I'm having dreams of other guys, what does it mean?
Q. Hi everyone! I am having some strange dreams lately, I have a boyfriend whom I am very happy with, but I keep having dreams that I am with other men. They are not sexual, but I have dreamt of being with my ex (I was sitting on his lap and he had h...
A. 22 May 2008: Haha...no one is more attractive to me than my guy!! :D... (read in full...)
Everyone at uni talks about sex and I'm not really interested. Is this normal?
Q. hiya Im at university and am still a virgin. At uni everyone talks about sex the whole time, its impossible to get away from. Im not really interested in sex atm, probably because i dont really know what im missing but i feel really left out and ...
A. 23 January 2008: Of course you are normal! Just because you aren't going around sleeping with everything that moves like most college students doesn't mean that you should change your standards or feel any less than anyone else.
I think most of these sexual e... (read in full...)
How can I break it off with my very 'dependant' girlfriend?
Q. I want to leave my girlfriend but she's too dependant on me. I don't think she'll be able to cope. She says her life has never been as happy as it is with me and I've turned her life around. She says I've helped her get off drugs, move to a nice a...
A. 22 January 2008: Just be completely honest with her no matter how much it hurts her, she will eventually understand. Once you do break it off DO NOT give in to her when she tries to keep calling, wanting to see you, etc. Try to stay away from her for as long as ... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant and he doesn't love her...should I still date him?
Q. So I use to go out with this guy for 2 months. Then we broke up and later on he got with this girl but then they broke up. During the time that he was with that girl, he would still try to contact me and try to keep it cool with me. So once him and ...
A. 17 January 2008: I can tell you from personal experience that you should not go back with this guy. Not that he is a bad guy, but he is not taking this seriously right now and you don't know what will happen if it is confirmed that she is pregnant and further on in ... (read in full...)
I'm off my meds and trying to cope...will I get better with time?
Q. Hi, I hope that someone out there can give me some advice. I feel like I'm going a little crazy and I just don't know what to do. I have recently come off of anti depressants (about 4 months ago) after being on them for around 9 years, I was ini...
A. 17 January 2008: I would agree that this will definitly be a process that will take awhile to adjust to. 9 years is a long time to be on anti-depressants...usually those types of meds are made to be a temprorary fix, so I would suggest trying your best to learn to ... (read in full...)
I'm having multiple orgasms, but not in the bedroom?? how can I control this its driving me crazy?
Q. i have quite an embarassing problem,recently, almost every day, i have been having uncontrollable orgasms and i can have upto 5 a day without even doing anything and they last what seems like forever, this might be all well and good if i was ...
A. 17 January 2008: wow!... (read in full...)
He spent mone at a strip club, I dumped his butt, now he wont speak to me, what is going on with him?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years after finding out he spent a large amount of money at a strip club without telling me. I told him not to call me until he wanted to be honest about how he spent the money. He didn't call me for five ...
A. 17 January 2008: It seems like there is maybe two possibilities in this situation...
Either this guy was looking for an excuse to get out of this relationship and this gave him the easy way out, or he is just still very upset about what happened and will need som... (read in full...)
Whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. What's wrong with me?
Q. I've found that whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. I went on a second date with a guy I am attracted to, and when we were kissing, I didn't feel turned on or feel any pleasure. Is this normal? Is ...
A. 17 January 2008: Maybe you are just a bit nervous, or the person you were kissing doesn't kiss you the way that you would like! It is much more enjoyable when you feel comfortable with the person you are with. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant , with my bf but why do I keep thinking of an ex bf who I was with for 9 years.
Q. Hi I am in my mid twenty's I have been with my b/f for little over a year and I am pregnant with his child but I still think a Lot about my ex which I was with for 9 years is it love or not? ...
A. 17 January 2008: Well, you were with him for a lot of your life! A good bit of your memories involve him, so of course you will still think of him and maybe even still love him! Obviously there is a reason why you aren't together anymore, and you have a family now ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too much sex in a relationship even if we both really enjoy it?
Q. Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be ...
A. 17 January 2008: I don't think you should worry about it causing problems in your relationship. You guys might finally come to a point where you're not so interested in sex as you are now, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
My boyfriend and I ha... (read in full...)
Who do I believe---him or his pregnant ex gf?
Q. I have a tricky situation and I could do with some advice. I've been seeing a guy for around a month now, and we've got on so great, he's the best thing thats happened to me in ages and he feels the same way. Everything was going perfectly...
A. 17 January 2008: I think I may be able to help, seeing as I have been in almost the EXACT same situation before...
I was dating a guy for about 6 months and started to develop pretty strong feelings for him, but he seemed confused about what he wanted and broke it... (read in full...)
I fallen for a musician who played in our town, now I'm thinking of moving near him, how do I tell him I'm interested in a relationship?
