How to reach out to fling/friend?
Q. To make a long story short I met a girl through a guy friend of ours a few months ago. We all have only been friends since about Sept 08. We started hooking up on a regular basis back in Jan 09 for about a month and then I believe that she thought I ...
A. 30 March 2009: Well, you weren't really dating her, were you? It was just hooking up. When you're in a relationship and you have constant sex it just feels normal.. but when you're not and you're having sex eventually you feel used.. and you said that she said ... (read in full...)
How to reach out to fling/friend?
Q. To make a long story short I met a girl through a guy friend of ours a few months ago. We all have only been friends since about Sept 08. We started hooking up on a regular basis back in Jan 09 for about a month and then I believe that she thought I ...
A. 29 March 2009: Right, Well she probably feels used, and that's one of the worst feelings in the world. Perhaps she was beginning to become emotionally attached and saw that she needed to get out? or maybe it's because she thought you were getting emotionally ... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility that I may be pregnant after only 4 days?
Q. Well me and my bf had (unprotected) sex last Wednesday. We've been toqether for 2 years. I'm just very paranoid because even though he said he didn't cum I'm nervous. We didn't go all crazy and I didn't do anything to make him cum cause it was our ...
A. 29 March 2009: Precum can be released without him knowning, so yes you could be pregnant. If you're only 14 like your age rage says you are then you REALLY need to be using a condom and perhaps an oral contraceptive (the pill)
Be smart..... (read in full...)
I feel like there is just one thing missing in my life, a baby!
Q. Hi I am 21 years old and i feel like there is just one thing missing in my life, a baby! I have a long term boyfriend who I love very much and who loves me too. Recently i had a scare when I thought I was pregnant I was so scared to tell my ...
A. 27 March 2009: I think you need to have a chat with your boyfriend then! If you're stable and he's stable and you both have reliable sources of income and both would like a baby, I'd say tell him how you feel! but I would never purposely try to get pregnant ... (read in full...)
Is there any other form of contraception I can take, while being on the pill???
Q. Hey I was just wondering , me and my boyfriend realy want to try sex without a condom, im already on the pill and am always extra safe when it comes to sex. However i dont like just using one from of contraception mainly because i know you can s...
A. 27 March 2009: There is something called spermicidle jelly and foam that is supposed to kill the sperm on contact. You can also get something called "the sponge" it's pretty cool. You should check it out.... (read in full...)
Give up... or keep going?
Q. I started seeing this guy about 6 months ago who now my boyfriend of 5 months. I have had seriously 2 and 3 year relationships but I have never felt this way about anyone before. I truly believe that even after going out with him for only 5 months, ...
A. 26 March 2009: Sounds like a guy I used to date! Turns out he was bipolar. Maybe you should read up on the condition, or even depression, because it sounds like he might have that.
If you feel like you're giving more and he's not giving enough back then even... (read in full...)
Period question .. Attention ladies!
Q. To the ladies.. How many day s were you behind on your period. Ok let me explain lol. If you were suppose to start the 14th and you didn't. What was the most days after you were suppose to start that you missed.. Like me I started the 20th last mon...
A. 24 March 2009: I have a friend who can sometimes be 2-3 months late, it all depends on your body, since we are all different. If it concerns you then schedule a checkup with your GP or gyno.... (read in full...)
Hair disaster!!
Q. MOD NOTE: Age incorrect... ok well when i was in like in sixth grade my hair was a bit more straight but now im in 8th and my hair is poofy and wavy and gross! i usually scrunch or straighten my hair but i reallllyyy want straight silky hair. im...
A. 22 March 2009: You can chemically straighten your hair, it's only usually around 50-70 dollars depending on where abouts you live.. It lasts for about as long as a perm does and causes about the same amount of damage. Consider that or buying a better flat iron ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new g/f but still talks sex to me!
Q. Hi everyone at cupid, Ive got a question, my ex and i split in november he got rid of me for his ex that never worked out in the end, anyway we was still having sex together untill 17th jan when he got his new gf, anyway, we stayed friends but had ...
A. 22 March 2009: OR maybe it's because he's a cheater and a scumbag. Kinda makes you question what he said to other girls while he was dating you.. doesn't it? Stay away from him, tell him you don't want him. I don't think he has genuine feelings for you, I think ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend emotionally distances himself from me.
Q. My bf emotionally distances himself from me. He takes a situation and makes if into something major and then hides for days or weeks. I think he does this to prevent himself from getting too close. Yes I know he loves me but I know he is fearful. ...
A. 22 March 2009: I wouldnt put up with it. He's not three so he should darn well be acting like an adult.... (read in full...)
