My b/f's friend is being nasty. Who should I believe?
Q. my life is completely screwed up right now! Well..this is the story! my boyfriends bff (ive told u about her) well shes being a pain in the butt saying that im fat and ugly and all that rude stuff! well the one thing that made me mad was that she ...
A. 19 January 2008: The reason could be that she still have ambition for him and do not like you to encroached into her territory .Otherwise , why should she be bitchy towards you ?
Your b/f is a shallow person and do not care about your problems with her.He does not... (read in full...)
Why does she torment me?
Q. My ex broke up with me about a month and a half ago, she's now been going out with another guy for about 3 weeks. I don't know if it's a rebound, she saw a different guy for a couple of days before, and that was definitely a rebound. But this one ...
A. 18 January 2008: She is too happy and cannot contained her happiness.She still treats you as a friend . She is not aware that your feelings are hurt by her indiscretions.This is my assumption.... (read in full...)
My b/f's friend is being nasty. Who should I believe?
Q. my life is completely screwed up right now! Well..this is the story! my boyfriends bff (ive told u about her) well shes being a pain in the butt saying that im fat and ugly and all that rude stuff! well the one thing that made me mad was that she ...
A. 18 January 2008: You need to be critical of what people say. Just because someone said something, you believed it hook, line an sinker.You need to verify the facts first before believing anything.If you cannot verify the facts , then treat it like a rumor.Don't be ... (read in full...)
I've no wish to scare him off - do I tell him how I feel?
Q. hi, i have come in contact with this great guy ( i think ) smart, handsome, funny and above a nice person.so far so good.the attraction from my side is there but im not sure how he feels. should i ask him/tell him how i feel? i dont want to scare ...
A. 18 January 2008: You could ask him how he feels about your first and then only then you respond appropriately.
If he comes to see you or emails you , he is into you.Definitely , if he is seeing you , he is interested in you.... (read in full...)
Am I being foolish thinking that he's stringing me along?
Q. I was engaged and almost married to a guy. He and i called it off a month before the wedding. 2 months later we got back together. 4 months later, my friend suspected that he was cheating and would not tell me why. I broke it off and a week later he ...
A. 18 January 2008: On one hand you said you trust him but on the other hand, you feared being stringed along by him.You are contradicting yourself here.It would be better if you ask what is his plan.You need to know his plan about getting married.... (read in full...)
Is my Male friend to old for this Girl?
Q. hi everyone i have a bit of a problem with my best mate i dont know what to do he is 36 nearly 37 and recently confided in me that he has been having a relationship (mainly just sexual) with a 16 year old... ok this sounds alot worse its making...
A. 18 January 2008: He is sexually attracted to her innocence and beauty.There is not much you can do for them because they are in a world of their own.You may inform his g/f and let her settle the problem.You may disagree with them but any actions from you would be ... (read in full...)
I want this girl to date me! how do I ask her though?
Q. hiii my name is Tony and i need some help pleas, i am 17 years old from UK when i look at this web and i think that you are the one to help me :D This is the problem, i had fancy a girl for about half a year now and i plan to ask her out on Valen...
A. 18 January 2008: To,
M/s. Susan(Your g/f's name)
"Wishing you a Happy Valentine's Day "
Will you be my valentine!
From
Tony
Flowers, mostly red roses or ask the florist.
... (read in full...)
Grounded for 3 weeks because I spent the nigh at my bf's house...Now he's taking it out on me..
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 months have told each other that we love each other. We have only been going out for 3 months but we were seeing each other for 3 monthe befor hand. I stayed at his house the other night but my mum and dad dont approve of ...
A. 18 January 2008: If he loves you , he will come around again to you . Time will tell. Just be your natural self and let him deal with his own emotions. You cannot have instant answers to your problems. It takes time to heal his hurt or his emotions.If he still loves ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago he suddenly stopped talking to me, not replying to any messages I sent. Is it me?
Q. I started working with this guy twelve months ago (although he has since left the company two months ago) and we hit it off straight away. Im 23, he's 41 but we have the same interests and the same wicked sense of humour. Even after he left working ...
A. 18 January 2008: You could pay him a visit to find out what is happening over there. Maybe, he just wanted to be left alone . He could be facing some problems and do not want to involve you.This are just my speculations only. ... (read in full...)
The past few times we were supposed to meet up he's come up with excuses! What's going on?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship (I'm in England he's in Scotland) for the past 4 1/2 years. We haven't met up as much as I would like and sometimes this has taken it's toll and we've fallen out for a few days. The past few times he's h...
A. 18 January 2008: It is not the end of the world . Cheer up! There are other more men who can be more loving and better than him.You maybe disappointed and sad but don't wallow in self pity for too long.
If you fall down , get up and walk again. You are made of ... (read in full...)
