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writes:Hello everyone who takes the time to read this. Im sorry it will probably be long and maybe confuss you but Ill try to keep it short and simple.Ok i go to University and I share a Maisonette with 12 people (including me) we are seperated by 2 flats nthe same house.ok there is a guy who lives upstairs and the first time I met him was when he came down to go out for a night with my flat. The first night was lovely, he was chatty, dancing with me, asking me about Uni and I felt safe and happy with him. At the end of the night we were left alone to say goodbye and I knew he wanted to kiss me, but I didnt want to seem to easy s held it off. Happy and assuming I would see him next few days didnt happen and it had been 3 months since I next spoke to him. I updated my FB status saying I had joined the gym. He commented on it saying 'well done you can join me, as I go there' So obviosuly I was thrilled. So I ask him when hes next going and I see him there next day. I try to start conversation but he was just so difficult to talk to. He would answer me in 1 or 2 word answers and just ignore me. So the next time I think maybe it will get better. So i am in the Steam Room and he walks in, looks directly at me and walks off to the other side of the room far away from me as possble and refussing to look in my direction. Its bothering me becuase he can comment me on FB but in person he runs a mile everytime he sees me. He did it again a couple days ago when i walked out of Sainsbury's. He was standing just a few steps away, looks at me then rushes off down the road infront of me. I was going to take the same way back home as he lives in the same house but I chose not to becuase I was quite offended.What do I do now? Im not enjoying this 'only available online' attitude. I really like the guy but its affecting my mood ad Uni work. Should I say anything to him or just give him the benefit of the doubt and stop even contacting him?Thanks everyone and Im sorry it probably sounds pathetic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): You're getting a lot of contradictory advice here. If I would sum it up to my liking is that I think contacting him online would be wrong. I sort of agree with manning up and asking him out just once to see what he says. You shouldn't be embarrassed about asking a guy out. Depending on his answer, you'll know then if he was being shy and ridiculous or just plain wasn't sure about you in the first place.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1  +, writes (21 January 2011):
Maybe he was just being friendly asking you to go to the gym. Did you read too much into it? Also, he probably did not want to hold a conversation with you in the gym because he wanted to work out and exercise. But just ignore him, he does not seem to want to know you better.. His loss
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (21 January 2011):
If I was a betting lass, I would say this guy does like you but he is extremely shy around you. I am a very outgoing person, but if I like someone I can sometimes become tongue tied and nerves ... I know, I know, its silly.
If you think you really do like him, then why not chat to him for a little longer on facebook but don't let it become a habit and just an online thing. Also, like someone else suggested, go out with a group of people, this way he will feel more relaxed.
As for seeing you in the steam room... I bet he didn't know where to look, bless him... I bet he got a little hot and sweaty, poor thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Just don't bother with him. You are attracted to him obviously, but with his strange manner I really think it's best to forget about forging a friendship. If someone appeared to be avoiding me in the way he has, I would be put out too. Ignore him on Facebook, don't initiate any contact and give him no more thought. You clearly would have liked something to develop with him, but as it is affecting you its not worth it, so just put it down to him being rather rude and flaky.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (21 January 2011):
 If he can only talk to you online and not in person then I'm guessing it's nerves. You've tried your best to approach him but that's obviously not working! If you have mutual friends try and arrange a night out together so you can see if he's more comfortable and chatty to you in a group situation. If you get a chance to speak to him alone then ask him in a friendly way if you've said or done anything to offend him. If none of this works then I'd say forget about him and move on.
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