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anonymous
writes:my mom found a condom that me and my boyfriend used but i couldnt find any excuse but to tell her that it was one of my friends from work that put it in my bag but i find it hard to believe that she believed me and im 16! i dont know how to tell her i did it with my boyfriend already that i love him with all my heart and we have lasted a year already but i dont know what to do...what should i do?
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (21 July 2009):
 That's right rcn!
I dated my boyfriend (now husband) for 3 months. I told my parents that I was meeting some of my friends and going out. finally I decided to bring my boyfrind home to meet my parents so I told my mom that I had met this guy I wanted them to meet. well she says to me "oh finally you decide to bring him home, what has it been 3 months now".
I never could get anything over on her.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (21 July 2009):
ha ha ha, I agree with the other posters. She already knows sweetheart. One of your friends put a dirty condom in your bag and it made it all the way home contents in tact. I don't think so, and neither does she.
Maybe she's just letting you sweat it out a little bit. Let me let you in on something. Your parents tend to know what you're going to do BEFORE you do it. that's why we try to talk to you and head you off in the right direction. But the direction you choose whether right or wrong is up to you.
Now that you are sexually active (and she already knows) my advice is to sit down and have a real heart to heart with your mother. You will be amazed at how much she knows and how many pit falls you can avoid by just listening and learning.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 July 2009):
 I agree with the other poster. Mum knows. Kids use the "it's not mine" or "I didn't do it", but parent's already haven been kids and growing up have used the same excuses and have been caught using them. You'll be surprise of how much you try to get away with, that she may not tell you she knows, when she actually does. I found that out when my mom gave me examples, when I was in my 20's, of what I thought I got away with when I was younger.
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reader, AskSam  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Well there sweetheart, i think honesty is the best policy and find a nice time to sit down and talk about it, you dont have to tell her all the details, but be as honest and straight to the point as you possible can. She may be mad, but should apreciate your honesty, give her time to think it over, and maybe next time be more careful! Toilets have sanitry bins in work i presume so use that! As long as you are safe and truely love your boyfriend, then you should be ok.
Love and luck
Irish sam xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): I hope it had a knot in it. Very messy otherwise.
Like Eyes says, your mother is far from stupid and probably used the same sort of excuse - or something very similar - in her teenage years.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Trust me, she already figured everything out. I love how teenagers think their parents are just so stupid,heh heh. However she probably would appreciate you telling her the truth, it will show her you are gaining some maturity.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Ask if you two can go out to dinner. Make it nice, have a little girl's day. Maybe a little shopping, a movie, a manicure? You'll be feeling close and chummy by the end, so you can sit her down and say, "Mom, I really want to talk to you about something...", and then let it out. This should bring you closer, not drive you farther apart. While she may be upset, hopefully she is happy with your honesty and efforts to do the right thing. Tell her you want to talk to her about birth control, maybe set up an appointment at Planned Parenthood for both of you to go to so that you can talk about risks, protection and your health.
I think it's great you want to involve you Mom in your life, and I'm sure that she'll be grateful that you do.
Good luck, sweetness!!! 3
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reader, Jamez  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 I know this may be hard to do but just tell her. she will understand and just tell her you love him.
if she doesnt all shell do is throw all the toys out of ther pram and give you a lecture, but just remember she was your age once.
just tell her
yours considerately
james xxx
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