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... Send *untie claire a private message | | | *untie claire's profile:hi there readers my name is claire (aka auntie claire) i'm new at this so i don't know how to convince you i'm all ears i've always been told i'm a good listener and my advice is good i never see things from one point of view i see two sides to every story i haven't had much luck in my life so must things i answer is from experiance and i've wised up from my own mistakes and belive me there have been a few i thought i would give this a try because i do really enjoy helping people i would even offer a one to one service via my own e-mail address if needed. i am in a very loving relationship now with 4 beautiful children i might add i had my first at only 17 (pregnant at 16) so i think that alone makes me understanding of a lot of readers. i hope i can help at least some of you even if it just something small and bring comfort to your lives i wish all who read this peace health and lots of love thank you for taking the time to read this xx |
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My husband is a selfish pig but I don't want to be a lone parent!
Q. I have been married for 3 years and I have just had our first child. Although it was not a planned pregnancy my husband and I always knew we wanted children so were both delighted when we found out. Shortly after the celebrations died down my ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader do you really want you baby girl to grow up with this man as a guide in life. i've said it so many times before "it take any old fool to be a father but that one special man to be a dad" and i'm sorry but this is no daddy he is selfish ... (read in full...)
Feeling upset about my Bf being in the army
Q. my bf of over 2years joined the army, he has been in basic training for just over 2weeks now and im struggling to deal with this, i understand that he gets shouted at all day and when he rings home it should be an escape from everything but i have ...
A. 13 June 2006: dear reader. you say you have been with your b/f for over 2 years so you must have known he was going to go into the army or at least thinking about it. i knwo its hard to adapt to changes in your life but you should feel proud of him it takes a lot ... (read in full...)
Can you legally move out at 18 in south africa
Q. can you legally leave home when you are 18 in south africa? or is it true that you have to be 21 before you can make big decisions like getting married, moving in with your boyfriend or having a child???...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i don't know whether this is any use to you but try this website on human rights in south africa i hope you find what you are looking for
good luck xxx
http:... (read in full...)
Help on getting rid of strechmarks to look sexy for my husband again!
Q. What could I do about stretch marks? I'm a little insecure about my body because I have stretch marks due to child birth. I want to be able to wear sexy lingerie for my husband again, but I dont feel attractive enough to do that anymore. My husband ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i'm not sure whether there is anything to completely get rid of them but there is something you can try its from "Avon" it says you can see a differance in just 2 weeks its called "maximum body makeover" and cost £7 normally £12 so get ... (read in full...)
I don't want my mate telling everyone that we used to kiss! We're both girls!
Q. heya. I'm 14 and i dont know what to do. A few years ago me and my mate started kissing round at her house. We did it regularly when I went to her house. We were 12. Now we go to the same school and are not mates anymore (just grown apart really) ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader please don't worry about this your not the only one to experiment everybody does so even if she does tell the other girls will be laughing because they have either done it too or they want to it is so natural to want to try new things ... (read in full...)
I called him a 'sexy beast' on his answering machine, now I'm so embarrased! What do I do?
Q. hiya. I'm 15 and I feel totally embarressed cos i went out with this boy for 2 weeks, a few weeks ago. I called him a 'sexy beast' on his answer machine on his mobile. Now I feel so embarressed about it cos we have broken up and, I dont know why, ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader don't do anything laugh it off with him if thats what his doing there could have been far more worse things you could have said so i really wouldn't worry about this and if you haven't seen him there's nothign to be embarrased about now ... (read in full...)
He is ugly & I don't always like his personality - why do I still want him?
Q. Hi. I'm 15 and like this boy a lot. I can picture us together and married and stuff in the future. but the strange thing is he is my mate. I really wanna go out with him so much but i dont really like his personality sometimes. He acts as though i ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader stop stressing calm down. your friends right? then you should know him inside and if his a good person who care's about looks but don't just go with him out of pity that won't do anyone any favours. i think you should have a word with ... (read in full...)
Am I living in a dream world or will her feelings come flooding back for me?
Q. Me and my long term girlfriend broke up 6 weeks ago, both admitting there was 'something missing' from our relationship...within 3 weeks we'd seen each other a couple of times - and slept with each other both times...talked and admitted we still ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader everyone has the right to dream and since you say that something has happened both times you have seen eachother then may-be there is a chance sometimes we women just need some space to find ourselves again that doesn't mean its all over ... (read in full...)
I feel faint when I hear people talking about sex!
Q. Hi I'm 13 an i feel faint every time i over hear people talking about sex or anything about it! In my sex education lessons every lesson i nearly faint, i hate it. whats wrong with me and how do i stop myself feeling this way? its really getting me ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader don't panic hunni theres nothing wrong with you people deal with sex so many different ways you will come to learn that there's nothing to be affraid of you say you feel like this in class well may i suggest you get some books and read a ... (read in full...)
