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writes:I want to know if people think I'm crazy or if my mates are. We're all 19 but very different. They all have a laugh all the time and sleep around, they don't take anything seriously and move from dead end job to dead end job just to get enough money to go out at the weekend. They throw money around on anything the everything.I enjoy a laugh too, I do get drunk with my mate every friday and have a top laugh but I'm more mature than them. I'm at uni and take it very seriously, I'm in a serious relationship and have been since I was 17 (now with someone else but have only been single for 2 weeks since then!!) I'm careful and sensible with my money so always have quite a lot of it but also have all the things I want.I just sometimes think that I'm missing out on what it is to be a teenager. I take my success and mt career seriously but are my mates doing the right thing by taking it slow and seeing where they end up? I know they seem childish to me but maybe I seem boring to them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): I would be so proud of you if you were my daughter.May your future be filled with the hapiness you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Try not to doubt yourself. Have fun whilst you are young, but do it to the limits that you have already set yourself. Otherwise, you will have a history of regret. Regret is not a good emotion because it is often something you can do nothing about.
You may envy your friends, but believe me, I am fairly confident to suggest that deep down, your friends envy you. Perhaps they are still too young to even acknowledge that to themselves, but one day, if you are still in close contact with them, I'm sure they will say words that confirm this.
Remember the grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence. Stick with your principles, and your beliefs and you shall go far! :)
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 First, you seem to have defined goals and also seem certain in your direction. This is a very good thing. But don't judge your friends too harshly because circumstances in your life could change... and you may find yourself as the one being judged.
Every person's situation is different. By all means enjoy the confidence that comes with having goals, but don't lord it over your friends and do NOT rub their faces in it. Like you, they're people getting through life. If you really consider yourself to be a better person then you must make some choices. You can accept your friends as they are or you can find some new friends whose company you better enjoy. You can conduct yourself with humility or you can create the perception that you are an elitist. None of these choices are "right" or "wrong", but they all come with consequences.
By the way, I am an academic so I tend to lean to the elitist side :). Take care!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 I have to say, reading about your life and about your friends lives, I would much much much rather have your life. They should be looking to you as an example. Really.
Sleeping around, not taking things seriously, and working in dead end jobs, is not cool at any age. You are onto a good thing, stick with it! I promise you that you'll be very glad you went the direction you did and your friends will be regretting their choices more and more as time passes.
I guess I'll sound 'old' by saying this, but in the adult world, 'interesting' has a lot to do with having a direction and being motivated and serious about what you do with your life. 'Boring' on the other hand is a good way to describe people who just live for the moment, waste their opportunities and create problems for the future. It will be less time than you think before your friends are worried about being 'boring' and you will be seen by them as the 'interesting' one. This is really true. Stick with it, it sounds like you are doing really well :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): There is no right or wrong thing here. This is a personal preference. Sure, you're probably missing out on a lot of fun freedom-oriented things, but right now, you have a head-start. You're building your foundations - saving money, working on your education, getting the skills and training your talents, and in time, you may have the opportunity to move forward more conveniently.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):
 dear reader your not boring what so ever you are a successfull person, be proud, don't think for one minute your mad for thinking they are childish, to you they are sometimes but when you all get together you know how to have a good time. they may well be lovin life right now but you wait till they really do need to settle down who will be laughing then ah?
i think you should just keep on going jut as you are you sound like a great girl you've got your head screwed on and you know how to have a laugh who could want more then that
all the best to you take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): The big difference between you and your friends is...you have purpose in your life. There are many young people your age and even younger, that have fun, date and enjoy their youth, but they have set goals like yourself. Your friends sound less mature than you. Keep heading in this direction. Proud of you, hun and I commend you for staying on track. Good luck!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Hi,
no. I think you have got your life on track and are in for a very successful furture. Don't keep a really stcict routine, make it flexible and make sure you can have fun too. Try to keep your life balanced, they are your friends. This means they do like you the way you are!
Take advantage of every oppertunity that comes your way. I think when your friends get oldre they will realise they needed to get organised earlier and will have missed out on a lot of the things that you could have. By being organised but not completely work-obsessed, you are opening doorways to a wonderful life. I think your friends should take a leaf out of your book. Infact, i think most teenagers should follow your example. This is the part of your life where you grow into who you are going to be forever. Don't screw it up and get into trouble like some do, they'll only find themselves regretting it later.
Good Luck!
Phoebe
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