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writes:hey!!im wondering peoples opinions on age gap to be honest it doesnt bother me too much im 18 and i love this 28 yr old just wonderin if some people think this is weird or pervy?? i work with him and we meet up a bit but i dunno wat to do shud i keep going with it or am i just fooling myself shud i break it off with him and to top it off i dont have the courage to tell my parents about him and they know him too and i dont think they'd be happy....eeeek Reply to this Question
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Once everyone is "legal" I think the age difference depends on the people involved (maturity levels, etc.) Also, I think it makes a difference how old the younger person is -- ten years is nothing when it's 40-50.
When you're 18, though, you're in the process of deciding who you are. You will change so much between now and the time you're 25 -- you should keep a diary just so you can go back and laugh and have fun with it. Seriously.
There's the possibility of different power levels -- you're just barely out of your parents' house (if you are) and he's been out and on his own for a while (hopefully). He'll have $$ to spend and you won't. And your goals at this age (yours and his) are probably different.
When I was 19 I dated a 29 year old. He was a wonderful man. We were a little uncomfortable around each other's friends, though we had no worries just being with each other. But he was ready to settle down, and I was still working on school. I think 50% of any relationship was timing, and ours was off.
So I do think it can work. I think it's hard. I think it's harder at your age. But I wish you all kinds of luck; maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones.
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reader, gorefckfamous +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I honestly think you should do what you like.
if you truely feel something can work out between the two of you, i say go for it.
maybe telling ur parents might not be the best idea yet.
get to know him more, choose what you'd like to do.
i personally dont think its weird.
love is love.
-best of luck.
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