Q. O.k., basically I met the guy of my dreams and he lives a long way away from me. I am almost 23 and he is 26. We met the first time in person when he and his band were on tour and played a show where I lived about 7 months ago. We keep in touch ...
A. 17 January 2008: I just wanted to add some more info on this situation because it is so funny to me...I decided not to go visit. I thought well, if I do end up moving closer, maybe we can see what happens then. WELL was I wrong! Only a MONTH after this, I happened ... (read in full...)
My friend's stategy to attract women. What do you think?
Q. I recently spoke to one of my guy friends about how he gets girls/woman to like him ( because he always seems to have woman on the go) He said that he gives them attention and then cuts it off and this makes them want more? What do...
A. 28 November 2007: Honestly...yes, it does work, but I believe it is better to not play games and be honest if you really like someone. If you do want to play hard to get, don't ignore them or be mean at all, just be playful about it. That works just as well.... (read in full...)
I'm bored and uncomfortable with my life. Sometimes I indulge in very dangerous things!
Q. Howdy, This is bound to be kind of long sorry but rounds to a question in the end.. I am 27, semi hot down to earth mother. Recently I have been wondering about my sexual identity. I have been married for 1 year but together for 10 years wit...
A. 28 November 2007: I don't think you are gay just because you are stimulated by other women, this is the only other type of sexual attention you have had since your marriage. You are angry at this man, which makes you resent men altogether right now. You need to stand ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to orgasm simultaneously with your partner?
Q. My girlfriend of several years and I have not had sex yet. We are both virgins. I have read that orgasm are very nice. How can I give her one? Is it possible to give her more than one? Is it possible for both of us to have one at the same time? ...
A. 28 November 2007: In my experience, it took quite a few times before I ever had an orgasm. I would feel like it was getting close, but would never happen. It takes awhile to get used to your own body and figure out what does it for you. The best thing to do is to ... (read in full...)
What advice do you have about giving and receiving Cunnilingus? When is a right time to give one?
Q. My girlfriend and I are in love. We are virgins and have not had sex yet. I understand that Cunnilingus are very pleasarable for woman. What advice do you have about giving and receiving Cunnilingus? How will I know when it is a good time to give ...
A. 28 November 2007: I think that if you want to do her a good favor, you should first get her in the mood...maybe after a nice date out or dinner or a relaxed movie at home, first kiss her softly and get her worked up, then ask her if she would like to try it.
If sh... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's boyfriend, and he likes me too! Help!
Q. Hi A few weeks ago my friend started to date this boy. I new him but i never spoke to him before. I thought i might aswell talk to him cause i would be seeing alot of him cause he was dating my best friend. I said hi and we started to tlk o...
A. 28 November 2007: One thing that you need to learn is that your friends' boyfriends are off limits! That's just how it is. You wouldn't want your friend doing that to you, would you? It is wrong of him to flirt with you, even if he would rather have you, he will ... (read in full...)
I was too clingy for my ex, and now HE keeps trying to talk to me...
Q. I broke up with my long-term boyfriend recently due to his starting at university; neither of us wanted to split, and he said (although it's unlikely) that once everything's out of the way, he might like to try a relationship again in the future. We ...
A. 28 November 2007: It sounds like he got used to having you there whenever he wanted and when you finally quit subjecting yourself to being hurt, he got tired of losing the attention he was getting from you. He's messing with your head and not worth it, leave him ... (read in full...)
He likes filming us having sex, why is this?
Q. I need advise, I have been involved with a guy on and off for 4 yrs. over the last 2 yrs he has asked if he can video he and I having sex. I did it then but was extremely paranoid when he kept it and didnt delete. a few months after he filmed it ...
A. 28 November 2007: I would say that this is not completely abnormal...he may have a exhibitionist side to his personality and he may get off on "being watched", BUT you have the FULL RIGHT to know exactly what he is doing with that video!! You never know, he could be ... (read in full...)
We're so close as friends and are scared to take it further in case it ruins what we already have...
Q. Hi, I asked a couple of months ago should I tell my best friend that I'm in love with her. We sat down and talked about it and we both feel the same way but both feel that it could break our over close bond. Anyone any got any advice on what to ...
A. 28 November 2007: If you both feel the same, then go for it! You will never know until you try, and there is no reason to be pesimistic about it when you don't know yet!... (read in full...)
I'm in my first year of a civil engineering course and am struggling badly...
Q. I'm doing civil engineering, I'm in my first year and I am struggling. In 2 modules I am doing really badly and these 2 I have exams in January for them. I've gone to counselling (not for that but self esteem issues) and I'm watching everything get ...
