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... Send *untie claire a private message | | | *untie claire's profile:hi there readers my name is claire (aka auntie claire) i'm new at this so i don't know how to convince you i'm all ears i've always been told i'm a good listener and my advice is good i never see things from one point of view i see two sides to every story i haven't had much luck in my life so must things i answer is from experiance and i've wised up from my own mistakes and belive me there have been a few i thought i would give this a try because i do really enjoy helping people i would even offer a one to one service via my own e-mail address if needed. i am in a very loving relationship now with 4 beautiful children i might add i had my first at only 17 (pregnant at 16) so i think that alone makes me understanding of a lot of readers. i hope i can help at least some of you even if it just something small and bring comfort to your lives i wish all who read this peace health and lots of love thank you for taking the time to read this xx |
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I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 13 June 2006: hello again it has ben a while now sence you wrote in abotu your nightmaes and i was just wondering how you were gteting on have things got any better for you now i do hope so and if you need anythign else (anythign at all) you can contact me direc... (read in full...)
Self conscious about my body.. Please help??
Q. I am very self concious about my vons veneris, it's the fatty tissue that covers the pubic bone, above the labia and below the abdomen... mine is very large and it makes me to nervous that i won't let my boyfriend touch me. When i look in a mirror ...
A. 22 May 2006: dear reader. please don't worry about this i have the same problem but mine is due to having kids and putting on loads of weight the only thing i can suggest is exercise but it is very hard to get rid of other then having a painfull op. its a part ... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 14 April 2006: hi there again i'm glad you found the website helpfull just remember things don't happen over night just get it some time and things will sort themselves out in the end.
thank you for the follow up i'm please you did i'd like to know how you are ... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader i have found a website which i hope can help you it is here-be-dreams.com i hope you find this helpful good luck hope to hear from you in a few weeks or months to say things are going well and you've finally had a good nights sleep ... (read in full...)
I need to let go of my relationship with my boyfriend, but I can't imagine how to do it...
Q. I don’t why, but I think most of my problem comes from the fact that I cant let go. I been with my boyfriend for seven months now, and I believe I found someone else, which connect with far more than I would have thought. I find myself unable t...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader you have to follow your heart on this one and be strong don't stay in a relationship if you don't feel the same you have to learn to let go if your going to move on. make sure this other guy feels for you as you do for him or it will all ... (read in full...)
Realised that I want to try again with my ex-husband. Should I try or let it go?
Q. I'm 21yrs old and have been divorced for nine months. I finally sat down with my ex-husband and we had a good heart to heart. I have come to realise that I still love him and want to try again. Do I ask to try again or do I try to move on?...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader this all depends on what you split up for in the first place and if the same thing is going to happen again if you are both sure things will be better and try your hardest not to think of the past (that could ruin it for starters) then i ... (read in full...)
Surely there's nothing you can't work out if you try hard enough! True or False?
Q. Me and mt boyfriend have been going out for 3 and a half years and we've been through a lot together.Recently it felt like things were just going downhill.I really love him and I've always believed that there's nothing you can't work out if you ...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader. i suggest you follow your heart i'm the same and have been through what you are going through right now with my partner and now we are stronger then ever all relationships have there problems and most can be worked out depends on what ... (read in full...)
When is an age gap too big?
Q. when is an age gap too much?...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader. an age gap is too big when you and the other person have a problem with it at then end of the day no-one can tell you how to feel and who for. on the other hand i hope your not a girl still in school thinking of going off with a much o... (read in full...)
I'm really depressed and need good advice on how to help myself!
Q. I split up with my girlfriend 4 months ago - im 27 and feel chronically depressed at the moment. On top of feeling like I want my ex back, even though she is now seeing someone else - I feel like im going to be 'left on the shelf' as most of my fr...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader. if you don't have the confidence to chat anyone up in bars and clubs try going on a few chat rooms just for fun and to biuld up a bit of confidence it will take your mind off your ex or you could talk it out with some people on there ... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader. it sounds to me that you girlfriend is trying to trap you a little here and may have some security issues she needs to deal with. you sound very mature and its good that you are keeping track of whats going on but you are right it does ... (read in full...)
