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writes:WHY AM I WALKING ON EGG SHELLS??I am 28 years old, and have been dating a really great guy from the past 11 months. He is SO stressed out with work, that it affects every facet of his life, and our life together. He looses his temper easily, finds everything to be a challenge that will ad to this stress level. It has taken a lot of the joy and spontaneity out of our relationship. I feel like his priority is work, getting ahead and money, whereas, my priorities lay with family, friends and being happy.I don't want to walk on egg shells around him, fearing that what I say will add to his stress, but I also don't feel like I have a healthy situation with my boyfriend right now....HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Run, don't walk, away from this relationship. It sounds like you are not married and you have not mentioned children (the major compelling reasons to try and "fix" a broken relationship). You sound like you are still dating. No matter how much you wish for it to happen, things will not go back to the way they were when you first fell in love. Once he takes you for granted and turns you into a whipping boy there are only two directions the relationship can take: sideways or down. Find someone to date who can bring more to a relationship than this current person. Forget trying to get your current partner into counseling and just get some help for yourself. The only person you can change is you. The fact that you are tolerating this situation and walking on egg-shells indicates that you should examine your own motives. Are you afraid you won't find anyone better to love you? He doesn't love you now. Being completely alone can be far better than staying with the wrong person. Also, as long as the wrong person is in your life, there will be no possibility for you to connect with a more supportive, less selfish person. Good luck!
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Alot of men define themselves by there job and abilities. In fact he probably makes his career more important because he sees that as the foudation for everything else. Cant have a future without a good job. Cant have relationship without a good job. Cant have a family, etc. I'm sure these are all thoughts in the back of his mind. But, it does sound like hes overstressed and needs a vacation. Wait til his day off around noon or so and make him feel good. If he complains about things just let him. And when he's totally relaxed then ease in to a conversation about it. Just make sure not to be pushy or anything as this would stress him more. Then maybe you can get some things accomplished.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 You should talk to him about your feelings and your priorities. You cannot go on living this kind of life He needs to go for counseling. He needs to be aware that life is not all about career and finance. It is about balance between career and family life.
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