Ex bf trouble..I'm thinking of him too much.
Q. well...my ex and i were together for a number of years but slip up nearly 2 years ago, ive been with my current boyfriend for nearly a year now and im really happy with him. But i still think about my ex, even though when we were together he ...
A. 18 January 2008: You need to forgive him for all the hurts and move on. If you have not forgiven him , this issue will torment you every now and then.
Once , you have forgiven him , you wont feel the hurt anymore even though you may think of him sometime... (read in full...)
The trauma of losing her is really affecting my life, my work.. How can I know whether she is telling me the truth?
Q. I met a girl i had known sometime back after a long time of missing link. some how we got to know each other better and remained friends for about a month. Everything that went on between us clearly told me we were in love so i decided to propose ...
A. 18 January 2008: Pick up up those pieces of your life and go on living.She is not the one for you . You have to graciously accept her decision.Whether it is the truth or not , only she herself knows. Time will tell if she is telling the truth.
... (read in full...)
He like her, she has a bf. But I like him..so where does that leave me?
Q. i really like a guy a met but we're not close. but he really likes my friend. and recently my friend got a boyfriend and the guy got jealous and now he has a girlfriend. i don't know if this is because he's trying to get back at my friend or not. ...
A. 18 January 2008: Those Cupid's arrows missed you. There is nothing you can do about it. You can wait and see if he will make a U turn for you .Just carry on with life and be who you are.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or do I just need to trust him more?
Q. So, my boyfriend of one year is going out of town to take a test. While he is up there his friend who lives nearby may come visit him. The problem is she is a woman. He told me about it and I appreciated that but I asked if she knew he was dating ...
A. 18 January 2008: You will have anxieties and doubts in your mind.You cannot help it. If his love for you is strong, he will not do anything that you would not like. You need to learn to trust and have faith in him.Don't worry too much. If you love him ,you have to ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your life is going all wrong but you cover it up and act like everything is okay?
Q. what do you do when your life is going all wrong but to cover it up you fake a smile and act like its all, all right? see i have this boyfriend named Dylan hes suppost to be my love and everything but hes always agreeing with Joe. see Joe always ...
A. 18 January 2008: Just give it to him the way you feel inside of you . He cannot see from your point of view that he should not agree with his friend Joe for saying those bad things about you. Other guys would have warned him or punched him for saying bad things ... (read in full...)
Would a girl know that I like her with this kind of xmas gift?
Q. Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, ...
A. 18 January 2008: I do not think it is wise to tell her your feelings until you can see signs of her treating you in a very special way. If you are unsure of how she feels about you , do not tell her even if she knows you are interested in her.
Just be there fo... (read in full...)
First love, but we don't say I love you...
Q. im going out with this girl who i really do think is my first love..but we dont say i love you to eachother, ive said it before and it caught her offguard which made us take a week a way from eachother, so i learned the lesson to wait, dont get me ...
A. 17 January 2008: If you want to say " I love you."You need to say it with strong conviction and backed up with actions. Just blowing your kisses her way is not enough.
Better still to say those three little words on special occasions when it means very much to ... (read in full...)
I don't know about our future together. Please help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been 2gether for a year and 8 months, but like 5 months ago he moved back to New Orleans. Ever since then I'v been upset because I've been hurt too many times in the past and afraid to get hurt again and we're starting to ...
A. 17 January 2008: Do not worry about the future. Nobody knows what will happen. Just leave the future to take care by itself. What ever happens will happen. We cannot do anything about the future.
We need to live for today. So just live from each day to anot... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and now doesn't speak to me. Whats going on?
Q. So my girlfriend of about three months told me about a week ago that she wanted to "take a break" because she needed to focus on her schoolwork, and that there's some problems at home. I come to school the next day (Friday), and she doesn't say hi ...
A. 17 January 2008: Sometimes , it is the little things you did not do or say or forget which can make them want to break up.It is the last straw that broke the camel's back.It could be some innocuous incident.There could be some misunderstandings or a breakdown in ... (read in full...)
Would a girl know that I like her with this kind of xmas gift?
Q. Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, ...
A. 17 January 2008: I think she would know you fancy her. No man would do that unless they fancy her. Any men would just pop into the store to buy her a gift.
Her reaction could be muted because she maybe shy or she does not know how to handle this situation or she i... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he seem to want to be more than friends?
Q. Hi All well maybe some insightful people here can give me some insight.... I dated this man 4yrs ago for a short time it was a whirl wind romance that didnt work out. It was both our fault. we ended on bad terms. But years later we recon...
A. 17 January 2008: He just want to have fun with you as a friend and he is afraid of long term commitments.He may have felt inadequate or insecure and could not offer you the good life or be your worthy partner.He may have felt that you deserved a better man than ... (read in full...)