Problem with my foreskin, how can I fix it without circumcision?
Q. I have a problem with my foreskin, I can't manage to pull it below my head when erect (not a problem when non-erect). I can manage to get it about half way before it hurts quite badly. I read a few websites about people with similar problems and ...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader. i understand completely what you are going through i and strongly suggest you see your gp as my partner had the same problem but he done nothign about it and he ended up splitting while having sex it hurt and bled a lot i don't want you ... (read in full...)
Could my defect put a women off sex??
Q. Hi this question is really asking for a females opinion. I have have something called pectus excevactum (a funnel chest) and it has caused me to have a low self esteem. I worry that whe i become involved in a relationship with a women and we want ...
A. 11 April 2006: dear reader
don't worry about this too much just be straight with the girl in the first place explain to her your "defect" and how it makes you feel if she runs a mile shes not the one for you if she sticks around chill out and enjoy it after all ... (read in full...)
How old should you be to have sex?
Q. i am looking for a boyfriend how can i find one and how old should a girl have to be before she have sex...
A. 11 April 2006: dear reader not to be offencive but you sound very young not to know the answer to this question.
YOU should be 16 before you even think about having sex and don't just look for anyone try and find that special someone that is going to respect you ... (read in full...)
My friends pick on me for being a virgin!
Q. Dear Cupid, What is it nowadays that makes young adults rush into things, what happened to those days where people had good clean fun, and were proud of being single. I'm 22, male, single, not looking for a relationship YET, but most of my frien...
A. 7 March 2006: dear reader. for one i'm very proud that there are still men out there with good strong morals so well done you. Well i think your right i really think you need to find a new group of friends ones that aren't going to make you feel bad about being ... (read in full...)
He touched me and tried to kiss me when he was with his old girlfriend. Would he have done the same behind my back?
Q. I love my ex boyfriend so much. We dated for just about 2 and a half months but I knew him for quite a while before. Before we got together he had a gf and although he had a gf, he flirted with me tried kissing me (I backed away as I would hate to ...
A. 17 February 2006: dear reader unfortunatly it sounds to me that it is more then liekly hitiry repeating itself if you don't mind me saying he sounds a bit of a sleeze i think your well out of it. For your sake i do hope i'm wrong but from past experiances i've been ... (read in full...)
Is 'toe-sex' just going to be too weird to suggest?
Q. Please if there is anyone else who has this fetish, or if you are a guy, does this appeal to you? I don't have a foot fetish, but I had one boyfriend who did this to me once, and I want my new bf to do it but I'm scared he'll think I'm weird. M...
A. 17 February 2006: dear reader. from experiance i agree with you if he is open sexually then he shouldn't see a problem with it anyone that is up for trying new things shouldn't think anything like that is weird. he might enjoy it too even if he only does it once but... (read in full...)
I stand up to him...
Q. I stand up to my partner because at times he can be very pompous and superior and a real know it all. He can also be a very quiet and caring man but there is another side to him. He can't handle stress and says I go on too much about things, ...
A. 17 February 2006: dear reader first of all i don't think you should give up on him you need to ask yourself one question do you love him enough to want to help. No-one should stand for this kind of thing you don't deserve to be treated like that for one but only you... (read in full...)
We broke up so I went on a dating site. The ex bf found out and accused me of cheating!
Q. My boyfiend dumped me after 4 months because i wasn't giving him enough space. 2 days later i went on to a dating site. i honestly had no intention of meeting up with anyone or even looking for someone else. my ex then told me he missed me and...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader. i think you need to talk to him and tell him you was just on the rebound which you probably was if you really do love him you need to look at the reasons why you had split in the first place weigh it all up and then you'll know what to ... (read in full...)
