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41-50,
anonymous
writes:well hello i found this site while in desperate need of some advice to help me with a trying situation that has literally drained me. i joined this adult website one of those solo girl websites at first it was just for entertainment then i started to notice that i was starting to have feelings for this girl and she seemed to reciprocate. this only online relationship continued on for almost 9 months before eventually i realized what was going on and realized she was just using me for the money i was spending and she got mad when i questioned her about it. i got in turn got upset, i spent a week in a mental institute and was fine for about a month then became obsessed with her again and wondering how she was doing wondering what she was doing wanting her to eventually hopefully quit or something, but she hasnt and it seems the modeling side of her career is taking off and i feel like no matter what i do now or anything i wont be able to escape seeing her or hearing about her or just anything i feel trapped again. please im begging if anyone has any advice or any sort of help please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): be strong. The first step to solving a problem is to admit it. I would consider counseling. Nothing wrong with it, a professional would be able to give you some sound advice in a nonjudgemental setting.
good luck.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (21 January 2011):
Please... please.. please.... and I mean this in the nicest possible way, take off your rose tinted glasses and find yourself a real life girl. This girl you are referring to, is doing a job, whether it is an acceptable way of earning a living is another matter, but to her, you are just another number.
I don't think you will be able to stop visiting the site will you? It and her have become an addiction, a costly one at that, because they earn quite a mint from webcam work.
Why don't you for now, try and find an alternative site where at least you won't be tempted to have her cam for you. The only problem then however, is that you may then find someone else you become attached to. You could view some free porn sites, where you don't actually have the 1:1 contact with them, but just watch. Its just a suggestion.
But seriously, it may be worth getting out, with friends whether it be to the pub or even doing a hobby, this way you will be in a better postion to meet a real life girl.
Good luck!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Well you need to distance yourself from her, but I guess that could be hard for you if you can't resist visiting her every time you're on the internet.
Perhaps you could put her web address on your computers "blocked sites" list, I think its called parental controls or something. Then put a password consisting of just numbers, one that you'll forget easily and never be able to visit her on your computer again. So you'll basically be protecting yourself from the temptation of being able to see her which is really what you need right now.
That's really the only idea I can think of to help.
Be strong.
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