She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 17 January 2008: Do not hate your sister. Let her go.You have done everything that is possible for her and to no avail.God have mercy on her. You can keep on praying for her for a miracle .... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too much sex in a relationship even if we both really enjoy it?
Q. Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be ...
A. 17 January 2008: Everything done in moderation is good but if excessive, it can be bad .It is love or is it lust? The good times do not last. Enjoy it while you can.... (read in full...)
Whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. What's wrong with me?
Q. I've found that whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. I went on a second date with a guy I am attracted to, and when we were kissing, I didn't feel turned on or feel any pleasure. Is this normal? Is ...
A. 17 January 2008: When you are in love or romantic, the kiss would be different.You will find the meanings of love and sensual affections .... (read in full...)
Pregnant , with my bf but why do I keep thinking of an ex bf who I was with for 9 years.
Q. Hi I am in my mid twenty's I have been with my b/f for little over a year and I am pregnant with his child but I still think a Lot about my ex which I was with for 9 years is it love or not? ...
A. 17 January 2008: Your ex have left a lasting impression on you which you cannot forget. It is apart of your life.I am sure you have loved him alot once and you cannot help sometimes when you reminisced those times you were with him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is best friends with both of his ex's and it upsets me!
Q. I need help!!! my boyfriend is best friends with both of his ex's (yes there are two and they both have boyfriends) and it really upsets me. I don't want to be the type of girlfriend that doesn't allow him to be friends with whoever he wants but ...
A. 17 January 2008: To him , it is just simple , his ex's are just friends and he can still be their friends only except he do not have the same feelings for them. To you it is complex as his ex's can pose a threat to you and you want him to be far from them or get... (read in full...)
Should we be communicating daily in order to stay in sync or is this not a big deal? J
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and I am begining to worry about our lack of communication. We use to talk everyday but now we rarely talk on the phone. We don't live together and our schedules don't always cordinate but we don't ...
A. 17 January 2008: It is better to talk for hours on a stretch than to talk 1hour each day.It becomes a chore and can take away the fun.When you think of him , just call him up. Women talk more than men and you will have to initiate more than him.... (read in full...)
He spent mone at a strip club, I dumped his butt, now he wont speak to me, what is going on with him?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years after finding out he spent a large amount of money at a strip club without telling me. I told him not to call me until he wanted to be honest about how he spent the money. He didn't call me for five ...
A. 17 January 2008: He could be very angry and piss off by your way of questioning how he spend his money.You were confrontational and controlling.You could have dealt with that issue in another softer and gentle way.
At times like this , he can become irration... (read in full...)
A long distance marriage, but he's a poor communicator, how can I get him to open up to me, or is there no hope?
Q. How do I get my husband to open up? We are apart and most of our conversations are over the internet. Though I can't get him to open up I will ask him about what he would like to do or go on vacation? he says as long as I am with you! I ask him ...
A. 17 January 2008: You need to know what are his interest and hobbies and what he is an expert in.It could be men's topics like sports , news, work.
You need to find some of your own activities and you do not have to depend on him solely.Find some of your friends ... (read in full...)
Do I need to be on my own?
Q. Hiya.i have used this site before and it has been a great help. I'm 18 and me and my ex ended last august and remained friends,i got with someone new and he wanted me back i said no and then when i split up from the new person he wanted me back a...
A. 17 January 2008: There are times , when you are on your own and be free like a bird. There are times when you think you want to be with someone who can share your journey in life together.
There are times when you like to live in a cage where you have secu... (read in full...)
My husband and I are drifting apart
Q. My husband and I have been together for 14 years. We are both re-married with children from our previous marriages. Over the past few years our relationship has been going downhill fast. We hardly communicate anymore, there is ab...
A. 17 January 2008: Your husband is abusing you and in such an abusive relationship , you are the loser . The only way to handle him and to make him listen to you is to leave him alone , get out of his life and let him realize that he cannot treat you this way .When he ... (read in full...)
My best friend is always out with my ex
Q. hi id like some advice from some1 who doesnt know me.i have a daughter who is nearly two years old and have recently had to stop her father seeing her due to him always letting her down and some other stuff. the problem is that my best friend goes...
A. 17 January 2008: Your best friend is in the middle and it is not an easy position to be in. You could be stressed and tired when those arguments erupted. When things have cooled down abit , try to make contact with her and have damage controls.
You should not shar... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for just under two years. I love this man deeply but our sex life has ruined it for me. I feel that he doesnt love me he doesnt try an i have just gave up. I truly love him and cry all day but i am not happy ...
A. 17 January 2008: The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Some men have those conditions of premature ejaculations. They are quickly excited or nervous or too performance oriented and it comes too early.. They could have more foreplays and be relax.
It is... (read in full...)
