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writes: I saw my friend's boyfriend cheat on her at this party that my boyfriend was hosting at his place (he lives on his own). She was looking for him cause he told her needed to a phone call half an hour ago. Anyway she asked me and my boyfriend if we seen him we both said no. Well cutting this short I had to use the bathroom, the door was unlocked so I went in thinking no one to be in. Well let say I saw some pretty nasty stuff that my friend's boyfriend was doing to this other girl. He noticed me, he begged me not to my friend. I just agree to it but I was lying to. After that I went home cause I just felt so guilty about the whole thing.Now my friend doesn't know what her asshole boyfriend is doing and she also been talking about going all the way with him (she's a virgin). Should I still tell? Reply to this Question
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Yes!!! you have no obligation to him. and he has already shown that he has no love for his girlfriend.
Tell her what you saw and then she can make the decision about her virginity accordingly. but at least you won't have the guilt that you knew something and didn't tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): You should definitely tell her about the stuff you've seen if you really like your friend before they become married, have children...because she could suffer all her life and you may blame yourself or even she could blame you later if she somehow gets to know that you actually could have "rescued" her earlier. Frankly, the man who did this will do that again and again and has no character.I am not very happy at the moment. I am with my boyfriend almost 6 years and I found messages - very saucy - to another girl and would be so so so HAPPY if someone tells me the truth, because he claims that nothing happend and loves ONLY me. But this isnt first time I had certain suspicions. And I WOULD be very happy if someone rescue me before we wil have a child... I cant sleep as I cant stand that truth may be somwhere else and he is a lier. But how can I find as noone told me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Normally I would say to stay out of it. But in this case, I think it would be a good idea to tell your friend. If she lost her virginity to him, and then found out what he was up to...my God, it could crush her.
Just be careful how you go about it though. Try telling her what you saw calmly, and try to keep your own reactions out of it. Your friend may not believe you, or she may not WANT to believe you. She may even decide to carry on with her boyfriend anyway. It will be her decision as to what she decides to do.
But at least you would have been honest and told her, and you will know you did as much as you could to look out for her.
Good luck, I hope it all goes okay. x
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Yes, tell her. You are HER friend, not his. Loyalty is part of the glue that makes for true friendships, and they're not all that easy to come by. if you don't tell her, and she "goes all the way" and then finds out later what a sleaze bag he is, she will be devastated and you will know that you could have maybe stopped her from making the mistake. She'll be upset about it, but at least you can sleep easy knowing you've been a true friend.
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