I thought we were so well matched sexually but this is not the case now we have moved in together!
Q. My boyfriend of four years gave a very false impression of his sex drive when we were dating. I had no idea at the time. Now that we are living together and our lives are melded I cop his true sex drive/interest which isn't very much. I was hon...
A. 20 May 2009: well let him know that it's really bothering you and if he doesn't go see a doctor then he will continue to hurt you. anyone who really loves you would never want to keep hurting you... (read in full...)
Any advice on moving in with my boyfriend?
Q. So I'm moving in with my boyfriend of over a year. I'm moving away from home for college..the one he's going to. So we've decided that we're going to be moving in together. He's got a 2 bedroom apartment so it's not like if we have an argument I ...
A. 20 May 2009: Anonymous, i sense so much sarcasm in your reply. I honestly don't see the harm in hsving my own things in case things don't go as planned, since i'll be away from my parents and friends, basically my support system. I didn't appreciate your answer.... (read in full...)
My daughter has given me permission to sleep with her friend and I'm torn over what I should do!
Q. I'm a single Dad with a 17 year old daughter. She has a friend that's 18. She's been coming around for about 5 or 6 yrs. I have a big house. She's had a room here for about 4 yrs and is here more than anywhere else.(No father around and Mom don't ...
A. 19 May 2009: I think that even though your daughter has told you that she is okay with you sleeping with her best friend she probably isnt. It could become awkward quickly.. and it just has disaster written all over it. It could ruin the friendship your daughter ... (read in full...)
Any advice on moving in with my boyfriend?
Q. So I'm moving in with my boyfriend of over a year. I'm moving away from home for college..the one he's going to. So we've decided that we're going to be moving in together. He's got a 2 bedroom apartment so it's not like if we have an argument I ...
A. 19 May 2009: great advice chicas! it's lovely to know i have this online community to turn to if things go south.
I will definetly follow your advice tasteofindia, you've really made some quality points! Right now him and I are generally homebodies anyway (i g... (read in full...)
I thought we were so well matched sexually but this is not the case now we have moved in together!
Q. My boyfriend of four years gave a very false impression of his sex drive when we were dating. I had no idea at the time. Now that we are living together and our lives are melded I cop his true sex drive/interest which isn't very much. I was hon...
A. 19 May 2009: It might not be that he has lied or was trying to deceive you with his sex drive.. there could be something going on right now or for a while that's curbing his natural sex drive..
sometimes men lose their sex drives as they get older, or when they... (read in full...)
I feel like I've died inside now I've found out my friend has a boyfriend
Q. My friend (female) is now going out with a guy. Why do I feel like i've died inside ?...
A. 19 May 2009: You're probably jealous that you'll have to share the time you have with her with another person, or you have much deeper feelings for her than you realise.
I'm sure you've probably come to that conclusion though.. why else would you feel like you'... (read in full...)
I told her I had intense feelings but I haven't heard from her now
Q. I was a freshman in college. I say was because its summer time and I am now offically a sophmore. But i had to transfer from my first college because of something at home, but I loved my first college. At this school, I met this girl. She's a ...
A. 18 May 2009: Honestly, you friend has already made it clear to you that she only regards you as a friend. I know it's hard but you should try to respect that and back off a bit and stop telling her you love her.
Who knows? her feelings could become some... (read in full...)
He's more interested in food than sex
Q. My husband does not want sex at all. No matter how I try to initiate it - sexy lingerie, romantic meal, kissing passionately - he just refuses sex. I know why - he's more interested in eating. He eats almost anything - from pizza to curry to a fi...
A. 18 May 2009: Has he always overeaten?
How long has is been going on?
Is something stressing him out?
You should try to get him to a therapist, sometimes overeating can be related to a mental disorder.
If nothing seems out of line and all is well but he's... (read in full...)
We don't have to get back together but I don't want him to hate me
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me recently when we argued in a club, saying we argue too often, and it's not working He does this alot and we always get back together, but this time, I told a friend of mine that he used to make himself sick for ...
A. 18 May 2009: Just let him know the truth, that he drives you to the point of insanity, and you needed to vent.
After that, ask him to explain why he went through your msgs, he sounds a bit manipulative and controlling, to be honest.... (read in full...)
Will I get fat from the shot?
Q. hey guys. im c0nsidering getting the dep0 sh0t as a meth0d of c0ntracepti0n t0m0row but im really w0ried that it wil make me fat. does any0ne take the sh0t here? hav they gained weight? any advice? thanx...