My ex is engaged but I think I want him back
Q. i am a 26 year old female, when i was 17 years old i started dating a boy, we were together almost two years, became *engaged*, but then at one point broke up....we have since moved to diffrent states and our lives have gone on, i got married and ...
A. 17 January 2008: You could tell him that you are available and the door is always open for him if he wants to come to you. The ball would be at his feet. Leave everything to fate..... (read in full...)
Does he tell her he's ending it because she's got BO?
Q. My friend has just started seeing a girl. Nothing much has happened yet but the couple times they've got close, she has spelt of BO. He says it's a total turn-off and is going to end it but doesn't know if he should tell her the truth of why. ...
A. 17 January 2008: If you are going to tell her your break out was because of BO, it would cast a bad image of him .BO is not a deadly disease and it can easily be overcome.
There is no necessity to inform her the reasons. Period.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm back to competing with other women for the man I'm in love with.
Q. I feel like I'm back to competing with other women for the man I'm deeply in love with. It's so physical, my heart feels like it's constantly breaking, and then healing when I see him, and then hurting again. We were great once, but then he move...
A. 16 January 2008: Get back into his main stream. Talk to him , get involved with activities together . Good luck.... (read in full...)
How can someone say they love you, and want to spend their life with you, but they are annoyed by almost everything you do??
Q. How can someone say they love you, and want to spend their life with you, but they are annoyed by almost everything you do?....I don't really think I'm an annoying person in general. I have great friends, and in previous romantic relationships, this ...
A. 16 January 2008: When there is love , you see no sins or faults in the other person.
When the love flew out the window , you see every faults and it is like they have a microscope all over you and all your faults are magnified.
Familiarity breeds contempt.He ... (read in full...)
I find older men really sexy...is this normal?
Q. I'm 15 and I'm almost quite worried about myself. In the past few years Ive noticed I always get the hots for elder men. I dont mean old pensiors! But like men in their 30s and 40s, and I don't like anyone near my age at all. I just find older men ...
A. 16 January 2008: You have a very strong imagination and maturity for your age. Keep those thoughts to yourself lest others would judge you.
I don't think you are abnormal.There could be more bizarre cases , only they don't speak it out.... (read in full...)
Could a guy have sex with someone and totally not remember it happening the next day?
Q. Could a guy have sex with someone and totally not remember it happening the next day? My friend and her boyfriend had just moved in together, and she had her "best friend" over 1 night and the best friend and the boyfriend had been drinking a ...
A. 16 January 2008: Yes !It is possible according to the new discovery . Having sex during your sleep without being aware of it. It is called sexual behavior during sleep or SBS or sleep sex.It is like sleep walking . A case of rape was thrown out in the UK because of ... (read in full...)
Too young to have a boyfriend at 18? Is she just playing hard to get or is she being serious?
Q. i like this young girl .she's 18 i am 24.i met her at a music concert when she walked up to me after i greeted her and i ended up buying her a drink.so i thought the lady likes me.afterwards if she sees me in town she would greet me smiling and ...
A. 16 January 2008: Call her up , talk to her and see how she is feeling.If you feel that she is cold towards you,then you could have offended her and you need to be humble and apologize for your mistake.
She needs to know more about you first before she wants to... (read in full...)
Would a therapist help?
Q. I'm 45 years old, all my children are grown. 14 Months ago my husband decided to have an affair,and the woman is 41 years old, got pregant and had the baby. I try so hard to walk away but he keeps began for forgiveness I kick him out and he goes and ...
A. 16 January 2008: With or without him , go on and live the life you want.If you are destined to be united again , so be it. In the meantime , just do your things you like and enjoy your life.
If you don't love him anymore, keep him in cold storage.... (read in full...)
I had an abortion. How do I bring up the subject in conversation?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 years old. At the age of 16 I had a teenage pregnancy which I decided to abort. It all went a bit complicated and they couldn't abort and I was asked back over the next few days but I miscarried as a result of the first botched ab...
A. 16 January 2008: Use a third person. Say it is one of your best friend. That way , you friend won't know it is you and you could be expressing from your experience as though it is from that best friend.
Nobody has to know that it was you.... (read in full...)
A move means we will break up. What should I do?
Q. My family are planning on moving house but I don't want to. Mainly because I am with a girl I know I could spend the rest of my life with, but we've both agreed that we mean so much to each other, a long-distance relationship wouldn't work. What...
A. 16 January 2008: You could consult with your parents over this issue.I am sure they will find a away to help you with this problem.Maybe it is time for you to strut out to be independent of your family.... (read in full...)
HENPECKED!! How Do I deprogram a friend that seems to be controled??