He is sweet and very courteous, always compliments me, does this mean that he likes me ?
Q. I like this guy, he's sweet, courteous and likes me too. well i think he does. he told me i was beautiful, and when we were talking about fun i said i didnt have much of it, he said well u need a boyfriend, i said im looking. would that have went ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i think its safe to say he does like you but there's all that don't mix business and pleasure thing i think you should wait and see what happens keep droping hints that you like him too and would like to get to know him better i'm sure ... (read in full...)
I haven't talken to him in 3 weeks and I keep thinking about how happy we were.....I'm so hurt...
Q. well, i know this may sound really silly but 2months ago my bf lost a very close relative, he said to me he wants his space from me i haven't spoke 2 him for 3 weeks, his mum and dad have kicked him out his house cause of his lies, i guess he has ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader with a lose of a relative people react in so many different ways and taken that you have only been together for a short time you don't really know eachother enough for him to fall back on you it sounds like his going through the mill a ... (read in full...)
I have an obsession and can't shake the feeling that my boyfriend is seeing someone else!
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend on and off for about 3 years. Recently I have become obsessed that he is seeng someone else and doubt and question everything he says. I dont no why I feel like this, because he loves me dearly. I have asked him if h...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader my best advice for you would be to speak to someone i'm not saying your the problem here but if you just air out your problems with soemone you don't know you could find the bottom of this, as long as you belive him when he says his not ... (read in full...)
My fiance went out with friends, then home with his ex-girlfriend!
Q. Hi I am due to get married in 4 weeks to the man of my dreams but I have found out that last week he went out with his friends and ended up going home with an ex g/f. I know this because his friends took a photo of them both and he was also seen ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader you really really need to talk to him and find out exactly whats gone on yu don't want to start a maried life with someone you can trust
good luck i hope things eren't what they seem xxx... (read in full...)
I need information about pregancy!
Q. How do you know if you are pregnant? Can you give me a list of signs, please. Oh, and if you are pregnant then do your periods continue? Is your first one since becoming pregnant early or late? Please help. Any information will be grateful...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader stop panicing there are lots of signs of pregnacy like sore breast, going to the loo lots but not much comes out, loose bowel movements blouting feeling, late period but yes they can carry on all the way through your pregnacy i think you ... (read in full...)
What is an orgy?
Q. What exacty is an orgy?? Help, I feel so stupid for not knowing....
A. 12 June 2006: don't worry it took me a while to figure it out lol. an orgy is a group of people having sex at the same time. some people share partners some just like to do it in front of lots of people but i hear it's meant to be fun
all the best xxx... (read in full...)
Im not as attractive as all my friends or as clever, how can I become more like them for acceptance ?
Q. My friends are amazing fun, and I love them all to pieces. However they always look better than me, wear better clothes, have nicer hair, and generally have a better appearance than I do. Also I'm really dense and say stupid things because I don't ...
A. 12 June 2006: dera reader there's only one thing you can do "NOTHING" you are who you are and i bet your friends love you to bits too don't ever be ashamed of who you are there's nothing wrong with you at all if people do have a problem with it then let them deal ... (read in full...)
Is he bored because he thinks I am too demanding? Help me understand
Q. I am in a multiracial realtionship for 7 months. Everything seems to be fine, except that he seems to like to be in his home sleeping and I am more outdoor person. I just changed a job and I have to work really late and we haven't really spend time ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. i don't think your being too demanding at all its no bad thing to want to spend time with your partner but i'm sorry to say it does actually sound like his getting bored with you, you really need to talk to him about this and find out ... (read in full...)
I told her I liked her, now all her friends are unhappy or Jealous, I want a relationship with her, what should I do ?
Q. hi i need some advice recently after i told a girl how i felt about her she said she liked me to but almost all of her freinds are now unhappy with her one of them likes me and is jelous and another one likes her and is no longer talking to her i ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. all i can say to you is if you are you new g/f are happy then let them deal with their issues they'll either get over it or they weren't really friends to her in the first place if they don't want to see her happy (unless your treating ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a boy has an erection?
Q. hi im 15. if you were talking to a boy how would u know if they had an erection? or if they were just walking past, would you know if they had an erection?...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i totaly agree with "yos" you don't need to be worrying about all that just yet. i will say this though if a boy has an erection you will know about it 9 times out of 10 you'll see it (through the clothes i hope!) a lot of boys play ... (read in full...)
I want her number, but I don't know what to say!
Q. My crush has left school now and I never had the chance to ask her out or get her mobile number. We went out two years ago for 4 months but I broke up with her after 4 months (I'm so stupid!!!). I love this girl and miss her so badly. I dr...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. i think you just need to swollow your pride and go ask her if not ask her out then and there strike up a text conversation and get round to it that way its surprising how much confidence one can have through text messege. it does sound ... (read in full...)