We are online dating..and sometimes he gets mad for no reason. What's up with this guy?
Q. Hey I'm a little confused about my feelings. Theres someone I like, he likes me back, and although I've never met him I know him through a real-life friend, and we're 'online-dating'. The problem is, we don't exactly argue, but sometimes he ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader you are in a mess eren't you. first of all have you ever met this guy? secong of all online relationships never seem to work you never know what the other person is doing behind your back for one you don't seem very certain whether ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and my big brother teases me! He's hurt me enough to last a lifetime. What should I do?
Q. Hi. I live with my dad because my mum died when I was younger. I have a little sister and an older brother, thing is , my older brother picks on me. He's so nice to my little sister, who's four years younger than me (I'm 13), and my brother is 18...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader let me just say first you seem very grown up to be a 13 yr old and i know exactly what your going throguh my brother was only 2 yrs older then me and he did really bully me physically too so teasing isn't really so bad try and show him ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my ex's new boyfriend, and I can't help thinking he's getting what I'm not!
Q. My Ex has found someone else.....why does it hurt? My girlfriend of 1 year 8 months broke up with me about a month ago and I was OK with it I guess, cause we were kinda fighting a lot and things kinda fell apart. She said we could still be f...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader you really must get over this one it is doing you no good thinking whatif people do move on thats the point of spliting up try and be happy for her i think this is you not wanting to be alone not to do with her you may still feel ... (read in full...)
How do I end this relationship with a controlling and threatening man?
Q. I am having problems with my relationship with my partner. I'm not unhappy. I want an end to my marriage and a new life with just me and my daughter and I want a break with just me and her. My partner won't let us go even to stay for a week with a f...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader you really need to get out of there i can be easy just stay strong take a ig deep breath and go take your daughter and run if there is anywhere he don't know about go there for a while but this man is doing you no good what so ever noone ... (read in full...)
If I spend time with the guy who "likes the single life", will I end up being disappointed?
Q. Hiya, I met a boy about a month ago and we've been getting on really well. He's 19, I'm 17. He texts me every day asking how I am and what I'm up to. He even came to a friend's party where he didn't know anybody but me and he's told me outright that ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader i think you need to talk to him about how you feel its obvious that he does like you a lot and yeah it all fun being single but we all have to settle down at soem time in our lives may-be if you ask him if you can both take it slow get ... (read in full...)
She had lunch and gym meetings with her ex. Now I don't trust her!
Q. My girlfriend and I dated for almost a year now. About 1 month into our relationship I found out that she had gone to lunch with her ex-lover. I also learned that he had been coming to the gym that her and I work out at and running on the ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader. it sounds to me that you might justhave your wires crossed a little all relationships don't end badly you can still be friends so may-be thats all it is if it really does bother you that much why not ask her just to calm it down about ... (read in full...)
Really sore during sex... What could it be?
Q. I am 17 and started having sex at the age of 16. I never used to have any problems with it but recently it's been really sore during sex, although I haven't had any other noticeable symptoms. My boyfriend is certain something is wrong with me and h...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader i'm not sure what to tell you on this sex can sometimes be sore if you have changed partner recently then he might be bigger then your last (that should give hima big head) if however you have noticed any redness or iching then i think ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and attracted to a 20-year-old, but I don't understand whether it's a crush or what...
Q. I am 13 years old. There is a girl (well she is about 20) and I am not sure how I feel about her. I just feel if she knew that I liked her and accepted it I would feel so much happier and the feeling which I have when I see her would be lightened. ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader. this is a tricky one here your very young and you might think that you know what love is but it sounds to me its just a crush i'm affraid. forgive me for saying this but it seems to me that your looking for a mother figure don'tget... (read in full...)
She's been my best friend for 9years..so do I risk it all and tell her I want to date her?
