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... Send *ennisstar88 a private message | | | *ennisstar88's profile:Who I am? A 28yr old Army wife. My DH serves, I serve and sacrifice as well. Went to college in my early 20s, economy caught up with me in 08 and dropped out for a bit. I however returned and am down the path to finishing a bachelor's degree. I have also beat my long, 3 year battle with infertility and am expecting a baby this December! Its been a long, pot hole filled road but I am finally where I want to be.
What qualifies me to help you? Vast dating experience, especially in the LDR department, even an international on with an Aussie, broke hearts, had mine broken, been engaged once before, I know what a real friend is, seen the ugly side of divorce coming from a recently broken home myself, even went as far as to tip the odds to my side and use men only to toss them aside like yesterday's garbage like they do women, I know what it's like to almost give up hope on finding the perfect man when he's really only a few boyfriends away, and I'm starting to learn the ropes of married life. I also know a vast deal about the female and male reproductive system, and all about the mental struggles with infertility. On a side note, I'm the one who gives you tough love, I'm not on here to sugarcoat it or to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to give it to you straight up, wouldn't you rather the truth?
-TOP 5 QUESTIONS I CAN'T STAND-
#1. Does this mean my teacher likes me?
Just because they're nice to you, offer extra help, and put a little gold star on your A+ paper doesn't mean they are in love with you.
#2. Could I be pregnant?
Have you not heard of a pregnancy test? Get off this website, and go to your local drugstore.
#3. I'm 14 and I want a baby?
Really? Me too! Oh wait I'm 28 and married. You're how old again?
#4. My husband loves porn more than me!
Maybe if you didn't let yourself go into the frumpy woman you have turned into then he wouldn't have to look at porn now would he? I recommend you get your rear to the salon for highlights, manicure, pedicure, tanning, toss the baggy tees and sweat pants for a wardrobe that fits, and a little makeup goes a long way. It's called basic woman maintenance in order to keep your man's eyes on you.
#5. Will we get back together, how can I get him to love me again?
Unfortunately, my crystal ball is broke at the moment and I just gave away the last of my love potion No. 9. Sorry.
MY GENERAL RULES OF THUMB (this should be common sense)
-No means no.
-Girls can ask out ask guys, this is a new generation.
-Unless you know sign language or are telepathic, you're going to have to talk to him/her.
-My "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy as is follows: Do not by any means volunteer your own sexual history, or ask your date/partner/wife/girlfriend their magic number (how many people they've slept with). If you find yourself being prompted to answer this question, politely tell them that's none of their business.
-Your past doesn't define who you are today. We grow, mature, age, and change as time passes.
-If you have to even ask random strangers on this website if you should have sex, then you're not ready for it.
-FWBs, fuck buddies, no strings attached, whatever you want to call it..is not a relationship don't get the 2 confused. In this case, sex=sex, not love.
-No trust=no relationship.
-It is normal for your husband/boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex, do you not have male friends?
-LDRs can work, however they're not for everyone. You've got to have trust, communication, be faithful, and a lot of hobbies to keep yourself occupied. If you have trust issues, a case of being needy, clingy, problems staying faithful and are in a LDR don't be surprised when it doesn't work. I told you so.
- An ex is an ex for a reason. If you guys couldn't hack it as a couple the first 2 times what makes you think the third time is a charm?
-Going on a "break" is a nice way of breaking up.
-If you have sex with a man and he hasn't called you, or responded to your texts in weeks sorry to say but he was just after a piece of ass.
- Now unless he's getting blown up in Afghanistan, an on call ER doctor, or lying dead in a coffin then he's got no excuse for his poor or lack there of communication.
-You have a 12% chance of your married boyfriend leaving his wife and children.
-A man who is going through a divorce is still legally married. He's about to have an ex wife and you're wanting to get into a relationship with him? That's called a rebound.
-If you're a minor who's just found out she's pregnant, do me and everyone else on this site a favor..Tell your parents.
-Just because some one stares at you, it doesn't mean they like you. They could be staring at that booger hanging out of your nose.
-If you have a lump/bump/cyst/rash that looks green, has oozing puss, and itches like hell, but kinda looks like a STD then you had better consult your doctor. They went through 6 years of schooling and have a license to practice medicine, I think they would know better than random virtual strangers.
-Don't mix business with pleasure. Why? Because if you date your co-worker and in the event things turn sour then you're still stuck facing them 9-5, Mon-Fri. Awkward.
-No matter how hard you try, you can't change a person..they have to make that transformation themselves.
-When your boyfriend/girlfriend says they want space that doesn't mean you do the opposite and bombard them with calls/texts.
-As far as ultimatums go, don't try to make your boyfriend choose between you, his female friends, or weed. You won't like the results.
-If you're 13-17, I'm sorry but you haven't a clue what love really is. You have minimal dating experience confined to the high school dating pool which are nothing but horny boys. Their facial hair doesn't make them a man. It's only till you get out into the real world, a vast dating pool is when you learn the definition of love. So, go on thinking you and 13 year old Tommy will go on to get married, have 3 kids, and a two story house with a white picket fence. I don't expect you to listen, I'm 28 and married, what do I know? There's a reason why everyone says it won't last..because it doesn't.
-The average penis size erect is 6 inches, 4.85 inches. Women like average to even a little below average. We're not going to bust out a tape measure and measure it to make sure it's up to our standards. We just want to have sex, so enough complaining about your size let's get down and dirty.
- The legal age of consent in the U.S. is 16-18 varying oer state, in Britain it's 16. I think it's safe to say most parts of the world (unless you live in a tribe with their own form of government) the legal age to consent to sex is 16. So yes, all you minors below the age of consent are committing a crime when you engage in sexual activity. The age is set that high for a reason, you are not above the law. |
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