I know he just wants to be friends with them to get back at me....what can I do?
Q. Hi I am curantly in a relationship where at first it was just to get away from my ex boyfriend Cory. but no matter what I do he is always there. now he has decided to try to be friends with my close friend and cousin.I know it is just to get back ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader hello again i think what i would do is warn your friends and cousin what this guy is up to hopefully they will see his tricks and tell him where to go be strong be firm with him and tell him its not on but most of all try not to let him ... (read in full...)
I live with her, but she won't leave her boyfriend
Q. You's have probably heard this scenario a thousand times over, but here we go again! I've been friends with this girl for a few years, and recently we moved into together. All was goin grand but then i started developing these feelings for her. I ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i agree with "sibaan" you need to get this aired soon i bet she is feeling the same way but look at it in her point of view its not easy breaking up with someone you've been with since " the dawn of time" if something is going to happen ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to just have fun for right now, or will I get hurt in the end?
Q. Is it ok to just have fun? I met this gorgeous guy a few weeks ago didn't think I'd have a chance with him but we talked then snogged and have now begun a very casual physical relationship. Both of us have come out of long term relationships a few ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i don't think your being silly at all everyone is intitled to have a bit of fun you just need to be carefull lets face it your moving at the end of the month so why worry just put it to experiance if thats what you want you said you have ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting about his best friend always being there? She just simply wont go away!!
Q. Case Of the Best Friend She Wont go away. I have been with my current bf 4 11 months and I truly am deeply inlove with him. How ever I feel like I can not be with him with his bestfriend around. She was inlove with him before we got together and...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader no way are you over reacting i think your b/f needs a good eye opening talking to i think you need to have a word with them both get to the bottom of whats going on between them in my experiance after you've split up there is no way you ... (read in full...)
I have a BF he has a GF, but I cant get this lad out of my head, what should I do ?
Q. I have a boyfriend who i love but i really fancy someone else! Im in my first serious relationship and im only 17 this is the person ive lost my virginity to n who i love so much, but iv got a job ive not bin at long n theres a lad there i real...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i think you've basicly answered it yourself your just missing the newness of what once was. may i suggest that you try and concentrate on your relationship if you love him as much as you say you do then you really need to put this other ... (read in full...)
We broke up 2 years back, we started seeing each other again and things were great, hes now gone cold, but I really want him back!!!
Q. HI I really need help. My ex bf and i used to go out for almost 4 year. we broke up in 2004 but recently started seein each other again. He told me he loved me out of the blue ... and that he always has loved me and always thinks about me. anyways ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. its very hard to get back into a broken long term thingi would say he does need time but you really need to talk to him about this you need to tell him exactly how you feel if he does love you you'll find a way to sort it out. you ... (read in full...)
I think Im in love with my boyfriends best friend
Q. Hey I am so scared that my boyfriend has found out about me liking his best friend. I think that he knows but I am not sure.He hasnt come around in a while. He is kind of avoiding me, I guess that is how you could put it. I talk to his friends ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader i think you need to follow your heart on this one hunni i know there is going to be at least one broken heart in all this but you have to think of your happiness but i will say this you need to make sure his friend feels the same don't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being difficult!
Q. I'm going through hell with my b.f of 1 yr! Saturday, I found him chatting with his ex (whom he dumped miserably while she was pregnant... for me. She had an abortion). Everything was fine till Friday. And on Saturday I had the feeling somethin...
A. 12 June 2006: dear rader. why on this eartyh are you putting up with all this "crap" as you so rightly put it my advice would be get out while you can do you really want to be married to this if he think he can get away with it now who knows what he'll be trying ... (read in full...)
My father in law is still harrassing me
Q. Hi, I'm back again with "I am not comfortable with the attention I'm getting from my husband's father!". I know it should tell my hubby about this matter but I am SO AFRAID! DAMN AFRAID! Yesterday, we visited my in-law again as my sis in-law i...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader.
you can't carry on like this you really do need to tell your husband don't just blurt it all out though try and record where and when he does this things. its not right you know and i bet he knows it too if your husband is an unde... (read in full...)
Can my lying crush and I be friends after all that has happened?
Q. I have been in love with the same guy for 4 years now and we dated and planned on being together, but he kept lying so I moved on, and now he hates me. Is there any way to make this better? I know we can't be together but it would be nice if we ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. to be honest with you i think its best to break off all ties. your only going to get hurt. in my experiance if a man lyes all the time there's no chance his going to change now. after a relationship that has ended badly there's really ... (read in full...)
I get excited tickling my older sisters feet!