A. 28 November 2007: You should look into tutoring...a lot of colleges offer free tutoring, or private tutoring for a fee. Talk to your professor about maybe something extra he can give you to study with or something you can do for extra credit. Sometimes schools also ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I get along great... so why am I falling for this other guy?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we get along great, I love him to bits. We've been through at lot together and we have such a great connection. This is a long distance relationship though and although it can be annoying I ...
A. 28 November 2007: You need to decide if you can handle the long distance, or if you want someone who you can spend time with now. Sometimes we meet someone who is attractive and that we get along with very well, but that doesn't mean that you have to date him, maybe ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to convince here I have changed and we can make it work?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and I have been with my girlfriend for over a year, the first year was awesome but the next few months weren't and it's all my fault. She is my best friend's ex girlfriend and she kinda left him for me but me and him are still friends ...
A. 28 November 2007: It is not completely wrong of you to think that way, but it has been a long time you have been together since that happened...does she show you that she cares about you and that she is faithful and trustworthy now? It probably hurt her that you ... (read in full...)
Problem in talking with boyfriend
Q. I have got this strange problem. I am in a relationship for 1-1/2 years. The problem which my bf says I have is only that I dont talk my heart out to him or make conversations. When he tells me abt things which I have done wrong or I have fault ...
A. 28 November 2007: Try to remember to say something nice that you think about him at least once every day. When he sees that you are saying these things on your own without him having to ask, he will feel more appreciated. Guys feed on compliments and they are not ... (read in full...)
Can someone help me here with my insecurities?
Q. I am very happy with my boyfriend, but I have noticed differences in him lately like when we were first going out he couldn't wait to see me and he would spend every moment with me. After college he would come see me most of the week or ...
A. 28 November 2007: Maybe you should try to make one time a week when you are both able to be together that can be "your time" and go out together or study together.... (read in full...)
I don't get turned on at all, is this normal?
Q. I don't get turned on at all...No matter what my boyfriends or myself do, nothing really seems to turn me on..Is this normal?...
A. 28 November 2007: It is just because you are still very young and probably don't have much experience to know what you like. Don't force anything...you will know and feel it when it is right!... (read in full...)
Dazed and Confused... wrapped in a web
Q. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for the past four years. We have a daughter who's two. We were having problems and I drew close to my ex boyfriend who has been my ex for the past seven years. He has a girlfriend but we both drew away from ...
A. 28 November 2007: So you are back with your boyfriend now? (Not the ex?)... (read in full...)
Torn between two...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem that I have been married for 20 years and am in love with two woman. I got married at 19 and have 2 older children. I never thought that I would ever be a cheater. My wife is one that has never supported career...
A. 28 November 2007: I would say on this one you have to take some time and not be around either of them for awhile while you make your decision. You should take some time by yourself, even take some time off of work if you need to so you can think about what you really ... (read in full...)
School Dance...
Q. I'm 12 and going to my first school dance. I'm pretty good and never even hugged a guy before. I can't dance either. What do I do if someone asks me to dance? I want to, but can't!...
A. 28 November 2007: Well, you can practice by yourself and play some music and dance in front of the mirror. Get together with some of your friends and go to the dance together, so you will have someone to stand next to and talk to when you get there. When you dance ... (read in full...)
I'm infatuated... HELP!
Q. Hey -- you guys may think this is lame but, I feel so helpless..and not sure what to do. I moved to this new school to carry on into sixth form, and everyone knew each other, so I was obviously a bit out casted at first. I took a performing art subj...
A. 28 November 2007: From what you say about this guy, he seems like he does like you...he may have some kind of feelings for this other girl, or maybe he is afraid she and her friends will be mean to him if he shows that he likes you. Maybe he is just shy! Some people ... (read in full...)
Idead for Christmas...
Q. Okay, I have this idea for a christmas present for a lad I really like. I would like loads of messages saying whether you think it is too corny or any better ideas. I have already got him a little present which I am planning to wrap up, put in a nic...
A. 28 November 2007: That sounds really sweet! Go for it, he'd be crazy not to love it!... (read in full...)
Am I being silly or do I have a reason to be irritated?
Q. Given all the questions about photos of ex's on this site I thought I would throw my own worry into the mix. My boyfriend has pictures on his computer of his ex posing very provocatively in her underwear, touching herself, naked, bent over,etc...
A. 28 November 2007: yeah, that is really wrong...if you offered to do the same for him than there should be no reason why he has those!!! I would go and delete it myself if I was you and if he has a problem than OH WELL!!! ... (read in full...)
What can I say to get her attention?
Q. This is only a short question, where I live, I catch the tram into the city centre as I live 12 miles outside of the city and the tram is in the bus station where I live and there is a small paper shop there. I've been there the last 2 mornings and ...
A. 28 November 2007: just try to start a casual conversation with her...if you go there every day, she will probably recognize you. Just say hi, how are you today? and then maybe say something like, wow you are always here, don't they ever give you a day off? just ... (read in full...)
