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My wife has no problem exposing herself to others, is this normal behaviour?

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Question - (23 December 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 10 January 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, *amiamiam writes:

this is about a strange behavior of my wife. she is 25. i see that she has a tendency to exhibit. she rarely cares about her dress. whenever somebody comes to our home they have a very explicit view of her assets and other parts.

i tlaked to her about this. she isn't in the least bit bothered.

is there a tendency for women to expose. or could this be completely negligent behaviour.

i would like to know peoples opinions on this behavior.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010):

It sounds interesting, I don't think she is crazy at all. I think that she is playing a game and teasing your male friends when they are round.

She is safe in the relationship with you, so she is advertising herself to other males, maybe looking for a sperm donor in the knowledge that you are the safe bet to bring up her children (cukoo's).

Have you asked her if she is intrested in swinging or being dominant over you, It could be a fanticy of your wifes.

I know that if someone elses wife was like that to me, It would definatly interested me as I could get her pregnant without having the responsibility which lets you enjoy the sex so much more, its quite a turn on actually

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010):

There is nothing wrong with what she is doing and it is clear to me that she gets aroused by doing it. I had a girlfriend who was also an exhibitionist and at first I was a little angry and jealous if anyone saw her exposed. But to be honest I realised after talking to her that it was part of who she was and in all honesty i actually got turned on myself when other men got to see how sexy she was. We turned it into a game for ourselves and it certainly gave our sex life a huge kick. My own commitment to my job forced me to end the relationship but I miss her sexuality and adventure. I regret ever leaving her and only hope to find a woman like that again. Talk to her tell her how you feel but also ask how it makes her feel when doing it and see if you can both make it work for you as everyone has a certain fetish orunique way of getting sexual kicks.

Anyone who thinks she is wrong to enjoy this is obviously very insecure with themselves and thier partners. Life is short and should be enjoyed. Loosen up and have some fun as at the end of the day its your bed she is in and you who she talks to emotionally.

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A male reader, iamiamiam United Kingdom +, writes (24 December 2009):

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suggestions helped. i am going to speak to her what is behind this. i just wanted to know whether this is normal.

though i was giving the incident as a general thing, i observed this when our friends are coming in. specially some of our selected friends are coming in. i know that she is not an exhibitionist but i felt when some people come in she does not take care of dress appropriately.

eg: if she did not wear a bra, though the visitors are there too she won't wear one and while doing some or the other, like bending, visitors can get a clear view.

what is the best way to find out whether she does it purposefully or not?

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A female reader, bitterblue Romania +, writes (23 December 2009):

bitterblue agony auntI wish this had an easy fix (maybe it does) but definitely something to look into as you have been suggested.

Do you have children? They shouldn't be exposed to this behaviour. I've read something that mentioned an exhibitonist woman and her daughter who was quite impacted by this. I would accompany her to see a doctor soon and hope for the best. Maybe you can firstly go alone for a word of guidance on how best to approach your wife about this and how serious it is.

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A female reader, Angzw Zimbabwe +, writes (23 December 2009):

can you give specific examples? I don't understand if you mean she completely divests herself of her clothes or is it just a peek at her bra?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 December 2009):

Honeypie agony auntWhen you first starting dating her was she flaunting her goodies to you as well? Or is this something more resent?

Some women who are gorgeous have utterly low self esteem and flaunting their bodies is a way to boost their esteem. Others are just really glad about how they look and will use the term:" If you got it flaunt it!" as a show of pride.

I think you need to try and figure out which one she is.

Now if she was ALWAYS like this - then why do you assume marriage would change her?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

She might be doing it for attention. Perhaps she's unhappy or insecure? Maybe keep trying to talk to her and see what happens.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (23 December 2009):

Tisha-1 agony aunthttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exhibitionism

I don't think it's normal, if it exceeds cultural norms. If it is interfering with your relationship and her daily life revolves around it, go see a psychiatrist.

My personal opinion is that she is peculiar and might have a mental disorder, a compulsion and would benefit from some professional help.

Good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

Can i come around and visit?

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