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... Send *untie claire a private message | | | *untie claire's profile:hi there readers my name is claire (aka auntie claire) i'm new at this so i don't know how to convince you i'm all ears i've always been told i'm a good listener and my advice is good i never see things from one point of view i see two sides to every story i haven't had much luck in my life so must things i answer is from experiance and i've wised up from my own mistakes and belive me there have been a few i thought i would give this a try because i do really enjoy helping people i would even offer a one to one service via my own e-mail address if needed. i am in a very loving relationship now with 4 beautiful children i might add i had my first at only 17 (pregnant at 16) so i think that alone makes me understanding of a lot of readers. i hope i can help at least some of you even if it just something small and bring comfort to your lives i wish all who read this peace health and lots of love thank you for taking the time to read this xx |
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He won't wear a condom, what should I do?
Q. My new bf sais he wont wear condoms, I am on the pill though. Should i have sex with him?...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader the only advice i can give you is no. i would like to ask you how long you have been with your b/f? and if you know him well even to have sex in the first place you need to think of who he has been with him the past anything that cou... (read in full...)
What if anything can I do to win back my gal?
Q. i started seeing a girl 9 months ago she is 23 and i'm 37 and we then fell head over heals in love. Then all of a sudden she ended it for no apparent reason. Except that she need time on her own. she said the problem is not me but her. She wants me ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. the only thing i can say is try and do as she asks and move on your not doing yourself any favours if you just live in hope.
i'm not say forget her completely and have no contact but just let her know your not going to stop her from... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man... ! (still)
Q. Iam still in love with this married man I lie awake everytime and imagine what it would be like if we came together heis good looking and has nice eyes and everything I feel shy when I see him but I really like him alot I deerpately would lkike to ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. your playing with fire here you knwo that don't you?
have you ever thought that you might like him so much because you CAN'T! have him.
do you really want to be "the other woman" or worse break up someone happy home.
do you really k... (read in full...)
Lost my boyfriend... Lost my job... Now I'm losing my flat!
Q. What can help me right now? I am about to vacant the flat me and my boyfriend of 8 years bought together for half an hour so that an agent can show people round it to potentially rent it out. My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago saying he ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. i think some counselling would help you or at least talk to some friends or family it's hard lossing one thing on your list but i can't even begin to imagen what you must be going through.
Also i think you and your ex should talk abou... (read in full...)
How do I know when my boyfriend is ready for "horse and carriage"?
Q. How Do I know when my boyfiriend is ready for committment and marriege...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. i wouldn't like to say each man is different and if you know your b/f that well you should know when to ask or when to start dropping hints that thats what you want
good luckxxx... (read in full...)
Should I have gotten back to my ex when she rang me?
Q. Hey guys, status update, here's my last couple of questions for a quick background: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-ex-got-bitchy-by-text-when-i.html http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. i think your doing well to stand firm be proud of yourself for sticking to the agreement. keep it up.
thanks for the update its nice to know how you are getting on
all the best xxx... (read in full...)
Why would she dump me (nice, fun, giggly) for HER (bi-sexual, sleeps around)... !?
Q. i was dumped three weeks ago for reasons unknown to me. then i found out that he was seeing someone behind my back. this girl was a friend of his. there was always a reason i couldn't meet her. i got very insecure trying to trust him but thinking he ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. first of all its not you. he has obviously heard she's "a good ride" and small minded men have this thing about biosexual women.
i wouldn't worry about this you can find someone much better.
just let them have their fun and carry on... (read in full...)
I'm taking laxatives every day... Is this a good thing?
Q. Hi all... I am 25ys old. Since I can remember (14-15 yrs old), I never had free bowel movements. I would poo like once every 2-3 days. I figured that it was because of my dieting and irregular eating habits and not drinking enough water. But, now I ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader i think you need to see a doctor those tabs will not help you if you take them everyday coz your body will just get emuine to them by the sounds of it you have I.B.S and there are lots of medications that can help you with that seek ... (read in full...)
How do I show this boy I really like him?
Q. I like this boy and I don't know if he likes me but when I went to his baseball game he kept looking at me with weird looks and stuff. Even though I have went out with him before I don't know how to ask him back out because I like him a lot. So what ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader i think it best to just be honest with him, if you leave it someone else will snap him up and where would that leave you. you have been together before so he must have a feeling you like him by the way you act around him and if his ... (read in full...)