I want to start a relationship with her but don't know how...
Q. I am an unhappily married man who has fallen in love with this recently divorced woman who has two childern. I would like to start a relationship with her, but don't know how to go about starting one with her. I have been alone with her and would li...
A. 28 November 2007: I think you need to worry about your current wife and that situation first!! If you are unhappy, you need to let her know that you want to divorce. After you split up and aren't living together anymore and are sure you won't be back with her, then ... (read in full...)
I know what I deserve and it's not to be "the other woman" or someone's "play thing..."
Q. Trying to keep this short, I was in a relationship with "Frank" for a while before it went down hill and he cheated, we split. We were the best of friends prior to dating and did our best to stay friends through everything. Over the past year we ...
A. 28 November 2007: It sounds like you know what you need to do. You know that it will only be hurtful to you to spend time with him now, and the fact that you realize that shows that you are already starting to move on in some ways...I think you can see him to get ... (read in full...)
?She needs space what do I do?
Q. Hi there, my girlfriend for 5 months now needs space but she says she loves me. It's been about a week now and she texts me I do miss you. Why is that she told me that she needed to be single for a while and be on here own and she can't be my ...
A. 28 November 2007: yes I think you need to tell her that it is confusing to you that she says she wants her own space and then says she is missing you...tell her to take time to think about things, but you can't wait forever! Then all you can do is leave her be and ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me-what can I do to get him back?
Q. My boyfriend recently broke up with me (he said he wasn't ready for a long term relationship). The problem is I want him back because I still love him. I'm worried that if I don't do something we won't be able to stay friends and we will just stop ...
A. 27 November 2007: He doesn't want the same things you want... you say you love him, but he doesn't want a serious relationship so you have to respect that. See if maybe he wants to still date sometimes and not be together seriously. Try dating other people as well, ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him for messing me around or go back to him?
Q. Hiya ... Me and my recent boyfriend have broken up i was only with him for a short period of time but i cant figure out why he finishd with me .. I know my ex before was trying to split us up but he swore down it was nothing to do with him .. ...
A. 27 November 2007: I wouldn't worry about him if I was you....you are young and you have plenty of other opportunities for dates. He sounds like he is confused and doesn't know what he wants! Don't let him drag you around back and forth while he makes up his mind.... (read in full...)
I'm 40 and he's 20 years older. My family say he's too old. Is there a future here?
Q. I am 40 just filed divorce and I met this man 20 years older than me. We go dancing every Saturday night and have sex whenever we are together. All my families and friends do not like what I am doing. And they think there is no future as he is ...
A. 27 November 2007: You need to talk to your family in a calm and loving way and explain to them that you really care about this man and that he makes you feel good and give them specific examples of why. Tell them that it hurts you that they don't accept it and you ... (read in full...)
I'm shy-how do I learn how to have more self confidence?
Q. I need to learn how to be more open around guys,I get soo shy,it doesnt make any sense to me when i see other girls flirting and i cant do it! I think im afraid of rejection,or maybe im just a shy person.How do i learn how to have more self ...
A. 27 November 2007: Just remember that you are special in your own ways, don't worry about how other girls act. It is better to find someone who appreciates you the way you are than to try to be someone you are not.... (read in full...)
Fallen for my best guy friend but I'm not his type! How do I cope?
Q. Hi I have a horrible feeling i've fallen for my bestfriend every1 automatically thinks we're a couple anyhow, and he is amazing but i know his ex's and i know what he likes in girls and while he's not shallow he's not into girls like me, just ...
A. 27 November 2007: Don't assume that just because you're not like his ex girlfriends that he wouldn't like you! There is probably a reason why they are his EX girlfriends! You should try maybe getting someone else to bring it up and ask him to find out what he thin... (read in full...)
I fallen for a musician who played in our town, now I'm thinking of moving near him, how do I tell him I'm interested in a relationship?
Q. O.k., basically I met the guy of my dreams and he lives a long way away from me. I am almost 23 and he is 26. We met the first time in person when he and his band were on tour and played a show where I lived about 7 months ago. We keep in touch ...
A. 27 November 2007: Thanks for all your positive advice!
I think it has really helped me to realize that I need to just slow down and just relax and let things happen naturally!... (read in full...)
I fallen for a musician who played in our town, now I'm thinking of moving near him, how do I tell him I'm interested in a relationship?
Q. O.k., basically I met the guy of my dreams and he lives a long way away from me. I am almost 23 and he is 26. We met the first time in person when he and his band were on tour and played a show where I lived about 7 months ago. We keep in touch ...
A. 26 November 2007: Thanks for the comment!
I guess I should be more clear, I don't necessarily want a "serious" relationship or expect anything, I guess I am getting ahead of myself. I'm sure he knows that I am interested in him seeing as we have spent time together... (read in full...)
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