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writes:I need some opinions and advice. I was with my man for 3 years, I fell pregnant within 9 months of meeting him, our son is now 15 months. I really did love my partner and never felt that way before, but this last year all I ever do is break up with him and kick him out (sometimes it is for reasons, sometimes not) I just don't know if I love him anymore, what are the signs that u have fallen out of love? I think I have needed him for security as he works full time and I can't yet due to being at home with baby, there have been times when I just stay with him so I'm not left with nothing as when we do break up he leaves me with nothing. Weirdly I still enjoy having sex with him, and kissing him but other than that I just don't want to be near him and when I am with him I feel suffocated and have bad anxiety attacks. I can't decide if I love him or not my mind is just blank when I come to think of it. What do you guys think? Have I fallen out of love.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 Do you do the same things you did before the baby was born? Does he help with the baby? I am wondering why all-of-a-sudden he repulses you so much. Do you think you were really in love with him before or was he just someone to have fun with? I was thinking that maybe you are a lot busier now that the baby is here and don't have all of the romantic feelings you once had because you have so many other things to tend to now. I know whenever I am extremely busy, my romantic feelings tend to subside a bit. I would say if this is an on-going thing, you might be falling out of love, but I also know that having a baby does/can change things in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): I am going to be honest - I didn't read your post. The reason being is that is no one can tell you what you are thinking or feeling. And if you really have to think whether or not you love someone, then the answer is no. If you love someone, you just know it and would not bother trying to understand it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 There is obviously a major issue here and you need to think long and hard about it. It is possible to fall out of love with someone, I know it can be hard, and it is sad when this happens but sometimes we just cannot help how we feel. Security really is no reason to stay with someone. If you come up with a strict budget and stick to it, you and your child can get by, also by law he is entitled to give you child maintenance for your baby if you two did break up. I know it is a scary thought and would be stressful, but I think you would be much happier on your own than with someone who you just do not love any more. I think you need to talk to him about how you feel and who knows maybe you can both work through the problem and add the spark back in to the relationship. But your best bet is just to be honest with him.
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