Does this boy really like me? (long post)
Q. My ex and i split up about six months ago and i was absolutly distraught over it. I went so depressed i started eating for comfort and i put on a lot of wieght, plus his constant phone calls to remind me i was out of his life didn't help me much. I ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. Woow!! that was long winded lol.
anyway to the point, if he hasn't made his mind up about making the relationship more then i think you should talk to him quick it might be what his waitting for. don't see it as taking her man you need... (read in full...)
I'm in the military and my wife tells me she kissed another man (once)... Should I be concerned?
Q. I have been maried with 2 children happy for 7 years 100% faithful and like wise on my wifes end until the other night she called me the next day crying telling me when she went to a concert that another man kissed her and then she kissed him back ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. the whole relationship should be built on trust and honesty. now she may have been honest with you but are you sue you can trust her the next time you stay away from home or she goes out i'm not trying to make things look worse but you ... (read in full...)
Is my BF cheating on me with a girl in his class?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months. He's my first serious boyfriend, but lately im worried that he's cheating on me. Theres this girl in his Science and Art class and he's ALWAYS talking about her. He says he's just talking about ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader oh dear you do need to have a word with him i would say ask her but since you are school age i wouldn't advice that she would only stir up trouble so i think you should ask him if you know him that well you will know when his lying .
k... (read in full...)
Confused about my sexuality (long post)
Q. Right I'm having a problem, and I've tried hard to ignore it for my sake and for my families sake, and ESPECIALLY my parents. but I'm afraid it's not changing. This might be long so please bare with me, I need to get this off my chest. I'm singl...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader, instead of being gay have you thought about you being bisexual or even biocurious? Don't let it worry you that your sex life is a big poor your not the only one. i think you should think of yourself for a while and what you want don't ... (read in full...)
We're both available and I want him to notice me!
Q. I have really like a boy at my school for ages! We are both 15 and I really like him. I recently came out of a two month relationship and thankfully both me and my ex managed to move on and stay friends. The guy i like recently came out of a two ye...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader honesty is the best policy my dear if you really like this guy then tell him it sounds like he might like you too. also do you not think your just a little too young for all this nonsence after all your only 15 your still at school and ... (read in full...)
Why am I putting on so much weight? Could I be pregnant or something?
Q. I was 8 and a half stone and am now nine....now I think I checked my weight about a week or 2 ago. Is it normal to put on this much weight in this time or could it be that I am pregnant or something....help!! What is it? ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. first of all don't panic i would like to ask how old you are?
if you are earliy to late teens then this is perfectly normal so don't worry
any change in diet could be a factor in this too.
but if you have any feeling in thinking you... (read in full...)
She acted all girly around me. Does that mean she fancies me?
Q. I'm 15 and there is this girl at school and she keeps looking at me and been nice. To day she asked me if she was fat and then started acting really girly. I said no you are slim; stop being stupid. Does she fancy me?...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i think its safe to say yes but don't just jump right in with your eyes closed be friends get to know her first.
good luck to you xxx... (read in full...)
My ex has a new girlfriend and I just can seem to move on with my life!
Q. Hi just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to cope when an ex I'm still in love with moves on? We see each other every week as we have a child and last week he informed me that he has a new gf. I'm heartbroken and dreading seeing them tog...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader it is so hard to stop loving someone you have a child with even if you want to. i know you don't want to hear it and you probably have so many times but you really need t move on and admit to yourself things eren't the same anymore you ... (read in full...)
I don't think it's fair that my boyfriend listens to his ex's opinion!
Q. I am a 23 year old female and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have a 1 year old son together. He also has 2 children with his someone else. I know he cheated with this person he has these other children with in ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. quick answer NO! it isn't alright you need to put your foot down abotu this as you say you live together and she knows dame well the kids will be seeing you so why should it bother her whether you are with him to pick them up or not. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go against my religion, but I do want to give my girlfriend what she wants!
Q. Hello I am 14 years old. I have been dating this girl for 4 months 2 weeks and I have already proposed to her and plan to spend the rest of my life with her. She asked me a couple of nights ago to have sex with her soo I said yes. I'm highly a ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader STOP RIGHT THERE you are 14 years old why on earth are thinking about all this now you don't need all this at your age. you may think you are all grown up and yes you might be very mature for your age but not by any means are you ready ... (read in full...)
After six months, I'm still not over my ex, and think about him and his new girlfriend all the time!
Q. I'm 22 years old and last year my ex-boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me, and it still hurts me so bad. I know 6 months isn't a long time to be with someone but I had fallen in love with him a year before we got together and my whole world was ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader there are lots of people going through what you are goign through right now i have been there once myself but you do get over it and wonder why on earth it took you so long. breaking up is always hard but if you say you are feeling ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my GF, any tips?
