My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 12 June 2014: Cattycakes - things have calmed down in the last few days. She still thinks I live a double life even after telling her where they money had gone. She thinks I have hundreds if not thousands in my Paypal account. She told me from now on I'm to show ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 6 June 2014: Cattycakes - No, the children know nothing and won't know anything until we decide 100% to separate. My eldest has exams at the moment. My wife asked the other day what the situation was. I answered and said if she was intent on separation that we'd ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 31 May 2014: Cattycakes - What she said to begin with was that she didn't want to think of others any longer and she wanted to put herself first. Mainly I think now that the 'others' was me. She changes her mind about things every day.She has since stated that ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 May 2014: Cattycakes - I mentioned before that every day when my wife comes home from work I expect the worse.I never know what she's going to say next. Most times it's just a 'normal' chat over a cup of coffee. But today was one of those chats I was ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 27 May 2014: Cattycakes - I'm glad to say the weekend went well. The kids and I had a great time and they both loved our little trip. I wasn't going to contact my wife at all during the weekend but as we were driving to our destination she texted to ask when we ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 24 May 2014: The evening at the concert went well - tho' a few songs did bring a tear to my eyes.But I took your advice and sat there with her as if I was out with a friend rather than the wife I've loved for so long.
Maybe the hardest thing to accept is that... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: Yes I do think she feels she is carrying me financially. But that is now - in the last few years. I'd say out of our 28yr marriage for about 18yrs I was earning more than her.Last year we earned roughly the same but the few years prior to last year ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: Cattycakes - I think that one of the main reasons - if not the main reason -for my wife wanting to separate is due to the fact that I am not earning enough. She was not happy this week when A) I had to pay for dental treatment. She didn't understand ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Cattycakes - my concern at the moment is that she says one thing one week then changes her mind the next.I mentioned the concert we intend attending this week. I asked her two weeks ago what her intention was and her answer was "As we're still ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: Cattycakes....yes, this guy has been a kind of Camilla Parker Bowles in our relationship. One lovely thing about my wife was that she was ALWAYS honest and would tell me everything. It was she that told me one evening when I was away working the guy ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: Cattycakes...we both went to a 'gig' last night in our local pub. All was well until a guy from my wife's work turned up. He's been in our lives for years - married guy with kids himself - but it's obvious he's always fancied my wife. He always ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 14 May 2014: Cattycakes....once again I have taken your advice and booked a short break for just me and the kids.The kids are quite excited about it. Although my wife is kind of happy I'm 'doing' something with the kids she keeps asking questions like ' how can ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: Cattycakes - yes so do I. Thank you CMMP. This weekend has been a strange one. She has been ratty on occasions and other times has been fine.Out of the blue last night - while watching TV - she said it was 'that time of the month'for her. Was this a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 10 May 2014: Cattycakes - the situation has changed a little since last time. We have been told that as we have missed one mortgage payment last month - we have to wait for 12 months before either of us would be able to get another mortgage. This means that ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Cattycakes - that was me earlier...out and about and it did not register that the message was from me! Cattycakes - once again I must thank you for getting back to me. I took your advice re the book - but alas couldn't get past the first few pa... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Cattycakes - once again I must thank you for getting back to me. I took your advice re the book - but alas couldnt get past the first few pages as it harps on about Christianity. As an atheist this means nothing to me. People are people - it doesn't ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 4 May 2014: Cattycakes - No you didn't introduce the idea. But I have talked about the 'separation' with her today. But she got angry when I asked her to explain exactly what was her reasoning. Again the main reason is she wants to put herself first and not me ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 1 May 2014: Cattycakes - once again I appreciate your advice. Once my finances are in order I have thought about going away for the weekend.But at the moment we have to tighten out belts a little and I feel guilty about this as most of my wife's earnings goes ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: Thanks Cattycakes. I appreciate your advice. She knows that my money situation is not good at the moment. Last year was a very good year for me work wise - but as all people who are self -employed know things can change quickly. She has mellowed a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: Thanks llifton for your answer. I have read in articles and books and have been told by friends that the death of a close relative triggers something in ones head to think of life as a whole. This happened to me when I lost my mother. My wife had ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 27 April 2014: The whole situation is more complicated than in my first statement. I have loved my wife since we met at 18yrs of age. We are now both in our 50's. One main reason for her wanting to seperate is as I noted - after the death of her sibling she has ... (read in full...)
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