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writes:I am married for 20 years but was never attracted to my husband as it was an arranged marriage. I continued in this marriage for the sake of the children and the society i live in. Now both the boys are teenagers. There was no intimacy in our marriage all these years and now I have found my dream man on the internet to whom I am really attracted to and he wants to marry me. Do I divorce my husband and go for my dream man or continue living in this unhappy marriage for the sake of the children and the society I live in?
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reader, idid768  +, writes (5 July 2008):
I've got the same exact problem. I'm a Christian though and don't really believe in divorce and I'm scared God will punish me big time somehow. He hates divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): The better question for you to answer for yourself would be: Do I have another lifetime to be happy and have love?
Our lives are not dress rehearsals and we've one shot at experiencing all that we can and have all that we need. Your children are old enough that they've begun making decisions for their own lives. Why don't you do that too? Regardless of whether or not you go to this other man, you need to assess what YOUR needs, hopes and dreams are. If your husband is not helping you to realize any of that in any way, then you need to go out on your own. He may also be feeling that something is missing for him and not be able to tell you about it and so his fears or hesitations get in the way of expressing his feelings. Have either of you talked about how you REALLY feel? What you really want from each other, the relationship, your family as a whole...life?
I wish for you to realize your dreams in THIS lifetime. I am going through a tough situation with my husband whom I am leaving, so I understand a lot of your worries (we have a little girl). I hope you get everything you want and everything you need. You just need to decide that you are worthy enough.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Surely now it's time for you to have some happiness you have stuck it out for twenty years which is really admirable because of the love you have for your children.
Make the break and even if nothing comes of this man on the internet at least you can start living your life again how you want too.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Keykee +, writes (16 June 2007):
yeah leave him if your not happy , be careful on the internet love though its like jail love ,guys will tell u anything, but absolutely leave ur husband u deserve a chance a happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007): GO FOR IT and don't turn back.You have been in a dull unhappy marriage for 20 years, your boys are all grown up now so you have nothing holding you back.Go and live your life babe because if you don't do this then you will regret it and you will always wonder what if?
Best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007): DIVORCE YOUR HUSBAND! life is too short to be unhappy. my mom stayed in her marriage for 20 years for the children and finally got divorced, now shes happier than ever!! DIVORCE..its not worth it if your getting nothing out of it.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (16 June 2007):
 I cant imagine being married to someone I didnt love to start with. If this is true, he probably feels the same way. I would get out whether you have met someone else or not. It sounds like youve given this marraige long enough.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 June 2007):
 You have to do what you think is right for yourself. You deserve to be happy, just be careful you're not jumping out of the frying pan into the fire. There must be some things you love about your husband. It sounds to me as if you're bored with your marriage and this new man on the internet is making you feel alive again. How long have you been talking to him? Have you ever met him? Surely you wouldn't even contemplate marriage to someone else without meeting them first?
Can I ask you to give me 5 things that you like about your husband?
Eve
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