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writes: My boyfriend and i broke up 2 days ago and i miss him. I kinda said a couple of things that hurt him but i swear i didnt mean any of them. I only did it coz people around us, well, me, didnt want us to be together. Now, everytime i see something or hear a song that reminds me of him, i cry. I totally regret having broken up with him when i knew that it wasnt what i wanted to do. I love him so much but i was stupid enough to listen to what other people were saying. I love him. I still love him... Now i can never get him back and i hate myself for it. What should i do? I cant get suicide off my mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2006): If you want him back apoligize to him and tell him how sorry you are, and tell him how much you miss him. I had the same problem, I dumped my boyfriend in front of all my friends. I was so upset that I had just dumped the love of my life. So the next day I called him and told him how sorry, and stupid I had been. He forgave me, and now we are back together
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): Ok. This is an email with several issues.Most importantly, if you are having suicidal thoughts, you MUST speak to someone and get some help. I don't know where you are in the world but in Australia we have lifeline - you can call them and gain help.Suicide because of a relationship break down is not the answer. No one is worth you giving up your life.You definitely need to discuss these thoughts with someone and get some professional advice. Secondly, you need to take a step back and look at why you ended things with your boyfriend. I know you said that it was because other people wanted to you too but there must be more to it than that. We have our reasons for breaking up and after the break up sometimes those reasons can disappear from our minds. Remember, the worst hurt is in the first few days. We think clearer after that.If you think about it and decide that the only reason you broke up with him is because of what your friends said, you need to firstly tell your friends that their advice in these areas is appreciated however at the end of the day you must make your own mind up. You understand they care about you but you are the best person to decide who you should date and who you shouldn't.If you want your ex back, you will have to talk to him and tell him that you made a mistake and you wrongly, listened to your friends rather than your heart. You will never make the same mistake again.You have to understand that he may not want to listen at first, especially if you hurt him so maybe try talking to him and then write a letter.After the letter, leave him be. If he has read or heard your explanation, let him think it over.If it is meant to be, he will come back, otherwise you will meet someone else. I think however, we need to know why your friends don't want you to be with him? Is it because they have genuine concerns or are they just being jealous or nasty?But please, you must seek some help in relation to your thoughts of suicide before you do anything else.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 February 2006):
 dear read now don't think like that at all nothing is ever worth thinking that over belive me i know i really think you need to talk to him lets face it you was silly to listen to your friends other then your heart .may-be give it a couple of days so he can get his head around what has happened if you really love this guy and if he feels the same things will work out if it was meant to be.i feel for you my sweet we all say stupid things that we never mean and listen to people other then ourselves try and speak to him don't talk to anyone else first or you'll be even more confused about how you feeli hope you work things out i really do good luck hunni i'll be thinking of you xxx
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