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30-35,
*arolinastate
writes:Hi,My parents have been divorced for several years. I used to live one week at my daddy's and one week at my mom's. Then I had some problems with my dad when teenage came. So I stopped the one-week-thing to live with my mom. I don't see my dad very often,something like 5 times a year... I really miss my dad now. He's like a very good friend,we love the same things,we play guitar,we love English and he's always ok with my choices. It's not like that at all with my mom. I can't breath with her,I can't go out with friends and she always treats me like if I was 5. It's really boring. Plus,she can't help me with my homework and school stuff and I really need some help for few classes.Sometimes I really want to run away.I'm moving to another school for my Junior Year which starts in September. I think it's a new departure and I don't like my life. I'd like to go to my dad's when I come back from school and do my homework with him and his wife. I know he's involved in my studies. He doesn't tell me he goes to parents meeting at school but my teachers do. Do you think it's a good idea? I'm afraid of his reaction because I haven't seen him for ages. I really want to go everyday (if it's ok with his job) at his house to make my homework and then coming back home. It could be a good way to spend time with him,don't you think so?What do you think about that?Thanks in advance,Caroline.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): Well why dont you try doing something like the week thing again. so you get to spend time with your mum and your dad.
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I think that's fine.
The reason you're not with your dad is because you choose not to be. and he allowed you to make that choice. but seeing as he is still looking after you by going to your school and such shows that you are still important to him.
I'm sure he would love to be able to see you everyday, and to build a strong relationship.
It will be good for you too; to have a strong relationship with both of your parents can only be beneficial.
You are older now and are able to move around by yourself more than when you were a 'new' teen. You are more able now to go back and forth between the two homes. There is no reason why you can't be the center of both of their lives.
I think it's a wonderful Idea!
Talk it over with your mom and dad. I'm sure it will work out ok.
p.s. don't be to hard on your mom, it's usually different when you have the full time responsibility for a child, than for the parent who dosen't. the full time parent usually has to be a little more tougher and stricter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): hey,
my life is rubbish aswell and im 15,
if you are worried how your dad will react, maybe you should text him and tel him what you want to do and how you feel, tell him you miss him so mucha nd you love him to pieces, and if he says that its fine for you to move to his then go for it, in the end of it all your his daughter and you are a human being like everyone else and you shoudl make the best out of your life! x
hope this helped x
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