Can I walk up and say "I've been thinking of you"?
Q. I'm in love with an older guy I never met. (I'm 18, which is the age of consent so there are no legal issues to my knowledge.) I've talked to him a few times, but only passing comments, if that makes sense. I think he might like me too but I have no ...
A. 21 March 2009: Hm! Maybe you could say something more subtle to test the waters first. Do you know if he has a woman in his life? We don't want to get caught up in something like that now! Are you too shy to ask him out on a date? like a movie or a theatre kinda ... (read in full...)
Not having my period a week later mean anything?
Q. I am 19. My bf and I always use a condom when we have sex but about a month ago when we were messing around I sat on his lap with his penis in me for a few seconds, and we didn't think anything about it. But we started worrying when I didn't have my ...
A. 21 March 2009: Yep, It's pretty normal...especially if you're stressed about something.. say Pregnancy? :p
haha! you're probably just late because you're all stressed out. Or any other factor that could swtich it up, periods are annoying like that, they're righ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex..pregnancy possible..but worried about my parent's opinion
Q. im 17 years old , my bf is 19 years olf, weve been together for nearly 3 years and we would love to have a baby, recently wevehad unprotected sex, and i cant recall the date of my last period as their so irregular. Im so worried if i am pregnant ...
A. 21 March 2009: First off, you ARE too young. Sorry, but you just are. In a society that's in such an economic turmoil, the last thing you need is a baby whilst in your teens. Give it some time!
You parents will (probably) not reject you or the baby, as you are ... (read in full...)
Period should have started..and it hasn't yet
Q. Ok here it goes. My period is pretty much on track and on time. Last month I started on the 20th I had sex like 2 days after I got off and used protection about a week later same thing, sex-protection. Last week we had sex but for the first 2 or 3 ...
A. 21 March 2009: Sounds like you're super stressed and delaying your period! :p
I'm assuming you don't want to get pregnant.. You should always use protection if you're not planning a family. Wait a bit, then take a home pregnancy test. First Response has alwa... (read in full...)
Is it possible to experience depression if your boyfriend has emotionally abused you for quite some time?
Q. Is it possible to experience depression if your boyfriend has emotionally abused you for quite some time? Do men who emotionally abuse say cruel things about you and then tell you that you are crazy and that they love you? Or that you should not ...
A. 20 March 2009: Someone who says cruel things to you does not love you. I'm sorry, there's no simpler way to put that. Get out of this relationship and get out fast. Find your mom, or guardian or sister or friend and stay with them, get yourself back on your feet, ... (read in full...)
Diets
Q. I want to go on a diet because I want to be a model catwalk or glamour. I am not fat but you know what the industry's like now, you have to be really skinny.. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do or a diet plan I could follow? It would be ...
A. 20 March 2009: I think you should be content with the way you are if you're healthy. Diets are supposed to manage health, which in turn can make you lose weight. Stop trying to live up to someone else's standards, if you're good at modelling, you'll be one.... (read in full...)
How do you get over emotional betrayal?
Q. Hi, me again. I have the text cheat husband who's now stopped all that with a colleague 18 years younger than me who works at different premises but he has to see at 6 weekly committee meetings and contact via email over business issues. He bitterly ...
A. 20 March 2009: Whoa, he put his hands on you? After you brought up HIS wrongdoings? A better question is why are you still with this man? If he can't control his anger and has actually acted on his capability to get physically violent with you then I suggest you ... (read in full...)
How can I word a text so my friend with benefits will be jealous and not let me move on?
Q. I don't know what to do - Me and this guy at work have been flirting since he arrived - after several missed opportunties and we finally kissed (about a year of flirting) he just wants friends with benefits I really want more because I like him so ...
A. 20 March 2009: I think I would just tell him straight up that another guy is interested in you and if he doesn't feel ready to take the relationship further then you're going to explore things with this other guy, don't beat around the bush and don't try to mske ... (read in full...)
Girls! I broke her trust - Can you tell me if there is hope?
Q. Hello all... I've been dating the girl of my dreams since late 07. She and I had a struggle last summer, but we worked through it and we got together again, and got even closer and more intimate. We are a long-distance relationship, so o...
A. 20 March 2009: Hey there, Sorry to hear about all the troubles you've been having, I figured i'd put my two cents in because I'm in a LDR and I'm female! haha. Sounds like you said some stuff you really didn't mean, did you tell her that? I think that if my boyfr... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'll ever trust him now..
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and he lied to me about something he did two years ago with a girl. he just told me a couple of days ago. i dont know if i should break up with him or not. he really hurt me. hes said hes ...