A. 18 May 2009: You seem to be confusing the number 0 and the letter o... anywho.. One of the side effects of the shot is that it can make you gain weight. My friends who get the shot did gain some weight ( usually under 10 pounds ) It also says that you can lose ... (read in full...)
21st birthday present for my g/f?
Q. ladies out there i could really use some advice. my galfriend is turning 21 in 2 days n i would lyk 2 knw wat would make a female happy for her 21st birthday? what do woman expect 4rm their boyfriends on their 21st birthday? plz help me out in any ...
A. 18 May 2009: You can USUALLY never go wrong with jewelry. Make sure she actually likes jewelry first.... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 18 May 2009: Let him know you're not aborting the baby and that he's just going to have to live with the fact that he's going to be a father. Let him know he doesn't have to see the baby but he's going to hhave to financially support it. If he doesn't, you can ... (read in full...)
I told him its either her or me
Q. I have been living with someone whom I love more than anything. He works on a tugboat and is gone most of the time. I recently found out that he is texting his friend's girlfriend (His friend works on the boat with him). I confronted him about his ...
A. 16 May 2009: If you haven't seen anything incriminating then you shouldn't be too worried, especially if his buddy knows that he's texting his gf.
Do you text any of your guy friends? ... (read in full...)
Why do people strive to fall in love?
Q. why do so many people strive to fall in love? whats the great thing about love? and what are the set backs? it doesnt really make any cents to me anymore....
A. 16 May 2009: Have you ever heard of Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs? It could be the answer to this question. In short, we as a species strive for companionship, and that's what "love" is. It's a companionship and a commitment. It's fulfulling to think that ... (read in full...)
Feels like hell
Q. First off, I'm a guy, and while this may seem unusual coming from a person of the male persuasion, I feel utterly lost and confused by my current predicament, so let me try and explain as best I can. Let me begin by saying I'm madly in love wi...
A. 16 May 2009: It's usually normal to have lustful feelings toward other attractive women.. a healthy relationship should be able to withstand them. You seem to really love your girl, do you really want to hurt her like that? If you're thinking of doing anything ... (read in full...)
My trekkie friend...
Q. I am exactly twenty-two years and two weeks old, my best friend is just over twenty-two years and four months old. My best friend is a man we shall call "Quinton". He and I have been in acquaintance with each other for a little over twenty years; we ...
A. 16 May 2009: From an outsiders point of view, it sounds like your friend is jealous because of all the attention you're giving spock. He could be jealous because he's an overprotective friend, or because he has deeper feelings for you.
Did you share a popc... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 15 May 2009: climax = orgasm... (read in full...)
Can I have an abortion without my parents knowing?
Q. Ok heres my question - At the age of 13 if you got pregnant can you go have an aboursion with out your parents coming with you or even knowing i would really like to know it would really help a situation i am in Thanks x...
A. 15 May 2009: No, you're under 16. Let your parents know.. or an adult who you trust.... (read in full...)
Should I hire a PI to follow my wife???
Q. I found 2 texts on my wife's phone. 1 sent to her, and 1 was her reply. I checked her contact list and the text was from a guy named Jim. That's it, only Jim in her contact phonebook. His text was 'so, how do you like my hang-down?' My wife's reply ...
A. 15 May 2009: You're right, hang down is slang for the male sexual organ, sounds like something is going on. Just confront her about it.... (read in full...)
Skipped almost two periods now...am I pregnant?
Q. Okey i really need help im 13 nearly 14 and i think im pregnant. the last couple of times me and my boyfirnd had sex we did not use protection as he pulled out before he came so i thought it would be okey but now im realy worried because i have ski...
A. 15 May 2009: What more advice do you want? We can't tell you if you're pregnant or not, and if you are we can't tell you which choice is the best for you. We can only let you know that you need to get a pregnancy test and take it. You'll know if you're pregnant ... (read in full...)
Skipped almost two periods now...am I pregnant?
Q. Okey i really need help im 13 nearly 14 and i think im pregnant. the last couple of times me and my boyfirnd had sex we did not use protection as he pulled out before he came so i thought it would be okey but now im realy worried because i have ski...
A. 15 May 2009: You probably could be pregnant, go to the store and pick up a home test.... (read in full...)
What's going on with this lower abdominal pain I'm getting?