I like him, but he has a girlfriend. I feel guilty. Should I?
Q. Ok I feel really guilty like in bad guilty way...See I like this boy his name is Miguel and were friends he knows that I like him that way...He is pretty cool with it it doesn't seem to bother him..He has a girlfriend...Well today we were texting ...
A. 17 January 2008: You are just a friend and a good friend to him. You have done nothing wrong.You feel guilty because you fear you may cause a break up between them. This is only your fears.You may not be the only girl. It could be some other girl who could cause ... (read in full...)
Do I leave mr nice guy to go back to my ex?
Q. i am so confused with me and my boyfriend. my ex boyfriend has started to like me, and he is the type of guy you can't resist crushing on. lately it hasn't felt right between me and my boyfriend (once i found out my ex liking me) my boyfrien is the ...
A. 17 January 2008: You don't have to break off from your b/f , you can still be friends with your ex until your thoughts become clear who is the better man.... (read in full...)
She blows hot n cold. Is she interested or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Ok, This may seem like the run of the mill question however. I started this new job say 5weeks ago, and this girl started about 2 days after me, we have started to get on quite well etc. I drop her off home after work, and we have alot in common, ...
A. 17 January 2008: She is a moody girl. Sometimes the sun comes out and sometimes it rains.It is also her hormones .She is sometimes deeply in thought or multi tasking.... (read in full...)
They mean the world to me..and they're leaving. What can I give them before they go?
Q. Dear Cupid, On Sunday night, I found out that two of my closest friends, Kathleen and Jason (who is also my crush) are moving in about two weeks. The town they're moving to is about an hour and a half away from the one we all three live in ...
A. 17 January 2008: Give them a nice treat at some fancy restaurant and they will never forget.
Throw a farewell party for them.
Make some cute handmade cards for them.... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me today. What does she mean by what she said?
Q. right my ex split up with me today, by txt basically. saying shes not happy an needs to sort her head out, an needs to do this for herself. i dont know what she means by this. can u help?...
A. 17 January 2008: Your ex is not happy with the present situation you are both in and wants to break off .You will have to go and check out and confirmed it is her wish and sort out your problems with her.... (read in full...)
Why does he keep talking about his exes?
Q. My boyfriend wont stop mentioning his ex girlfriends,he remembers the exact day he asked them out and the day he broke up with them,although he doesnt even remember our anniversaries, its making me feel unwanted,is it him with the problem or is just ...
A. 17 January 2008: You need to let him know that you do not like to listen about his ex's. If he respects you , he would heed your call .Most girls do not like their b/f to mention their ex or any girl. That is a normal girl behavior.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend puts his mates and alcohol before me. What can I do?
Q. I really love my boyfriend but he puts alcohol before everything else. I get treat differently infront of his friends but I can't live without him, I get so hurt and I don't know what to do....
A. 17 January 2008: If you love him , you will have to accept his ways.
If you cannot take it,either he changes or you leave.
Those are your choices.
If you cannot stand the hurt, there is no point staying.... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused--I feel sometimes not matter what I do for this man its never good enough!
Q. I and my ex recently got back together and I feel like I am alive again. I’ve smiled more and every morning was like a brand new day because of the happiness he put back into my life. Last night however was a nightmare with him. A good friend of ...
A. 17 January 2008: This guy is insecure and fearful of losing you . He is mentally and emotionally abusing you . You need to get away from him for a while until he learns the right way to treat you . He needs to grow up and treat a woman like a woman.
He does not... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out?
Q. This is my issue: When I go to the gym, I run across this girl whom I find attractive. She looks me in the eyes really strongly (or at least thats the impression I have) and I know I'm a decent looking dude, so I don't think its in my im...
A. 17 January 2008: Get to know her first or get a Spanish friend along who would act like your wings .... (read in full...)
How do I cope with working beside the man my wife cheated on me with?
Q. How do I cope with working beside the man my wife cheated on me with? Just found out my co-worker is the person my wife cheated with the first time, she never coped with my finding out so how do I cope with this now?...
A. 17 January 2008: It would be easier for you to forgive your coworker if you think it was your wife's fault and not his fault. Your wife seduced him.You cannot blame him for that.
Or you see no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil.
What ever happened is hist... (read in full...)
I am afraid of being alone!
Q. I think this is a very normal problem but I am trying to work at keeping it all in perspective and any advice would be gratefully received! I am a 33 year old man who has been married (for 7 years) from age 21 and that finished 5 years back and then...
A. 17 January 2008: Enjoy your freedom before you enter into your next life sentence. Life is a paradox. When you are on the inside , you want to get out and when you are on the outside you want to get inside.
If you are single or married, enjoy your life.
Life begi... (read in full...)
My husband constantly sways from being Mr. Superior to being Mr. Worthless..how can I help him?