Q. I'm planning to have sex with my girlfriend of six months for the first time (and its my first time with anyone). What I want to know is when having sex, does the entire female body become "sensitive" when you touch any part of her body or are there ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader every woman has a different feeling during sex but most of all make sure you know what she wants so i avice you to talk to her first ask her what she likes and tell her its your first time so if you get a little stuck you won't feel so ... (read in full...)
I am not having sex with my BF and it is frustrating me
Q. i have been with a guy, sam ,for 4 years, the first year we used to have sex say once a week/fortnight. it gradually got less and less and started having petty arguements all the time. after the second year we didnt have sex for almost a year. we ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. the only thing that springs to mind her is that your not in fact "in love" with him but you do love him as a friend i would even go as far as to say you have found your soul mate.
now soul mates don't always mean you have to be a coup... (read in full...)
Having problems with an ex, and we don't speak!
Q. Hey guys, my ex is seeing someone else currently (started seeing him less than a week after she broke things off). Currently we aren't speaking to one another. This was my decision after we tried over and over to be friends, which wasn't possible ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i think it best to just leave it the way it is now. its not going to do you both any favours keeping in contact especialy if she doesn't feel the same for you as you do for her and being as she hasn't contacted you i would say she wants ... (read in full...)
I am really angry towards my ex
Q. Since my ex and I broke up, i was devastated, and I'm getting stronger but my feelings for him have changed into anger. i have not called him nor emailed, i dont even want to know that he is on the same planet as me, infact i wish i never met him. ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader.
have you ever concidered this is not "hate" you are feeling for this guy? i know and understand you would like to hate him but there is a very thin line between love and hate and i think your just stuck somewhere in the middle.
never... (read in full...)
Am I too sensible too early in life?
Q. I want to know if people think I'm crazy or if my mates are. We're all 19 but very different. They all have a laugh all the time and sleep around, they don't take anything seriously and move from dead end job to dead end job just to get enough money ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader your not boring what so ever you are a successfull person, be proud, don't think for one minute your mad for thinking they are childish, to you they are sometimes but when you all get together you know how to have a good time. they may ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my friend at Uni, but she is a lesbian
Q. I've fallen in love with a girl I met this year at university. The problem is that she is a lesbian and is currently in a relationship. I thought that these feelings would pass but it's been months and I can't stop thinking about her. I'm not sure ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader the funny thing is i don't think you will scare her off if you tell her. i think that lesbian's feel quite flattered when a man says they have feelings. although this don't help you it may get it all off your chest but as you say she is ... (read in full...)
Why do men fancy my friend and not me!
Q. hey! im 16 an whenever me an my mate go out an about men are always looking at her and beeping at her in cars, that always happens to her cos she is so tall and slim. but i am average height and quite curvy, but slim aswell, so why dont men look at ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. don't worry yourself with this i had the same when i was younger and i bet you its the nice quiet men that like you ones that eren't just after one thing its hard not to get jealous but you need to stop looking for what happens if you ... (read in full...)
Is he too good to be true or am I setting myself up for more pain?
Q. For once in my life ive met a lovely man who texts me and rings me all the time, ive met him 6 times now over the last couple of months, we have got closer and both really feel for one another, but he has only been split up from his wife since begin ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader don't always think negative i would say if you just take things slow they will be fine in the end you both have admitted you feel for eachother so why not just have fun together for the time being to make sure this is not just a rebound ... (read in full...)
He's leaving the country for a year... Should I make things better after I accused him of breaking into my car?
Q. I starting seeing a friend of mine casually for 2 and a half months. We spent alot of time together and although it was 'casual' I think we both started to get feelings for each other. I know I did but wouldn't admit it to myself or him. At t...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i hope this is not too late but i really things should be sorted before he goes because things will be so hard for you both when he comes back. i hope he has left you a address where you can contact him while his away. its always hard ... (read in full...)
I am falling for my husbands best mate
Q. iv been married for only a month but have been with my husband for a year and a half but i think that im falling in love with my husbands best friend i love my husband but i have a really good connection with my husbands best friend and i dont know ...