Q. Hi there, i have a bit of a dilemma and i really need help. My best freind who i am completely in love with has told me that she is going away for 3 months in june. The thing is that im happy for her to go but can't help thinking i should tell her ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader i do think you need to open up to her may-be not jump right in and tell her your in love with her but put it in a way of asking her the question "how would she feels if you felt more for her" don't scare her into thinking your trying to ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my bf how I feel without making him feel bad?
Q. ok... my boyfriend tried to finger me and it was really weird. I thought he'd know what to do to get me into it but he went straight to trying to penetrate. It was kinda rough and i dont even think he got very far if anywhere. We are really close ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader i think you should talk to this guy don't bottle things up or he will never know how to please you always be open about how you feel in a sexual relationship don't panic about making him feel bad just try to word it like your trying to ... (read in full...)
Do you think having a torid one night stand for sex, will boost my confidence?
Q. Hi, I am 18 and i have this dream to have a one night stand with a girl, for the sheer thrill of it, with some one I don't know in a place i dont know, so no-one can find out. I haven't had a girlfriend though, so I don't really want my first ki...
A. 13 February 2006: dear reader i don't think a one night stand is your answer yes it might be all exiting but you have to think of the outcome all sorts of things can happen and in some way some day soemone will find out and no a one nighter should really not be the ... (read in full...)
I was stupid to listen to my friends. The told me to break up with my bf...so how do I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend and i broke up 2 days ago and i miss him. I kinda said a couple of things that hurt him but i swear i didnt mean any of them. I only did it coz people around us, well, me, didnt want us to be together. Now, everytime i see something or ...
A. 13 February 2006: dear read now don't think like that at all nothing is ever worth thinking that over belive me i know i really think you need to talk to him lets face it you was silly to listen to your friends other then your heart . may-be give it a couple of days ... (read in full...)
I think he likes me-but I'm very confused as to whether or not I like him.
Q. Hi, I wrote the "he stares at me like a challenge" question, and i wanted to respond and say thanks for the answers. I just wanted to say, the things he says in front of people to get under my skin arent nessicarily mean, more like they make me ...
A. 11 February 2006: dear reader it sounds to me that he is in the same stage as you he might not know how to react when he is on his own with you does he know how you feel about him and if he is with someone else then i'm afraid to say yes it is one of the sit and wait ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that if my fiance takes a distant job we'll be isolated from family. He doesn't seem to understand!
Q. Dear friends, My fiance of 5yrs wants to up sticks - find a job in a distant town (which may, if he's offered it, take him further away from us (myself, and his 14 yr old son) if the company want him to stay out overnight or for several nights a...
A. 11 February 2006: Dear "Faith", I can understand how you feel i would like to ask if you have ever thought of taking up driving lessons this will give you the freedom that you could go and see your mum whenever you like or if god forbid anything were to happen and ... (read in full...)
Our 2-year anniversary night was a disaster, because he acted like a jerk...
Q. Hey, My bf and I was meant to go out for a romantic dinner for our 2 year anniversary but instead we started arguing and the whole thing was a disater. What do I DO NOW? I STILL LOVE HIM although he acted like a jerk! ...
A. 11 February 2006: dear reader it sounds to me your man has got a lot of making up to do ask him if he will take you out for one night and see if it can set the record straight find a day were your both a little less stressed
i hope this works for you good luck xxx... (read in full...)
We hit if off, but the thing is, he's going out with my friend!
Q. Hi, There is this guy who I like, but is secretly going out with my friend. I Can't help it; I really like him. We always talk and we love the same things and sometimes it seems like he likes me too. What should I do? It's like I'm breaking...
A. 11 February 2006: dearr "jj" errmmmmm i'm in the same sort of pickle here myself so i completely understand what you are going through all i can say is you may like him loads but i think your playing with fire a little there girl may-be if you talk to this guy find ... (read in full...)
What is this yellowy-white stuff in my pants? It's got me worried
Q. Hi, I know this sounds really disgusting, but I need help. I'm thirteen years old and when I take my pants off at the end of the day, there's this thick yellowy-white stuff that's dried in my pants. This may sound normal to you, but sometimes it's ...