Q. I don't know why, but my husband constantly sways from Mr. Superior to Mr. Worthless and treats himself and other accordingly. Is there anything i or he can do to help regulate this behaviour? - Walking on eggshells...
A. 17 January 2008: He has got a split personality disorder. There is not much you can do except to recognize those conditions and be more understandings. You cannot regulate him like a faucet.... (read in full...)
BF of a year doesn't love me, wants to be with me yet fantasizes about other girls and idealises his ex...help!
Q. My problem is this. I'n my last year of uni, as is my bf who I have been with for just over a year, albeit with a couple of breakups, namely a couple of months ago when he split up with me after months of saying (supposedly not to get with other ...
A. 17 January 2008: I think you will find no man to love you if you follow all those things you don't like. You want him and you want to control what he thinks. He is not a man anymore if he don't look at girls or think of other girls.Better you castrate him and turn ... (read in full...)
I'm having no luck with guys, should I give this guy who comes into my workplace my number?
Q. Hey guys. I just have a quick question. I havent had a boyfriend in over a year and i havent been asked for my number from any guy in that space of time either. I think my probalem is that i feel kind of lonely and i just would love to meet a really ...
A. 17 January 2008: You work in the restaurant , you should meet alot of blokes.Be friendly and smile always.
To give your number to him when he did not ask from you sounds desperate.If it is a business card, then it is OK.
If there is a lack of male's , then yo... (read in full...)
I've hooked up with a married man, I don't want him to leave his wife - an ex friend of mine, but it would be nice if I could see him more, any advice?
Q. im a 26 year old girl in love with a 38 year old married man...for the last 2 years hes been married 15 years with a 12 year old daughter..the strange part is that i dont want him to leave his wife,its not about the money because i have enough,or ...
A. 17 January 2008: Take what you have been given and be contented.To ask for more is taking from others which does not belong to you.Learn to co exist and share .If what is yours , will be yours.If it is not yours, it belongs to others.
... (read in full...)
Got up to answer phone and he noticed the condom had bust. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi In December my bf and i were having sex. We had just started and he probably stroked me about 10 times and the phone rang so i got up to answer it, he then discovered that the condom has bust. He didnt come and wasnt close to coming. Is it po...
A. 17 January 2008: Happy to hear that.The sky is now clear and you can relax.
Thanks for your update.... (read in full...)
He was full on, then totally cold, now wants to try again, do I?
Q. I met a guy late October last year and we really hit it off. He was gorgeous, made me laugh and we swapped numbers. Really thought I'd met a really nice genuine guy. We spoke for hours on the phone most nights and really just clicked. He sent me ...
A. 17 January 2008: We should always forgive the wrongs people inflict on us .As to whether you want to continue with him , that is another matter.
If you think he is worth his salt, why not?
Everyone of us need a second chance sometimes...... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do anymore and I don't want to lose her
Q. Well where to start, first of all my name is "Boggie" i live in new york Im in college for audio engineering and i will be graduating in the summer. I have a part time job working to make enough money to pay for bills and basically im surfing the...
A. 17 January 2008: If you want to know if a girl really loves you , she will come to you where ever you are. If she does not , it means you are not that high on her list.If she does not want to come to your place, she is not the one for you. Will you love someone ... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 17 January 2008: Do not hate your sister. Let her go.You have done everything that is possible for her and to no avail.God have mercy on her. You can keep on praying for her for a miracle .... (read in full...)
My friend just told me his loves me, should I reciprocate?
Q. A coursemate of mine who has been a close friend for sometime now, just told me he is in love with me. Am so confused that i dont know what to tell him.Should i accept his proposal or not?...
A. 17 January 2008: If you love him or have feelings, then you can reciprocate. If you don't have those feelings, just tell him you want to be friends for now.He will get the message. Do you love him ? If you are unsure, tell him to give you more time.... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too much sex in a relationship even if we both really enjoy it?
Q. Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be ...
A. 17 January 2008: Everything done in moderation is good but if excessive, it can be bad .It is love or is it lust? The good times do not last. Enjoy it while you can.... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 16 January 2008: She could be schizophrenic .If she is violent , then you have to let her live alone as the hospitals will released her back after sometime. There is a danger that she will harm the other family members.
At the moment , there is no cure for this... (read in full...)
Got up to answer phone and he noticed the condom had bust. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi In December my bf and i were having sex. We had just started and he probably stroked me about 10 times and the phone rang so i got up to answer it, he then discovered that the condom has bust. He didnt come and wasnt close to coming. Is it po...
A. 12 January 2008: The period cycle is 28 days. That means if yours is regular , your period should come around 12/13 Jan .Sometimes it may come early or late due to your hormones , stress or the food you eat. If after 48 days and your period does not come , you can ... (read in full...)
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