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writes:I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, demilieu  +, writes (30 July 2010):
Wow man. I take it you're in the US? Do you realize that having a relationship like this is a felony? You already have a wife 20 years younger than you. I think you need to talk with a professional to help sort this preoccupation out before you end up messing up your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): You seem rather obsessed with girls much younger than your age... Ok, we like young and pretty as much as one can like lots of money but is this honest love? I think you should sort out first, where you wanna stand in life. Apart from the consequences for your marriage if u have sex with the 17 years old (it will end, they are sisters, man!), even if you then start a relationship with the little sister and she really likes you (she might dump you after all) what if she gets older and you meet a pretty 15 years old afterwards on a street who makes sweet eyes to you? I mean, will this obsession never end? Get a therapist man!
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reader, speedracer66  +, writes (14 November 2008):
You are NOT a weirdo! It is TOTALLY natural to be attracted to beautiful people; young or old, men or women. Others just won't admit it publicly -and this took some guts. Kudos. You are married, not dead! One can still love somebody and care for them deeply and STILL want to have great sex with another. Like it or not; we are all creatures of primal impulse and emotion. But we also have a duty to take care of one another too. -Take care of your best friend-your wife! Likewise, take care of that young sister by not messing with her. Look out for her and protect her. Think of her as a sister. She needs your respect and help. She needs more time to grow. Even if she is hot. This would mess her up royally, bro. The laws protect younger kids so they can grow up more and get a fighting chance at supporting themselves in this crazy world, dig? So ask yourself: do you care enough about this 17 year old to give her a chance at growing up more to have a better life? What if she got pregnant? And do you care enough about your wife not to hurt her so? -Because this would certainly. She needs your protection too. That's what being a man is about. Not just screwing. But realizing what is best for our family. Soul-search and consider the following: 1)The reality is never as good as the fantasy Nailing her would not be as good as you have made it to be in your mind. 2)It would destroy TWO families: -Yours and the two sisters relationship, 4ever. -That's a lot of HURT for an orgasm, eh? This girl is not worth that, bro. Also maybe try to associate the in-law with things that turn you OFF. That is, find something(s) very annoying about her: Like pimples or big feet, voice, or nail biting etc. Convince yourself she is not that great. Good luck soldier. You are in a fierce battle with Nature!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Hey look at your 26 year old wife. Is she attractive? Or not? Why did you marry her? Are you willing to give her up for her 17 year old sister? The 17 year old will probly dump you later you know? Because maybe she only wants you because you belong to someone ealse. All women are attactive to married men it seems like. If you do want the 17 year old that bad go for it but remember you might end up with no one. There's some guy out there that would probely take your wife off your hands if you don't want her. Look at her and say to yourself why did you marry her? If you really love her and you want your wife make love to her more often and see how beautiful she is and if you do this you won't pay much attention to her sister. Her sister may want you just because you belong to her sister. I have an idea have your wife dress up and take her out on a date pretend like before you were marryed. Be sastified with your wife make love to her like you never did before. Ravish her. For christ's sake she is 26 years old ,alot of men would be happy to have such a young wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): yeah if i were you i wouldnt, this might sound crazy but me and my wife dont live together because me and her had gotten married but never told her parents, she stays with her parents and her older sister and i stay with my grandparents, well my problem is that her older sisters fiance just moved in there and my wife doesnt exactly dress fully covered, shes 21 and has a big bust and sleeps by her self, i have alot of suspicion and now i guess from reading this topic i guess anything can happen? but the difference is hes not as old as you the dude is only 26, but my advise is not to screw your sister in law because then it just fucks with your head and then youll start to have mental problems, its not worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I am the same i am 32 and my wife is 24 and she as a younger sister. I want her so much i cant stop thinking of her. I dream of sex wit her. like you i feel she wants me in the same way. but i dont like making the first move because if i have got it wrong. i cant stop masterbating about her. what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): I AGREE 100% WITH EYESWIDEOPEN!!!!!!
Come on!!!! you say your happily married you should count yourself very lucky. Leave her sister alone, She is 17 and have you been openly flirting with her? To be honest i feel very sorry for your wife. Im honest love, sorry you will only get the truth... Yea men have fantasys BUT!!! Have you any idea how many peoples feeling would be hurt here. My guess is you havent really thought about it. Please do and take a good look at your wife and think how hurt she would be if you really do love her its time to get this out of your head and start showing your wife how much you care for her...... Take care
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 June 2007):
 It doesn't matter what the aunts advise you, you are on a path for self-destruction anyway. My only hope is that you don't ruin too many lives in the process.
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reader, babydoll0713 +, writes (18 June 2007):
 How can you say I'm happily married and want to sleep with a 17 year old in the same sentance? Don't do it, don't even think about it. If you are "happily married" then stay away from here, even if she does have feelings for you, you can't do that to a women. Cheating is horrible enough, it's worse with your sister. Imagion if you had a Bro and she wanted to sleep with him. Creepy huh?