Q. I'm a teenager and I've been having this lower abdominal pain for about 1-2 weeks. Its like a dull ache all around my hip and the top of my thigh, round to my groin area, on both sides. Sometimes when i run, or just walk, i get sharp stabbing pains. ...
A. 14 May 2009: It could be related to your back problems, or it could be another kind of infection. Get it checked out ASAP.... (read in full...)
Is the tech interested?
Q. Ok so this is what happened. i was having a phone line installed and this really hot tech shows up to do it. he's about 10 yrs younger then me but i don't look my age, anyway. i wasn't paying that much attention to him at first but he had to go out ...
A. 9 May 2009: Well invite him in for coffee or something, and see how things go! If he says no, then he says no and it's not a bit deal.. you'll probably never have to see him again!... (read in full...)
Ways to win my ex back!
Q. I want my ex back. He broke up with me I dunno why. I have tried asking but he's shy and shit. I want the most effective way to win him over and be in love again....
A. 4 May 2009: It just doesn't work like that. He broke up with you for a reason, and without knowing that reason, you can't change, which is good.. because you shouldn't be changing anyway.
Enjoy your time without him and be happy, and flirt a little, he'll see ... (read in full...)
Does having your nose pierced hurt?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I'm hoping to get advice anyway. I've been wanting to get my nose pierced for quite some time now and I'm allowed to get it done but I'm scared that it's gonna hurt. Does getting your nose pierced hurt? Anyone ...
A. 4 May 2009: It hurts about the same as getting your cartilidge in your ear. It's a different sensation though.
A website like bmezine.com might be a more appropriate place to ask a question like this though, as this is an advice column for relationships.... (read in full...)
Help...I had unprotected sex and missed a period!
Q. hey every1 i need sum advice urgently...so im only 13 and im goin out with a guy who is 2 years older than me. my boyfrend started pressuring me into sex but i told him no and i kept saying no and now he has finally understood my answer. But anyway ...
A. 4 May 2009: You should tell your mom, she can help you the most. If your mom isn't around then you should tell a female adult who you trust. You need to take a pregnancy test to find out for sure.
You should not be having unprotected sex. You should also now ... (read in full...)
She's doing my head in! What's going on with this girl?
Q. hey, i am not sure if am doing this for advice or just to get it off my chest. i met this girl a while back. we dated for a short time before she said it wasnt going to work. she never gave me a reason why. i was crushed when she said it cos it w...
A. 4 May 2009: You're her backup plan. Next time she asks you to hang out say "No, I'm busy." Start hanging out with other girls, soon she'll realize what she's missing.
Good luck, if she doesn't come around then don't be afraid to check out what's out ther... (read in full...)
5 Questions about teen pregnancy
Q. 1, Are you more likely to get pregnant if you have unprotected sex about five days before your period? 2, If you have unprotected sex too close to the time of your period can you miss a period and it be emplantation bleeding instead? 3, What is the...
A. 4 May 2009: 1. More likely than what? It's likely that if you have protected sex regularly and it's unprotected that you'll be pregnant. If only takes one microscopic sperm.
2.You could.
3.Something that is designed to test EARLY pregnancy, such as first re... (read in full...)
My wife of 20 years wants a threesome...I may want a divorce!
Q. Let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for twenty years. she would like to have a threesome or swap with a couple. When she told me this i was shocked and hurt. i would like someone to help me understand this. She is forty im forty ...
A. 29 April 2009: Let her know how you feel about it, and let her know the consequences. ... (read in full...)
Which make up would suit my skin type?
Q. From the age of about 13 i've had trouble keeping my skin clear and it's been really bad for my confidence.But lately my skin is doing quite well for once it's mainly just marks where they've been.but i'm finding it quite hard to find makeup or ...
A. 28 April 2009: agreed... (read in full...)
He is one of the coolest guys in school, does he like me?
Q. how do you know if a 10th grade boy likes a 7th grade girl?for example,he usually smiles in a very sweet way at her,looks with dreamy eyes at her,brushes his arm against hers(this happened twice).he is one of the hottest guys in school and you ...
A. 28 April 2009: Though this would be a way cooler site it we WERE a panel of psychics! lol, satindesire.... (read in full...)
He is one of the coolest guys in school, does he like me?
Q. how do you know if a 10th grade boy likes a 7th grade girl?for example,he usually smiles in a very sweet way at her,looks with dreamy eyes at her,brushes his arm against hers(this happened twice).he is one of the hottest guys in school and you ...
