I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 20 June 2014: It would be nice o know what happened after you had our advice.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 13 June 2014: Hello Tom. I am glad that things have calmed down. Based on the way that your wife changes her mind so much, perhaps it would not be a good idea to agree to sell the house. You might have agreed, based on the renting together idea, only to fi... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 6 June 2014: Yes, show her where the money has been spent and ask for an apology. In a way I am pleased that you have become a bit more irritated yourself. I am sure if she had simply asked, you would have provided the answers. It was rather unforgivable. In ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 31 May 2014: Well how horrible and how deluded. The fact that she is paying the mortgage now, does not negate the fact that this has been a partnership. She can not simply kick you out or sell the house without your permission. However you get the advice, do ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: Tom, you can go to mediate or to a solicitor. Mediation first would be useful because it will describe both of your positions in an open, balanced way. Either way make sure you get advice and do not fall on your sword. Remember that you will have ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: You can't do anything that isn't part of divorce proceedings. Who will the children live with? You, she doesn't want the responsibility of them any more remember. In which case you get most of the money. How can you have a mortgage with so little ... (read in full...)
My LDR can see prettier women in porn, so why bother taking it to the next level?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and we have not yet been sexual in person . Next time we meet we will take it to the next level but in the meantime we enjoy that online but I'm worried about how I can possibly keep my bf interested when he ...
A. 29 May 2014: If he understands how much it hurts you he will give it up. All relationships are give and take. If I had a habit that made my husband very unhappy I would stop. A myth has developed in society, of entitlement. A woman dare not ask a man to give up ... (read in full...)
How can I have a conversation with him about this without being arrested for a domestic dispute?
Q. After 25 years of marriage I have come to realize my husband is a liar...about big and small things. I do not trust him at all, and I find it difficult to believe anything he tells me, even if it's about the weather!! I want to confront him abo...
A. 29 May 2014: In order to stay in this relationship you would need to bow to his way of living and accept that he is not being truthful. Most women could not live in your situation, but some are too afraid of unsettling their lives, so decide not to notice. Until ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 May 2014: Hi there. I am really chuffed that you enjoyed your trip and yes, it is really nice that you were all being thought of. Wonderful memories to share with your kids. The counsellor is probably just answering the needs expressed by your wife and ty... (read in full...)
Given the circumstances why wont he give me a key?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about two and a half years. He is 35 and I am 27. He has been married before, I have not. I am at his place often, probably about 5 or 6 nights a week. I do not have a key, so if he has to work before me he will ...
A. 26 May 2014: It is because it takes things a step closer to living together and he has not got to that point. The key is symbolic. But why would he bother anyway, when this way he sees you almost as much as he would if you lived together but still keeps his free... (read in full...)
New workplace for me. Guy there is married, attractive and older. What's my next move?
Q. hi.theres this man whos pretty elder to me but is ravishingly handsome,at my workplace. i just started working there 2 weeks ago and he makes frequent eye contacts and shows many other signs of attraction.it makes me feel really awkard to gaze back ...
A. 25 May 2014: Your next move, is no move. He is married.... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Actually I did mention forgiveness. However I don't think it is possible to think that far ahead. You can't know what you will do until the truth is there. Then, if he does confess what would you make of his silly friends and the forthcoming ... (read in full...)
My parents hate my boyfriend and I can't see him! Help!
Q. My parents hate my boyfriend Ok so I have been with my boyfriend 8 months now and we are in a happy, comfortable relationship, I love him to pieces and his family are lovely people however my parents hate him here are some bulletpoint reas...
A. 24 May 2014: WiseOwl is right that you can't be advised to go against the wishes of your parents. You will have to negotiate with them and work on it in your own way. Fingers crossed for you.... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Not over thinking, perhaps trying to explain away,avoid or go into denial. All understandable. It's as obvious as the nose on your face. Not only that your instincts are telling you it is true by making you feel you don't want him to touch you. ... (read in full...)
