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writes:I was engaged and almost married to a guy. He and i called it off a month before the wedding. 2 months later we got back together. 4 months later, my friend suspected that he was cheating and would not tell me why. I broke it off and a week later he told my he couldn't stop thinking about me (of course i felt the same). We are dating now but he says he isn't going to see anyone else but doesn't want to be serious because he thinks I am seeing someone else. That is definately not true and I have told him that. I only see him once a week which is strange and I think he is hiding something. I don't think he is seeing someone else, I trust him but I do think he is waiting for something better to come along and trying to string me a long. Is that a foolish thought?
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Laura is right. You do need to have a serious talk about future expectations from both of you. Your instincts are probably a little acurate too. Guys don't like to talk about there feelings much you know that. But he's gotto be honest with you and himself with this relationship for it to be a good one.
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reader, hello1  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I think you both need to sit down and have a serious talk, seems like confusion on both sides.
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reader, AgonyS +, writes (18 January 2008):
right, ou play the guy back, he clearly just wants you for whaen no one else is around. So next time when he says lets meet up, say no. see how he likes it, if he's a nice guy, he'll feel lost without you and come running back, but you need 2 stop doing all the work. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): You don't say why you and he called it off o whose idea that was. Maybe you and he need to talk about that first.
Maybe you could think about whether you want the truth from your friend as to whether he was cheating, and ask her again.
It sounds like you both need to develop trust in one another. There could be other reasons why he is being secretive, other than seeing someone else. Could you try each revealing something you are afraid to reveal, even as a dare?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 On one hand you said you trust him but on the other hand, you feared being stringed along by him.You are contradicting yourself here.It would be better if you ask what is his plan.You need to know his plan about getting married.
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