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 you said you are happily married, right? so dont risk your relationship with your wife and dont ever interchange LOVE for LUST, we all do feel the attraction for the opposite sex but you should know your limitations, this is only a test for you and your wife to see how far will both of you go for love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): OK, I'm not going to berate you. I am going to strongly advise, however, that you take every action you can to end this thought process. It leads you down a path of self-destruction. Trust me, I know. I know how it is to be obsessively attracted to an inappropriate individual. And this girl is excessively inappropriate. For your OWN sake, stop now. I wish I had. I keep waiting for my world to fall in on me. Get yourself out now, before you and your family suffers.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Man, you should have known you'ed get no sympathy here. i'm only 7 years older than my girl and it took me a while to get past THAT. Every guy finds younger women attractive. You just dont act on it man. You are 46. If you dont get help soon you are gonna be 47 and alone. everybody gets older. Learn to love someone for other reasons than their looks or dont get married. ever. Didnt your mama teach you anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): You are not HAPPILY MARRIED if you were then you would not want to do such a dispicable thing like this, you are being very selfish because this would not only destroy your relationship but your wife's relationship with her sister too. This girl is only 17, i doubt she has got feelings for you at all.You got to sort this situation out- i can't even suggest you talking to your wife because i think it will firstly break her hurt and possibly sickened her.Get rid of these weird urges-please.
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reader, Variety +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You clearly don't care about your wife or her sister as you would be willing to wreck their relationship too. It is truly perverse that you would do it.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You are not happily married - even we can tell that you are deluding yourself at best or lying to us at worst.
Something is missing in your marriage. We can help you figure that out if you are willing to discuss your marriage further on this forum.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You realise that it would wreck everything, you realise that SHE'S 17, and you step back and forget about it right? that's what you do mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): You are 29 years older than this child of 17, please grow up or get some therapy, you have definately crossed into the creepy dirty old man realm because this girl is your sister in law....Lucky you, you got some young twenty someting girl with a daddy complex to marry you, and now you want to bed her younger sister.....seriously, do you think you have a problem? You sound to me like you are addicted to sex and need to joing AA or Sex Addicts Anonymous and get some help for your real issue, your addiction.....you are out of control and you know it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Wow,
46, married to a girl twenty years younger and that's still not enough - you need her 17 year old underage sister. It's pretty obvious that the problem here is that you don't have any control over your penis and that you let it do your thinking for you. Grow up. Why do men chase young girls? Because they fear death (Moonstruck - Olympia Ducakis). Sleeping with your young wife's younger sister is not going to make You young - You Will STILL Be 46. You will be 46 with a (another?) divorce, a truck load of bad karma following your butt around and a possible underage preganancy! Here's the Good news - you will still have the same bunch of really happy relatives to remind you of how you screwed up! Are you really, seriously going to be this stupid? Why do we never make heros out of the really great men who are stand up guys, loving their wife and family and doing it for a whole lifetime? Who is it that you expect to become if you do this thing you are dreaming about? Why not invest some of that random emotional angst and think of what you could do for your wife? That's a real man - the one who can go the distance without succumbing to some momentary fantasy. Is this a real question or are you just bragging? Do you really think that you can have every young girl that you dream about? Ask yourself this question too - and it's a BIG one - At what point does the viral, studly guy obsessed with sex and young girls become a dirty old man? At some time you are going to have to come to grips with your fear of getting older and realize that it's driving you to make decisions (your perceptions) that are damaging to your level of happiness (and your marriage). If you are lucky - LUCKY - enough to have attracted this young girl to marry you, then you should be more concerned about keeping her interested in you! You are going to need all your strength to keep young and fit in order to keep up with her, so don't waste it on frivolities. You need to make decisions that promote you and your wife's happiness together - that's what it's about. We ALL get old, the key to happiness at any age is to be with a person who loves you and has the same values, outlook on life and dreams for the future.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You do Nothing. She is your sister in law. And she is a minor.
It is normal to feel lust, but that does not mean you encourage it. Feel the emotion but CONTROL the behavior.
If you must have a fling, do so with someone that will not tear apart your marriage.
Just because you feel tempation, does not justify you taking any actions with her.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Seriously, grow up. Your wife of 20 yrs. younger than you is still not young enough for you that you need to chase a teenage girl? Get a life..That is just sad. I hope you do take her to bed & your wife leaves you. You deserve misery. You don't appreciate what you have & you're so oblivious to reality that you think a 17 year old likes you? You're old enough to be her grand father practically. And why would you even want to have sex with a 17 year old? I mean maybe some older men do want to, but they're not stupid enough to actually entertain serious thoughts of doing it, especailly when they're married & the teenage girl they're obsessing over is their wife's little sister!! That's awful. You even say in your post that you're happily married. Do your wife a favor & let her see what a creep you are so that she can leave you while she's still young.
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reader, fishfood +, writes (15 June 2007):
 if u value ur marriage or truly love ur wife then u wont do anything and u wont act on these feelings or tell anyone about them as secrets have a nasty habit of getting out, even if u tell someone u trust.
if u seriously cant get these feelings out of ur head then maybe u should do the decent thing for ur wife and end ur marriage. i know this is drastic action but when u let feelings build up, more often then not they start to overpower any rational thoughts or willpower u have, and if u did do anything with the sister, i think its a safe bet that it would cause serious damage between their family and even more damage to the relationship between her and her sister.
be an adult and do the right thing
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reader, geqo +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You will absolutely destroy your marriage by doing that, and I don't think there's much of a chance that a 17 year old is going to be interested in a 46 year old. You will end up screwing up both your relationship with your wife, and your wife's relationship with her sister, if you sleep with her sister.
I think you should get professional help if this obsession becomes too much
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You're old enough to know you just can't take this girl to bed and that you must control yourself. Are you really sure the 17 year old has "feelings" for you, or is that how you would like things to be?
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