My parents hate my boyfriend and I can't see him! Help!
Q. My parents hate my boyfriend Ok so I have been with my boyfriend 8 months now and we are in a happy, comfortable relationship, I love him to pieces and his family are lovely people however my parents hate him here are some bulletpoint reas...
A. 24 May 2014: My parents did the same to me. Eventually I married him, 30 years after they split us up. We couldn't have children as we were too old. They wasted my real chance of happiness. We married others and had children but not together, though obviously I ... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: The reason the wrapper is in his pocket is because he was too drunk to be careful about it. Nobody planted it there, they would all have been too drunk to plan such meticulous sneakery.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 24 May 2014: Oh Tom, so sorry to hear your sadness. You are doing the right thing though. It may take a long time for her to come around. She has a lot to test out first. My husband tries to do a lot for me as well, to the point where it makes me feel in... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Stag nights are occasions when anything can happen and from what you found I would say it did. You need the truth and you must talk to him. The fact that he showered makes me think that he felt dirty, possibly. Despite the best intentions, naked ... (read in full...)
My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?
Q. A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...
A. 24 May 2014: She does not understand how ill you were, or could not cope. Some old people get treated like that just because they are old. Maybe other friends of hers have been dramatic, so she decided you were being a drama queen. Maybe she thought someone in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too truthful!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. We both Graduated from college; where I met him. He's trying to start up his legal justice career and I'm on the same path for child and youth studies. We've lived together for about a year ...
A. 23 May 2014: Are you a bit bored? I only ask because the things you mention seem like frustration more than big problems. Maybe life is not very interesting and you need something to look forward to, with or without him. You don't say that you love him either, ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: Sorry I made you repeat some details, I'm afraid my attention to detail is a bit erratic for various good reasons. Please bear with me. After exchanging all of the words and ideas as we have, it does seem to come back to your original posting... (read in full...)
What's a subtle way of saying "I miss you", without sounding too needy?
Q. About 2 months ago, I was dating someone who I really felt a connection with and was falling for him (this rarely happens) and he felt the same way too. However because he came out of a long term relationship at the end of last year, he told me...
A. 22 May 2014: I approach these things from an angle of humour. Which may not be your thing, but:
Send him an envelope in which there is a stamped, addressed postcard with your address. In the note, inside the envelope say something like: "I haven't quite forg... (read in full...)
Insecure for over 10 years because of wife's exes, am I being a fool?
Q. When my wife and I met she insisted on carrying on seeing (non sexually I've always assumed) her exes. She took me out for dinner with one guy, only to tell me a week later she'd kissed him and let him finger her, she had another guy round for the ...
A. 22 May 2014: So sorry, this defies an expression of how sh-t one person can be to another. She is in love with herself only. The trouble is she has you where she wants you and you are used to being there. So, the question is, do you have enough left to tell her ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: As usual I do like CMMP's answer. ... (read in full...)
My ex might want contact with his son
Q. I may be over reacting and thinking of the worst possible case but I was recently told my ex has been speaking to someone about gaining access to our son, and although he never has in the five years since I gave birth, I have also never heard any ...
A. 22 May 2014: Don't be alarmed by what I put here before reading to the end. I tend to err on the sides of Dad's who get denied the chance of knowing their kids. I see you have good reason for concern, but I can say that even if he is a rat, there is still good ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what I've been doing wrong in all my relationships with men, they never want to define the relationship with and never wanna move forward.
Q. Today the guy im seeing and I decided to go our separate ways. We had been seeing each other 6 months and I decided to ask the defining questions "when do you wanna meet my friends, come for a drink Saturday";"my mother really wants to meet you, how ...
A. 22 May 2014: You are too young to worry about it being any sort of failure. When I was young my boyfriends enjoyed meeting my parents. It didn't mean we were getting married. I do think "defining the relationship" sounds a bit formal, we always thought it was ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested! How do I let him down?