A. 28 April 2009: No one knows but him, and the only way you're going to know is if he asks or if he tells you... (read in full...)
Which make up would suit my skin type?
Q. From the age of about 13 i've had trouble keeping my skin clear and it's been really bad for my confidence.But lately my skin is doing quite well for once it's mainly just marks where they've been.but i'm finding it quite hard to find makeup or ...
A. 28 April 2009: Most mineral makeups contain Bismuth Oxychloride, and this clings to the skin which can cause irriation and trigger acne. Which is something they don't tell you in the commercials for the mineral makeups, they're also quite expensive, if they're not ... (read in full...)
How can I come out to my parents?
Q. i first realised i was gay when i was 17. i had a brother who was gay as well who lived in london but died of aids in 1995. which made it difficult for me to come out to my parents, subsequently i have never come out to them as they blamed ...
A. 28 April 2009: Not sure if this is much help, but if it were me then I'd just be really blunt about it. Just let them know that you have found a partner, his name is bob or whatever. You're 40 and it's your life.
Congrats on the find! :)... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my friends will hate me if I date him.
Q. i am really in love with this guy, and he really loves me. but we're not together because i am scared. he split up with his girlfriend (one of my best friends) a few months ago, and i am scared all my other friends will judge me if we start seeing ...
A. 28 April 2009: If she is really your best friend she will understand as long as you talk to her about it first.. If she's REALLY not okay with it then you need to decide what's more important to you!... (read in full...)
Should I date the guy that used to use me?
Q. There is this boy, who used to use me but now i believe he has feelings for me. . . I still have feelings for him. But he hurt me so much last time, i dont want it to happen again What should i do? Go with me head? or my heart? ...
A. 28 April 2009: I also say choose your head. Unless you wanna be used again..... (read in full...)
Why won't this serial cheater marry me?
Q. hello...im trying to figure out why is it that my boyfriend of 15yrs (he's 40 and im 39) first off will not marry me and make a formal commitment and second of all will not leave this other woman alone? i've forgiven him for having a baby on...
A. 28 April 2009: He wants to keep playing you and you're letting him. You should find a man who treats you right.... (read in full...)
Half penetration sex, am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hi, My BF's penis went in me about half way, the head was fully in and we did this a few times. He didnt push all the way because I want to keep my virginity but i cant help but think have I already lost it from what we wer doing. We tested ...
A. 28 April 2009: Yup, You have. When penis goes into vagina it means your virginity is no more.
You should be using condoms now that you are sexually active. There are a lot of nasty diseases out there, and some can kill you.... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been trying for a baby. I was just wondering how high of possibility that when I take a test next week if I will be bfp. I sort of had a period that lasted 3 days then spotted one day and completely stopped. I had a sip of c...
A. 28 April 2009: They sound like signs of pregnancy! I hope you are! Good luck!! and let us know!
Also, this website is a pregnancy probability calculator, it could give you a rough idea of your chances! Enjoy!
http://thepregnancytest.com/
... (read in full...)
Was I too harsh to her?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We got along great but I wasn’t in love with her. I broke the news without warning and she is devastated. She doesn’t have many friends locally and her family lives a state away. She feels she doesn’t have any...
A. 28 April 2009: Don't worry, you're just upset because you're a caring person. She will be okay.. She will find someone else! She just needs to find that out for herself. Cutting off contact, though it hurts is the best way to get over someone. As long as you ... (read in full...)
Abusive, violent, jailbird boyfriend and I think it's my fault!
Q. Hi, I really need some advice. I am so confused I dont really seem to know wrong from right anymore. So have been with my bf for like 10 years now, and we are planning to get married next year. The problem is he has hit me in the past - alot. H...
A. 28 April 2009: I'm sorry that he hit you, because he shouldn't have. He is in the wrong, not you. You are a strong woman! You need to leave him.. move your stuff out.. break up with him in a public place, or let your mom know that if you don't phone her within 20 ... (read in full...)
Which make up would suit my skin type?
Q. From the age of about 13 i've had trouble keeping my skin clear and it's been really bad for my confidence.But lately my skin is doing quite well for once it's mainly just marks where they've been.but i'm finding it quite hard to find makeup or ...
A. 28 April 2009: Try Pro Activ! It worked so well on myself, and all off my friends who have used it. Its an acne medication that you can order, and it clears your skin and evens your skin tone and gives you a healthy look! It has worked wonders on my confidence.... (read in full...)
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