Q. Hi. My older sisters latest boyfriend regularily pins her down during playfights when i'm over at her place, then tells me to help by tickling her on the soles of her feet until usually she's got tears in her eyes from laughing by the time we let ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader.
first of all i would like to know how old you are? if your quite young don't worry about it blames all those raging hormones most blokes have this problem but don't open up about it. This is obviously making you feel uncomfortable so m... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but not sure how to approach things!
Q. So i know this older gal. She is incredible. We connect on soooo many things. Its pretty amazing. The problem is shes 24 and I just turning 19 in a week. I've had a huge crush on her since I started talking to her 3 years ago. I've kept quiet ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader.
You have 2 options
1. swollow your pride and tell her EVERYTHING you need to back-track and see if she has given you any signs that she might feel the same way.
2. if your friendship means that much to you why mess it up if this is w... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriends pregnant ex
Q. hi, i have just found out yesterday that my boyfriends x girlfriend is pregnant but she doesnt know if he is the father or someone else i am really crushed and dont know what to do because i love my boyfriend to pieces and dont want to lose him but ...
A. 12 June 2006: dear reader. sounds to me this girl is doing nothing but trying to trap him coz she's jealous, can he not see past this either? if she don't know who the father is why is your boyfriend even concidering it right now and i hope there's proof she's ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about breaking up with my boyfriend
Q. ive split up with my boyfriend and feel really guilty what should i do?...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader you need to find out why your feeling guilty go over in your head every thing you have been through together write down all the good things about him and also the bad but remember men have feelings too don't mess with his head you could ... (read in full...)
Afraid my boyfriend will break my heart
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 1/2 years, and we broke up about a month ago, and got back together after a couple of weeks of being apart (both of our choices). I was confused why he did it, but then I started to understand that he wasn't sure ...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader. there's 2 ways of looking at this one way is to take it slow and see how it all plans out (hopefully the best) may-be he did find out your his true love but (not to put things in you head) how do you think it got to his disision. may-be ... (read in full...)
When we went out, I wasn't all that interested, but now I am and she's not!
Q. I'm 16 and I have only had a couple of relationships, reason being I am generally busy most of the time. I went out with a girl a couple of years ago and it didn't last long and we didn't really know each other all that well. Only now the tables h...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader.
first of all i'm sorry for the lose of your dad not an easy time for anyone to deel with.
now down to the really question at hand. your still very young to worry about things like this but i know the feeling is very real for you so i... (read in full...)
Should I seek counselling for my problem?
Q. I really need some advice, I'm really down at the moment. I think I've suffered from depression on and off for about 5 years now. I've always been a thoughtful person, even when I was a child but I think it's turning into something more and I ...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader. i feel for you i really do i suffered from depression since i was 13 (i'm now nearly 25) i have been to counsellors and on antidepressants myself but at the end of the day it is up to you to snap yourself out of it. to me it sounds that ... (read in full...)
I think my husband prefers the porn sites instead of me....what can I do?
Q. I have caught my husband viewing internet porn and confronted him. He said he would stop. That worked for a month and then I caught him again. This in it's self isn't a problem, but we don't have sex as often as I would like. I feel he prefers that ...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader. to be honest with you half of me is saying don't be worried at all may-be he is picking up a few idea's. going off sex shouldn't be as big as it is but i know how you feel don't worry may-be give it a couple of weeks and try something ... (read in full...)
She lied to me and now is saying I spread rumors about her
Q. Okay, there is this girl at my skool and we used to be okay mates until she started lying to us and trying to turn me and my friends against each other. And now, a year later, she suddenly makes up this cock and bull story about me spreadin...
A. 8 June 2006: dear reader. this is a very hard one to answer, it depends on what she spreading around. i learnt the hard way by at school (being the one who was bullied) that your school years are way too short to be worried about silly romours as long as you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is being offish.. How can I show her my true feelings??
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now. About 2 months ago, I really upset her. She told me about her previous sexual experience and it freaked me out and I reacted really badly to it and said some really hurtful things. She was mad at me ...
A. 22 May 2006: dear reader, you said it yourself mate if she wants to forgive you she will in time nothing ever happens over night. i would love to say to you everything will be fine and she'll come around but thats only a question she can answer and i hope that ... (read in full...)
Self conscious about my body.. Please help??
Q. I am very self concious about my vons veneris, it's the fatty tissue that covers the pubic bone, above the labia and below the abdomen... mine is very large and it makes me to nervous that i won't let my boyfriend touch me. When i look in a mirror ...
A. 22 May 2006: dear reader. please don't worry about this i have the same problem but mine is due to having kids and putting on loads of weight the only thing i can suggest is exercise but it is very hard to get rid of other then having a painfull op. its a part ... (read in full...)
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