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writes:im a 16 year old gay guy and my boyfriend is 17 and we really hit it off straight away wev been together for 9 months i really love him and he told me he loves me weve talked about coming out of the closet but im nervous about it not sure if my parents will freak out or what people will say we love each other a lot he thinks i should talk to my parents about uswhat should we do? Reply to this Question
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reader, lboy  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 dear reader,
i see why your scared about telling your parents, i was afraid to tell mine but when i did they accepted me, i'm there son, they love me no matter what, as for what other people will say, all that doesn't matter, if you love this guy as much as you say you do then what people say shouldn't matter, yeh you might get some funny looks from people but as long as your with the man you love, nothing can hurt you, you'll always have his shoulder to cry on, i suggest you sit down and tell your parents, if they accept you staright away congrats, if not then give them time, they will get used to it, if they dont already know it will just take some time to get used to, thats all. anyway i hope i helped.
good luck
lboy
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reader, :):):) +, writes (26 August 2008):
Sadly, the older generations still often have conservative views on sex and gay relationships.
As you and your boyfriend have been together 9 months its clear to see you are in a loving relationship as committed as any other.
If you feel ready to, sit down with them and tell them, they may be shocked and upset at first but once they see you are happy they should start to accept that this is who you are.You could also ask another trusted friend to tell them if you find it difficult. You never know they may have already guessed!
Ofcourse being gay may have its ups and downs. But the world is becoming a more acceptable place and attitudes towards gay relationships have changed dramitically.
Be proud of who you are, ignore the few narrow minded people in society. Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): I totally understand you're situation. Knowing my my parents where hardcore religious homophobes when I got into a lesbian relationship at 16 was tough. When I broke it to my parents after about a year, they disowned me.If its really what you want, you go for it. It's you're life, you're desicion. No one can force anything upon you. In time, their opinion does not matter. If they are willing to accept, that's great. If not, they don't matter.I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years, and my parents have slowly begun to respect it. Stay tough, and don't let anyone tell you how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): I think if you love each other and see the relationship lasting a long time then it will be difficult to hide it from your family when they start asking if you have a girlfriend or anything like that.
Your parents should love you for who you are, but still if you know that they will take it really badly then maybe wait a little while longer... Maybe you could test the water with them first and just see what their opinion on homosexuality is and if they think it is really wrong then like I said wait a while until maybe their opinion doesn't matter so much (like if you move or something).
Sounds like your boyfriend will stand by you 100% and that's very important! Good luck in whatever you decide to do :)
xx Hope xx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Sweetie, this is a difficult one... firstly, dont worry what people will say... everyone has the choice in life who they want to love... Okay... cannot tell you how your parents will react... sometimes parents find it hard to come to terms with their childs sexualtity let alone their child being gay..... Regardless of their reaction, you are going to have to tell them sometime... And I am hoping that they will understand and support you.
Honeygirl
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