Q. Dear cupid, Our group of friends meet up every week, once a week to a local pub for seveal years now. We all enjoyed having a few drinks and listen to local music acts. We have always welcomed our single friend's new love interests. Now it seems t...
A. 16 January 2008: A henpecked husband usually comes from a family where the mothers are dominant. These man inadvertently look for a wife which is an extension of their mothers. Their wives dominate over them and they are contented because they come from that kind ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed and I don't like myself! What should I do?
Q. I don't really like myself, even at the age of 20 and when I'm at university. Last night I left my friends at a bar as I was depressed because I hate myself. I even had a conversation with my dad earlier on today about how I should like myself and ...
A. 16 January 2008: You should not be too judgmental on yourself. Learn to forgive your own self. We are all born into this world for a purpose.It is the little things in our daily life which can make us happy .
Give a thought about others who are less fortunat... (read in full...)
Is there a correlation between the amount of ejaculation and the intensity of orgasm?
Q. Does the amount of ejaculate correlate with how good the orgasm is? My boyfriend sometimes ejaculates much more than other times. And from his facial expression, it seems to me that he enjoyed it much more when there was more cum. Is there a corre...
A. 16 January 2008: The testicles produced million of sperms every day and it is stored in a reservoir.When the reservoir is full, he would feel the sexual tensions.His orgasms would be much better when he is full.All his pent up sexual tensions get released.... (read in full...)
I lost my sex drive after the hysterectomy, what can be done about this? - my relationship is very unstable at the moment.
Q. I am going to be 35 in about 2 months and had a hysterectomy about 3 years ago and lost all my sex drive. my boyfriend of 10 years is really getting old with not wanting to do it anymore i could go for ever and he really wants to leave me over it ...
A. 16 January 2008: If he is leaving you because of sex , I think , you could make some sort of arrangement with him to keep him by your side.That is if you still want him.
If he really loves you , he would not leave you , sex or no sex.
Maybe , his leaving is a... (read in full...)
What should we do, as my date's live-in partner is very violent and she feels threatened to stay with him?
Q. hi i have recently started seeing a girl who has a baby, but still lives with the babies dad,even though they are not going out anmore he wont leave (her house) and is controlling and very possessive of her, she told me today that she is afraid that ...
A. 16 January 2008: For her safety, she should move out to a secret location unknown to that man . She could also get a court order to evict that men from her house.
The safest way is to sell that house and move away to another place.... (read in full...)
I cannot break up with my gf, yet..I want to do it! Help!
Q. Why cant i break up with my girlfriend?!? I know i want to do it, i want to see other girls and i cannot picture myself with my current Girlfriend forever. I think about other girls and dating them ALOT, yet i cannot break up with my girlfrie...
A. 16 January 2008: You don't have to break up yet. You can advice her to date other men and you will date other girls.
Whether she wants to date other men or not , it is her problem.
You can go ahead and date other girls without any guilty feelings.
If ... (read in full...)
We're good together but the kids are a problem. Any ideas?
Q. Hiya. I could do with some advice please. I am 44 and was going out with my partner for five years, we decided to move in together, as he lives in Northern Ireland and I live in Southern Ireland, So I moved to Northern Ireland along with my 14 year ...
A. 16 January 2008: The problem is your son. Send him to a boarding school.If you cannot do that , there is no way you will get together with that man.
You cannot expect a man to wait 5 or 10 years .When your son leave you , you will be all alone .... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 16 January 2008: She could be schizophrenic .If she is violent , then you have to let her live alone as the hospitals will released her back after sometime. There is a danger that she will harm the other family members.
At the moment , there is no cure for this... (read in full...)
Confused Teen...am I bisexual?
Q. hi, ive been really unhappy latley ive got very close to a friend of mine but i feel i might have feelings for her. i have never had feelings for a girl befor and i am very confused. i think i might be bisexual. if any1 can give me any advice it ...
A. 16 January 2008: Is being a bisexual wrong? It is just a sexual preference.As long as you are happy , carry on. Don't worry about those holier than thou people.... (read in full...)
My sister's bf's daughter (same age as me)...and I'm in love with her. Is this wrong?
Q. Hi I need some advice My half-sister is about 19 years older than me and has got a new boyfreind. He has a daughter around the same age as me. My sister thought it be good if we swapped msn addresses. So we got talking and we met up before christ...
A. 16 January 2008: There is no law to say that it is wrong.You can fall in love with your sister's boyfriends daughter.
If you don't love your current g/f , tell her it is over between you two.... (read in full...)
He wants me on top and I don't know how! Any tips?
Q. Hello, i know this probably sounds stupid but id really appreciate your advise. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now (his my first) and we love each other very much, every time we sleep together he is normally on top but recently he is hinti...
A. 16 January 2008: Practice makes perfect. Just sit there and slowly gyrate .It's like riding a horse.Go slow and not too fast.... (read in full...)