A. 18 March 2009: What exactly did he do with this girl?
If he like raped her then you have reason to leave him.. If it's not that bad then let go of what he did to this girl.. it was 2 years ago. Explain to him how he hurt you by lying to you.... (read in full...)
LDR--breakup..does a month no contact work? Is it natural to have waning feelings?
Q. Me and my long distance girlfriend of 5 years broke up last week and and while i miss her i'm suprisingly not overly torn up about it yet. For those who have been in a LDR you'll know that it has to be preety intense for it to work and this ontop of ...
A. 18 March 2009: The key is not to overwhelm her, as for a perfect time to restart contact..there is no set time or date. It just has to occur when you and her are BOTH ready. You could send her a simple message, nothing too overwhelming, like a "hey, how are you ... (read in full...)
Should I pack up his stuff and forget him?
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I had a great three year relationship going. I was his first true love, and things were heading toward commitment. Nothing seemed amiss. However, out of the blue, he just stopped wanting to be with me. He moved out of t...
A. 8 March 2009: Spend some time with the Gals! It always helps. Whatever you do, keep yourself active, read optimistic books (preferably non-relationship orientated ones). Let yourself cry, because you're hurting.
Talking to someone about it gets the emotion out,... (read in full...)
Can you still be pregnant even if you have your period?
Q. Is it possible to still be pregnant if you have your period? or can it be different for different women?...
A. 8 March 2009: it can be different for everyone. It's possible to have your period while pregnant though..
it's not EXTREMELY common but it's perfectly healthy.
Though bleeding while pregnant can signal something is wrong, if this is happening to you or someone ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit apprehensive being left on my own...
Q. This is going to sound really stupid but here goes... I am 20 years old, and my parents are going away for a month to the other side of the world.. I am feeling a bit nervous about being myself.. me being on my own during the night. I have always ...
A. 8 March 2009: loving arms pretty much covered all the bases, but to put your mind at ease about someone breaking in then try this:
put your key in your pocket and lock all the doors, close all the windows and then walk outside.
Take 15-20 minutes and try to b... (read in full...)
Should I pack up his stuff and forget him?
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I had a great three year relationship going. I was his first true love, and things were heading toward commitment. Nothing seemed amiss. However, out of the blue, he just stopped wanting to be with me. He moved out of t...
A. 8 March 2009: From an onlooking perpective you should dump the guy and get it over with.
I don't respond to many posts but this one caught my eye because the exact same thing happened to me. It's very unhealthy for you to be stressing out over this stupid guy.... (read in full...)
Weird to think sex is yuk?
Q. This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have ...
A. 6 March 2009: You're perfectly normal!
Don't worry. Some people have really high sex drives and some people don't.
Every person starts desiring sex at a different age. Just relax and enjoy being with friends.... (read in full...)
We broke up, I'm pregnant and very uncertain about the future
Q. Me and my boyfriend moved in together, we fought a lot though. Well the last time we fought it was over myspace, I know stupid, his friend said she wrote something to me and I never got it, he believed her over me when I said that I did not receive ...
A. 5 March 2009: You can't really force your love on him. It will only drive him away.
Give him some space and some time.
I hope all works out.... (read in full...)
My breasts itch around the nipple, should I worry?
Q. im 18 and have small breasts. my problem is they itch around the nipple is this some disease or let alone cancer?...
A. 5 March 2009: Could just be dry skin as it is winter and the cold tends to dry out skin.
Try putting a lotion on your breasts before bed time.
It should help, if not consider seeing your doctor... (read in full...)
We are really nervous. What is the cause of strange symptoms after sex?
Q. So I've had unprotected sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and i finished inside of her. She has not had sex before that for a while. After that night i had sex with her again but she said when i went all the way inside of her she had pain ...
A. 5 March 2009: Re-reading the question it sounds EXACTLY like a UTI, it can make you feel like you need to pee all the time and when you do it sort of burns. I heard somewhere that you can drink cranberry juice to prevent them, not sure if that's true, you'd ha... (read in full...)
We are really nervous. What is the cause of strange symptoms after sex?
Q. So I've had unprotected sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and i finished inside of her. She has not had sex before that for a while. After that night i had sex with her again but she said when i went all the way inside of her she had pain ...
A. 5 March 2009: Sounds like a UTI, the burning part anyway. I recommend her seeing a phsyician for some medicine asap, as they can get really intense if not treated. The same thing happened to me when I was on Birth control and my bf finished inside me. The pain ... (read in full...)
