been quite vague with everyone. However he is being calm and even handed ... (read in full...)
I'm still undecided about my career path!
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I have always found the aunts and uncles advice so helpful so I thought I would ask. How do you decide which career path to take? I am currently four years into a law degree and will graduate this summer. Alo...
A. 7 May 2014: Work the career for a limited time, enough to save what you need to have no Mortgage, or just a small one. Can you work part time or work independently from home in a related aspect of law? There must be specialist equine services that you could ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Sounds as though you are doing really well. I know what you mean about the Christian angle to that book. I admit I used it myself, but I had to overlook the religious side and filtered the common sense bits. I liked the way it invited a person to ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating, texting her, wanting her back?
Q. I have been in a relationship for going on 6 months. After falling madly for each other I thought that we were doing great. He was attentive, we rarely had harsh words and he ended up moving into my apartment with me. Just last month I noticed that ...
A. 7 May 2014: Yes, everyone is right. He is trying to get back with her. He is putting her above you that shows the pecking order here. I know how much it hurts but he needs to be sent on his way while you consider the relationship. Do this calmly, he will be ... (read in full...)
My family is just a source of stress
Q. Hi All, I'm a 24 year old female living 600 miles away from my family. I don't have a great relationship with my family, especially my dad. He shows his love my providing financial but is incapable of any emotional affection. I have been through ...
A. 7 May 2014: Ask your Mum or a sibling to come and see YOU. Have them stay for a night. Don't discuss anything heavy. Let that one family member live in your world, chat to you, see how you live and meet your partner. Let them go home and see what happens next. ... (read in full...)
In an LDR for 3 years, we rarely see each other, and have had sex 3 times! She says she loves me but I'm not sure she wants to be with me. What should I do?
Q. Hello.I am a 31 year old guy and I have been in a relationship with a younger woman for the past 3 years.We live around 100 miles from one another but have kept things going but I rarely ever see her and in those 3 years she has come up to see me ...
A. 7 May 2014: I think her mother would like her to settle with you but the girl is playing a double life. Blocking you from Facebook is really nasty, especially as it would be an ideal way to be in touch. The story about how her pants came down is unbelievable. ... (read in full...)
My ex's mum messaged me and I'm not sure if or how I should respond!
Q. Today my ex's mother has facebook messaged me. It is the first time I have heard from her, and I was relatively close to his family, so am not sure whether to respond or how. The message was nice, she was sorry to hear about us breaking up, she ...
A. 7 May 2014: Just respond nicely, say you were sorry that it was difficult, but you are certain that the right decision was made for you.
Say it would not be comfortable to keep in touch quite as before, but thank her for saying hello as it means you can be c... (read in full...)
If he takes you to meet his family is he serious about you?
Q. Dear cupid,when a guy lets you meet his family is he serious about you? Is this guy serious about me or is he a player? we are both 23.When I first met him he was very sweet and said he hasn't been in a relationship since he was 17 and he has just ...
A. 7 May 2014: Ask him soon, when you feel comfortable, whether you should both consider your selves exclusive to each other. It isn't just his decision. Certainly before sex. The signs are all good as far as I can see. How nice!... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Not that I think you will need those other ladies, I hope you save your marriage.... (read in full...)
It's obvious there is something 'off' about my new neighbor, how do I deal with it?
Q. I think there is something wrong with my new neighbor . He is in his late 50s, has a very sweet wife, grown children and an 8 years old granddaughter. We live in our house for 3 years, and mostly young families with small kids. They just moved in a ...
A. 7 May 2014: "You are making yourself look ridiculous. Leave me alone".
The ladies will need to come up with a joint approach if it continues and upsets you all.
You could keep out of his way. I think that would be best. He is probably a harmless dirty ol... (read in full...)
How's a nice way to ask her ex in laws to get to know me so they can see I'm not a monster and how does everyone else deal with the ex dad?
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship with a girl that is going through a divorce and a mother of two kids. Her ex is an ass and that's being nice to the guy, he cheated on her,was emotionally and verbally abusive to her and really broke her down. She is trying ...
A. 7 May 2014: Because the father seems the abusive kind be wary of his parents. I would be kind and polite but not go out of my way just yet. It might be a good idea to broker a deal with him that you and he will not bad mouth him or anyone in his family if he ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: I do think walking from the room is the correct idea because it shows that there are consequences for talking to you as she has. Not nasty, but your feelings are affected. The thing I do not understand is how she will take her independence and above ... (read in full...)
Was I right to conclude that he isn't over his ex?
Q. I am so confused. I met a guy I used to date 25 years ago on facebook, we fell immediately back in love. He is separated and from what both he and his family tells me, his soon to be ex is a horrible person. I have witness first hand. She texts ...
A. 6 May 2014: You did the right thing. If he ever is free in head and heart I am sure you might consider a future with him. At the moment he is not. I know, because I lived the exact same circumstances except it was 30 years later. We are till together but only ... (read in full...)
I feel like it's tarnished the beginning of our relationship and don't know if I can get past that.
Q. I started seeing a guy 5 months ago. At the beginning we weren't serious and he took some time out when he had a few problems with his daughter. Things are now good between us but the trouble is I have suspicions he slept with 1, maybe 2 people when ...
A. 6 May 2014: The reason you would feel betrayed is because (I presume) that he specifically asked for time out to help his daughter. So, if he slept with other women of course you would feel like that. It would have been a lie. If you are right. He could ha... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 2 May 2014: Just going out on Wednesdays is not much of a sign. I am sorry if I introduced the idea. I have been cheated on obadly in the past which probably caused me to refer to it. Not now thankfully. In the past I would have been checking things. I try not ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 April 2014: It would do you no harm to start looking outside the home for some activities. You might insider going on a short break by yourself, doing activity that you always wanted to do. It might be a wrench but it would be healthy. For you, it would be a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: I can never be sure whether my responses go due to our awful internet access. Hence repetition. Apologies! ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: As the main breadwinner she would have to pay the montage if you stayed to look after the kids. Do not fall on your sword, she is taking you for granted. See a professional and find out. Start to protect your position and do not be a yes man. She ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: She may have to continue paying the montage if you stay and look after the kids. That is why you need advice. She is the main wage earner, so is in the position that men usually are. Please do not fall on your sword. She needs to understand the ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 27 April 2014: Get yourself someone 10years younger? Pity's sake CMMP! I can see you love her. Real love can be hard to find. It involves comparability, not just age, or hair colour or anything else. You also have a shared history, which creates a very strong ... (read in full...)
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