I'm going mad! I love this other woman and I love my wife...help me!
Q. Help Im going crazy Im a 47 year old married man with 4 kids. About 6 months ago I meet a lady shes 35 years old 3 kids I meet her at work her husband had just walked out on her and I was concerned about her there was nothing sexual about it I was ...
A. 16 January 2008: You are a victim of circumstances .Now, that you have realized your follies , you need to walk away from this woman who is not your wife and seek forgiveness from your wife if she knows about this problem.
It is better she is hurt than your wif... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my bestfriend but I always end up getting her back with my mate.
Q. I have always liked my bestfriend. She's been my closest friend for almost 5 years now. 2 years ago she asked for one of my mates number and since then they have been together. They always fight and break-up and i always help to get them back on ...
A. 16 January 2008: A woman classify men into two groups, friends only or mates.
If you are in her 'friends' group, I am afraid she will not have any romantic thoughts for this group. They will just be friends and nothing more.
You need to get out of the frien... (read in full...)
I have met someone else...but I really couldnt cope with somebody breaking my heart right now.
Q. I have met a new girl recently who I am beginning to like. My last girlfriend hurt me so badly it really messed me up for a long time. With this girl - I think she likes me (she flirts alot and makes suggestions so at least I think she is attracted ...
A. 16 January 2008: If you fear that you will be hurt ,you are not ready for any serious relationship. You need more time. Put her on hold .Just think of her as a friend and no more.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be 'just' friends with a guy who wants to date me?
Q. hi i have a boyf of 3 years who i love very much. but i have a male friend who i get along really well with, i dont have any romantic feelings for him but i know he does for me, but he knows i am with someone. we txt alot and see eachother on nights ...
A. 16 January 2008: You can be friends but you have to set the boundaries of friendship or you will be tempted to become more than friends.Or he could misinterpret your signals.
That is just a possibility . ... (read in full...)
He says he loves her but spends most of his time with me...does he want me or her??
Q. Me and my on again off again bf of 8 years are having a baby together. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We got back together officially in the begining he moved in with me. Then when I was 5 months pregnant he broke up with me citing that he was ...
A. 16 January 2008: He cannot give up either one of you and is now sitting on the fence until one of you decide enough is enough.
That is the situation as he sees it.
Will you accept half a man or none at all?
... (read in full...)
What happened years ago kills me inside and I just cant seem to get over it.
Q. Where to start... I'm 26 y/o. I have been with my husband for 9 years and married for 3 years. We started dating when we were 17. When we were 21, my husband (boyfriend at the time) starting acting strange and distant. I learned that he was becoming...
A. 16 January 2008: It is your unforgiveness of him that has been eating you all these years.
You need to forgive him and then your healing will start.
When you forgive him, you will be able to let go of this unhappy episode in your life.
Many people who a... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant, but boyfriend wants nothing to do with baby, what can I do?
Q. I think i'm pregnant but my boyfriend wants nothing to do with the situation at all. He doesn't even want his mother to know and they're really close! I've tryed to talk to him about it and he just doesn't say anything. He just knows that he doesn't ...
A. 16 January 2008: I think you should let his mother knows about your pregnancy once it is confirmed.Until then don't do anything rash.
... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my boyfriend planned for us to reenact porn scenes...
Q. Hi I'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to see me squirt I need help my boyfriend is 18 and likes us to watch porn together then reenact it he got his best mate to join so we could reenact this scene with two boys one girl help please ...
A. 16 January 2008: If you don't like , don't do it. He is just using you for his depraved mind.If you love a girl , you don't force her to do anything which is not right .That is not love but lust.
... (read in full...)
Is my husband gone for good? After his affair we attempted to save our marriage and he never gave me any cause to think he was not happy, on the contrary...
Q. apologies first as this is a bit of a long one! I have been married for 20 years this year and on the 2nd January my husband informed me he was not happy and had not been so for the last year and wanted to leave. The background to this is 6 months ...
A. 16 January 2008: Just tell him that you want him back and start all over again and leave the ball at his feet. If he wants , he will move back with you. If not just wait another time to ask him again.
You got to speak to a man directly what you want. They cannot s... (read in full...)
Too young to have a boyfriend at 18? Is she just playing hard to get or is she being serious?
Q. i like this young girl .she's 18 i am 24.i met her at a music concert when she walked up to me after i greeted her and i ended up buying her a drink.so i thought the lady likes me.afterwards if she sees me in town she would greet me smiling and ...
A. 15 January 2008: You should not have pushed her.If she said she is too young to have a b/f, then you should accept her as a friend.You did not see her for a month and she may have been crossed at you.Sometimes you have to feel them out and not what comes out of ... (read in full...)
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