Too big for anal
Q. first off I'm gay. me and my boyfriend have dated for half a year. we try to have sex but we can't. the main problem is his size. when he starts it hurts and when he tries to go deeper I can't bear the pain. is there a way to help him get in?...
A. 4 March 2009: Get him to massage your anus and then do one finger. From there, get him to do two for at least 10 minutes, try to stay relaxed. Use a fair amount of lube and get him to try soon after that. :)... (read in full...)
Are those symptoms normal?
Q. My girlfriend is taking metformin. She is complaining of constant headaches, weakness and she sometimes feels like throwing up (vomit). Is anybody here taking or has any knowledge of it? I called her doctor and he suggested she continues as she o...
A. 3 March 2009: sounds like something else is causing this (like pregnancy) because it's only been one day since she started taking them.
Unless she's having some kind of reaction the the pills. if it starts to get worse then take her to the hospital... (read in full...)
Starting a new job but my ex works there... my boyfriend is upset that I'm taking it.
Q. I'm starting a new job, my first job but the problem is that my ex also works there so now my boyfriend is very upset with me....
A. 3 March 2009: He's probably just really really jealous. He will get over it. ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and am giving my baby up for adoption. Now I'm getting called nasty names for making that decision.
Q. I'm in high school and pregnant, I decided to give my baby up for adoption but in the meantime people keep on calling me nasty names even the guy that is the father who I'm still dating, that's another thing he is so nice out of school but ever ...
A. 3 March 2009: It's probably really hard for him to digest and if giving up the baby wasn't his preferance then he's probably feeling bitter about it. Talk to him and tell him that you'd appreciate it if he stopped saying [the stuff you don't like] to you or to ... (read in full...)
Licking a penis!
Q. Ok, So I'm 15 and a virgin. What can you get from licking a penis? It's a really stupid question I know.. but I want to know. Is it dangerous? Can you get an STD?...
A. 3 March 2009: It's not dangerous though you can get STIs by performing oral sex. You can get herpes around your mouth.
If you suspect the guy has an STI then you should get flavored condoms and give him oral that way. ... (read in full...)
I found my own sister in bed with my boyfriend!!!
Q. My sister is having an afair with my boyfriend! I was going to his apartment and saw her car. When I got upstairs (I have a key) they were in bed. What should I do? I hate my sister now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 3 March 2009: Ditch the guy.
Quick.
And talk to your sister. ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he wants to take our relationship to the next level.
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 6 to 7 months but I feel he wants to have more then just love... meaning he wants to have sex with me. Should I and if I do decide what are the best condoms to use? ...
A. 3 March 2009: also, you should look into an oral contraceptive (the pill) or the transdermal contraceptive (the patch)
Condoms are not ALWAYS 100% protective. If they break then you've got a nice chance of being a mommy. Look into having an emergency back up ... (read in full...)
My jealousy is killing me!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a month and a half now. And everything is going so well. She has a past with other boys and it bothered me a lot, but I got over it. But yesterday, I was on her Hyves (other sort of Facebook/Myspace) and I went to ...
A. 3 March 2009: Facebook, Myspace and hyves ruin relationships. You should never have gone and looked at her old msgs to someone she used to care about. She was with him and now she's with you. If she wanted to be with him then she would be. I'm sure that if she's ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he wants to take our relationship to the next level.
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 6 to 7 months but I feel he wants to have more then just love... meaning he wants to have sex with me. Should I and if I do decide what are the best condoms to use? ...
A. 2 March 2009: trojan i find have been the best. everytime i have ever used a lifestyles condom, they have broken. Avoid lifestyles.
If you're not ready though it really doesn't matter what the safest condom is. If you're not comfortable then don't do it.... (read in full...)
I keep falling for unavailable women!
Q. I'm a 24 year old male and I have a problem. I keep falling for unavailable women. Generally, I'll fancy a girl. Then, if I learn that she has a boyfriend, I'll fancy her more. But if it turns out she's single, then I grow frustrated and less ...
A. 24 February 2009: A girl (or guy) is naturally more desirable when he or she is taken. you might see that someone else enjoys their company so you should too. You figure they're full of desirable traits (or your subconscious does)
Give a single girl a chance. or t... (read in full...)
I'm sooo totally paranoid!!!
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for two months but we we're "getting together" several months before we did. He's a lovely guy and totally different to all the idiots i've been out with! I know people say that a lot and get let down but I truly be...
A. 24 February 2009: That's pretty normal. I went through that too. If you feel like you can't trust him then you must have a reason not to. Your reason is because of that text and because he's talkign to his ex.
Tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
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