A. 11 February 2006: hi there kid i totally agree with "baby girl" there i had the same thing as a kid and mine went on for some time after my periods started there is nothing to worry about and don't panic its not an infection well mine wasn't anyway if you notice any ... (read in full...)
Fell in love with this guy but my parents hate him. What should I do?
Q. hi.i'm 30 year old divorcee with a 5 yrs old son.last year i fell in love with a catholic guy n want to marry him now.the problem is that my parents didn't like him at all.if i go against my family,they will disown me.i feel stuck now.want to be ...
A. 11 February 2006: all i can say to you is do your family know him if not give them the chance to meet him and get to know him thereselves i don't want to tell you to go against your family but you can't put your life on hold from love just because someone doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do I go back to the woman who stabbed me in the chest? I've fallen for her again!
Q. Hi, I meet a girl four years ago and we was going out for the 1st two years and was really happy. I moved in with her and her 10 year old daughter, and my two kids stayed at the weekend.Two years ago on Boxing day we had a party and both got drun...
A. 11 February 2006: dear britguy i don't quite know how to start this one but as they say you really can't help the way you feel can you. I wouldn't say run like hell just be very carefull its the same as if a dog bites you, if they've done it once there is more chance ... (read in full...)
Was there anything going on with my boyfriend and his ex when we got together?
Q. Hey, I need some advice... I know I shouldn't have done it but (perhaps because I find it hard to trust people) but I looked at my boyfriend's email account. I found an email from his now ex girlfriend from a month ago. He and I got together a...
A. 10 February 2006: dear reader to me it sounds as though you might be the one feeling a litle insecure it looks to me though your friend might be right he probably didn't want to say anything to you because it wasn't nescersary. i wouldn't worry about this this ... (read in full...)
He teases and mocks me and looks at me all the time. So, is the attraction mutual?
Q. I work with this guy..... he is 18 and I am 21, I have the BIGGEST crush on him and what just wondering if you thought he might like me back..... here are some of the things he does....... teases me endlessly, mocks everything I do, anytime I talk ...
A. 10 February 2006: dear reader it sounds to me this guy is just on a wind up with you it might be the fact that he likes you and doesn't think he stands a chance because your older then him have you asked him why he does this to you
it might be his trying to make this... (read in full...)
We're in our 30's. Feel sick that he dated a 16 year old when in his late 20's... !
Q. I'm in my 30's as is my boyfriend. I just found out he started seeing his last girlfriend when she was 16 (she'll be 18 now). He had previously told me she was 19 when they met. Really freaked out by this... feel that 16 is just a child. Should...
A. 10 February 2006: dear reader i understand your concerns completely but i think if you love you boyfriend and this is the only thing that puts you off then is it really worth worrying over at the end of the day age is just a number to a certain extent yes she was ... (read in full...)
I caught him lying many times..is this innocent or is he up to something behind my back?
Q. Im starting to be concerned with the way my bf has be acting. I mean maybe it's just stress from college and stuff but that doesn't give him the right to be a jerk towards me right? Well here is the situation. A couple months back like in lat...
A. 6 February 2006: dear reader i'm not sure that i can tell you if his lieing or not but it doesn't sound to good from what you have said i would love to tell you it will be alright but to be quite honest with you i'm not too sure may-be i'm wrong may-be he has strong ... (read in full...)
Should I give him up as he has a girlfriend?
Q. I'm 17 female...I've been going with this guy (kissing haveing sex) since October I really really like him and hes the 1st person that I've like since my ex 2 years ago. Thing is I seen him every Satuarday since October untill last month......
A. 6 February 2006: dear reader seems to me your in a bit of a pickle but for one thing you need to make sure yourself that your not just with this guy coz your scared of being on your own.
your still young so try not to put all your heart and sole in if your not... (read in full...)
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