Q. What should I do about this guy? I'm so upset:( So my older friend says I'm a good decent girl and very pretty so she gave my number to her husbands nephew and he's been calling me since. We've talked and I found out that he's a 31 year ...
A. 21 May 2014: The person who gave your number should get you out of this. How dare they! Telephone numbers are private. Or, say you have a boyfriend. This is way too heavy for you. Or, leave your phone off for a week. Get rid and don't feel bad. ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested! How do I let him down?
Q. What should I do about this guy? I'm so upset:( So my older friend says I'm a good decent girl and very pretty so she gave my number to her husbands nephew and he's been calling me since. We've talked and I found out that he's a 31 year ...
A. 21 May 2014: It is too much. It sounds heavy already. Scary to hear his views on sex when you haven't even met. Be kind but say you are not into making any kind of relationship yet. You are too young!... (read in full...)
Why is my mother so cruel?
Q. Having just turned 21, I'm still having trouble with my mom. We can never have a mother daughter conversation Whenever she calls me she says I'm a big burden in her life and when she doesn't want me, I'm a waste of money and time. I'm currently ...
A. 21 May 2014: However she is being it does not reflect on you, it is because she is frustrated and disappointed with her own life. I think all of the things she says, she really feels about herself.
I think you could say, "Mum, your words hurt me and I don't unde... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I see, she feels she is carrying you financially. So does she think you are being lazy then? Being honest, are you picking up the housework or is she doing that as well? Hope you don't mind me asking, but speaking personally, I know it can be a ... (read in full...)
Is he pushing too soon to have a relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid Member I have a question? Do you think a guy is pushing a relationship with you too soon if after exchanging emails and just talking once on the Phone he already told me that He wants to be my Boyfriend? I met him online in one of...
A. 20 May 2014: The abusive man that my friend married had his own business and a nice family. His ex wife still wanted him back. Even if he isn't a full on creep, those relationships that skyrocket fizz to nothing fast. My impression is he does not have enough to ... (read in full...)
Is he pushing too soon to have a relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid Member I have a question? Do you think a guy is pushing a relationship with you too soon if after exchanging emails and just talking once on the Phone he already told me that He wants to be my Boyfriend? I met him online in one of...
A. 20 May 2014: Be very wary indeed. A girlfriend of mine ended up marrying, then having to escape a seriously abusive man like that. They go over the top too fast and women who want to be loved fall for it. You smell a rat, which means you are not like that. Think ... (read in full...)
I found porn on girlfriends phone about men with big penis. Should I be worried?
Q. So me and my girlfriend been sexually active and I am actually below average size but my girlfriend says she is fine with it and that she is satisfied. Recently I checked her phone just to go on the internet and on her history it said "big black ...
A. 20 May 2014: I know that size matters to men, much more than it matters to women. I told my husband that my ex husband was huge, which he was, because I didn't like it. He could not bear it, he was floored! That was 10 years ago and he still mentions it.
N... (read in full...)
Who pays when the guys invite the girls?
Q. We went out with 2 guys yesterday, my friend and I. The whole discussion with her started after I noticed ( I think) that when It was time to pay, the guys were kind of hesitant ( may be I am mistaken). I was ready to offer to pay for my drinks, ...
A. 20 May 2014: Now you know, men should pay or drinks if they hope for sex. So don't let them pay for sex with you! Aaarrrrgghh. How horrible that sounds. Now I should put LOL. I think.
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No contact for three weeks and now we're going to meet -- is this a good idea?
Q. My ex and I broke up last month and we have been in no contact for three weeks. He broke up with me saying we are not compatible. I took it pretty bad because it came out of nowhere for me. I did all the things i wasnt supposed to lol as in texting ...
A. 19 May 2014: There is no particular worry if you go or not. You say you are getting over him and I believe this to be true. He would have to make big efforts to make things up to you and I doubt he will try. He may just try to lot back where you left off. I do ... (read in full...)
Who pays when the guys invite the girls?