A. 13 June 2006: oh dear noodle you are in a pickle i've been in this situation not very easy is it but you have only been married a short time do you really want to risk everything. when i wrote in for advice abotu this i was told to weigh up all the to good and ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is a disaster zone, help
Q. ive been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and we love and trust eachother deeply. we have a great relationship in every way except sexual. we where fine at the start for a few months then it just got less and less often.neither of us has a very ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. surprise him dress up make yourself feel really sexy and up for anything (with him) its hard when you have a low sex drive especialy when its both of you but dispite what people say i think its a very important part of a relationship so ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated on me with an enemy
Q. hi, i think my boyfriend has cheated on me with my worst enemy....but i love him. what should i do?...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader you need to find out the truth ask around, ask him but get to the bottom of it i hope it don't turn out to be true
keep me posted
find the truth xxx... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 13 June 2006: hello again it has ben a while now sence you wrote in abotu your nightmaes and i was just wondering how you were gteting on have things got any better for you now i do hope so and if you need anythign else (anythign at all) you can contact me direc... (read in full...)
I would like to sleep with my boyfriend...should I tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. This is a bit of a silly question, I'm embarrassed to ask but I really want to know. I'm a 23 yr old virgin, recently started seeing a guy I'm crazy about and ready to sleep with, and wondering how to tell him about my lack of 'bedroom experience.' ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader be upfront no-one can tell you how he will react ask him to guide you (i think men like that lol) but be honest with him a lot of men feel honoured to "pop the cherry" so to speak good luck with this i hope it goes well for you keep m... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with him in case something bad happens....what can I do?
Q. I have a slight dilemma. I have been going around to my best friends house almost every day for the past year now. (he is 22, i am 17). One day, about 5 months ago, he kissed me. I shall not go into further detail, however it has escalated to a ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. you know the only way to stop this is stop going round there what i don't understand is why you have have told him to stop and then continued to go along with it you knwo his with someone else could you emagen how you would feel if it ... (read in full...)
I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me!
Q. I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me that she is and its bugging me because if she is thats fine. I love her and want her to be happy even if its not with me. I just get tired of her lying about it because all the signs ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i hate to be blunt but why do you want to know so much you talk about honesty but the way she is treating you now is a comeback from how she felt when you were together if your really just friends then repect her wishes and keep her ... (read in full...)
I want to know where this relationship is going, but I don't know how to find out.
Q. hey, in the past ive had bad relationships and now ive met some1 that im kinda seeing i guess you could call it and when i talk to him and when im with him i feel great and when im not doing those things i think about him. i know its sad i guess bu...
A. 13 June 2006: dear Amiee its never too soon to have "the chat" especialy when one is going away for a long period of time i really think you should have a talk with him ask him honestly what he wants from this relationship and does he intend to find someone where ... (read in full...)
My mate asked my ex out the day after we broke up!
Q. i split up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago n im finding it reali hard! i love him so0o0 much n really want him back. the problem is my so called m8 asked him out the day after we broke up n he sed yes! so now there going out but i really ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i knwo you miss him and it hurts but think of the reasons why you split in the first please and could it work out not just on your part but his too as for you so called friend forget her thats not what friends do but on the other hand ... (read in full...)
Im meeting my girl from online, shes already got a BF, but we are close, how should I ask her about a relationship ?
Q. me and this girl who i like were talking online and i know we are close because she even said and we are best friends. I hadn't seen her for 3 months and i told her i got depressed because of it. She said she was shocked (as i would of guessed)but ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader i must warn you to tread carefully here it does sound as though she might like you but with an older b/f things might be a bit tricky. holding her hand sounds good too but try to be honest with her tell her you like her but don't be too ... (read in full...)
Don't want to be the girl who listens to gossip, but...
Q. Um... About three months ago, I meet this really amazing guy... I was just kind of stuck in a rut for 3 years until he came along and I just opened up. I had been in this awful relationship with this guy name Theo. He took my virginity after telling ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader the only thing i can say is you need to sit down and talk to you b/f things clearly need to be aired and he needs to be honest with you. no-one should listen to gossips but i knwo what its like you can't help their words just roll around ... (read in full...)
My husband is a selfish pig but I don't want to be a lone parent!
Q. I have been married for 3 years and I have just had our first child. Although it was not a planned pregnancy my husband and I always knew we wanted children so were both delighted when we found out. Shortly after the celebrations died down my ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader do you really want you baby girl to grow up with this man as a guide in life. i've said it so many times before "it take any old fool to be a father but that one special man to be a dad" and i'm sorry but this is no daddy he is selfish ... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 14 April 2006: hi there again i'm glad you found the website helpfull just remember things don't happen over night just get it some time and things will sort themselves out in the end.
thank you for the follow up i'm please you did i'd like to know how you are ... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 12 April 2006: dear reader i have found a website which i hope can help you it is here-be-dreams.com i hope you find this helpful good luck hope to hear from you in a few weeks or months to say things are going well and you've finally had a good nights sleep ... (read in full...)
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