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writes: I split up with my girlfriend 4 months ago - im 27 and feel chronically depressed at the moment.On top of feeling like I want my ex back, even though she is now seeing someone else - I feel like im going to be 'left on the shelf' as most of my friends are starting to get married and thinking about kids.I work in an environment which doesn't allow me to meet people very easily and dont often muster the confidence to chat women up in bars. All in all its a bit of a disaster! Does anyone have any tips?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (12 April 2006):
 I would agree with Mystic. Chat rooms might help a little but I would advise you to be careful of them as they can be a bit of a minefield if you are feeling a little emotionally vulnerable.
Try and widen you circle of friends with the aid of those who are still single. I understand it must be a bit hard to be around couples right now. As was also said, relatives can maybe help. When you are trying to chat people up you have to be aware that they are probably feeling just as shy as you inside, if it helps look at it as getting to know somebody better and don't put too much pressure on the end outcome even though you may find them attractive. Focus on getting to know them, ask them questions to that end and try and avoid corny lines. Hope that helps.
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reader, mystic_helper +, writes (12 April 2006):
The easiest thing to do is to widen your circle of friends. People at work for example, get people together, or even brothers/cousins etc can help you out.go for a drink, relax and learn to get over your ex. Just because you split up does not mean you will be left on the shelf. Think about how you met and think about the reasons you werent meant to be. You'll be ok.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 April 2006):
 dear reader. if you don't have the confidence to chat anyone up in bars and clubs try going on a few chat rooms just for fun and to biuld up a bit of confidence it will take your mind off your ex or you could talk it out with some people on there not everyone is look for a relationship or just sex. if that fails pluck up the courage and get out there you might be pleasantly surprisedgood luck to you i hope you find some peace in your life xxx
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