Q. We went out with 2 guys yesterday, my friend and I. The whole discussion with her started after I noticed ( I think) that when It was time to pay, the guys were kind of hesitant ( may be I am mistaken). I was ready to offer to pay for my drinks, ...
A. 19 May 2014: Yes I do. It isn't right for men to pay for girls unless there is an arrangement for the girls pay next time. It is unfortunate that it was so expensive, but I would offer something.
I am quite surprised, because I am really old, but even when I da... (read in full...)
He told me to text him but he didn't say he liked me?
Q. So today, I confessed to the guy I like that I like him. He's anti-social and shy so I wasn't expecting much, but we talked for two whole hours and he was really nice. He didn't make it awkward. When I would flirt with him, he would blush, smile, ...
A. 19 May 2014: Don't get tied in knots. He asked you to text him. Guys get nervous too you know. Perhaps he wanted you to have space to change your mind. He invited you, so that's fine isn't it? There is no problem here. He may be shy, the fact that he asked you ... (read in full...)
Why do guys wait so long before texting girls back?
Q. I've been dating a guy I really like for a couple months. I genuinely feel that he really likes me and cares for me. He treats me right when we are together and I feel very close to him. Always after a date, the next day he will text me a lot. He ...
A. 19 May 2014: Texting, what a nightmare. I would go by how he treats you in real life, not his texting record. After seeing you he starts his usual routine, gets on with his life and is not a slave to the telephone. Good on him. Women communicate in a differen... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Of course it is OK. You all need use of the French house to save money, so she will have to cooperate over dates. I suppose she isn't planning to hog it for the whole summer?! (Apologies for sounding miffed when I don't even know her). This situ... (read in full...)
My wife gave her phone number to a former lover and says I am over reacting!
Q. Through the wonders of Facebook my wife was contacted by one of her former lovers. I don't know why but she gave him her cell phone number and he started calling her. I discovered one of these voicemail messages when she asked me to check somethin...
A. 19 May 2014: My ex just made friends with me on Facebook. There was a brief flurry of contact while we caught up with life since the day. Then that was it. I don't anticipate being in touch directly. I told my husband, he doesn't mind. I don't plan on meeting up ... (read in full...)
Should I just let him go?
Q. Hello Agony Aunters, I have a little story...7 years ago I met and had a brief relationship with a guy, who is 5 years older than I am. He works in the emergency services, although I didnt know this when I first met him, I liked him from the mome...
A. 19 May 2014: Hi there. The chap is completely unreliable and even though seeing him has been pleasant and also helpful, that is not going to change. He likely has lots of lady friends and it looks to me as though he is enjoying being single. The silence is a ... (read in full...)
My friend told me she can't throw my baby shower and I'm scrambling for ideas! Help?
Q. in desperate need of some ideas my "friend" was all set for throwing me a baby shower, which I was very very excited about. I asked for it to be held in my house so I didn't have to bother about traveling anywere whilst tired afterwards, which I ...
A. 19 May 2014: If you want to provide some sort of alcoholic drink you will need to spend something. I believe Pimms is on offer at Morrison at the moment for £10 a bottle. You would need bottles of lemonade, ice, fruit chopped, cucumber and again a few mint ... (read in full...)
My friend told me she can't throw my baby shower and I'm scrambling for ideas! Help?
Q. in desperate need of some ideas my "friend" was all set for throwing me a baby shower, which I was very very excited about. I asked for it to be held in my house so I didn't have to bother about traveling anywere whilst tired afterwards, which I ...
A. 19 May 2014: Well, you could cancel, people would understand you know. Can the person who said she would hold this at least offer some help or a donation towards it? My suggestions are, if you want to go ahead: make homemade lemonade using squeezed fresh lemons, ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Good news about the phone. I would have thought there would be something there if that guy was making moves. Since she has been honest, perhaps there is just some peripheral flirting there and nothing more. Hope so.
There is a whole lot of diff... (read in full...)
Found out I was pregnant after we broke up
Q. I have a lot to deal with right now. Some days I'm fine just going about my day, then everything comes back to me and i feel overwhelmed and depressed again. I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my ex's baby. We broke up before i even knew i was pregnant. I...
A. 18 May 2014: I stress to you that you must stop being down on yourself. This is life and life is messy. Some people feel free to cast stones despite what the bible says. Ignore them. You do need to tell your family and let him know as well. Just because you have ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I sent a fuller answer which doesn't seem to have been published. Anyway, your instinct has prickled you. It isn't the same as guessing or overthinking. It is a moment when a penny drops, or a block of cold lead falls into the stomach. Those ... (read in full...)
I gave my crush a note explaining my feelings and he created a big scene in front of our friends by reading it aloud and humiliating me
Q. hey, having a bit of an issue. so, i've been friends with a guy for ages now, and recently, i developed feelings for him. so, i gave him a note explaining my feelings, because i'm not good at talking about these things face to face. a few day...
A. 18 May 2014: What he did said more about him than you, without question. Those who heard him would not be impressed. He showed himself as a cruel bully. Nobody could think badly of you. You must wonder how you ever liked him. You could say to people, if you feel ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: CMMP's reply is very realistic, again. Whereas my instinct is to want to know and therefor investigate, his is to wait it out and simply tell her your expectations.
I don't envy you, how very painful and difficult this must be.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: This is your instinct speaking. Pay it some respect. The previous lies justify your feelings totally. Of course it all needs handling with care and you must not mention it at all if you want to carefully follow it up. Is this who she sees on ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 15 May 2014: Well done! I am so happy that you got your time away booked. Interesting that he got angry about you going to the cinema don't you think? I certainly do. Asking how you can afford/take the time is just her way of showing a slight miff. She will ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 12 May 2014: Not wanting you to see her naked is not odd seeing as she wants to separate.... not sure why you think it is? Mind, sleeping in bed together still is, so combined rather a bag of mixed messages. Her shopping list is child like. Aspirational ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: PPS I really like CMMP's answer. Shame one of you can't do VSO or something. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: If you are both truly stuck, stay pleasant but start living your life and as some of the others say, give her a load of space. Be friendly but not a loving husband, not intimate. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: With hindsight do you think sticking to your concert plan would have been best? I suspect maybe. I also think her explosion was about feeling cross with herself for caving in. Then cross with you. Old habits and comforts die hard!
I suspect you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Sounds as though you are doing really well. I know what you mean about the Christian angle to that book. I admit I used it myself, but I had to overlook the religious side and filtered the common sense bits. I liked the way it invited a person to ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Not that I think you will need those other ladies, I hope you save your marriage.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: I do think walking from the room is the correct idea because it shows that there are consequences for talking to you as she has. Not nasty, but your feelings are affected. The thing I do not understand is how she will take her independence and above ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 2 May 2014: Just going out on Wednesdays is not much of a sign. I am sorry if I introduced the idea. I have been cheated on obadly in the past which probably caused me to refer to it. Not now thankfully. In the past I would have been checking things. I try not ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 April 2014: It would do you no harm to start looking outside the home for some activities. You might insider going on a short break by yourself, doing activity that you always wanted to do. It might be a wrench but it would be healthy. For you, it would be a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: I can never be sure whether my responses go due to our awful internet access. Hence repetition. Apologies! ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: As the main breadwinner she would have to pay the montage if you stayed to look after the kids. Do not fall on your sword, she is taking you for granted. See a professional and find out. Start to protect your position and do not be a yes man. She ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: She may have to continue paying the montage if you stay and look after the kids. That is why you need advice. She is the main wage earner, so is in the position that men usually are. Please do not fall on your sword. She needs to understand the ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 27 April 2014: Get yourself someone 10years younger? Pity's sake CMMP! I can see you love her. Real love can be hard to find. It involves comparability, not just age, or hair colour or anything else. You also have a shared history, which creates a very strong ... (read in full...)
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